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Is anyone familiar with the old game “Overturn” by Pressman. Its sort of like Othello, with forming words. Is there anything similar that can be played on Shabbos, thats an adult word game played on a board, that doesnt require score-keeping? TIA
Its years later. Does anyone have names and numbers of Shadchanim dealing with Chassidish/Heimish divorced people?June 13, 2018 11:22 pm at 11:22 pm in reply to: Is there a connection between unpaid Shadchanus and the blazing Shidduch crisis? #1539136
My friend, to my knowledge “The Shidduch Crisis” is loosely defined as the traumatic situation the Orthodox community is experiencing with a huge number of singles who havent found their Zivugim, that they are desperately yearning for, and afaik, this term is not related to the age gap issue, even though its a contributing factor.
When Shadchanim experience burnout as a result of not being treated well and feeling totally deflated after going to a wedding with hundreds of options at a Shmorg fit for royalty, and yet coming home empty-handed, this clearly has an effect on the Shidduch crisis (the huge number of singles who are yearning to get married).
Less Shadchanim + making less attempts = less singles getting married.June 13, 2018 8:49 am at 8:49 am in reply to: Is there a connection between unpaid Shadchanus and the blazing Shidduch crisis? #1538518
“AZOI.IS: you seem to have experienced brokering a shidduch and then not getting paid. Was this one isolated event, or does this happen often? By the way, you can take them to a din torah.”
People who clearly dont have extra money, who have made plain weddings, have given me $100 and I was very ok with that.
After going to a very grand, palatial affair, getting nothing, hurts.June 13, 2018 8:26 am at 8:26 am in reply to: Is there a connection between unpaid Shadchanus and the blazing Shidduch crisis? #1538505
“The shidduch crisis (if using the term properly) is a mathematical certainty. You could pay shadchans a million dollars a second and it wouldn’t change anything as long as they keep perpetuating a 4-5 year age gap between males and females.”
False! You can totally eliminate the 4-5 year age gap, and with no one interested in making the introductions, because of shabby treatment, the miserable painful Shidduch crisis will blossom.June 13, 2018 8:14 am at 8:14 am in reply to: Is there a connection between unpaid Shadchanus and the blazing Shidduch crisis? #1538494
With Shadchanim having bills to pay, how does one deal with parents who paid for a Shmorg that offered 100 hot dishes and 100 cold dishes, worthy of a palace feast, but not a penny for the Shadchan? If this doesnt cause Shadchan burnout, what does?June 13, 2018 8:06 am at 8:06 am in reply to: Is there a connection between unpaid Shadchanus and the blazing Shidduch crisis? #1538485
“The evidence of a corrupt system is that people ask questions like this.”
Not many people can afford to work for free. Those who can afford to work for free are too busy shopping, redecorating and vacationing. They have no time or energy to be involved in Shidduchim.June 1, 2017 11:01 pm at 11:01 pm in reply to: Anti Zionist demonstration planned in Barclays Center #1288735
zahavasdad says it best:
“They can make an Asifa to protest Drafting, but they are powerless against abusers , thieves and agunahs”
B”H more than a thousand parents who have been trained with the sweetness of the “Le’ehov Oso B’yoser” approach to OTD children, by R’ Avi Fishoff with his Twisted Parenting M’halach, with the blessings of Gdolim worldwide, have seen huge miracles and have not experienced even ONE fatal drug overdose or suicide.
Can this be a coincidence? Doubtful.
Its a matter of whether one aims for success or failure.
OK, how about just suggesting Shadchanim’s names here, and I’ll ask around and get the numbers?
Can anyone post an updated list, if there is one, of Shadchanim who deal with “Black Hat” boys who are learning and going to college, in the New York area?
Otherwise any names and numbers of current Shadchanim will be appreciated. Thanks.
I think some shadchanim had objected to having their numbers posted in the past
Ive read about “Twisted Parenting” recommending buying jeans, etc for OTD guys.
What does “Twisted Parenting” recommend buying for OTD girls? Jeans also? If yes, how far does “Twisted Parenting” go in its suggestions that go against what is regarded as frum halachic observance for these special cases, to achieve the desired goals?
