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  • in reply to: Kol Isha #723302

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    Wolf,

    The Gemara says that in Aveilus we go after the least stringent view. Also, I recently learned a Tosafos that said that when it comes to Aveilus we rely on a logic that we don’t hold of otherwise.

    in reply to: Kol Isha #723293

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    Sac and others,

    Mitzvos, and especially Aveiros, are not reserved for the elite. There is no “getting to that level”. Perhaps you thought that Kol Isha was a Chumra or Inyan. That’s understandable, but please realize that it is a Halacha just like covering the hair.

    in reply to: Pets & Halacha #1152778

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    For the manyeth time as well, there is nothing wrong with discussing Torah. It is actually recommended. I wish there were only more such discussions on this site. There is a disclaimer on the Bais Medrash link, and there are numerous comments to the same effect. I think that should suffice.

    in reply to: Kol Isha #723285

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    Wolf, I believe he doesn’t. He didn’t do anything to listen to music, and there is no Chiyuv to run away from music. On the other hand, the OP is asking whether hearing a Kol Isha even by chance is a problem. As for that, I think that it falls under the category of Leka Darka Achrina, since he is in that store for other reasons and didn’t choose to specificaly go to the area that the singing can be heard.

    in reply to: Kol Isha #723272

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    While we’re at it, although a nice and cute idea, I never saw a reference in Chazal showing that our purpose is for the Goyim. But, even if you like that new concept, you can’t make that your guiding factor.

    in reply to: Carbon Monoxide Poisoning #724659

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    Having gas appliances installed correctly would be the first way to prevent carbon monoxide poisoning. Also, the flame should be well ventillated. A fire combines each carbon atom with two oxygen atoms, and produces carbon dioxide. If there is not enough oxygen available, it will combine with only one oxygen atom, producing carbon monoxide.

    As for your other question, I never heard of any complaint that a detector with a good battery didn’t work.

    in reply to: Tehllim at night? #723142

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    I’m not sure why you guys decided to descend upon this Hanhaga that the Chida and others bring?

    in reply to: BEST ANSWER AWARDS–Take The Challenge! #1026396

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    Something that gets shouted most often is, an interruption.

    in reply to: WHAT TO ASK??? #722225

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    What cshapiro says is very true. Sometimes, not only do you get a cliche, but you get a meaningless term thrown at you, something from class lingo or what the person made up to represent some general type of personality.

    in reply to: WHAT TO ASK??? #722224

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    I know someone who’d ask, is he a major Masmid. The answer, as expected, is, of course, he learns every extra minute, he never plays and so on. Now the questioner says, so you’re telling me that he doesn’t spend time with friends? After a few such rounds, the person doesn’t know what is the answer you were waiting for, and starts to portray a realistic picture.

    in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973280

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    Mother,

    Are you implying that your husband has time, and interest in getting into trouble?!

    No. Of course not. But you would “test” the filter and, oops! Chances are that, other than for the pictures, you are worse off visiting off beat sites.

    in reply to: Tehllim at night? #723113

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    Wolf, it doesn’t apply to Friday night. I think it doesn’t apply to Thursday night, either. It’s not really Chasidish in origin, but Chasidim usually say more attention to Inyanim.

    in reply to: BEST ANSWER AWARDS–Take The Challenge! #1026394

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    I saw a guy trying to break into YOUR car, so I called police and had to wait around till they came.

    Find me a boss who’d say, but next time…

    in reply to: Question about a Chazan leaving during tefillah #967608

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    Thanks, Mod (or Mods). Had I known you were listening…

    in reply to: Virtual Yeshiva #722272

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    You can start a lively discussion in the Beis Medrash section of the coffee room. Perhaps we can have live chatting on snow days.

    in reply to: Nittel Nacht On Friday Night! #837257

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    If there were two, then the second one is not mentioned at all in the Gembra. The way it happened was that Rebbe Yehoshua ben Prachya, his Rebbe, said that a certain hostess was very nice, as in nice to them. This disciple, who’s train of thought made him think that his Rebbe was refering to her physical beauty, commented that, oh yes, her eyes are very round. Rebbe Yehoshua ben Prachya yelled at him, is this what you are busy with? Then he sent him away. The disciple came back a few times, and was sent away. Then, he came back while his Rebbe was reciting Krias Shma and couldn’t talk. Rebbe Yehoshua wanted to accept him at that point, but being that he couldn’t talk he motioned to him to wait. The student understood the motion as pushing him away, permanently. He left and began worshipping idols and got involved in sorcery and took a lot of Jews away from their faith.

