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Rav Yisroel Taplin. Now we have a source for these statements. I will look him up and ask him directly.
The sefer quoted. Was it writted by R’ Chaim, or was all its content reviewed and approved by him? The questions and answers recorded, are they exact word for word citations of both the question and answer or or they summaries of both? For example, do we know that the questioner did not say, I feel very uncomfortable standing there in shul, the only one without a hat or jacket, I feel that all eyes are on me and I have zero kavanah, may I daven beyechidus instead?
I saw with my own eye a response from R’ Chaim that contained all of two words in response to a question sent him. The question asked was “is it true what is recorded and repeated in the name of the Rav (the exact question is not one I want to get into)…. And his response was “lo hadam”. Please forgive me for being skeptical about everything “said by R’ Chaim”.
Am I the only one who use Safari? On my blackberry I use opera mini.
Since motivations dont matter, when will MDD et el make the trip to Target to support their decision not to carry Frank Oceans (he came out of the closet last week) new album or to give them a thumbs up for their 2010 donation to Minnesota Foward (a donation that prompted a boycott from moveon.org)?
Are there any “professionally written jewish novels” that dont include espionage, nazis/skin heads, long lost and/or off the derech relatives in the plot?
Oy
What bothers me most is the crass commercialization of gedolim by various organizations. I’m afraid that the next time I open the yated or hamodia paper I will see pictures of gedolim perusing the brochure of prizes for a chineese auction or wolfing down a hot dog at a fundraising bbq.
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MDD: Someone claimed they are promoting a certain lifestyle. I responded that they are not promoting said lifestyle, just their bottom line.
One need not purchase this specific line of clothing and not a single penny will be sent to the named cause.
If it bothers you that this corporation decided to earn a few brownie points and hopefully a few dollars by pandering to this group, dont patronize them.
Sigh…
You sure you didn’t by a package of Ghiradeli chocolate? While Godiva is under the OU, Ghiradeli is under the Chaf K.
Regarding Lays. Only some of its chips have an OU. BBQ flavors have Triangle K.
I think you are making too much of this. Target is not promoting or endorsing any social causes, all they are interested in promoting is their bottom line. They obviously feel that pandering to this community will translate into more $$$$$$ spent in their stores. They are making NO money on the sales of these items according to the snippet you pasted here. If they see that this is not boosting sales or worse, hurting sales, they will drop the line. Target would sell Chassidishe clothing and chulent on Thursday night if they felt it would benefit their bottom line.
While I maintain “boobie” is a lurker and not some unfortunate spouse whose husband is “addicted to the internet” (a stupid phrase in my opinion), what she (if she really is a she) writes underscores what I wrote. You have an issue with your husband, call your Rav or Rebbetzin dont wring your hands in despair and wonder whether or not to “confront” him.
“I begged him to get help, never saying what I found, only saying that he spends too much time on it. He refuses. He claims he’s totally in control.”
Obviously, he has no desire to spend his time with you, instead he prefers the fantasy world that exists online. Why, is an excellent question to ask yourself, and him.
“And you know as well as I do that it (Flatbush Asifa)never would have happened without the CitiField asifa.”
Because it would have been unnecessary. People were thoroughly confused by what was, and wasn’t said, by what was and wasn’t implied at the event and also in advertisements that a follow up became necessary.
In truth, the comment “there are many people who do not have a rav for anything besides for Hilchos Nida.” is the real reason there was ever a need for an asifa. With no Rav, people just meander through life doing whatever it is they do, blissfully unaware that there may be problems with what they are doing.
There should be an Asifa to promote the concept of Asay Licha Rav.
Someone asked how to say no, and I responded to the question. Not sure why that is so difficult to comprehend.
No.
Target is promoting nothing except their bottom line. If they felt that selling these items and advertising that all proceeds go to support the leprechauns and their rainbow did not increase sales in any way, they would drop it quickly.
I disagree with Rabbi Krohn in one small way. He says it is no better than shmutz. I say it is worse than shmutz.
Its also lichatchila to do proper hishtadlus. For some it might be sitting in front of a sefer all day for others it is. Taking a job somewhere.if you have a Rav, he will guide you. If not you turn to the coffee room and get all sorts of crazy advice.
