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Shopping – I am so happy things are looking up for you. I also love sukkos,(and not just because of my birthday)
I know that many people with asperger’s suffer from depression and it is fairly common for them to take anti depressants. Have you tried that? I am not a big advocate for meds but if the depression is inhibiting your ability to function it might be worth looking into.
Last year I wrote a letter to someone to explain how much pain they caused us and explained in detail why we were hurt. They wrote back saying they can’t imagine what I am talking about and they hope I forgive them anyway since they didn’t do anything wrong. What a slap in the face! Thank Gd even though they stuck it in my mailbox before Yom Kippur, I didn’t find it until afterward.
OOM – I resent your tone (especially paragraph 5) and no, your respoonse makes it obvious that you do not understand at all. For basic starters is the idea that this person says they have lost faith, and you are claiming that we fault them for having questions. Huh? That is only the one, easy piece to explain. As I said before, don’t assume that because we didn’t like something about her words, you automatically know from a preconcieved bias or stereotype just what is bothering us. That is both ironic and unfortunate.
I assume your fast has already started so I will say Gmar Tov, and I hope it went well.
I’m with ultimateskier, and with all due respect OOM (I really mean that), I think you are misunderstanding.
Teaching these topics does not a rebbetzin make. I had the same freaked out feeling but couldn’t articulate it in a way that would matter. People want to assume you are just putting them down for saying they don’t believe and it’s hard to get a point in.
two halves of a whole
oh eclipse that is so true. I always used to think emes would win out. And even if the truth doesn’t win, I never thought evil would continue to prevail even when it was discovered and revealed (NOT talking about predators, just the regular evil). It’s been hard life lessons. Hashem decides, He also waits til the last moment so people can do tshuva.
why would your kids need to where they met. that’s not a typical question.
I disagree about the disconnectedness. I think some people are just rude. They don’t always realize their tone or they don’t think there is anything wrong with being “straightforward”. There are plenty of people like that in person, why would they be any different online?
gavra – loved the poem
when I was younger I thought that if people knew they were wrong they would change. Now I realize that I was an idiot when I was younger.
I am so far away mentally that it doesn’t matter where I am located.
Yoya- all those reasons you mentioned are the reason I like them so much.
thanx WIY. I liked that a lot better than what he tried to explain!
He actually spent quite a bit of time explaining why there is an obligation on R”H (and posssibly every YomTov). It had a lot about the Rambam, and other things but it got lost in the delivery. This is someone who used to be a top guy years ago and had a schizophrenic break (IIRC). He is now somewhat homeless and suffers from OCD in the form of observing Shabbos all week and pesach and sukkos all year round. I have no doubt they are all based on someones writings or opinions but I wonder if he doesn’t realize he has forgone the mainstream for the unusual, or if he does it just to be controversial. Would that be like real-life trolling?
well thanx for those kind words!
Each day that I wake up i try hard not to go back to my old ways.
I had someone come over on Rosh Hashana and ask me if I had to foods to give him so that he could fulfill the mitzvah of mosh loach manos.
I think that when a mother cannot feed her children, there is no room on her mind for much else. Whether or not I would consider improving her kavana to be a reason to feed her is a seperate issue. Why would davening for more things with better kavana be more valuable than davening for food from the depths of her soul? Who says Hashem can’t listen to her prayer for food and read all the rest of her needs? I don’t like the premise, but to answer the question, I would think her needs are a motivation to daven for her kids, but a distraction from davening for other things.
Amen to Golfer’s brocha.
Huh? I said ASK Mechila, not give Mechila. And I sure didn’t mean you.
wow
. . . thank you enough.
I’ve been validated! Thank you for scooping me out of the gutter.
I have to laugh about the smartphone thing because I don’t have a phone so the email will be coming to me at work. There is a good chance I may not even remember I got it by the time I get home but I think forgetting isn’t in the cards anymore. I am more likely to forget to bring the new fruit in from the car.
Thank you ubiquitin.
Not that I am feeling a need to be on the defensive or anything – but I WAS focused. I get home at 4 and am so totally focused on getting ready for Yom Tov that I didn’t think about Shabbos at that time. I wasn’t posting or twiddling my thumbs, I was catching up.
Of course now that I have experienced all this constructive humiliation I assume I will never forget again.
Sheesh
42 – you? why you are the personification of gentlemanliness. You are the one who gets on the floor and rubs elbows with the little people.
(Now there is someone ELSE on that side of the screen, however, who still needs to ask mechila . . .)
musser zoger – Hey, that just might work. I’ll give it a try.
The hubby even lays it out for me but I walk in so late and am so frantic to get stuff done it’s not so hard to forget. 🙁
Musser zogger – this was written just for me, no???? You better sign me up.
celebrities in north chicago?
