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Some of us are feeding babies at that hour
Others are crying that they’re not;
Some of us are shivering from lack of heat
Others can’t sleep because they’re hot.
If you bake salmon in the oven, it’s soft when broiled for 10-12 minutes (if it’s already filleted, otherwise about 15-20 min.
Shkoyach, I know people who only took the English CLEP for Excelsior, but there’s only one way to find out for sure: call Excelsior!
Koma- You’re askin’ for it, so I’ll start.
If there were bakeries on every other block in their towns, how do you know they would’ve still baked their own Challos?
So don’t blame it on our great spiritual decline.
(Now everyone else can say how today’s women are working, busier… except that today we have the BOSCH.)
Hereorthere: You asked, “How do we achieve this?”
I want to answer from my own experiences: by acting big (i.e. mature) and thinking about the OTHER PERSON’S pain (insecurities).
I can only speak from my own experience, but for me fixing a relationship works best when I admit that I said/did things that weren’t proper.
An older co-worker attacked my character the other week, and, boy, did it hurt! I should’ve kept my mouth CLOSED, but I said something that MAYBE I shouldn’t have (out of frustration because she accused me without having half the details). Realizing, though, that she was simply projecting her own issues on me, I decided to be a big girl and apologize for the lack of Derech Eretz I showed her by answering back.
Do you think she also apologized? Some all-growed-up people are still children, but they don’t have their mommies next to them to tell them, “Say ‘I’m sorry.'”
P.S. She told me that when she speaks harshly to someone, it’s strictly ‘business’ and I shouldn’t take it personally.
It may be worthwhile for you to invest in a tutor for math and English CLEPs because: 1. CLEP is likely the cheapest way to go, even with tutoring; 2. These are 6 credits each as opposed to online courses which are usually 3 credits.
Gavra: I appreciate your concern for our Halochik and financial well-being and the advice you suggested. B”H, paying interest on our tuition is not the norm for us; currently, we are, but only due to some major one-time expenses and my being owed $$ from DOE for some work. The situation should be resolved soon, B’ezras Hashem. Thanks again for showing “Yisroel Areivim Zeh LaZeh”.
Anonymiss: No, you do not need to be certified for high school to be high school P-3 provider anymore! Beginning recently, a 1-6 license is fine for HS. Contact Agudah if you want confirmation: 212-797-9000.
Jobless: It’s my understanding that if you took the LAST and CST Multi-Subject exams, then even if your BA is in another field, you may provide P-3.
To those who equate loshon hora with lack of tznius:
Loshon hora is usually not pre-meditated; lack of tznius usually is.
When we label someone “frum”, we mean that s/he truly tries to live in accordance with the Torah.
When a woman wears clothing that are fine according to the letter of (some Rabbonim’s interpretation of) the law, but are not in the spirit of the law (make the statement, “I wish I didn’t have to keep these laws”), she demonstrates her lack of desire for frumkeit. (I agree that this is usually due to emotional issues- e.g. low self-esteem, lack of true domestic harmony- and not because she doesn’t believe in Hashem.)
That may be why some people refer to wearers of barely-covering-the-knee skirts as “not frum.”
mt mehdi: It has also been repeated that tznius is for a woman what Torah learning is for a man. We can keep something only to the extent that we know it. If we educate ourselves in Torah, we’ll learn tznius throughout: from the way Chava was formed, to the Imahos (“Hinei Ba’ohel”, and many more), to Dina, to the women in Mitzrayim with the mirrors, to the Kohen Gadol using a ramp, to “K’doshim Tihyu”, “Hatzne’a Leches” and “V’haya Kadosh”.
These are just a few of the many lines of the Torah devoted to tznius.
Just as in other areas, the actual Halochos of tznius are Torah She’baal Peh.
yehudayona: If you think P-3 is ok only for extra income, how’s this?
Five groups (1 hr each) per day with 5 students in each group ($105/group) x 5 days/week = $2,625/week.