Brooklyn Scoop.
Now Canarsie will get covered?
“In terms of my own posts,”
Thems the perks. No explanations needed.
I don’t know THE hashkafa, but can repeated what my Rebbe told me the day before I started my first job.
Remember, you are going to work to earn a parnassa so that you can provide the necesseties for your wife and children. You are not a lowlife for leaving the beis medrash to fulfill this task. Remember though, that it is important to have fixed times for learning, both morning and night that no matter what, you will always keep. Tefilla, with a minyan, is a no brainer and should always be kept. If situation arises that might compromise either tefilla with a minyan or fixed learning schedule, call me to discuss. On days when there no work (sunday, legal holiday) increase your learning by adding an additional seder. While at work, remember while you are there. To do your job, not to become the most popular person in the office. Don’t go for drinks with the guys, or “do lunch” with them, even in a kosher restaurant. Be cordial to them, don’t become their best friends. The females in the office, if they say hellow, or if it is obvious you are purposely ignoring them, say good morning, no need to get into discussions. If working on project with females, be sure other males are always around too, preferably as part of the team. If not sure how to proceed, I am always available for you to call. Do so.
Nothing about pursuing hevel havalim, nothing about how I am low life for taking a job and leaving the kollel and nothing about how this is not what hashem wants from me.
Rabbi Reisman Shlit”a summed it up IMO at the Flatbush Asifa when he said, this is about keeping good kids good (and his added point that kids is a euphamism for “us” – adults). There is no reason why a good kid should be exposed to something he should not when precautions can be put in place that they are not, therefore take precautions to ensure they are not. Is it foolproof, no, nothing is ever foolproof, someone determined to get his/her fill of things they should not, will always find a way to do so. As Rabbi Reisman stated, we are not talking about protecting “those” type of “kids”, they can go elsewhere to get their fill of things we don’t want them to. But to serve it up on a platter, in our own homes, to good kids who are not really looking for it…..
People lock the door to their house when they are not there (even when they are) despite statistics that show most homes are not burglarized, why is this “lock” any less important. If someone knew that their neighbor c’v was burglarized, even if it was a single home out of thousands in the neighborhood, they would be worried about the locks on the windows and doors. The analogy is obvious. All else is hyperbole that deflects the conversation from where it belongs.
Once all hyperbole (the big bad internet creates problem x and issue y and so on) is removed from the equation, it is a simple discussion. There is a chance that one may be exposed to something they should not. The yetzer hara in this area is a strong one, and he is a wily charachter. Take precautions.
I suppose it is fun to debate hyperbole, but in a serious discussion, it has no place.
Go to ohrnaava.net and look for information on the high school BCA and contact them if it looks right.
I don’t think Yews are obligated to follow halacha. Neither are Ewes.
The wacky, wild and crazy world of shidduchim. who, may I ask, is asking for a girls weight or dress size?
Most questions in shidduhim that have to do with size that have been asked of me have always revolved around the size of the girls fathers bank account and his ability and willingness to share some of it with a potential son in law. Occassionally height comes into the equation, but usually not.
I suppose the only practical difference if it is or is not considered “tzedaka” is if one may use maaser money. It does not detract from the fact that supporting this, or any other worthy cause is still part of the broader category of chessed, which all are obligated to do to some extent.
Brooklyn. I don’t know about creepy, but ill vote for weird.
“B’EIS HATEFILLAH”
Which one of these words means while eating?
Let’s assume for a moment that it is not a form of tzedaka in the classical understanding of the word. It is certainly a form of gemilas chassadim. Unsure whether to use your money to help family A purchase their needs for shabbos, or help family B pay for fertility treatments, ask your Rav, that’s why he is there. He isn’t there just to entertain you with a drasha on shabbos morning.
Message, lesson. Same thing. At least the way I am using both words.
Any witnesses?
I didn’t realize I needed “credentials” to learn torah and offer an explanation. I suppose the fact that I am a yid is credential enough.
