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first thing if you want to listen to someone who really knows stats and info on gun .control go to youtube and type in Ben Shapiro gun control. If you are right wing conservative listen to all his videos, he is frum and believe me if i could i would try to convince him to be president, but that is all we need is a jewish president.
anyway, as a chaplain i speak to many people in law enforcement. most of them agree with concealed carry, as i , but, the, and yes i am pro NRA, rules have to change. There must be more background work on people who want to buy guns. It is not a matter of really laws but using common sense. mental health is a very big issue as is other people in the house for example if i am not mistaken, the sandyhook shooter got his guns from his mother.I am seriously thinking of arming myself because in the past 4 weeks or so i have had two murders at the end of my block. Could i have prevented it no probably not the were both targeted gang hits, but i know if someone tries getting to me or my family, well, as i say don,t mess with the fed. Ben Shapiro talks much better than i do try him out. He is one smart jew.
as the gabbai of our shul i try to set the pace for kaddish, or if there are aveilim(as gabbai I say for different people)i let them set the pace unless there are unfortunately many and it becomes a baal hagan. then I say it loud enough so people follow me. By the way telz also has the minhag of one person saying kaddish. Best thing talk to the Rov. Once i remember the rov told a gentleman to stand on the bima and everyone followed him.
yehudayona first of all we are not talking artscroll ashkenaz, viznitz davens sfard. When they went to Rama’s shul they had to daven the nusach of the rama, which is ahkenaz.
Wolfishmusings, as a gabbai whether I am at work or time off I still am the gabbai,it is my responsibility to be there for the khal, guests, or any one that needs. You call to make sure what you are doing is the right thing that is always safest way to go.
Hi people chaplain here. I just got finished speaking over the issue with the Rebbe. He told me I was right except for the point about davening in the shul itself. Even if not with a regular shul minyon the guests should daven the nusach of the shul. He told me a story of about a thousand viznitzer chassidim went to visit the k’vorim of tzaddikim in Europe and they were davening in the Rama’s shul. The Rebbe told everyone that they must daven ashkenaz as that is what the Ramam held.
yeah i am back. people beware the chaplain is in the house. I have a great posek, yora yora yudin yudin, waiting to be asked shailos. bring it on people. Hello Gefen always nice to see you
yes you litvak 😉
ubiquitin has it right in his bottom line. “best to do is ask”
I hate to say it but to me the worst interuption in shul are the 5,6,7 mishulachim that collect during shma or shmonei esreh or for that mattwer anytime during davening. Our kavonos should be in the right place not reaching for dollar bills and change. Let them come after davening, i will be happy to give if I have
great question. as a gabbai of a large chassidishe shul in the midwest, If you are renting our hall and davening in the hall you may daven your nusach. As far as I know even if you daven in our bais medresh if it is not one of our regular minyan times the Rebbe wouldn’t mind if you daven your nusach. If you are davening with our khal at a regular shul minyan you daven our nusach even though the amud siddur is Berditchov we let people use the artscroll amud siddur if they would like. As long as they daven sfard no problem
umein thank you DaasYochid we should all share in each others simchos
i know i am not on as much as gefen but can totty of the bride chaplain tzvi get a mazel tov too? yummy cupcakes chasunah was awesome. i didn,t know i had so many bones that could ache at one time. the last time i danced like that was 25 years ago at our chasunah
on a serious note i remember in my fathers shul in the south there was a family of sefardim that had a simcha one shabbos. the patriarch of the family got called up for an aliyah and his pants proceeded to fall all the way down to his ankles. to show you the kovod the children have, the sons and other male relatives ran up to the bima and all held their taleisim up to form a curtain so to speak. the man pulled up his pants tucked himself in and he continued with his aliyah, and the men went down from the bima. not a laugh, snicker or spoken word just true kibud av
just an interesting albeit scary story. when I lived in the south there was a very wealthy family who had a “minhag” that the sons would not travel together. The sons took separate jets one private one commercial out west to a business meeting. After the meeting they decided to of course take the family jet back home. You could only imagine what happened next. The plane went down killing both sons. Maybe there is something to this “minhag”. I know this story first hand my father A”H was the rov
all those states down there ARE weird and the rest of the country knows about it.
Boy BTguy talk about weird or should I say ignorant. I lived there for 13 years and will hopefully take my family there in the summer. I haven’t seen memphis in approximately 32 years or so when my father ZT”L left as Rov of the Anshei Sfard. It was and still is a great city. I do keep in touch extensivly. Do not talk about what you do not know about.
First postsemgirl- Louisville is a great little town. It had a lot more jews years ago but a nice community now. The Rabbi at the Anshei is a Rabbi Litwin. Sorry in advance if I misspelled it. A side note my fathers ZT”L family built that shul back who knows how long ago. Some of the family is still there.
