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  • in reply to: WILL HASC CONCERT TICKETS GET CHEAPER THAN FIVE HUNDRED MEYOS??? #2039124
    yiddeshekup101
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    The have and have nots extend to many areas. Personally, there are a number of shabbos events (Agudah Convention just for an example. There are at least two more in the next few weeks) I would love to attend. But by the cost for a family of 4 is $1500+. For one Shabbos!
    The event would be amazing and a great benefit for all. But only a $elect few can go. Yes, I am envious but completely understanding.
    Siyum Hashaas, sat way up high. Better than not being there. Shabbos too much $$
    I will wait for the CD/DVD of the concert. Hope HASC makes money from the sale.

    in reply to: Ahavas Yisrael for those in YU/the MO community (Ask me anything) #2003574
    yiddeshekup101
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    This is all a slippery slope. When we start judging someone else’s actions we should also be judging our own.
    I consider myself frum/yeshivish. But some would call me MO and others would call me Ultra Orthodox. It is a matter of perspective. At the end of the day we all need to follow a Rav and stick to that direction.

    In my humble opinion, a lot of what I personally consider to be MO has a lower starting point then orthodox people do (I really hate labels). What I mean is, that in some situations the expectations are set lower so that being Jewish is appealing as compared to the the non Jewish world. This is because we are “enlightened” as a society. We need to get with the “times”.

    And the opposite is true too. There are chumrahs invented everyday. If you want to be stricter on yourself that’s fine. But don’t force that on anyone else.

    What I believe is most important, and it has already been said, is Achdus and everyone stop criticizing fellow Jews.

    in reply to: Rav Tzvi Kaplan Yeshiva #1947081
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    My son has been there for a few years both as a bachur and a married man. Very high level of learning. Reb Tzvi looks after the talmidim extremely well. All shiurim in Yiddish (My son knew zero Yiddish on day 1). You should be a proud mom.

    in reply to: Two Frum Community Problems Solved with One Approach #1944634
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    I don’t think it is so far fetched of an idea.

    A 21-22 yo man can be redt to a 24-5 yo woman. No big deal there. They can still have as many children as hashem blesses them with, she likely has had a job for a few years and can handle responsibility and hopefully at that age he isn’t too immature. And they can grow together.

    If the situation allows for the wife to by a SAHM then Kol Hakovod. That is the ideal. Realty though is without help that is high unlikely.

    in reply to: Parash Hamon #1942975
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    I believe feeding the birds on erev shabbos is showing of Hakoras Hatov for what they did in the midbar.

    in reply to: virus in Israel #1942399
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    The ends don’t justify the means.
    To say that the end result of not taking the proper precautions here months ago resulted in a positive result is foolish! How many people do we ALL KNOW that aren’t here any longer because people follow the rules?!? There was never an excuse not to follow guidelines set forth to protect the overwhelming majority of people.
    And yet still to this day there are way too many people going to large social gatherings socializing without the proper protection and in general making a mockery of those that are taking steps to be protected. And its those same people that get angry when asked to respect those of us that want to stay protected.
    Wear a mask, wash your hands, stay 6 feet away from each other and get tested. It isn’t such a big deal to follow these guidelines!

    in reply to: Good Shabbos! #1135621
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    Have A great Shabbos!!

    in reply to: Another Shidduch Related Question #675479
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    A story that R’ Reisman said a few weeks ago at his Motzei Shabbos shiur.

    A talmud once aske Reb Moshe if it was appropriate to ask a potential shidduch to cook him a meal to see what kind of Baala Busta she would be. Reb Moshes’ response was that although halachically acceptable, “es vert Gornished Helfen”. (It wont help you at all).

    We are putting priorities on the wrong things!

    in reply to: Hashgocha Protis #671851
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    I have a story as well….not even in the same realm as Harmony…but here goes.

    I was in Atlanta for a week on business and had an 8 AM flight back to NY…long story short, all NY flights were either cancelled, full or leaving to late. I made arrangements where to eat and sleep for shabbos. But my biggest dilema was the fact that my suitcase was checked and there was no way to get it back.

    Short on time, me and this other frum fellow on my flight made our way to target where we were able to get pants, shirts, toiletries pjs, etc. Total cost approximatel $135.