For what it is worth, I don’t disagree with the message of the Rebbe, I disagree what the lesson of this story is. Of course if he created the story, for this specific message….that would be like the dubna maggids arrow and target.
Ok. I explained the story in a different way. Imy’h when I publish my sefer I will include my explanation and why I feel it is the appropriate one. Until then, learn from his sefer and learn what he teaches.
I’m sure there are 100 ways to interpret this story. Even in ways that have nothing to do with tznius. Perhaps the young woman was hired help in the older womans home and she used to sabotage her clean laundry, and she is now getting her due punishment through the hands of the woman she tormented.
“Are you saying that the emotions of the recipient are not a factor in tzeddakah allocation?”
Prioritization.
As often as is needed to get wet.
“The mussar seforim are full of fire and brimstone.”
I cant say I’m an expert on “the mussar seforim”, but I dont recall rabbeinu yona, the ramchal or the orchos tzadikim being full of fire and brimstone. then again, “i dont recall” is not a proof to anything.
b”h.
I agree the problem is not the story (I wrote what I did, tongue in cheek). Any yokel could make up a story or repeat a story they heard or read. The chochma is in how the story gives over the intended message. What exactly was the intended message here? Is it a message to mothers that they are hurting there own daughters? Is it a message to daughters to stand up to their mothers and say no I dont want you to hurt me? Is it a message to men to get involved with the way the females members of the family dress? Some combination? One can come up with many plausible messages, however, it seems the message people are taking away is, if dont dress tzniusdik you will rot in hell while undergoing some horrible punishment. Did anyone call the school to find out their intended message?
“The term you use, “emotionally charged situation”,”
Is actually a term someone else used, which is why I commented on it, and also put it in parenthesis.
Let’s ask a few kashas oif a maaseh to try and understand its message.
The fact that it was men who witnessed the scene and not women is meant to teach us what?
The fact that it was an older woman and younger woman implies a mother and daughter, how?
The fact that the woman was able to communicate with the men and ask them for help implies?
The fact that the men ran away like cowards completely ignoring the women, implies?
The fact that the clothes were cooking up in a pot, were not consumed (ala the sneh) as opposed to say, clothing that was filled with thorns and ripped apart the skin when put on, implies?
The fact that the older woman repeatedly handled these burning articles of clothing and herself did not get hurt implies?
DY.
1. Thanks for the Netziv.
2. Again, I don’t disagree with anything PCOZ wrote or that you added, however, your arguments are why “emotions” make for a valid or worthy tzedaka. I was referring to PRIORITIES. If you have a single dollar to give to tzedaka, is “emotionally charged situation” one of the criteria mentioned in halacha in the list of priorities?
Pcoz. Everything you say is correct. However, I was talking about what takes precedence. Emotionally charged is not one of the criteria mentioned in the S’A.
“Side note, I know of some people who will davka not give to a meshulach/fundraiser but will take note of the organization and give separately so as not to cost them the percentage that goes to the fundraiser.”
Isn’t there a story with the Netziv and a Gvir who gave a smaller donation once the Netziv started going around with a horse and carriage? The Gvirs reasoning was that he didnt want any part of his donation to the Yeshiva to be spent on horse feed. I dont remember what the Netziv answered him, anyone?
“Yes, but the depth of emotions involved is certainly something a rov will consider.
And, the depth of emotion involved is a good reason not to post some of the insensitive comments which were made here.”
As true as the second statement is, it does not make the first one correct. The Shulchan Aruch has clearly defined halachos regarding the criteria for priorities in tzedaka. Emotionally charged is not one of them.
But it IS a business transaction. How much support a year. For how long. You pay for the degree and I pick up yom tov at the hotel. The list is endless. As has already been mentioned several times. Noone cares or has any interest in hearing or reading that a suggested shidduch is a normal everyday person, who attended the local beis yackov and comes from a family of bnei torah, is machshiv torah and who absorbed those feelings as well.
Perhaps the question is moot, it is certainly not mute.
Even a lousy crop has its cream.
In a situation where dollars are finite, what worthy cause has priority is a question for your Rav, not your emotions.
He wouldn’t give him a second lollipop.