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QUESTION: how do i know when im supposed to stop davening for a specific thing. ok lets say i rly wanted a bike so i daven to Hashem every day for a bike, after a year should i take the hint tht Hashem doesnt think i should have a bike or does it mean i have to daven harder?
im a student.. friends wise its rlllllllly good i rly like it.. work wise um.. ha its just a lot and i should rly be studying for historya right now 😛 hows it for u?
cinderella- thanks tht actually means a lot to know tht im not crazy! ya im a little better with my mom its just with my dad i cant do tht cuz he just does things i dont approve of or respect i mean ofcourse i still respect him cuz i have 2 ofcourse but its just idk i dont exactly look up 2 him..
hey me too!
thats so cute 🙂 im so happy 4 u :)!!!! to b honest i wouldnt want my father to hug me.. i know tht sounds rly bad but i just dont look at him like tht, obviously i respect them and all of tht but thts the extent of my relationship to my father..
ya to be honest im getting rly confused nowadyas whats halacha and chumra, most bais yaakov schools make it seem like all there restrictions are halachos when reality its just a sensitivity thing
i just did mine a light pink.. but had to take it off for school 😛 do u guys think its ok to wear nailpolish?
i think u should catch up with her i think shed rly liek to hear from you but remmeber dont get carried away, its rly hard i know..
reba- pleaaase try to find the article or anyone else that can help! thanks 🙂
no way, i mean to be honest it depends on the grl.. if the grl is a rly good grl and cute then id love to hear from her as long as its healthy and not all intesne eveyr second. look, im assuming tht ur the grl tht ur talking about so go ahead and say hi to her but dont spill out all ur problems in the 1st convo she might find tht annoying.. just try to keep it normal and healthy and dont rely on her to listen to all ur problems.
toms and moccasins r rly in.. u cant go wrong with black flats..
thanks! u dont know how much torture ull save me from if u can help me out with this! 🙂
go to zappos.com they have tons.. and its overnight free shipping 🙂
ya im a girl…haha.. so reba- ur right it is an obsession, which psychologists r saying that i have to have a backup thought? can u find me an article on it?
but i dont like being a shy person.. thrs so many things i woudl love to do and wen i dont do them i feel like im not acting like myself..
i live in tht area.. u?
no friends in the same town or walking distance.. like its a 40 min walk, its walkable but walking is not my thing so much 🙂 wat bout you, u ahve any firends nearby?
well in school i dont act shy at all.. but at random times ppl will b like ur so shy or ur so quiet and tht alwaaaysss gets me down and then im sad for th rest of the day.. its rly a cycle
ya we rly should im like going crazy over here…
in this case since ur emunah and desire dont seem to pushing u, u just have to DO IT! like right now go open a siddur and say a perek of tehilim… see how it feels.. right this second RIGHT NOW GO!
ha my parents would laugh in my face.
ha u guys ur rly sweet.. i mean rly dw bout it im learning to live with it and i can hide the damage its done rly rly well.. my parents actually saw tht video at the kosel and this is what i hate they act like such amazing ppl like oh my gosh tht terrible blah blah but in reality they do things just as bad and it just gets on my nerves that every1 thinks theyre such good people but if any1 lived in my house they would know the truth.. oh and i dont have any siblings at home so.. its just me 🙂
i cant talk to a Rav.. if my parents knew.. idk what they would do, trust me it would just make matter a thousand times worse. also i rly wish i could get out of the house as much as possible but i live very far from every friend i have.. trust me if i could i would never be home but i dont have tht opportunity, but at least the good thing is my parents r usually neve rhome at the same time so it works out usually.. 🙂
reba- dw im aware of what a healthy family is and looks like.. fortunately at a young age.. like 8.. i decided im gonna do the opposite as my parents.. unfortunetly i have the same anger issues as my parents but ive been working on them and ive made a promise to myself tht i cant do to others what they my parents did to me, i wont let it happen so i still have plenty of years ot work on it.. i mean i am just a teenager
they dont take me seriously about anything, its been like this ever since i can remember, which is 3 years old.. the damage is done alrdy.. i just cant take it anymore its just become annoying and depressing
its kind of disrespectful..September 5, 2011 11:35 pm at 11:35 pm in reply to: Should We have a Yeshivah World Chatroom with instant Chat? #807737
super crazy bad idea
i would laugh, but i actually need help
guys im a teenager i cant rly do so much i dont have that much freedom.. 🙂
emunas- thanks that actually really helps, im gonna try that 🙂 i hope ur right bout the getting easier thing
i cant, its just one big thing, theres no parts, theres no solution. the only thing tht solves this problem is time. i cant go to anyone cuz its rly personal and not the type tht i need help from any1. like i said the only solution is time so idk how to make tht time fly by so i dont ruin my life in the process.
