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  • in reply to: Help! Have Gallstones; Can I Avoid Gallbladder Removal?? #925548

    tikvuchka
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    it will happen again with pregnancy. i had mine taken out…very easy recovery. very small amount of scar…VERY worth not being in that pain again

    in reply to: Lap Band Surgery #835441

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    i had it done three years ago….here is what they dont tell you:

    1. you can NOT get pregnant for TWO years after not one. If you do it may lead to severe complications.

    2. the port they put by the belly button, you feel it through your skin, always. its always there and its VERY sensitive until about two years after the procedure.

    3. recovery time is NOT a week. It is longer, and very hard.

    I lost about 30 pounds but gained it back. it only works with diet and excersize but if you could do that, you wouldnt be thinking of surgery im guessing.

    in reply to: video aftermath #799897

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    I didnt see the video just heard about it, but i was inspired. I went to a party hosted by an aunt that I havent spoken to in years because she hurt me very badly. I hadnt even invited her to my wedding. But I went to her party. I have not forgiven her but I will slowly learn to forget.

    in reply to: anyone did the lap band surgery?? #788752

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    i did it . i lost weight but it wasnt fun and only works with det and exercise.

    in reply to: DIVORCE CRISIS – young couples getting divorced #1200041

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    I have a bit of a different view.

    I recently got married. I have a baby and one on the way, and my husband is in school. No one is supporting us, its just us. Things are hard. I was not told that life after marriage is hard. I was never told that even if you have a good marriage partner and things are going well with your relationship, that its still hard. I dont think the typical B”Y girl is taught this and then she may blame her husband. I learned that its not his fault. I learned that he grew up in a different family then I did and learned to speak to him in a way he can handle

    But most of all I learned that its hard because its hard and thats it. IM”H one day it will get easier but this being hard, its not his fault. and if I fight with him, it wont get easier.

    in reply to: baby sitting #739368

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    i remember i babysat for someone once who was doing construction on their house. i was so thirsty but i couldnt find anything, i couldnt even find the fridge.

    in reply to: Share Your Worst Date Ever! #777889

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    i have ALOT of them….

    1. i went out with someone who picked me up on L and Ocean Parkway at a friends apartment because I lived alone at the time. he asked if I mind a bit of a walk to the cafe, I didnt know in advance so I was wearing heels but he said its a five minute walk so I agreed. We walked to kings highway and east 15th. after that, we walked back to the apartment.

    2. I went on a date with someone who picked me up and asked me what I wanted to do. I am VERY against pool halls and we had discussed that on our first date. this was the second date. he took me to a pool hall, and in the middle of the date wanted to know if i would mind going to his friends sheva brachos/vurt (dont remember which one) for a bit. he looked insulted when i said ok but that i would not go into the affair with him.

    3. he picked me up 45 minutes late and it was absolutely pouring outside. he did not get out to open the door for me, which i did not mind, but he leaned over the seat and pushed the door open, in my opinion, a bit tacky. after a half hour of being lost he threw his cell phone into the back seat and said “i guessed this date wasnt shayach from the start”. he took me to a lounge and ordered himself a wide array of nosh, and then offered me a water bottle. we sat for about three minutes and then he got up and said ok, lets go. When i spoke to the sshdachan after he said…and i quote…”how did you expect him to act, he knew he wasnt interested. maybe you should loose some weight”…this is a well known shadchan, and I paid him ALOT of money to set me up!

    in reply to: curly???!! #734679

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    when i was single, a couple of months ago, I used to wear my hair curly and just make my bangs straight. I love this look.

    in reply to: Ladies would you consider homebirth? #782382

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    its so messy and gross, why would u want to? and also….so many things can go wrong. I work for a peds dr and we see sooo much go wrong! its not worth it

    in reply to: WHAT TO ASK??? #722220

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    when i got set up with my husband i had been out with so many fruity guys who i did a ton of asking about and all turned out to be “less then normal” in one way or another. I didnt ask anything about my husband until the third date, i didnt want to do all that work to go on one date. I do shidduchim now and I always tell ppl to go out on one date beofre really digging….just my opinion

    in reply to: Do you have a TV at home #722426

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    we live in a house that has a tv upstairs but its not ours, and i saw from the first couple of weeks that it killed my marriage so i stopped watching.

    in reply to: STOMACH BANDING #718764

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    i had the band done in march of 09. i lsot weight but i also went to the gym every day. they tell you before you do the surgery that it only works with DIET AND EXCERSIZE, and they know what they are talking about. Although, now I am expecting and I had alot of discomfrt from the port in the beginning that they dont tell you about.

