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brisker 26 – their all mixed up.July 31, 2016 1:55 pm at 1:55 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164851
abba-s – many mo people might go because they want to be part of something that is part of their religion.
brisker26 – good point which is the reason why i dont learn and just go to shiurim.
because they need to cover their hair so they want to do it in a way that they can look nice at the same time.
Joseph – please stop being anti feminism in a not kosher way.
daas yochid – nothing wrong with sending your children off to college. from what ive seen at least where i live and the college that the frum people go to the people who stayed frum are the ones who went to college the others all went off the derech the reasoning could be because they were too busy studying and didnt have time for the wrong stuff. just tell your friend that you dont think its a good idea.July 31, 2016 4:30 am at 4:30 am in reply to: Should religious girls learn halachot and mussar on a frequent basis? #1164461
skald89 – yes i think so. i try too.
skald89 – its called anti feminism.
popa bar abba – whats the difference? im never around children.
writer soul – exactly. back when i was yeshivish i wanted a kollel guy now i need a learner worker. that girl should be open to date people who are her type. why date someone who doesnt go to the movies or listen to not jewish music if you do? (if you go from yeshivish not doing that stuff to mo where you do that stuff.)
writer soul – A good example of mo is ivanka trump, someone who only keeps shabbos and kosher and thats pretty much it.
brisker – there are many reform and conservative people who keep the holidays. they should continue to keep it.
health – the way you stated it was like you didnt have a good relationship with your wife.
writer soul – i think i realized what you keep on saying and that is NOT considered modern. your saying these are people who take the secular world and put it into the jewish world without changing anything not the way they dress, not the way they talk to the other gender, etc….
sam2 – she had to talk to you to get into the car.
Also some people just wont be happy no matter what. but the shadchanim are horrible. it doesnt make sense that i have to step up for myself and find myself my own shidduch thats why its totally okay for me to talk to guys at least this way i can find someone if not then maybe ill be waiting till im like 30 chasvichallila? (and my rabbi suports my idea and he actually makes events where i can go and meet guys myself.)
Trump is EXCELLENT for the Jews. his daughter is jewish. he works with jews. we need him. we should just vote for someone whod be good for the jews. imagine if he was president during the holocaust so many jews could have been saved.
jewish feminist – what is your description of a mo person?
writer soul – when your there you learn a lot more stuff about the open world rather than whats in the frum world. its all goyim most of my classes im the only jew.July 29, 2016 8:25 pm at 8:25 pm in reply to: Does a reform rabbi do anything other than attend funerals? #1161023
dovrosenbaum – are you sure? i thought they did know hebrew?
law school is so boring med school is so much more exciting.
iacisrmma – follow the discussion.
gavra at work – or if your me you go to wear all the college guys go and go find someone there. (as a college girl)
writersoul – but you were correct in saying that not all mo people find their own guy some are set up by shidduchim and believe it or not even goyim lahavdil they have dating sites.
popa bar abba – most of the guys i hang out with are 3 – 5 years older than me. are you gping to say that will help cause a shidduch crisis when i h’h marry one of them?
writersoul – i meant a not jewish college like brooklyn college.July 29, 2016 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm in reply to: Does a reform rabbi do anything other than attend funerals? #1161020
jewish feminist – yes and thats what kiruvs about but saying that their better than frum jews thats taking it to the next level being like i wont judge and i dont agree with them is another thing. you shouldnt tell someone whos reform that their better than frum jews chasvichallila.
sam2 – its true what daas yachid is saying you shouldnt give rides to girls and girls should be able to drive themselves. its much different than saving a life.
writer soul – what do you mean part of the mo educational system? as in going to college? yes. i never went to a mo school even tho i almost did. and yes the people from the mo school i almost went to did the stuff i described.
writer soul – not at all surprising. i know many people who met their spouses through shadchanim that are mo. thats also because they didnt like their male friends enough to want to marry them.
gavra at work – doctors make plenty of money. also when a girl goes off to med school she usually wants a guy the same type as her not someone learning full time whether shes mo or yeshivish.
health – i have lots of life experience. also maybe thats why you got divorced like how you said when i was married because you didnt have a good enough close relationship with your wife. you cant just be a good father you need to be a good husband as well.
Joseph – and meet a guy on the public transportation? i dont think so.
jewish feminist – what do you call mo then if not for that?
health – thats surprising you would think the opposite. that is true it is an opinion site but dont try changing other peoples opinions.
zahavas dad – people going off the derech is sad not a success story the opposite of a success story.July 29, 2016 3:12 pm at 3:12 pm in reply to: Does a reform rabbi do anything other than attend funerals? #1161014
jewish femnist – because the way you responded did not make you seem like your anti the reform movement and most frum people are anti it.
writersoul – most mo people wear shorter skirts and pants but i only wear shorter skirts sometimes and most dont keep shomer and all do hang out with guys i do hang out with guys but do keep shomer. so on so forth…. the reason why i chose mo instead of yehshivish is because i wanted a more open lifestyle where i can do stuff and not have to worry about being judged. like if i want to wear a shorter skirt then i can if i want to hang out wit h guys then i can. plus you have a rabbi who gives it an okay so you never have to worry. (the thing that most of you dont know is that this rabbi is respected by the community and a lot of people follow him because otherwise you will be like you dont need to worry and start saying why you do.)
