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November 20, 2011 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm in reply to: Is it wrong for bochurim not to learn all the time? #1122550
are you serious?? I work a full day and after that i go and learn for 3 hours. in the few hours i do learn all i see is people who call themselves “yeshivaleit” sitting and shmoozing in the coffeeroom or even in beis medrash. if these people would only be realistic they would realize that they can be much more productive by working most of the day and only learning a little and actually learning during that time.
so…. if you DO go on a date in the rain, does the guy bring 1 umbrella big enough for both, or 2?
OK!!! just to clarify! i would never suggest that a girl travel to me for a date. the girl is coming with her family for a local wedding, once they are here we are going out. i DID commit to two dates and i plan on keeping my commitment, my only question is why they even ask for two? if the first is a bust, the second is a waste of time AND MORE AWKWARD for the GIRL herself!
Bar Shattya, i see where the mods get it to call U a dolt! U dont ditch a girl in middle of a date because it is rude and disrespectful, but there should be no reason to agree to date #2 before date #1.
i even told them clearly, that i am an easygoing guy and if i see any chance of it working i would agree to a second date, they said they want a commitment before she comes in. again i agreed anyhow, just wanna know why that would be a stipulation
unfortunately u cant pick and choose which pix to block! in the goyish velt pix of a swimsuit are not pritzus! the only way to do is to block ALL images from a certain site, something which u dont wanna do on ebay
ado. i definitely will!
thanx all for your opinions!
but is it bad to go into something knowing there is already an issue no matter how insignificant
11-20 keep it going!
how about another round of tehillim??
B”H There have been major improvements! Kallah is still in a coma however she is responding to people speaking to her and to music by squeezing her hand. doctors are very hopeful. Fortunately she has many friends who go every day to sit at her bedside and talk to her and say tehillim and doctors are saying this communication is a great benefit!
FROM THE URBAN DICTIONARY
Yiddish slang/term to define an ugly woman.
at this point i dont think weiner is the best guy to call about immoral issues. he really wont be listened to as he has proved to be immoral himself.
not disagreeing that its definitely assur to be friends, but those pesukim may not be the actual source
thats talking about family members or niddahs, where do u see about other women??
Kallah has been moved to long term care center at kimball hospital. Please continue to daven!!
DO NOT go on a first date on lakewood lake!! you will get seen by EVERYONE!!
Kallah is still in a medically induced coma! Doctors are hoping she will not have any permanent brain damage. She needs our tefillos DESPERATELY!!!
adorable, you think only girls worry about such things?? you don’t realize how much i worry every time someone asks me for shidduch references that they are gonna hear from someone who knows how i used-to-be. nobody bothers caring that now i am a responsible and mature person, they just look at the few bad decisions in my past. welcome to the real world girl!
situation still serious but has stabilized B”H. still in induced coma. keep on going!May 8, 2011 11:30 pm at 11:30 pm in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911514
any more ideas??
Actually, I can still meet him and have a shadchan involved can’t I?
“If theres no shadchan at all thats not shidduch dating..
I just want to cheat the system a lil..
Have the naturall attraction and feelings develope (with the safetey of a shadchan when needed) but without all the deception and garbage that comes from hearing about him from the shadchan’s friend’s niece’s aunt’s sister’s cousin’s neigbor’s roomate’s cupcake…… “
good point! cheating the system isnt so bad i guess cause the system leaves much to be desired!
are you sure thats what you want. so you wont listen if a shadchan calls?
any more opinions guys??
By any chance, were the chosson and kallah referred to in this thread?
Clairvoyant just because someone works with girls does not mean he is hanging out with them. on the contrary that is inappropriate. however there is NOTHING wrong with learning how to be comfortable talking to the opposite gender if its in line with business or work.
shlishi, i beg to differ. if a boy can keep himself in line while working with women it may be the best thing for him. i see time and time again, i will be by a restaurant and ill see a date going on. most yeshiva bochurim show up on a date and just stutter and stammer their way through making for a lot of uncomfortable moments. at least if the guy is working and not in yeshiva anymore let him learn at least how to communicate with the opposite gender.
theres a whole other thread to be written about single guys in the workforce but facts are facts and its normally the guys that are working that are more level-headed and used to being in constant communication with women. if the question would come up if a yeshiva boy should suggest a shidduch for himself, i think the answer would be a definite NO!!! someone who has day-to-day dealings with the opposite gender just has more maturity about it. END OF STORY!
Gumball, can u elaborate? I dont see why not.April 4, 2011 12:02 am at 12:02 am in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911512
any more comments on this? i spoke to a rabbi and he said it is not a problem, but i want to hear your opinionsMarch 29, 2011 2:56 am at 2:56 am in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911510
anybody else have any opinions??March 23, 2011 12:52 am at 12:52 am in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911496
I think the fact that you know there is something maybe wrong with it shows that you know in your heart of heart that its not right. i dont think its worth it! Once you start talking to her you might decide that she is not so different than you after all and that maybe you should marry her…… If you think about her more than nec then its already heading toward the bad side! “
i dont really expect that to happen as we are not seemingly compatible, but you make it sound like it would be a problem if it did. can you explain why?March 22, 2011 10:37 am at 10:37 am in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911481
thanks guys for all your responses! just to clarify, we work together on a daily basis and our communication is very healthy. a rav was consulted regarding our working together and talking together and he said it was no problem. my real question is once we get into shidduch conversations does it become inappropriate?