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  • in reply to: Is it wrong for bochurim not to learn all the time? #1122550

    are you serious?? I work a full day and after that i go and learn for 3 hours. in the few hours i do learn all i see is people who call themselves “yeshivaleit” sitting and shmoozing in the coffeeroom or even in beis medrash. if these people would only be realistic they would realize that they can be much more productive by working most of the day and only learning a little and actually learning during that time.

    in reply to: Dating in the Rain #799286

    so…. if you DO go on a date in the rain, does the guy bring 1 umbrella big enough for both, or 2?

    in reply to: Commiting to two dates?? #797643

    OK!!! just to clarify! i would never suggest that a girl travel to me for a date. the girl is coming with her family for a local wedding, once they are here we are going out. i DID commit to two dates and i plan on keeping my commitment, my only question is why they even ask for two? if the first is a bust, the second is a waste of time AND MORE AWKWARD for the GIRL herself!

    in reply to: Commiting to two dates?? #797602

    Bar Shattya, i see where the mods get it to call U a dolt! U dont ditch a girl in middle of a date because it is rude and disrespectful, but there should be no reason to agree to date #2 before date #1.

    in reply to: Commiting to two dates?? #797601

    i even told them clearly, that i am an easygoing guy and if i see any chance of it working i would agree to a second date, they said they want a commitment before she comes in. again i agreed anyhow, just wanna know why that would be a stipulation

    in reply to: Anyone know about computers and blocking images? #824374

    unfortunately u cant pick and choose which pix to block! in the goyish velt pix of a swimsuit are not pritzus! the only way to do is to block ALL images from a certain site, something which u dont wanna do on ebay

    in reply to: Names in Shidduchim…. #783938

    ado. i definitely will!

    in reply to: how can i find the zmanim forr ac? #783901

    myzmanim.com

    in reply to: Names in Shidduchim…. #783934

    thanx all for your opinions!

    in reply to: Names in Shidduchim…. #783907

    but is it bad to go into something knowing there is already an issue no matter how insignificant

    in reply to: Tehillim for Chaya Sara bas Chava Breindel #803134

    11-20 keep it going!

    in reply to: Tehillim for Chaya Sara bas Chava Breindel #803133

    how about another round of tehillim??

    1-10 inclusive

    in reply to: Tehillim for Chaya Sara bas Chava Breindel #803131

    B”H There have been major improvements! Kallah is still in a coma however she is responding to people speaking to her and to music by squeezing her hand. doctors are very hopeful. Fortunately she has many friends who go every day to sit at her bedside and talk to her and say tehillim and doctors are saying this communication is a great benefit!

    in reply to: A story for Zeeskeit. #778669

    FROM THE URBAN DICTIONARY

    Meeskite:

    Yiddish slang/term to define an ugly woman.

    in reply to: Opposite Gender Friendships #795912

    cherrybim,

    at this point i dont think weiner is the best guy to call about immoral issues. he really wont be listened to as he has proved to be immoral himself.

    in reply to: Opposite Gender Friendships #795906

    not disagreeing that its definitely assur to be friends, but those pesukim may not be the actual source

    in reply to: Opposite Gender Friendships #795903

    mod,

    thats talking about family members or niddahs, where do u see about other women??

    in reply to: Tehillim for Chaya Sara bas Chava Breindel #803128

    Kallah has been moved to long term care center at kimball hospital. Please continue to daven!!

    in reply to: Dating in lakewood… #775923

    DO NOT go on a first date on lakewood lake!! you will get seen by EVERYONE!!

    in reply to: Tehillim for Chaya Sara bas Chava Breindel #803117

    UPDATE!!!!

    Kallah is still in a medically induced coma! Doctors are hoping she will not have any permanent brain damage. She needs our tefillos DESPERATELY!!!

    in reply to: staying "pure" #783313

    adorable, you think only girls worry about such things?? you don’t realize how much i worry every time someone asks me for shidduch references that they are gonna hear from someone who knows how i used-to-be. nobody bothers caring that now i am a responsible and mature person, they just look at the few bad decisions in my past. welcome to the real world girl!

    in reply to: Tehillim for Chaya Sara bas Chava Breindel #803085

    situation still serious but has stabilized B”H. still in induced coma. keep on going!

    in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911514

    any more ideas??

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913827

    s2021

    Actually, I can still meet him and have a shadchan involved can’t I?

    “If theres no shadchan at all thats not shidduch dating..

    I just want to cheat the system a lil..

    Have the naturall attraction and feelings develope (with the safetey of a shadchan when needed) but without all the deception and garbage that comes from hearing about him from the shadchan’s friend’s niece’s aunt’s sister’s cousin’s neigbor’s roomate’s cupcake…… “

    good point! cheating the system isnt so bad i guess cause the system leaves much to be desired!

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913816

    s2021

    are you sure thats what you want. so you wont listen if a shadchan calls?

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913807

    any more opinions guys??

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913799

    By any chance, were the chosson and kallah referred to in this thread?

    single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim

    NO.

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913783

    Clairvoyant just because someone works with girls does not mean he is hanging out with them. on the contrary that is inappropriate. however there is NOTHING wrong with learning how to be comfortable talking to the opposite gender if its in line with business or work.

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913780

    shlishi, i beg to differ. if a boy can keep himself in line while working with women it may be the best thing for him. i see time and time again, i will be by a restaurant and ill see a date going on. most yeshiva bochurim show up on a date and just stutter and stammer their way through making for a lot of uncomfortable moments. at least if the guy is working and not in yeshiva anymore let him learn at least how to communicate with the opposite gender.

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913775

    thanks popa!

    theres a whole other thread to be written about single guys in the workforce but facts are facts and its normally the guys that are working that are more level-headed and used to being in constant communication with women. if the question would come up if a yeshiva boy should suggest a shidduch for himself, i think the answer would be a definite NO!!! someone who has day-to-day dealings with the opposite gender just has more maturity about it. END OF STORY!

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913772

    Gumball, can u elaborate? I dont see why not.

    in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911512

    any more comments on this? i spoke to a rabbi and he said it is not a problem, but i want to hear your opinions

    in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911510

    anybody else have any opinions??

    in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911496

    “cutiepie

    Member

    I think the fact that you know there is something maybe wrong with it shows that you know in your heart of heart that its not right. i dont think its worth it! Once you start talking to her you might decide that she is not so different than you after all and that maybe you should marry her…… If you think about her more than nec then its already heading toward the bad side! “

    i dont really expect that to happen as we are not seemingly compatible, but you make it sound like it would be a problem if it did. can you explain why?

    in reply to: single guy and single girl talkin about shidduchim #911481

    thanks guys for all your responses! just to clarify, we work together on a daily basis and our communication is very healthy. a rav was consulted regarding our working together and talking together and he said it was no problem. my real question is once we get into shidduch conversations does it become inappropriate?

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