It’s easier to obtain groups of 5 if you teach high school math or science.
GAW: Yes, my husband has a “real” job, and I work part-time to supplement it (and both of us have at least master’s degrees), and, being that our kids’ schools have our credit card number, our tuition is paid promptly each month. Currently, we are paying interest on that tuition.
The perks that you mentioned are the main attraction of Chinuch.
We cannot provide our teachers with the pay plus benefits (free GHI for the whole family and pension, 401K), and working conditions (Smartboards and other equipment which make teaching easier, prep periods) that public school teachers receive; short Fridays and Yom Tov off at least partially compensate. (Well, not Yom Tov, public school teachers have vacation days.)
Public school teachers also have summers off and can be home for children when they get home.
Short commute- I know many Rebbeim (8, off the top of my head) and teachers who travel over an hour each way and many ba’alei batim who barely commute.
Tuition discounts- Not helpful (as far as I know) for a Rebbi with daughters or a Morah with sons. Also not helpful for Chassidish Rebbi in Litvish Yeshiva or anyone else whose kids attend schools other than the one in which s/he works.
“Store discounts and much, much more”- Don’t know about these, but as a therapist, I receive discounts at certain (toy) stores, too.
Sure, I’d love to see something done about the escalating costs of tuition (another one is starting school soon, B”H!), but NOT at the expense of the teachers!
Sing! As it’s written: “V’atoh (with Ayin) Bonim, Shiru Lamelech…” (Piyutim of Shavuos).
squeak- Boruch Shekivanti! I was thinking the exact same thing!
Actually, that thread got me thinking that maybe I should serve our tuition bill on Yom Tov. Or at least for dessert.
laguy: I’m going to assume you didn’t mean that teachers should work more hours for the same pay (or lack of it). They already work evenings, weekends, and whenever they encounter parents.
Besides, from your equating the teaching profession with other jobs, it’s obvious that you haven’t a clue as to the energy level teaching requires.
In addition, public school teachers do not work 8-hour days, AND they have prep time built into their school day whereas our teachers do not.
(And no, I’m not a classroom teacher.)
Pharmacists do earn nicely, but only a BA?! Try a doctorate! It is a six-year program, though, not like a full PhD. LIU is a popular college option, though there are others.
Masa U’Matan publication in Lakewood once wrote:
“A Yid stopped at a roadside place where they had Cholov Yisroel milk and requested that type in his coffee. The (aino Yehudi) worker poured it, and then added Cholov Stam milk to the container. When questioned, the worker said, ‘It’s all the same.’
For those of you who think it’s not the same, remember this incident.”
Jewish girl and qa:
I believe that an orthodox Rav will NOT advise someone who observes Kashrus to eat treif in his parents’ home because, according to Halocha, one may (respectfully) disobey parents if they tell him to violate Halocha.
As SJS, yita, and anon (thank you!) pointed out, while Kashrus observance is black-and-white Halocha, there are gray areas (stringencies) within this realm, such as Cholov Yisroel. It is NOT “either kosher or not”; rather, we follow the p’sak of our Rav, who maintains that while Cholov Yisroel is the preferable option, Kibbud Av V’aim is actual Halocha and thus overrides Cholov Yisroel.
“i dont get those familys who only eat cholov stam outside the house so everythings ok as long as its not in the house? its the wrong hashkofos.”
Neither do I! We keep Cholov Yisroel unless there is a possibility of violating Halocha by doing so. I should mention that my husband usually manages to avoid eating Cholov Stam at his parents, but if his mother cooked something containing it, he eats it. However, he allows the children and me to eat the ice cream and yogurts, as per the p’sak of our Rav.
What does this teach our children?
That we follow the p’sak of our Rav. In this case, we understand the reason: Kibbud Av V’aim (Halocha) overrides Cholov Yisroel (Chumra).
