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Ah, oh well.
The funny thing is, you made that up on the spot — but the reality is that there is a court case that (as of 2008 — I don’t know if it was resolved since then) has been going on in India since 1833! That’s 175 years.
The Wolf
popa,
I’d love to know more about that. Do you know the name of the gentleman? A Google search on some of the key terms in your post isn’t turning up anything.
The Wolf
But what has kept it off till now? Have you been counting points and living on 30 a day for the past 8 years?
Sadly, after my great success, I got lazy and went off the program and put much of it back. But that’s not the fault of the program — that was my own laziness — and over the course of the seven years that it took me to put most of the weight back, I certainly could have re-started. The fault here is solely my own.
The Wolf
Great Wolf
I just want to state for the record that until this thread, I had never even heard of Great Wolf.
The (not so Great) Wolf
FWIW, I was on Weight Watchers from July 2002 to June 2003. During those 11 months, I lost 95 pounds.
The Wolf
We must go ice skating or to the city,mueseums,bowling,like its chol hamoed all over again! And thats not even good enough,you are looked down upon if you dont hop on a plane to Florida!
Why can’t your kids entertain themselves? Mine can.
My kids have a week and a half off coming up. We have NO plans to take them anywhere over the break – it’s simply not in our budget — and the kids understand and appreciate this.
Granted, perhaps my kids may be a bit older than yours, but even an elementary school child should be able to understand that parents don’t have limitless amounts of money.
The Wolf
Now I need to keep up with the Kleins and the Schwartzes and take my whole family away to Great Wolf or Florida???
Why do you feel the need to do this? Why not just say no?
The Wolf
In nearly twenty years of marriage, we have had a vacation a total of four times.
1. We went to one of the Caesar’s Poconos Resorts for a few days
2. We went to Israel for about a week (we didn’t pay for the trip, it was a gift).
3. We went to Niagara Falls for a few days
4. We went to St. Thomas for a few days
That’s about it. We obviously don’t take vacations every year. We do like to have one every now and then, but, as you can tell, they are few and far between*.
The Wolf
* Unless you count a few hours out at night a vacation.
I mean i think it’s just over the top…….. the technology you know.
Is that your sole objection — that the technology is “over the top” (whatever the heck that means)?
The Wolf
As to why it is so popular with those involved in Toevah marriage, IMHO, I think it has something to with how colorful and “cheery” it is.
Actually it has to do with the fact that Judy Garland has become a gay icon (even though she, herself was never gay nor strongly expressed any sentiment with the gay rights movement.
When asked about how she felt about being a gay icon, she responded, “I couldn’t care less. I sing to people.” — Wikipedia.
The Wolf
I imagine they have caged-in areas for animals. Let’s be realistic, who would want a loose wolf in their car?
Understandable… but I was looking at it from the issue of my safety, not theirs. *I* know that I’m not going to harm someone who picks me up, but I don’t know that they won’t harm me — and if I’m going to be in a cage, then that puts me in a more vulnerable position, not a less vulnerable one.
The Wolf
Sorry… the rule in my car is that if I don’t know you (or someone in my car doesn’t know you) you don’t get a ride. If you’re stuck, I’ll be more than happy to call a tow truck for you or possibly even lend you money — but get in the car. No.
Putting aside the fact that it’s illegal, there is also the issue that just because a person appears frum there is no guarantee that they are, in fact, safe people.
And yes, it goes the other way too. I don’t get into a car unless I know the driver (or one of the other people in the car). I’ve been offered rides from frum-looking strangers while waiting at the bus stop — and I always politely thank them and turn them down.
The Wolf
I would put WolfishMusings on my ignore list.
The Wolf
Halacha pesuka: ANY part of a woman’s body that attracts attention and a man looks at for pleasure is considered an erva and ossur, ‘afillu etzba k’tanah’ . And this includes even finger nails and definitely toe nails!
Source?
And if so, then why not faces? Faces are far more attractive and looked at for pleasure than toe nails. Why, according to this halacha are faces not considered erva?
The Wolf
No offense meant to the OP, but what’s the point of this question anyway?
If you feel Facebook is assur, then don’t use it. And if you feel smoking is assur, then don’t smoke.
The Wolf
Whatever. It’s meaningless.
Eeees chose to take my name when we got married, but it would have been fine with me if she kept hers. It didn’t matter to me either way.
The Wolf
And not only with divorced Kohanim who MUST marry a never married girl.
Well, they could marry widows…
The Wolf
Yes, playing the lottery is gambling.