    Two or three days after shabbos my luggage was delivered and I thought that was that. About two weeks past wehn I got a check from the airline for….get this…approximately $135 (it was a few pennies off). I saw with my own eyes, that what one spends on shabbos hashem will repay.

    in reply to: Institution Deducting Maaser From Raffle, etc. Winnings #672709
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    No one should assume where you want your masser money to go to or to assume that you are incapable of deducting the appropriate amount of masser yourself. The halachos are complicated….to assume that you need to give 10% of what you just won is also wrong.

    in reply to: Another Shidduch Related Question #675475
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    You cant be seriously asking this question……or can you!?!?!

    As previous posts stated, there is more than enough craziness in shidduchhim as it is.

    Nebach to the son who’s mother requests this….he will one day be an alter bachur (CHAS V’sholom) and his mother will wonder why?

    If the shidduch sounds right, have enough faith in the boy/girl to figure things out on their own. Those of us of a certain age (40+) did so and we have more stable and longer lasting marriages than this next generation. Lets get back to basics.

    in reply to: WHY??? (random philosophical questions) #1115719
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    Funny Stuff.

    Here is an oldie:…why cant your nose be 12 inches long?

    Because then it will be a foot!

    in reply to: STOP BLAMING THE BOYS!!!!!! #674953
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    WOW!! Good stuff here….however, i honestly didnt read most of the posts. A couple pf observations.

    1. Boys who are sitting and learning in Yeshia until 22-24 are not ready to date. They don’t have any idea what the responsibilities that will come with marriage. The Yeshivos, somewhere along the way (11th/12th grade perhaps) should start explaining to them what is expected of a husband (and I am a husband who knew nothing 20+ years ago). Being sheltered in Yeshiva for 20 years and suddenly to start dating in the hopes of getting married quickly is alot of pressure for any boy.

    2. Girls who want “the best boy” and think they can support AND raise a family is unrealistic to most (those with $$$ are the exception….for the rest it is a struggle). While idealogically I understand why one would want such a lifestyle, today it just seems that more and more young families are setting themseleves up for failure.

    3. Parents need to set realistic expectations for THEMSELVES and understand what they want may not be what their son/daughter wants. If a shidduch sounds good, let them go out. If it is B’shert it will happen, if not, not. But for parents to influence the dating process based on their own desires is wrong.

    in reply to: Shidduchim – Meshugas or Acceptable #673740
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    I think it all boils down to the indivdual her/himself. While in the ideal family all members will have same hashkofah, goals, ideals etc., in today’s world it seems almost impossible.

    I personally know of many family’s where one or more of the children arent following the derech that their parents planned and trained them for (right yeshivos/Bais Yackovs, camps etc.). Today there are way too many outside influences even in the “best of” yeshivos.The Yetzer Horah is working overtime to drag down as many neshomas as he can.

    in reply to: Shidduchim – Meshugas or Acceptable #673724
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    Moderator—“The Kallah will likely raise her sons in a similar manner to how her mother raised her brothers”

    Seems like you are blaming all mothers for all boys off the derech here!!! Many times no matter what the mother does (and for that matter the father too) a boy (or girl) will make their on decisions regardless of how their mother raised them.

    Take your statement a different way, if the sibling is a ben torah, learning 15 hours a day but the girl isnt so “wonderful” should the shidduch be red anyway because look at how wonderful the boy is (and by inference, what a wonderful job the girl will do raising her own!).

    in reply to: Shidduchim – Meshugas or Acceptable #673723
    yiddeshekup101
    Participant

    Very interesting responses. Most think that the girl is better off without this particular boy because with such ideals (whether his own or his families)he is no catch.

    I agree with the opinion that the most important thing when looking at the girls family is the environament that she ia brought up in. Is it loving? Does the family get along (usually)? Are middos placed at a high standard? etc. These are what we as Bnei Torah should be looking at. As someone said above would it be better for her brother to enroll in a Yeshiva just so he can say he goes?

    We need to stop judging people based on what we think is right. It would be wonderful if all 19 year old boys were sitting and learning multiple sedarim a day. Fact is, not all of them can or are able to. We need to start accepting that reality.

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