Lots of highly educated folks out there are making very average salaries, and lots of average-educated ones are earning double their wages.
Just saying that motivation and productivity seem to play a greater role in earning power than education in grades 1-12.
When my husband took on Cholov Yisroel, he was advised by his Rov not to inform his parents of this switch and to continue eating Cholov Stam in their home- i.e.- Kashrus is a big enough deal, but “more kosher”?!
We continue to buy only Cholov Yisroel, but when at my in-laws…as long as it’s kosher. Our children accept that we only eat Breyer’s ice cream and Dannon yogurt at Grandma’s…except once, at the grocery, when my 4-year old asked me to pretend I’m Grandma…
moving mountains- That seems to be correct from my experience as well. Specializing in something is usually a great way to go
within special ed and the therapies.
jobless- I gave YWN my email address to forward to you yesterday.
bozo- The amount of years spent pursuing a career may seem daunting, but try not to let it interfere! Also, do you know for sure that you can’t teach history at the bachelor’s level with a master’s? You can certainly teach in the well-paying high schools with a master’s degree.
Bozo- May I recommend a book that I really found useful, “Do What You Are.”
There are many more professions out there with which you may not yet be familiar; however, if you are really interested in pursuing one of the more typical professions, go for it.
If it’s very “you”, you’ll probably do fine in it, and you’ll enjoy your job!
Tzippi- I completely agree with what you said. I always find it amusing to observe interactions between two different mentalities (e.g.- America and Syria). Nothing beneficial is accomplished!
Squeak- it would be wonderful to see special educators in our mainstream classrooms! But none of us with degrees will teach for minimum wages.
anonymiss- you mentioned paralegal and computer programming as career options. Do you personally know anyone who recently entered either of these fields and makes a decent salary working part-time? Generally, well-paying office jobs require full-time hours plus some, not ideal for a young mother.
As you also mentioned, physical therapy can be a good option; just realize that it frequently requires strenuous physical labor, such as lifting or moving disabled children/adults, also not ideal for a young mother.
Jobless- Firstly, I will forward my email address to mods, so hopefully you will get it. This reading specialist has children coming to her home during school hours only.
Secondly, are you a certified teacher? If you are, call all schools in your area and put out ads (for parents) to let everyone know that a P-3 provider who specializes in reading is available. For 1 child per hour, the pay (through DOE) is $41.98/hr.
Thirdly, you can contact agencies that provide Title I services (Catapult, Higher Learning, don’t know the rest). They send you to schools; you teach in groups of at least 3.
Fourthly, if you really need to work and are certified for birth and up or K-12, you can work for an EI agency or provide SEIT (ages 3-5). (SEIT pays $60/hr through an agency, and you may be able to incorporate your reading degree when working with the kids.)
Why is it “Zeh LO nehne…”? Isn’t it “Zeh nehne…”?
G-d bless my husband, who says that ice cream is dairy enough for him. If my kids want cheesecake, I’ll let my daughter make it if she washes the utensils.
There are many children who do not catch on to reading and require intervention. Depending on where you live, the government may sponsor reading help, benefitting your daughter.
For example, in NY, if you become a certified teacher, there are an abundance of P-3’s waiting to be filled.
Right, and we light 2 candles because there are only 2 days, and not 8 this time.
HIE, please tell Mommy whether you are a 13 year old boychik.
If you e-mail me through ywn, I can give you the number of a reading specialist in Monsey who receives more calls for help than she can assume; she may give your number to them.
(She uses Dr. Ribowsky’s method.)
My kids’ schools have no frills- no lab, not even a computer lab!- and still charge over $6,000/child plus building fee, dinner fee, registration fee…
Shadchan calls me after I gave a very clear NO: “He’s upset that you won’t give him a third date. You have to give him another chance.”
Me: “I’m sorry, he’s NOT for me. Besides, I’m about to have a second date with the next guy.”