zappos.com has tonssss of bags for rly cheap
nah ive tried that and i can never concentrate cuz i end up thinking bout bout something else
same problem!! i got a lesportsac one but im paying for it.. tons and tons of stores sell them, macys, marshalls, tj maxx..
aries- its rly not like tht thoguh, my parents were just never the type
kylbdnr- ha i get u i get u.
kylbdnr- YESS sameee. my parents rnt the mushy type either so i guess i feel weird being mushy with them. ya so im gonna try to say thank u, i cant guarentee ill feel so much passion or w/e but im deff thankful… ya i dont feel so close to my parents to be honest, but the thing is i didnt know tht was weird untill a week ago. cuz i went to a bunch of friends houses and they all have such good relatinoships with thr parents, thr so repsectful and they actually talk about stuff.. i never od tht with my parents, but i thoguht every1 was like me i guess i was worng
popa- ha thats exactly what i said 🙂 so THANKS!!
aries- i dont know its a baseless fear i guess, i rly dont know i just think that my parents r so used to me being this way tht im scared to change tht image they have
is it possible to be afriad of ppl thinking im nice?
i dont know whats causing the fear or what im afraid of thats probably the problem.
ok eating cholov yisroel to some people is a chumra and to some ppl its like the diff between kosher and non kosher. in both cases these ppl r eating cholov yisroel to infact get closer to Hashem, thats basiaclly why we do everyhting in this world. if eating cholov yisroel helps them feel closer to Hashem and they feel its what they want and that its necessary then so be it. noe one should be doing anythign expcept prasiing them. and yes ofcourse thr going to b those ppl tht keep cholov yisroel for the wrong reasons but no1 has any place to judge them cuz we never know why people do what they do.
so heres the reason why i think u shoudlnt date her again, if all u could focus on during tht date was that she wasnt wearing heels.. u didnt see past it and see if she has gr8 middos or is funny or just a really good person, if all u could see was the exterior then i dont think u 2 would make a good match. obviously she isnt interested in being in2 the latest fashions and getting all dolled up to impress a guy and obviously u need a girl that will..
for all of you who gave me advice, thanks. ok i just want 2 make 1 thing clear that maybe i didnt explain so well, i am VERY thankful for all tht my parents do and to all who just made fun of me and rid me off as a bum, im just very emotionally messed up i guess, and ur comments made me feel worse than i originally felt, its not like im some needy little child tht expects everything to be handed to me, its just thrs some unhealthy emotions i have with my parents tht make it hard 4 me to say thank you. i know its not healthy but i dont need to hear tht, i need advice, so to all who gave advice thanks again.
thanks, appreciate that.
aries- ya it should but it doesnt cuz wen i say words i dont just spit them out automatically i actually think bout what i say before i say it and sometimes im to scared
WIY- i just cant i dont know why, i wish i could
ahh i dont know im soo not like that though!! uch i just find it hard to say… ofcourse im appreciative and i dont think things r just ocming to me but i dont knwo how to do it
no uch i wish.. wenever im bored i listen to a shiur online but i cant say im always so inspired sometimes i will choose a movie over a shiur even though i know its wrong and its sooo bad 🙁 uch i feel like if i had friends to go to tht lived near me i woudlnt be faced with this nisayon every day, but i am and i ahve to deal with it i know that. i just im the type tht needs to be busy eveyr second otherwise i get rly sad that im wasting my life
middlepath- i ahve a question!!!! howd u make the beats and all tht? did u use a program or something? howd u do ittt??
thats my problem!! i dont know how to NOT think. i alwaaaays think bout what should i say should i say this or tht and then it just turns out badly. thr r times wen i get in my moods and i dont think bout anything and eveyrthing i say just comes out.. right, u know wat i mean? but idk how to get in2 those moods. im alwaays thinking bout convos and if its awkward and blah blah..
idk if i have social anxiety.. i mean im sure i do to some point but i dont think i have like a mental illness or anything im just shy round ppl…. mytake- im very relaxed and all tht at home and tht is the only place where i am like tht to tht extent. around my close friends im deff relaxed like im nto awkward to be around but i dont like let go everrr, im always known as the shy one to them. around ppl i dont know to well it goes 2 ways… im either very out there and friendly or i can b rly shy and not say a word… i just want to lrn to b myself cuz wen im myself at home i can b rly funny but wen im round othr ppl i get all tense and can barely crack a joke..