Torah – thank you for that. I feel a little less guilty now.
I was kinda wondering about the ‘single girl’ thing myself.
Goq – So many of my peers were born in edgewater, but I was born in st. lukes (which also doesn’t exist anymore).
so basically, I used the word wrong. But I knew that so I excused myself.
I think you’ll even find that dating will be an impetus to lose weight.
I agree. Many of the guys I dated made me lose my apetite.
okay, how bout saran wrap?
here’s a funny tid bit for you about edgewater –
“Once a premier northside facility, equipped with a helicopter landing pad on the roof, and state of the art burn-care facilities. Birthplace of Hillary Rodham Clinton and John Wayne Gacy.”
touched by greatness
live right – made sense to me.
Torah – Still holds true. Seen by the walls and seen by people. If I covered my hair with wide mesh, it wouldn’t be covered halachically.
popa – Two separate issues. YOUR hair can’t be seen is not the same as ‘people shouldn’t see hair when they look at you’. If you are bald, I don’t think you are required to wear anything, and along those same lines I know most poskim hold that you cannot wear a sheital of your own hair unless it was cut before you were married.
I was raised in a world where people covered most of their hair, not all, and I spent a very long time discussing this issue with a Rav before my wedding. I needed to be convinced that is was necessary as well as right. I do have my issues with sheitals on a personal level, though, and do not wear them anymore. Neither does my wife.
Thanks for the compliment but the truth is so far from being complimentary. My mom was always a go-to person for everyone. Even my friends went to her when need be and sometimes she knew personal things about my friends that they didn’t want to share with their own parents. While I was young, I was very proud of having a mom like that. I found myself, as a teen, keeping things secret sometimes just to know that there was actually something I knew that she didn’t. B”H I grew out of that as I got older, but there were some habits that were hard to break. I am not proud, and I am embarrassed that people who know me may read this, but I certainly don’t want a compliment I don’t deserve.
I didn’t think the point of covering hair is to cover it, the point is to make sure it is not seen.
but so do a lot of people
seriously? In my farm town?
Now I have to go ask them if I’m right. I will be so honored to have a flimsy thin thread of virtual connection to the one and only eclipse!
I only asked because you told a story on one of the threads in the exact same words that this person told the story.
okay, so I’m self centered and evil. no surprise there.
I’ll have to settle for the American Girl Doll store in Chicago. But I’ll stand by the escalator and stare at people’s eyes too.
**sidebar** eclipse, do you have a younger relative in my part of the world? **end sidebar**
we never said a word before the first trimester ENDED. And sometimes I just didn’t tell for a while because I couldn’t deal with people telling me I am supposed to be resting and taking it easy etc even though nobody was offerring to take over any of my work.
A funny story is that two days after my mother had a major brain tumor removed I was in ICU with her and I told her I was expecting (I was probably in my fifth month but I don’t show til very late). She looked at me with her very blank post-op face and said, “you think we didn’t know?”
Does bring up a few questions.
what do you consider young?
superme – nobody can ruin you without your help. I work with a lot of struggling kids and have some of my own. The mechanchim usually mean well, they think they are helping you take life more seriously etc. They may be mistaken but then it’s your turn to decide what to do with it.
You can have a teacher who is very hard on you or puts you down and you can tell yourself that you know this isn’t true, this teacher is wrong about me and I will just let it roll off my back. Or you can decide to speak to the menaheles in a serious personal way explaining why you feel very hurt and hopeless (whining and saying, “she’s picking on me” usually doesn’t work). You can also decide that if that’s how the teacher is going to treat you than you are going to treat her like that too and teach her a lesson by being even worse than she expects etc etc. It is YOUR choice and if you need someone else to tell you that you really AREN’T a bad kid, then it is in YOUR hands to find that someone. You can use us, or some ‘real life’ person.
The bottom line is, (I got this from Dr. Twerski) if someone told you you have an ugly scar on your face it won’t bother you because you KNOW it isn’t true. If you believe the mean/stupid/hurtful things your teacher is saying, maybe it is because you need help believing that those things aren’t true. You just need to find someone who can give you twice as much positive for all the negative. Actually it’s supposed to be 4x as much but that’s for a different discussion.
So if you understood any of this, just show up each night and let us know how many compliments you need before you can go to bed.
There is a big difference between poking fun of someone, and making a joke. Coming from someone who is definitely over sensitive, I think you are over reacting.
i find the contrast between my and popas posts very amusing.
I find Popa being sorry about something seminary related amusing
Darn, I hope she’ll give me a refund.
wasn’t your sister on here at some point? I’m sure she’d be available for hire.