Shadchan, seriously: “So just tell this new guy that you decided to reconsider the previous guy.”
I was waiting for the proposal, so to help him along, I proposed a trip to the Bronx zoo- on WEDNESDAY (free day), CHOL HAMOED PESACH… yup, that did the trick (“Well, now that all the Jews we know already know…”)!
When the Jews accepted the Torah, they wished to celebrate. However, they now had laws governing the preparation of kosher meat, and the lengthy preparation would delay their celebration. Thus, they prepared a dairy meal.
We commemorate this meal as it represents the joy felt by the Jews when they received the Torah. They immediately accepted the fact that meat would no longer be simple to prepare and forfeited this delicacy in favor of immediate celebration of the Torah.
While I don’t know how R’ Schwab, ztz’l, knew that, there is a Yerushalmi shul in E”Y which sings the same niggun as Breuers’ to those words, and they claim it originates from the BH”M.
rp- For every person who became a better Jew, (fill in the number) became a far worse Jew.
Just realize that this gift may prove to be a tremendous nisayon for your cousin, and, while it may elevate him, it may more easily lower his grades and, indeed, tear him away from life.
I work with teenagers (albeit girls), and I know what I’m talking about.
Why not give him the money instead? It can be in the form of a bond, too.
This way his parents can decide whether he needs an iTalmud program.
Is it your job to test how he will use his free will?
This isn’t a prank, but it’s funny:
In the middle of the school year, my class got a new English teacher. Since she wasn’t in the classroom yet at the beginning of the period, we weren’t in our seats and didn’t notice her arrival. Suddenly, we heard a loud BANG!, and then another. We turned and saw a lady throwing the teacher’s chair on the floor! Apparently, this was the only method she knew for getting our attention.
The door opened, and the principal poked his head in and asked, “Is everyone OK?”
One girl answered, “Most of us are!”
A teacher told her students to write a sentence in Hebrew.
One student wrote: “Ani bumped my etzba, v’zeh harag osi.”
During class, we went around the classroom with each girl saying just one word: “chop”. The last girl in the last row yelled, “Timber!” and we all fell off our chairs!
Note: This was done in attempt to get the message across to the teacher that she should choose another calling.
I’ve noticed some nosh has glucose-fructose syrup listed in ingredients. Is this the same poison as high-fructose corn syrup, better, or worse?
What if one has debts (not just mortgage) to pay off? Should he give ma’aser while accruing interest on debts?
As far as I know, it’s managed by Shloimy Goldman, whom I know personally as an ehrliche yid. The few people I know who made chasunos there were satisfied with the service.
This is from Mrs. Judi Dick’s “A Taste of Nostalgia”:
Potatoes, Eggs, and Onions: (10 servings)
3-4 large potatoes, peeled and cubed
water
salt
4 hard-boiled eggs
1 onion, diced
3 Tbsp. oil
pepper (optional)
Cook cubed potatoes with water just to cover and salt about 10 minutes, until tender.
Drain well and return potatoes to pot over low heat for a few seconds to dry.
In a large bowl, peel and chop eggs. Add cooked potatoes and raw onion and mash well. Add oil and season to taste. Good warm, at room temp, or chilled.
At a vort of ba’alei teshuva, an irreligious aunt of the chosson told me how impressed she was with the kallah: “Look how she conducts herself with other men- she’s so modest! I’m so happy that my nephew found such a rare girl like her.”
Her reaction reminded me of the reactions of our own irreligious relatives to our fully separate chasuna over a decade ago. They were amazed that men and women could dance without removing the mechitza to join each other.
When we do our jobs faithfully, we bring kiddush Hashem.
Esther! I’m so sorry! I once heard that there are 3 things to do in illness: Borei Refuos- medicine, Norah Tehillos- say Tehillim, Adon Haniflaos- Recognize Him as Master over all. May He be “M’chadeish b’tuvo…ma’asei b’reishis” by healing you now.