This is really amazing that Gdolim are on board with this! Very very impressive.
Can someone who is familiar with Twisted Parenting tell me how the OTD child feels more loved buy their parents, when the parents go out and buy jeans for them, etc as Twisted Parents recommends, if the child knows the parents are following a funny rule-book to get the OTD child back, and not because the parents have a new way of looking at the world? The OTD child knows the underlying reason.
Long summer Shabbosim means more board games (otherwise we’ll be bored). Any recommendations for Shabbos permissible games?
” in the presence of indecent exposure, and they include those parts of the body.”
1- So who set the inches guidelines?
2- Why is measuring inches of far greater importance to some, than honesty and straightforwardness, especially in financial matters? Hamaivin Yavin.
I havent read through the whole thread, but Im wondering where the undebatable source is in the Torah, for covering knees, collarbone and elbows?February 10, 2015 10:32 pm at 10:32 pm in reply to: Slimfast and KIND (brand) health snacks founders want Israel in TWO STATES! #1058644
All those believing that concessions to Arabs have a chance of leading to peace, need only to listen to Dennis Prager’s 5 minute history lesson easily found as a video clip, with a simple search.
They (those believing that concessions to Arabs have a chance of leading to peace) havent heard this 5 minute history lesson, they arent going to listen to it now, nor will they listen to it at any time in the future. If they would, it will show them up for not being “in touch”.
Dennis Prager mentions, among other very valid points, how can you make peace with enemies whose goal in life is to destroy every remembrance of Israel, as heard on their programs, in all Arab countries, every day?
Our options are clear- we cant give anything up, we’ll only shed more blood, not less.February 10, 2015 4:32 am at 4:32 am in reply to: Slimfast and KIND (brand) health snacks founders want Israel in TWO STATES! #1058635
akuperma, how much land would you like to see given away for the Palestinian state, and in your opinion, will it once and for all make Israel safe and war-free and terror-free?February 10, 2015 1:58 am at 1:58 am in reply to: Slimfast and KIND (brand) health snacks founders want Israel in TWO STATES! #1058633
Sadly, POTUS is Muktza here.
L O V E D
Ostrovitsky’s (Avenue J) “Sour Cream Cheesecake”. I dont think they make it exactly like they used to though, but imho its still the best cheesecake anywhere, just it used to be even better.
Anyone know of a uniquely good (soft) cheesecake, elsewhere in Brooklyn?
oomis: ” It’s easy for us to tell you what to do, but we are not your Plan B.”
No guarantees in life ever, but why rush to get married before youre independent and can support yourself? Theres so many serious Kollel boys, you will surely be able to find one when youre independent too.
The Torah-Kollel lifestyle is one that teaches us that love comes after marriage, and what anyone feels before marriage isnt the real thing. Real love is something that is born at marriage, and builds and gets greater after years of devotion to one another.
Seems from the posts here that no one has seen devastation and despair in couples who were starry eyed and thought they could live the Kollel life without generous wealthy parents. Unfortunately I have seen it a lot. Some make the best of the struggle, in differing degrees, some are unhappy throughout their lives and raise children in an UNHAPPY Torah-dig home.January 29, 2015 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm in reply to: Frum Politicians- do the advantages outweigh the disadvantages? #1055567
” I didn’t mean a politician who professes to listen to daas Torah, i mean an ehrliche yid who actually does”.
As stated here:
“To really be success in politics, you have to sell your soul to a large degree. You have to be very skilled to minimize that problem, yet it’s hard to get anywhere in politics if you don’t go along with the wishes of your party’s leadership.”
Once elected you have to tow the party line or you dont survive in politics.
Anyone elected in the big cities with a large frum population, is generally a Democrat, or a pareve Republican, with a debt to pay and a need to side with and support policies against the Torah, OR hes out 123. Its lose/lose. Either the Torah loses, or the candidate loses.January 29, 2015 5:25 am at 5:25 am in reply to: Frum Politicians- do the advantages outweigh the disadvantages? #1055563
“When it comes to frum politicians, it boils down to one question: does he listen to da’as Torah. If he does, he won’t get caught involved in a scandal, and if he doesn’t, what’s the advantage of a frum politician?”