    in reply to: Should a Yid own a sports car? #724401

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    I second aries’ advice. It all depends where you coming from, and what your drive is. For some, going for doubles is giving in to a Ta’ava, while for others it is so good that I think I’ll have another, anything wrong with that?

    in reply to: Who Are "You" #722051

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    Bomb,

    A really powerful piece, although I don’t identify with the characters in your narrative (B”H).

    in reply to: The Rationalist's Guide To Judaism #721758

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    Here you go again, confusing Chazal and the Pasuk. By the way, the Ibn Ezra was frowned upon by many for just that reason. However, you can see the Maharal in his Be’er Hagola, where he explains where the Ibn Ezra and others where coming from, although he himself disagreed with that approach. He says that they are merely explaining the flow and the simple reading of the Pasuk.

    in reply to: Question about a Chazan leaving during tefillah #967606

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    I, for one, will miss popa. He definitely sprinkled the coffee room with a great humor.

    Mod, perhaps he is refering to something. Do you really find it necessary to block someone based on how something hit you? If you take a look, you’d see that most of his satire were a way to bring out a point. Often, he went on to explain in. If only you were as quick to fix up wrong blockings as you seem to be to block…

    in reply to: Nittel Nacht On Friday Night! #837249

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    What Tosafos says was used by the debates many times, to show that the Gemara doesn’t make fun of, or even discuss, Oso Ha’ish. Some say that Tosafos didn’t really mean it, either. The Seder Hakabala of the Ra’avad mentions the two views and says that he thinks it was one. The Ramban in his debate said that we beleive he was earlier and they say he was later (in order to claim the Churban a retribution for not accepting him).

    The Minhag was known in the Litta, but was dropped in the Yeshivos. By now, it is not their Minhag anymore.

    The word, Nittel, comes from Nettle (or something like that), which means birth. That was the name the gentiles called it. Perhaps we changed it a bit to Nittel to mean, taken, as opposed to, birth.

    in reply to: The Rationalist's Guide To Judaism #721750

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    Charlie, Actually what you say now is truly misleading and you seem to be playing around with semantics. The Rishonim give many new explanations, but they don’t change what the Torah is telling us. Most often, they are just adding another reading into the Pasuk. Nobody can tell us that the Torah was always misunderstood, even if we can argue about certain translations and phrasings.

    in reply to: The Rationalist's Guide To Judaism #721744

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    Charlie, You cannot apply the Aggadaic rule to the Torah. It might be uncomfortable for someone like you, who identifies with science. However, the Torah is not a book found in a hole, waiting to be deciphered. The Torah was given to us by Hashem. You connot say that the Bria described in it is a Mashal. The Ri Migash explains when we learn the Pasuk literally and when we understand it as a metaphor. When it is an obvious exaggeration, as in towers in the sky, we don’t take it literally. Otherwise, if it can be understood literally, that is what it means.

    Had there been science around 3000 years ago, when the Torah was given, you would have an argument that the description was not meant to be taken literally. Now it’s too late. The Torah was given to be understood, and it was understood a certain way for 3000 years. It’s just too late to come and say that Hashem meant something else, that nobody knew, all these years.

    How to reconcile the Torah’s description with science’s findings is up to you. The universe could very well have started out at one spot, something that used to bother atheists, and it might have started with a bang. Perhaps you like Rabbi Kaplan’s explanation of old worlds. There are many reconciliation theories out there. Some are silly and some are clever, but there is one invariable: the Torah. This is what the Creator told us. Hashem took us out of Egypt in a grand way, which proved to us that He rules the world. There, He told us that He created the universe in six days, and that we should keep Shabbos in rememberance of that. My Emuna doesn’t have to wait for a theory that explains a six day creation, my science can.

    in reply to: The Rationalist's Guide To Judaism #721734

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    Betzalel, are you?

    in reply to: No Women On The Seruv List? #746800

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    It could be because if a woman gets really unreasonable, there is always the Hetter Mey’a Rabbanim option.

    in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973271

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    Yes, as I said, the Nissayon is instant, and the problem is instant, too. The main thing is to have a filter that would block those images from appearing.

    It doesn’t have to translate into thinking of yourself as a Rasha. I don’t see anything wrong with having the password, unless you know yourself and suspect that at a weak moment you will go on a clicking rampage. As long as your history is open and you’re not sneaky, just make sure the filter settings are properly set and go to where you are familiar.

