soliek

deja vu all over again means that this is the third time the same thing has happened…is it the third time?

“More kosher eateries in Flatbush.”

O_O

smoke some weed

UNTIL NEXT PEERIM!!!

“But you can be bothered to carry your kindle.”

android phone

people have a problem with it…personally i think its a more fuel efficient and faster means of conveyance…

Did you know that Maraschino cherries go very well with mashed sweet potatoes?

how about putting in vodka instead of water 😛

SJSinNYC is probably there 😀

yungerman1: are you married?

can everyone stop with the frum faker thing? its a straw man…it really is…the issue here is DF not some made up hypothetical pedophile

😀

so if a quadruplegic eats a salad…is that cannibalism?

btw zeeskite, unless you’ve just been trolling, are you as zealous in your observance of all the mitzvos as you are in hating this individual?

espresso

big deal: sounds like youre angry about something…

heres the thing. firstly, thank you logician.

when something like this happens, the first question to ask is why is the person like that? of course youll get all the kanaim telling you that the question is irrelevant, but it really isnt. many, if not most of the time something like this, and feldman too, happens its because someone is hurt, and very angry. left unchecked, that anger and hurt gets turned against what the person thinks is the source. lets say the source is a parent, right? so the kids anger gets turned against everything that makes the parent who he or she is…including religion. of course objectively speaking the religion would be irrelevant, but to someone who is hurt and angry, that DISTINCTION is irrelevant, and it must be religion’s fault.

what happens when a person gets angry? i know that when i get angry i want to break things…i want to yell…i want to cause damage…and i want everyone else around me to feel what im feeling. and thats pretty standard. the magnitude depends on the person, why they are angry, and how they usually respond to feelings of anger. but in anyone, you let anger fester long enough and it grows into something monstrous and uncontrollable, and you get a woman like this.

again, since no one seemed to understand me in the previous thread, having a reason for being angry does NOT justify what you do while angry. it simply explains why it happened.

heres a nice parallel: if you walk around harlem at 2 in the morning with a very expensive watch, carrying a very expensive laptop, and talking on a very expensive phone, and youre not particularly imposing…you may very well be mugged. and you should know better. does that justify the mugging? no! but if you wanted to not get mugged, you should have understood the problem and avoided it.

so yeah…summary? i dont like this new trend, but it begs the question: why are they so angry, and what can be changed to make sure that anger like that doesnt build in others?

“Is there more of this going on then we realize?”

yes

“Is there something that can be done to help people on the brink of leaving due to unhappy marriages and life experiences?”

not really, but youre welcome to try

“Is it time that more professional (orthodox therapist) are made available to help and that seeking their help is not seen as a stigma?”

YES OH MY GOD YES

“Should parents guide their children into Social work, Psychology schools etc. in their studies so there are more therapist in the frum world?”

guiding anyone into a specific profession is always problematic, but it should be accepted as a reasonable profession for frum people, aside from the usual special ed, PT and OT.

“Should time be spent in Chosen and Kallah classes about what it means to be married, form a partnership and how to cope with stress, finances etc.?”

cant answer that…never been to one

“Depends – either Shygetz Aross or Shiksa Arann, depending on how far gone I am.”

HAH!!!

ah freilichen peerim is my chosen greeting 😀