It’s a red flag if (a) the person has a problem or (b) gambling in even it’s smallest forms is a deal-breaker.
The Wolf
(Full disclosure: I occasionally buy one ticket when the pot is big.)
Here’s an example of a hoodie with a ND seal (which definitely has a cross):
Based on my five minute search, it seems the “Fighting Irish” stuff doesn’t have the school seal — but you can get hoodies and other clothes WITH the school seal.
The Wolf
I’m not condemning anyone.I’m just pointing out the side effects as I’ve seen them. Its like Chemo (r’l). If its needed, then so be it. But it comes with a side effect.
Fair enough.
The Wolf
wolf – my last post was on the post that you said not everyone could make kiddush on wine.
My apologies.
Again, I agree with you. It’s just not always possible to make it on wine — or even grape juice. That’s perhaps why one can even make kiddush on challah.
The Wolf
I’m pretty much the same in person as I am online.
The Wolf
A lot of people have different standards in kashrus.
I understand that. I, by no means, said he has to eat by *anyone*. But to, in essence, say that no one on earth is trustworthy is just plain wrong. To say that he trust his rav for shailos about kashrus but wouldn’t eat a cake he, himself made is just plain silly.
The Wolf
wolf – How do you always know from where the homemade food comes from?
I don’t. I never said there aren’t valid grounds to question. My problem is on the blanket assumption that *no one* is valid.
If it’s someone I trust, I eat it. If it’s endorsed by someone I trust — that’s good enough too. (i.e. if my Rav says he eats by the Goldenbergs, and he’s the rav I go to for kashrus shailos, then I’d eat out of the Goldenberg’s kitchen too, even if I don’t know them.).
The Wolf
Wolf, I would hope and assume you don’t trust everyone with a yarmulka for kashrus.
Not necessary everyone — but I trust my mother. I trust my sister. I trust my Rav. I have friends that I trust.
To trust, literally, no one beyond one’s wife is, IMHO, an example of a chossid shoteh. When he makes a bar mitzvah or a wedding, is he going to ask his wife to cook everything?
The Wolf
I was unambiguous about my uncle the first time.
So he wouldn’t eat by his parents? Or his kids? Or his Rav (whom he would otherwise ask kashrus shailos of)?
He doesn’t eat by ANYONE’s simcha (even his own, unless his wife cooks everything)?
If so, then he’s not, IMHO, someone to be emulated. He may have other wonderful traits, but in this matter, he is an example of someone who has gone far too far in the other direction.
The Wolf
Wolf – where SJS worked they did.
Actually that’s NOT what she said. Read it again. And, besides, we’re talking about homemade stuff, not catered foods.
And how about answering the questions about your uncle…
The Wolf
its not just about kashros, its about their 5 year old with a runny nose helping and licking the batter.
Actually, the OP made it about BOTH cleanliness and kashrus.
And not everyone has little children and even those that do don’t allow them to put their runny noses in other people’s (potential) food. In my household, for example, when my kids were small, they could have leftover batter — only after the cake itself was in the oven. I would *never* allow them to stick their fingers (clean or otherwise) into the batter before it was poured into the pan.
The Wolf
Come on Wolf, you know that your comment was just an appeal to ridicule and didn’t actually counter the main point I was trying to say.
I may have used humor to express it, but my point was not meant as an appeal to ridicule.
You *know* the day is coming. You’re just (figuratively) burying your head in the sand and hoping that it won’t be there when they day comes. Do you *really* expect such a radical shift the nature of hareidi marriage in Israel that the idea of buying apartments for your daughter and son-in-law is no longer “required” to get a decent shidduch?
The Wolf
The Wolf, you are calling the Tolna Rebbe someone who buries his head in the sand?
No, I’m calling DH someone who buries his head in the sand. The Tolna Rebbe is not the one who will have to marry off a daughter with no funds.
What, otherwise, is the meaning of “Aizehu Chacham?” Is it not a call for us to actually prepare for things that we know are coming?
I don’t mean to single you out, DH — you’re just the unlucky soul to express the idea.
The Wolf
Well, I’m kind of hoping that this will pass by then. But either way, I’ve already asked the Tolna Rebbe if I could start putting money away for shidduchim and he said no, I need to have bitachon that I will get the money when I need it.
Aizehu chacham? The person who buries his head in the sand and hopes the problem goes away.
The Wolf
My uncle never eats food his wife didnt prepare, due to kashrus concerns.
I guess he doesn’t hold of the halachic principle of “Aid echad ne’eman b’issurim.” Or else he holds that no one else on earth is a valid witness.
