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” In what way are they “conflicted”?”
on the one hand they want to look a certain way .. on the other they know that the rite thing to do is to dress more modestly.
most women are not confused about tznius but rather conflicted . i doubt that hanging up signs inspires anyone
hanging signs about skirt lenghs in public is highly untzeniusdik in my opinion……..
here are my favorite from one to ten
1) spinka
2) spinka
3) spinka
4) spinka
5) spinka
6) spinka
7) spinka
8) spinka
9) spinka
10) krulle spinka
do u read hebrew? if u do then i have some great suggestions…
some dont eat unpeeled fruits and vegetables
maybe they meant that he is one of the yeshiveleit
never buy take out food ..
@ shev143: rabbi jacobs can be reached by phone or via skype
mbachurs halacha is correct its from the rabeinu yona in the third perek in brachos
there is a mrs jacobs in brooklyn who is very very good
@ trying my best: you never met my kids 😉
maybe the money could be given if the boy and girl meet regardless how how many dates
try rabbi jacobs formerly of lakewood yeshive now in israel .
yikes ! by kids schools are closed and my work is open . help!
if the shadchanim need a monetary motive just to redd shiduchim , which it seems they do, why not give the money for every date that you go on that they suggested ?
why would hashem make people who live in chicago in 2010 suffer bec. of the way other people behaved in that city over a hundred years ago? does this make any sense to you? and why would a choshuver person give such a klala? . according to the torah , when a tragedy happens upon a person or a people , its a message from hashem that we need to do teshuva . attributing the tzara to sometging not related to our actions directly is missing the point . the rambam says that in that case the punishments only get worse till we see the signs for what they are . hashem yerachem . lets all do teshuva and here only besuros tovos ..amen
Rebbes who feel the need to write “benesius kak admur shlita” on all their buildings. Are they really scared that someone will show up one day and claim the building for them selves?
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I have a very, very close friend whose parents are divorced and he himself is in the process of getting divorced too. However being that I am very close to the situation I know that the girl has many problems and that boy is not at all to blame. So although your statistic is very compelling, things are often very different than they seem.
i almost alwys agree with poppa bar abba he gets my vote
speak to him in learning , unfortunately this really works . im poga buch menuval ze moshcheihu l’bais hamidrash.
When i was in shidduchim i gad so many “sisters ” it was nearly impossible for a girl to get approved . I ended up marrying a girl from Europe . 🙂
pumper…..care to explain the nic 😉 lol
build a wedding hall and name ateres henchie 😉
if the shmuz was any good why would they have to advertise so heavily ? its litteraly being shoved down our throats,and eyes and ears…
i myself am being overtaken by the nisyonos of the internet . i wish of a way to stop . 🙁
help your mothers clean the house from shabbos so that they get a chance to do something fun for a change
holding hands after the chuppa is for a halachik chumra and is meant to be an expression of chiba berabim . dancing in public is an entirely different ball game
the controvercial aspect of the mitzva tontz is the part where the chosson and kallah dance together in public . the kroivim and the rebbbes dancing in front of the kallah is a minhag in almost all of klal yisroel for many many generations and should not be part of this discussion . as fo the mitzva tontz itself , there are a number of theorys . one is that in the olden days the custom by the goyim was for the bride and groom to have a special dance together . ( as is the custom today ) that dance was considered the highlight of the weddindg . the level of erlichkeit by the amei haaretz was not very high and the rabbunim saw that they would be able to convince them not to do the dance at all , so they decided to make sure that it does not get out of hand , and that at least only the chosson and the kalla dance , rather than everyone else joining in , they decided to stay for that part of the wedding too and appoint an erliche person to provide the entertainment and bring out how holy a wedding really is . that ceremony being that it turns a would be pritzus into a spirtual affais is indeed a special time ( if i have time ill write another pshat later )
the only advice i can offer is for you to do all that you can to conceal your dissapointment from your doughter . there is nothing worse for a womens shalom bayis than to feel that her husband is not loved and respected by her father . ( its not easy and takes great chuchma so best of luck )
game over