1. Id agree if Id know that “Daas Torah” that the politician listens to, is aware of everything the politician does behind closed doors. Unfortunately “Daas Torah” these days are not on that Madraiga.
2. Often the greatest of “Daas Torah” support candidates who have goals opposing Torah and Halacha and warns not to vote for those who share our goals, and gives blessings for victory to candidates with totally opposing goals. Historically, the frummest communities of NYC vote in candidates with totally opposing views, on very important issues.January 29, 2015 4:06 am at 4:06 am in reply to: Frum Politicians- do the advantages outweigh the disadvantages? #1055561
“It would even worse if frum politicians were honest. “Look, Jews are so un-American that their politicians are honest.”
At least Jews being caught at crime will debunk the myth that Jews are too smart to engage in anything they might get caught at, and have to pay the consequences! Nebach, way too many Jews are being caught doing all kinds of Shmutz!
I have never used them but theres a clock repair place in Brooklyn, on Fort Hamilton & 66th street called Ray’s Time Center.
IF, THEN, AND.
Everyone at the party writes a few complete sentences, each sentence with one If, one Then, and one And.
All the Ifs get collected and mixed up, same with all the Thens, and all the Ands, keeping the ifs thens and ands separate, and you end up with three piles. Better if you mark the wrong side of the paper with if then and and, to identify it easily from the wrong side. Someone chooses one if, one then and one and, and you go around the table reading the new sentence. Some are really funny.
If I was a millionaire
Then my mother wouldnt talk to me any more
And Id eat steak for breakfast…
Sorry, I couldnt remember the really funny ones. The above was for example.
I read theyre going in a healthier/more vegetarian direction.
Daily News reported about a week ago that “The restaurant’s wealthy owner plans to open a healthier eatery in the neighborhood in six weeks”. Anyone know more?
Why the need to mention that the restaurant owner is wealthy, Im not sure… Hmmmm.
PAA, interesting! I thought posts in the Coffee Room cant have links or they dont get posted. Yours does. It’s local
As far as that News item/Advertisement that you provided the link to, I cant believe Nachman Caller let some underling of his post that to make him look good. Nachman Caller is way too smart and sensitive for that!
WHY TIE THE HOLOCAUST TO THE HOUSING CRISIS?
Im well aware of some of Hikind’s efforts and successes over the years, but those in the know know, we’ve witnessed 30+ years of his goal of milking his job for hi$ benefit Big-Time, where merit has always taken a back seat to fund$ gained!
This film/advertisement is ONE BIG Caller mistake! Nachman Caller has a sterling reputation as a uniquely brilliant, honest, hard-working, caring, sensitive lawyer, so why use the saddest of our saddest era in recent history, the Holocaust, for shock value? This is about as bad as the Hikind team telling people theres only one worthy candidate. MY FOOT!
NACHMAN CALLER, fire the guy who created and posted this film! PLEASE!November 2, 2014 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm in reply to: Hikind says Caller's apartments wont happen. TELL US WHY! #1039085
All Nachman Caller has to rely on in this race is those who arent wealthy enough to help pay multiple married kids’ $2,000 plus rentals each month.
Thats a nice amount of people, my friends!
What has Hikind done for those who arent wealthy enough to help pay multiple married kids’ $2,000 plus rentals each month, in thirty plus years?
Has Hikind even made any serious efforts?
Hikind has got a nice smile, relatively white teeth for his age, I must admit.November 2, 2014 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm in reply to: Hikind says Caller's apartments wont happen. TELL US WHY! #1039070
“How do people even breathe in Boro Park?”
As opposed to breathing car fumes, I guess?
I had BP friends who tried living in Monsey for a year. They came running back to BP. They said they had a beautiful home but spent most of their waking hours in their car, the husband commuting, the wife carpooling and taking the kids places. In BP you can actually let older kids walk in the street, from one side of BP to another, by themselves, while the parents do other things.November 2, 2014 12:11 pm at 12:11 pm in reply to: Hikind says Caller's apartments wont happen. TELL US WHY! #1039064
“I don’t want BP to have additional housing because I sometimes have to park there”
Whats more important Shalom Bayis or Parking?