The Wolf
Wolf – Those who can SHOULD
I would probably agree with you. I’m just making my statement because there are, unfortunately, some people who simply cannot do without the help of a non-Jewish person in the house. They should not be condemned out of hand.
The Wolf
My uncle never eats food his wife didnt prepare, due to kashrus concerns.
Even his parents, siblings or kids? Or even himself?!
He doesn’t eat by a Rebbi’s (or Rav’s) house? He never eats by simchos?
The Wolf
There’s also the possibility that even if you don’t know from whence it came, perhaps someone you trust knows.
If your Rav (whom, for example, you trust to ask kashrus shailos to) told you that he eats at Person X’s house (even though you don’t know X), would you still refuse eat it (on the basis of kashrus)?
The Wolf
Do you eat food that is homemade when you are by a kiddush – when A) You don’t know from who’s house it came from (cleanliness). B) You don’t know the status of the kashrus in the house that it was made in?
I can’t remember the last time that that’s happened (i.e. that there was homemade food at a kiddush AND I didn’t know from where it came).
The Wolf
A woman outside brooklyn- im also on Geni, but I got stuck, and unless someone in your family made a tree tht goes further back than yours, how do you find more info?
One of the more comprehensive sources of family history on the web is Ancestry.com. I’ve found LOTS of stuff on my family there.
Also, from within Geni, do a search on the names of extended members of your family. Your second cousin may not be on Geni, but another cousin whom she knows (and you don’t) may have her in their tree and have much more information on generations gone before.
The Wolf
If you have a nochria with access to your dishes then you have other problems as well. Your children are worth more than both of them. CYLOR.
And not everyone with a nochria in the house has children.
The Wolf
People are curious by nature. It’s not a particularly Jewish problem — it’s a human issue (and not necessarily a bad thing — although, like any other trait, it can be misused).
The Wolf
Y.W.EDITOR…did you approve the post in order to call it “a childish question”?
Although I thought his comment was uncalled for, in all fairness, YW-Editor probably didn’t approve the OP — it was probably one of the moderators.
The Wolf
My mesader kiddushin had six boys in a row. He and his rebbetzin eventually did have a girl — but only as a twin to a boy. 🙂
(The boy was born first, so that made seven boys in a row.)
In the end, they ended up having one final boy after that — who was just married off last year.
The Wolf
mewho – I think the halacha is, that kiddush is supposed to be made on wine.
And not everyone can have wine — or even grape juice.
The Wolf
Goyim are fine for the workplace. But in your own house? With your own kids? Bad news.
Sometimes you just don’t have a choice.
The Wolf
if someone can afford to pay for cleaning help after paying full tuition then………..
Not everyone who has non-Jewish help around the house is rich. Not by any means.
The Wolf
NB: The only household help we have is our three kids who, last I checked, are Jewish.
I don’t know how you’re defining “Flatbush” but On The Grill on the corner of Flatlands Avenue (Avenue N) and East 35 is open until midnight.
The Wolf
If you don’t like it, don’t use it. Don’t blame those of us who use it responsibly.
The Wolf
When Jesse Jackson was a waiter, he used to spit in white people’s soup.
So what? What does that have to do with anything under discussion here?
The Wolf
Wolf: It’s a girl thing you might never get it…girls can get like that especially with dating—it’s been going on since the beggining of time!
If you say so… but let me add this:
In my lifetime, I have only taken two girls out on dates. The second one was the one I married. The first one was (and still is) a friend of the second one. The first one was well aware of her friend dating me and had no problem with it whatsoever.
There were no hard feelings and Eeees and I are all still friends with her and her husband to this day.
The Wolf
Top 5 (in no particular order and excluding the CR):
Google Reader — I practically live here. I’m subscribed to a *lot* of RSS feeds (more than I actually have time to read), and Google Reader does an excellent job of organizing it all for me.
Facebook — I keep in touch with friends and family quite extensively through FB.
Wikipedia — Yeah, I read a lot of that as well. Usually pretty good for when I need a quick fact or some basic background information on a subject.
Google Docs — I use Google Docs quite extensively.
(My mail provider) — obvious
The Wolf
Its not about “owning the rights” or apologizing, its called caring about another person.
I’m curious why this is such a big deal.
Girl A goes out with a guy. Didn’t work for whatever reason. So her friend, Girl B tries. Since it didn’t work out with Girl A, why should she even begrudge her friend the opportunity? Unless there was some particular bad blood or unusual circumstance, why should she care?
I just don’t get it. Please explain it to me.
The Wolf