Now for alwaysruns- I was raised in Memphis. Not Egypt, but Tennessee. Anyway back in the 60’s and 70’s it was a very vibrant friendly community. I would even have considered it a black hat community. The yeshiva of the south was run by the Belsky family.and it had a yeshiva gedola, which i considered sort of an offshoot of Chaim Berlin. There was also a girl school, mikvaos and kosher restaurants. Not bad for a weird southern town.
give you three guesses first two do not count. Yes my name is tzvi, yes i am a chaplain
here they say “while supplies last”
last year, one of my son’s friends went to a 7-11 and was told that they were out of the free cup size. so he asked if he could have a large one for a dollar instead (less than a large one usually costs) and they gave it to him.
to droid 🙂 federal chaplain. I work with agents. All i can say
my suburban had fedchap as license plate and of course i had my blue and reds. License still registered to me. waiting to get my next vehicle
so gefen i still haven’t gotten an answer. I would do it again would you:)
heshy just a side thought. I went to new york one year and coming back to chicago i filled up in teaneck and got to chicago on a tank and a half. barely any construction and i was on cruise most of the way.
dear heshy, as long as a certified mechanic takes a look at it(someone you trust explicitly) and you have done your homework with consumers report, and carfax, i would say go for it. I worked for my cousin in nursing homes and he got me a blazer, after that i leased a tahoe and then when i owned my restaurant i kept getting suburbans. They are great trucks. Alot of room for family and luggage on trips, the 4×8’s for building a sukkah and just about everything else. I am waiting to get my next one when i can get enough gelt. Do your homework you can’t go wrong
mim. aahhh the les. i loved it there. used to daven at the belzer shteibel among other places.
Daas Yochid I know you are being sarcastic, but… I know from personal experience with my kids who go to both by’s and yeshivahs when we spoke to the rebbeim and principals about taking what they call “mental days, they were all for it. Afew even said one day a month. I don’t know if i agree with that but we choose very carefully and it has to be if the child really needs it and it is a worthwhile activity or occasion. And then I had one R”Hayeshiva say that my son could not help me while I was sitting shiva for my father z”tl while rest of family went to work or school.He is the only one that drives. He was indespensible to me and my mother. I was glad I didn’t listen it would have been much harder on us both.He didn’t say anything after all was said and doneMay 25, 2011 9:54 pm at 9:54 pm in reply to: Milchigs vs. Fleishigs Revisited( I cant find my original Thread) #770614
senderav are you by any chance from the south? i use the term ya’ll all the time. Don’t know to many people outside the south that do. If you are, than a howdy hey right back atcha. Shucky doo and slop the chickens ma I think I found us a southern yid on the page. yeee haawww
Mother in israel. I would ask her time and time to marry me over and over again. My wife I believe is the ultimate eishes chaiyil. Believe me after putting up with me for 21 years she deserves the countries highest honor, and that comes from the heart. As to who she is. If we told you who we were i would have to put you so far in the witness protection program, H-Shem wouldn’t be able to find you. us fed are just like that sometimes 🙂
great post stzc. will you marry me
c’mon cherry, get cheery. I think all of us that post on cr. could use a little laughter and sense of humor now and then. how bout you come join our minyan. it is held in the malon roach. get it.
Das yochid chas v’shalom. you would still do something illegal. That is not the torahdik way. G-D is still watching
barshattya we could both go!!!
Could 9 cockaroaches and me still constitue a minyan.still have to daven. lol. what kind of question. wow I agree with popa bar abba on something.HUH!!!
OMG i finally agree with pac-man on something.Most important thing at the wedding is to be msameach choson v’kallah. I have seen some pictures of people when they put their pictures on “only simchas” sticking their tongues out. I am really sorry but this is ugly and uncalled for. Yes i do agree pictures are a big part of the wedding, my wife and i still look at ours after 21 great years, but if our simcha was not as lebedik as it was but we had great pictures it would not have been the same. Good thing we had great pictures and great everything else.
I knew my last post would not make it because of 1 word. So i will be a bit more kind. Jakyweb beware. we think alike and there are people on this thread that don’t have the same common sense or outlook about middos and otd etc that we have. I just sure hope these people are not in a position to do anyone harm with there opinions. It would be such a waste of yiddishe yungerleit.
way to go cherrybim. I do have to say some people do say what i would like to say much more eloquently than i. I love this room
Das yochid. first of all you cannot in a month of sundays show any clear thinking frum yid how going to a graduation with girls totally covered with a graduation gown, no singing, a mechitzah, and I cannot think of any other precaution you can think of, is not not tznius. You, popa and pac-man have brought absolutely no proof beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is a tznius issue. It is not. It is a holier than thou issue and i still say your attitudes and others like yours are the main problem in why many of the frum boys and girls are going otd or have a problem with frum authority. A question. is it better to go out in public, yes even in b.p. or williamsburg to see scantily clad women walking up and down our streets. isn’t it better to see our daughters graduate from a nice b.y. with a nice frum education?
and Daas the reason I want to know about pac-man is because the way he spouts his frumkeit he shouldn’t know from a shtus video game such as pac-man
by the way just to let some of you know there is a very high mechitzah there. When sitting in the men,s section you see the roof. not the girls unless you are sitting in the first 2 or 3 rows. I think that is a good enough seperation as did the men speakers, (All rabbonim by the way}, rabbonim and roshei yeshiva who had attended in the past.