    In regards to Kefira, don’t underestimate it. There are attitudes about Yiddishkeit floating about, sometimes very subtly, that allow a coldness to everything seep in. Discussions are constantly brought up about Ikrey Emuna and all differing opinions are voiced. Someone with a weak backing in Torah, or someone who is more easily won over, will have those ideas creep into their mind. I can see on people who after being exposed to all these sites, seem like they just ate from the Eitz Hadas, and their eyes are suddenly open and they question much more than they did or should. But, I think I’ll agree that it isn’t as drastic.

    in reply to: Should The Wife Have Total Control Of The Home Internet? #973266

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    I see that the current western attitude was already adopted by us. You hear this talk of uncontrollable men, only the women are stable, all men this, all men that, yeah that’s a man…

    I would say that it’s actually the other way around. Women are more vulnerable, and are easier to fall pray to someone trying to get her. While the Nisayon for a man is instant and all over, the danger for a woman is deeper and with bigger consequences.

    This is in regard to one topic. Regarding the Nisayon of Dei’os, loss of Emuna and seriousness there is little doubt that it is a much bigger danger for women, who aren’t as well prepared, amongst other reasons. Once ideas like there creep into the mind, they are very hard to get out. There are many people around today who walk the walk and do the dos, and have no Emuna, or are very cooled off inside. Attitudes like these are very easy to come by.

    So, no. I don’t think it is that safe for her to have exclusive access without oversight. The second issue is more prevalent than is noticed. If you watch comments on Yiddish sites, you start to wonder where did all these people get their Chinuch.

    in reply to: Am I shallow? #727175

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    Do you know any Chareidy animals? Y’know, things change.

    in reply to: Am I shallow? #727165

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    Not to hurt someone’s feeling is a great thing to keep in mind, but not as a reason to marry them. I never heard of any Tzaddik going to look for the biggest Shlepperes to give her a boost and marry her.

    There is a reason that Chazal mandated meeting the person before marrying. If you feel turned off by the looks, that is a valid enough reason not to pursue it. If you would be pushing the bar and expect or wish for who-knows-what, that would be a different story, but you, very clearly, said that it is not the case.

    in reply to: The Rationalist's Guide To Judaism #721722

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    charlie, although this should be a discussion all of its own, I’ll say this here: That many Aggados are not to be taken for their literal, translated meaning is indisputable. However, we must draw from the context to discern if it was indeed meant to be taken as a physical story. Many times, the Aggada is relating an actual story, while some details are conveying something other than its basic meaning. To say a blanketing, Aggada isn’t to be taken for its literal meaning, is in many instances a dismissive statement used as an excuse.

    The fact that you would apply it to more places than I would cannot be held against you, but I can say that I disagree. The Medrash about Avraham is clearly being said as a fact, a Nisayon, a danger and a Ness. On the other hand, the Medrash about Kafa Aleihem Har Kegigis (holding the mountain over their head) does have the sound of meaning more than an uprooted mountain suspended in the air.

    You actualy did not make it clear if you do indeed take the above mentioned Medrashim literaly or not. I understand that you were trying to make a certain point — a point that you mention often. I am addressing that point. Again, not to argue with your premise, in general, but to say that you are supposed to read into it to see when it is meant to be taken literaly.

    An example, is when you applied this to a Gemara that condemed some behavior as Chayav Misa (if I remember correctly). That is not a story, where you can say that Chazal were giving you an emotional picture of what in essence took place. They are telling you how they look at something, and how bad it is. Even if you won’t take the Misa part so literally, but you do understand that it is actually that bad. (and so on)

    in reply to: is assange going to jail? #720585

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    Until the US changes their laws of newspapers being able to print whatever they want without having to reveal their source, it is disingenuous of them to persue this man just because of the magnitude. Actualy, I think that if he were tried here with a half decent lawyer, he would get away with it, at it would make the government look like a joke.

    in reply to: The Rationalist's Guide To Judaism #721716

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    His point is to equate the first with the rest.

    WARNING: You continue this conversation and the thread gets closed.

    in reply to: Halachic Penalty for Attempted Murder #720346

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    Are you sure, or should I be “safe” and write a will, first?

    in reply to: BEST ANSWER AWARDS–Take The Challenge! #1026364

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    HELLLP!!

    And also, of course: Ruff Ruff

    in reply to: Double Parking #720692

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    Moderators, before editing someone’s comment, keep in mind that it might look worse when you’re done with it then before you started. Homeowner’s comment wasn’t anything bad, but now it looks like who knows what he wrote. I think it portrays him wrong. Keep that in mind.

    in reply to: Praying About Past Events and Parshas Sh'mos. #1111190

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    answerman, that applies to every murder. Wolf’s question, however, is about the fact that Moshe Rabbeinu saw future generations of that Mitzsh, who he killed, and so what was he seeing. Wolf went on to assume that Moshe Rabbeinu manipulated the future, hence the rest of the thread.