Hikind’s kids and Felder’s kids and their buddies who they socialize with, arent interested in living in Boro Park EVER!
It would be their nightmare and curse to live in Boro Park!
But, for many young people, its their dream to live in Boro Park!
Sorry, Mr Hikind and Mr Felder! MOVE OUT OF OFFICE like you recommended those who want to elect Caller move out of the area! What jokesters!November 2, 2014 4:57 am at 4:57 am in reply to: Hikind says Caller's apartments wont happen. TELL US WHY! #1039062
Those whose children choose to live outside of Boro Park (Litvish) when they get married.
Sorry, Mr Hikind and Mr Felder!October 31, 2014 7:35 pm at 7:35 pm in reply to: Hikind says Caller's apartments wont happen. TELL US WHY! #1039059
According to the plan which Greenfield explained beautifully on his radio show, roughly 2000 units would be built on s e v e n blocks, with seven blocks worth of parking!!!!!!! No houses will be built in the gutter, where parking spots go, guaranteed.
Hikind SAYS hes been looking at ways to ease the housing crisis for years. Can anyone think of ONE successful project of Hikind in that regard? I cant.
While I like his outspokenness for Israel, one of his most successful projects has C L E A R L Y been a$$orted fund raising tactics to fill his election coffers, and I mean a$$orted.
If the train tracks location works, that wouldnt overcrowd Boro park, it will just extend the lines of Boro Park, as we know it. Theres potential for more parking spaces, not less. What do we have in those locations now? Lots of garbage and weeds! Its about time!
“If you have a plan the burden of proof is on you to show how it will work instead of maybe possibly hopefully it could if one day unicorns will fly to Boro park on July 2, 2016.”
If you insist a plan wont work, the burden of proof is on you to show why it will NOT work instead of maybe possibly hopefully it wont work because the naysayer feels he is G-d Almighty omniscient.
Has everything that has happened, both good and bad, gone exactly as predicted by “experts”?
“Hikind never claimed to be G-d”
Hes predicting the future, saying something will never happen.
Only those with a direct line to G-d, and some Kabbalists can predict the future. And even they cant be 100% certain.
If DiBlasio came from behind and won, anyone can win.
Especially if Hikind puts out these cutesy Yiddish Youtube clips about Callers plan being impossible to implement, without telling us why.
Like Hikind is G-d and knows the future, so we have to trust him?
Can Hikind give us some stock market tips while hes at it?October 31, 2014 2:47 am at 2:47 am in reply to: Hikind says Caller's apartments wont happen. TELL US WHY! #1039046
“Who said he hasn’t explained why it is implausible? Your not hearing it doesn’t indicate he didn’t explain. Read my explanation above.”
Why dont you spoon feed me, Lior? Overcrowdedness and the fact that the Assembly doesnt control zoning, doesnt prove it cant happen. Difficult maybe, but not impossible.
Difficult and improbable tasks are accomplished by capable people every day!October 31, 2014 2:13 am at 2:13 am in reply to: Hikind says Caller's apartments wont happen. TELL US WHY! #1039044
Im neutral on this election at this point, but Im puzzled.
Why is Hikind so hesitant to be clear on even ONE reason that this project cant and wont happen? Whats the secret?
It would be in Hikind’s interest, and hed be more credible, if when he makes a statement to the public, hed back it up with facts.October 31, 2014 12:02 am at 12:02 am in reply to: Hikind says Caller's apartments wont happen. TELL US WHY! #1039037
“Children should be encouraged to live wherever they will be comfortable”
Please offer locations less than an hours drive from Boro Park, that are safe neighborhoods, where rents are affordable, that religious newlywed couples can move to.
Kensington is getting crowded too. Lakewood is much too far, it takes 1 1/2 hours each way, with the slightest bit of traffic, and is an expensive commute, with less jobs nearby, and is getting crowded too.