Girls should get married after theyve had at least one year of a college education so that way they can see what they want from their lives and stable down from the seminary so that way they marry someone their type. Also how do these girls plan on supporting their husbands? Like me since im mo i know guys who i want and i choose based off the guys i know and know mine and their type and make my own shidduch. but of course not all girls know guys but still their mothers or fathers can decide for them.
Joseph – so its better to get a ride by a guy and talk to him instead? I dot think so. So its 100% okay for women to drive.
It is 100% okay for girls to drive. Why its better to get a ride by a guy and talk to him instead?
Any success OTD stories where the person became frum?
subtitle please – i was meaning if your not going to use your time wisely believing in the truth than why throw your time away for avodah zara?
popa – bar abba – are you religious?
daas yachid – their are plenty of religious people who only want 2 kids but the majority want a lot. so i dont think popa bar abba is joking. why should people give up on finding a shidduch at 25? theres a G-d and he determines when someone gets married.
akuperma – i agree with you especially since the mo people think i wanna get married at like 30 and have like only 2 kids and think im crazy that i want to get married younger than that because you know everyone must become a doctor and than get married and only have 2 kids so that way you focus on being a doctor.
gavra at work – the single girls (including myself) are VERY busy maybe even more so you didnt know med school was intense and full time and hard? id much rather have kids to be busy with than med school. Also you need to pay your shadchanim.
mammele – you sure? i thought there was more girls than boys?
syag lachochma – that sounds like my idea. no more judging how the guys look if his a good frum boy marry him! were jewish and need to marry another jewish person dont look at the persons looks only if his a good boy and you see potential for a good marriage.
yeshivesh macher – we just need someone good for the jews and trump is good for the jews. would you rather have someone lahavdil like hitler who claims to make america great while destroying jews chasvichallila or someone who will help the jews? the answer is help the jews so trump it should be.
health – so no evidence no truth just opinion. you stated it like a fact and thats why you were arguing above with people about your opinion. if its just an opinion than dont argue it because others have their own opinion as well and will argue right back.
I think everyone should just drive and than no one will have that issue. when everyone is 16 they should get their license issue resolved and if someone needs a ride ask their gender.
subtitleplease – in a church they worship avodah zara in a reform synagogue they pray to Hashem. A person who serves avodah zarah is much worse off than an athiest. at least the athiest doesnt believe in lies he just doesnt believe in truth either.July 28, 2016 11:27 pm at 11:27 pm in reply to: Does a reform rabbi do anything other than attend funerals? #1160997
jewish feminist – are you a religious person?
Joseph – no matter how much i agree with you i cant treat them like that. i can only try bringing the jewish reform rabbis back to yidishkeit.July 28, 2016 8:52 pm at 8:52 pm in reply to: Does a reform rabbi do anything other than attend funerals? #1160990
A reform person has said to me that she had a lady rabbi and she said that i should become one because i like learning ( i had to explain to her that as a religious jew we dont allow for lady rabbis)!!! So i guess they do whatever our rabbis do just everything wrong.
Health – and how do you know this? wheres the statistic?
jewish feminist – what do you mean i dont understand what mo is? im mo myself and so is my rabbi. so how do you define mo than? and many mo people dont wear sheitels consider this situation this girl wears skirts right above her knees and short sleeves and keeps shabbos and kosher and some other stuff but she doesnt cover her hair. That girl is considered mo. Also consider this guy he doesnt wear a yarmulka, wears jeans, etc…. he keeps shabbos and kosher and some other stuff. His considered mo. If your referring to jews who werent born frum or went OTD chasvichallila and started keeping christian things and their god imach shemo its still better that they celebrate chaunkah than nothing maybe one chanukah will bring them back on?
apushtayid – so they shouldnt do anything? Just give it all up? Go all the way OTD? If his not wearing a yarmulka why doesnt he stop keeping shabbos and kosher as well? No he should keep however much he can.
yichusdik – i will not be saying where i live on here sorry. it happens to be a bit more mo community but their are still very religious people living here including chasidim.
apushtayid – i am mo myself just more religious than most mo people so i know a lot of mo people. my rabbi is mo. some of the mo people wear yarmulkas and take them off sometimes and so on. it depends on the person. but most wear colorful ones. if you disagree with that statement than we obviously think of mo differently. Also i didnt mean they ALL dont wear yarmulkas i meant some dont and some wear them and take them off sometimes and the others war colorful ones. Tznius depends on where you live. According to my rabbi who is mo you dont need to wear a sheitel. You can ask my rabbi why he says that but im not him so cant answer for him. I know plenty of mo people who dont wear sheitels. In fact the ones who weaer pants and wear sheitels just makes me think they dont like their hair and thats why their covering it because its more important to wear tznius clothing than a sheitel.
Abba -s – you shouldnt be calling a jew a goy thats a perfect way to make sure theyll stay off the derech. your labeling someone and theyll keep that label and one day they couldve become frum but they didnt because of you. What do you consider mo? Its true OTD people are only hurting themselves because their trying to rebel to show that someone did something wrong to them while you keep the Torah for G-d not for another person.
zahavasdad – most mo dont wear a kippah. they dont cover their hair or theyll barely cover their hair. i dont need to cover my hair when i get married but i choose to because im more religious than mo. I know you cant proselytize in college thats why we dont talk about religion and no matter how much they talk about yeshkah imach shemo i just ignore them.
reb yidd – then yes you should.