    This was all because of the mistake of confusing Moshe’s looking into the person’s generations with Hashem’s knowledge of what will actually happen.

    in reply to: Torah & Derevh Eretz, Torah & Mada #720016

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    klach etzel yafos

    in reply to: Double Parking #720680

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    I think there are ideas, if only anyone in a position to help would be interested. First of all, any new apartment building should be required to supply parking for its tenants. Perhaps multiple car driveways should be encouraged. By this, I mean that it takes up one spot but has room for a few neighbors. Try to create parallel parking wherever possible, they have room for more cars. Hydrants should be moved to the middle of the street, on the ground as a manhole. The firetrucks always block off the street, anyhow. The last one for now, and the grandest, is to have large parking areas on 13th at the beginning and end of the busy areas, and have a monorail run through 13th avenue. I think that should take care of some of the double parking, or double barking in my case.

    Does anyone have any other ideas, other than to take advantage of already distressed drivers to generate revenue?

    in reply to: Halachic Penalty for Attempted Murder #720341

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    If he really wants to die, why doesn’t he just not breathe?

    in reply to: Praying About Past Events and Parshas Sh'mos. #1111187

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    Mod80, That’s quite some leap from finding more to changing the past.

    A side point: Just because science fiction discusses something, that doesn’t make it a true concept. If I where to make a novel about a place where “up” was switched with “left”, that wouldn’t validate the concept as a real one.

    But anyhow, it seems that you would rather perpetuate the thread than consider it answered.

    in reply to: Double Parking #720676

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    Do you really going around the block twice or three times is the answer? If I have to pick up my family, I won’t park at the nearest Rite Aid and take a train. The fact is that the politicians never considered the parking situation a crisis, only as an opportunity to generate “revenue”. Zoning rules never took it into consideration. If there would be enough parking for people, there wouldn’t be this many traffic jams in the cities.

    in reply to: Praying About Past Events and Parshas Sh'mos. #1111181

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    By the way, even if there would be a point to the question, keep in mind that we also are not supposed to ask for a Ness, although a Navi or someone with the stature of Rebbi Chanina ben Dosa, can ask for or expect one. So, you have some explanation here just in case you don’t understand what I wrote earlier.

    in reply to: Praying About Past Events and Parshas Sh'mos. #1111179

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    I’m afraid you are getting carried away.

    Hashem knows that you will Daven and He knows what will actually happen. This has absolutely nothing to do with Moshe Rabbeinu looking into the fellow’s future generations. Do you think he saw people munching on pizza? He looked with Ruach Hakodesh into the person’s future.

    A person, like a tree, has fruits. With Ruach Hakodesh, Moshe was able to look deeply into this man’s soul to see if he had any true spark within him; if any child from him down through the ages will ever convert.

    in reply to: Do you know what Oorah does? #721557

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    Mod80, I believe you wrote in a different thread that the OP can make suggestions but doesn’t set rules.

    in reply to: Do you know what Oorah does? #721556

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    It’s actually more like a Chinese auction that has a Yeshiva. They are an advertising agency that has a Kiruv branch to advertise about.

    in reply to: Crazy Kabbalah Co-Workers #719793

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    What’s wrong with energy healing? Last I checked, the Gemara excludes healing from the lists. That is besides the fact that you can’t be doing Kishuf without knowing about it. Neither can a certain behavior be Avoda Zara, without being in front of one or having one in mind. The people who do dowsing don’t know how it works, and therefore cannot fall into either category. Perhaps, you’d be able to call it Kosem, or Goralos, but even that has to be weighed carefully. I don’t think either of those apply to the present, though. It shouldn’t be worse than asking over oil where a lost item is.

    in reply to: Crazy Kabbalah Co-Workers #719789

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    twisted,

    Whatever the case about its validity, but in what way do you call it Avoda Zara? I never heard of anyone saying, “Oh, mighty Ayin Hara, please give me, your slave, life and sustenance.”

    in reply to: Ad Meah V'esrim…? #720590

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    I don’t know anyone who had that problem.

    in reply to: Maybe I Should Compensate The Store Owner…? #727147

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    Wolf, from where did you get the notion that a store owner owns his customers? While there is a Halacha of Ani Hamehapech Bacharara, that wouldn’t apply here since he wasn’t trying to reach anything.

    And, why do you speak of giving money instead of business, which is what you took from him, according to your Shaala?

    in reply to: Halachic Penalty for Attempted Murder #720328

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    That extra-Halachic stuff is for extra circumstances. Chazal say that when murder was rampant, they’d kill even when it didn’t fit the bill. You can’t make a rule out of that.

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