Theres also another issue for Chassidim who want to daven with their Rebbe and want to send their kids to the schools of their Chassidus.October 29, 2014 11:30 pm at 11:30 pm in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038429
VM, “@azolis maybe he meant chabad”
Hee hee. Maybe he saw decoy cops.October 29, 2014 7:52 pm at 7:52 pm in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038427
“I have definitely seen chasidish people walking with non chasidish”
OK. Ill be on the lookout on Shabbosim, for the next 30+ years iyH, but unfortunately I havent seen it in the last 30+ years, except for seeing it rarely, during the week, when more likely than not, it’s employees/work associations.October 29, 2014 2:01 pm at 2:01 pm in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038419
“Just suggesting that it can be done all the time one in one which people do anyway. Including chasidim.”
Thats great! I wish some of the New York Chassidim youre aware of who are doing the one on one, would be less modest and tell others how they go about this. This would make a great Jewish magazine article, for starters. Have I missed any?
Im aware of Israeli Chassidim and OOT Chassidim who are into Kiruv, few in New York. Id love to read about them.
Walking in the streets of BP on Shabbos, for years, I never see Chassidim walking with anyone not Chassidish. Have you?October 29, 2014 3:32 am at 3:32 am in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038413
“why does it have to be a project people can do it one by one”
One by one is nice, but encouragement to do this by a Rebbe or Rebbes, and Mr Shtottys undertaking to do it, would be even nicer.
I admit, Chassidim have their Mitzvahs that theyre very Osek in, but the fact is, Kiruv very much strengthens the one who is doing Kiruv, not only the one that we are trying to be Mekarev. So its Win-Win.October 28, 2014 10:58 pm at 10:58 pm in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038408
“……pick up the phone and make a call, you’ll have more success bringing a non observant Jew closer to Hashem by a making a relationship/friendship with a him”
dial427436, was your above post the answer to the question “How are chassidishe yidden helping to be mekarev non religious Jews?”
Are you aware of any chassidishe yidden picking up the phone and making calls and having success in bringing non observant Jews closer to Hashem by a making relationships/friendships with a them?
Really now!?!? LETS NOT TALK FANTASY HERE!
I have many Chassidish friends and relatives, who are the nicest best and smartest people, whom I know well and deal with daily.
Im not aware of ONE of them who is picking up the phone and making calls, and having success in bringing non observant Jews closer to Hashem by a making relationships/friendships with a them.
How many Chassidish friends or relatives do YOU know who are picking up the phone and making calls, and having success in bringing non observant Jews closer to Hashem by a making relationships/friendships with a them?????????????????????????????????????October 28, 2014 5:00 pm at 5:00 pm in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038406
“There are plenty of chassidishe yidden that help mekarev non religious Jews and don’t need a huge program, as nice as it may be”
Please inspire me with how to inspire. How are chassidishe yidden helping to be mekarev non religious Jews?October 28, 2014 2:22 pm at 2:22 pm in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038403
“If you really cared about each Jew you wouldn’t wait for some “shtotty” guy to make some project. Make the calls and invite the secular yiddin yourself”
Thats a beautiful idea!
But I think the special programming, special davening, Motzei Shabbos Ruach, and the fact that the whole community was involved together made it even more meaningful. Potential BTs might not click with most BP Shuls regular goings on, with Rebbes speaking in Yiddish, etc. Some of the mostly Chassidish Shuls in BP would have to have English speakers, more in tune with potential BTs.October 28, 2014 5:18 am at 5:18 am in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038396
“Yes, I can see thousands of irreligious Jews lining up at their local Amtrak station”
So we might as well not even try to gauge the interest. Whats the value of one other religious Jew? GUUUUUUUUUUUUUUURNISHT? Big deal, right?
Its been said that even if ONE person becomes frum as a result of a Shabbos project, its all worthwhile, because from ONE Jew, theres lots of potential Doros.
But some people would rather be negative and lazy…October 28, 2014 4:29 am at 4:29 am in reply to: When will Boro Park have a Shabbos Project and host thousands of BTs? #1038394
“Even if that’s all true, there aren’t thousands of non-religious from across the USA that will be willing to fly to BP for a Shabbos.”
How about trains and buses from neighboring states?