    in reply to: This week's Yated Shidduch Forum… #722884

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    well here is my question: I met my husband through a dating website via a shadchan. The shadchan was VERY unhelpful and we ended up using my sister as an intermediate until things got serious. Now the shadchan keeps emailing me for shadchanus…as if she actually did something. She doesnt know him or me, only that we were both registered on a website. Do you think we should give her? How much? our families are not involved so we started sending her from our own money 100 a month but she emailed me to tell me it was not enough. I need to give 1000 azll at once. do you agree? she really did nothing, and if not for my sister, the shidduch wouldnt have gone through

    in reply to: Kids or teens who leave the Shabbos table to go read… #709405

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    the shabbos table is the pinicle of shabbos, I think. especially because most kids/teens dont go to shul. some barely leave the house. Maybe its up to the parents to make the table more interesting then the book? I know I wouldnt leave, if that was the case.

    in reply to: i need motivation to lose weight #702159

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    one year i took a jar and every time i lost a pound i put a dollar in the jar. if i gained a pound i took out two. a friend of mine got involved and we put a quarter for every hour we would excersise and also a quarter for every time we made a good decision regarding food choices…but bad decisions lost a quarter. we had a goal of loosing lets say 10 pounds and at the end we went out together. we had a great time, lost the pounds and had fun doing it.

    another friend did it to give the money to a specific tzedakah but when I tried that there wasnt enough mitivation….

    you should try this method. tell me how it works for you

    in reply to: Some basic Halacha that is ignored in 100% of shuls by 99% of the Kahal #708601

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    i was once davening shmona esrei in a crowded shul. I was on the ladies side where I belong but a bit in the isle because of space. a man came in to talk to his wife (not the first to do this) and actually knocked me over…he looked at me as if I was in the wrong place…..some men…usually the “machers” need to remember the point of the mechitzah

    in reply to: Good Websites #698202

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    i always use askmoses.com its lubavitch and VERY annonymouse 😉

    in reply to: What to do at Night #697667

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    we live in the five towns…..;) thanks sjs…

    in reply to: What to do at Night #697661

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    i meant to write that he starts his day at 5am…not 8am….mastermind sounds cute…

    in reply to: What to do at Night #697658

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    charlie,

    great ideas! thank you so much. the thing is he starts his day at 8am, so getting on a train at 8pm to go to the city (an hour drive from the 5 towns) is not fair to him.

    I have no problem with him learning but we want to do something TOGETHER, or learning together one night a week but what about the rest?????

    in reply to: What Chessed organization would you like to see started? #697604

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    sac, I would love to also, but as a newly married person, I cant imagine having enough space in a one bedroom for me my husband a new baby and a child.

    in reply to: What is the purpose of girls going to Seminary? #697507

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    parents need to decide if their child will be “moved” by the boy/girl thing (which is also a problem in baltimore, brooklyn. 5 towns…etc….) there are issues for certain people going to israel, but between the mechanchos and the parents they should know the person well enough to HELP them decide what is best.

    I do not think there is an idea of entitelment, just a desire to go.

    nothing is necessary. but it MAY (or may not) be beneficial. maybe its not necessary for boys either…?

    in reply to: What is the purpose of girls going to Seminary? #697503

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    what kind of question is that??? and why should a boy go??? seminary is in no way chilling. If sent to the right school ( which is the parents perogative) then a girl will be very busy with learning and seeing israel and growing and learning about being an adult. I havent met to many girls who decided their year was a waste of time….or a waste of money, because that sounds liek what is important in your post.

    in reply to: For Frum Girls And Women #696026

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    I agree with well informed….do you really think they are sneaking these videos?????? I think its a great way to give gir,ls something to do because everything else is usually off limits!

    in reply to: Should YWN advertise Frumster.com? #694921

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    I did not use frumster, I actually have heard the site is not very good and screening people. I do know that sawyouatsimai.com and many others are good. I had names, but the shadchanim were protective of them…and I did not feel the need to fight to the finish for a boy who was just slightly average.

    in reply to: Insubordinate Wife #694792

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    what qualifies as a wife life this? what does she have to do? who decides that she is this?

    in reply to: Should YWN advertise Frumster.com? #694919

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    you are a bit out of touch. I grew up in the yeshivish world, bais yaacov and all, and at a ripe age after seeing TO MANY SHADCHANIM THAT PUT ME DOWN OR ASKED USELESS QUESTIONS about me or my family, I decided to finally go on a FRUM dating website….and low and behold! I met my husband! I have many many many friends who have had the same experience. I also have many many many friends who dont, and are single, alone and just a bit sad to say the least. There are sites our there that are not good and not “yeshivish” but I do not know that frumster is one of them. Do you? Have you tried it?

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