Das yochid you say there is a potential tznius issue here. I know the fathers quite well. None of them are the type of people that you are insinuating. And I would no doubt say that all the fathers are just as, if not frummer than pac-man, popa and a few others on this post.and No i don,t have anything at all against there opinions, but unless you are involved with all these type of people as am I please don’t think I do not know what i am talking about. I am also still waiting to here how he picked the name pac-man.
by the way MODS – where is the first post? you know the one that started this whole thread. someone else asked you that but you never answered or put it back!
sorry pac_man( and I still want to know why the name pac_man}i have worked and still talk to kids from all walks of life. I see first hand, because this city is so diverse and because of the very public positions i have had, what kind of kids have gone otd and what kind of families they have come from. Unfortunatly you and I don’t know each other and probably never will, we could probably have some great discussions about various topics. Problem is you do not, as far as I can tell, have to do with people other than your type and I do not mean any disrespect by that. You just probably have not dealt on a day to day basis with such a broad range of people that I have. No I am not a frum bartender. But please unless you have come from where I came from or have walked in my shoes,or dealt with the people that I have dealt with, do not say that I don”t know what I am talking about. To jakyweb the policy as i said was started at the end of last year, a month or two before the graduating class of 2010, so my kids were there way before policy was instituted, and no one said boo until then. This is a totally new rule.I agree with your last statement if you don”t want to be there don”t come to the graduation, sad but true
bing bing bing wrong again pac-man. Come to the very large city where i live in now and i will show you many many kids otd that lived the very frum life even chassidishe life from the begining. I think derech hamelech said it right. Moderation is the key, along with guidance and a careful watch on these kids. The coed high school here in the city sends many kids to Israel, hesder, go through ncsy, which by the way I was an advisor in for a number of years, and boy you should see how frum and ehrlich they turned out. not that their school is right for me but you sure cannot say intermingling caused mor otd. DEFINITLY NOT!!!
It seems to me that shimen and pac-man ( by the way why would you take a name based after a very popular video game back in the 80’s?)
seem to be young and have grown up in a very sheltered black hat life. Which I think is wonderful for them. Do you know anything about what is going on in the world around you, i.e. current events. My b.y. daughter takes current events in school and she and other girls in her class where they know what is going on do put an emphasis on limudei kodesh. Honestly my daughter could quote rashi and other meforshim alot better than i could. Sorry guys but that was not because of intermingling I just didn’t have the kup for it. But when it comes to morals and ethics especially how to treat someone, we in our city were always taught to be menchlich no matter who it was, yes girls and boy yid and non yid alike, and yes all the rabbonim, some who have written seforim that I know you have heard of, were involved in this education.
o.k. let us try to help you understand what is going on, and yes i am a person involved. I chose to send my daughter to this school because after many discussions back and forth with various parents rabbonim and school hanhala i did pick this school out for the hashkofos they had.And yes this is an added on rule that was just started this year. My wife did go to a chassidishe b.y. in n.y. and there were men in the audience with long beards and peiyos. I myself was raised in a city definitly not like N.Y. but the small yeshiva and the dayschool ,even though mixed classes till i think 5th grade, had many black hat chaim berlin type and many other frum frum people. Now don’t be shocked by this but friends ate at friends houses,By that i mean family’s with a boy and girl the same ages. I even did science projects worked on reports and worked on color wars with OMG!!! Girls. Everyone in our community pretty much knew everyone else from the frie to the frum frum. we enjoyed each others chasunahs and cried at each others levayas. And yes we spoke to the girls in the lunchroom and in the halls, and mind you i was only there through 9th grade we also spoke to the girls in shul at the grocery store, etc. You want to know something most of the kids from those families have grown up to be nice frum parents of nice frum kids some in business some in chinuch, some in the states and some in eretz yisroe-l. Yes i grew up in a different time but you know something i think if we go back to those times, which we can possibly do with a little more caution and caring with our kids our otd problem might not go away but i bet it will be a little better. little side note I wear a bekishe as does my son and did my father z”tl with uphits and come from very chassidishe background.So please you people who think I might be some kind of masher for wanting to see my daughter get her diploma, and yes it is very important to me, look in the mirror you might be the ones who chas v’shalom might be causing the next kid to go otd.I know i won’t.ease up.
Mods could I please have the subtitle of fedchaper ruv. It is the nickname my wonderful family has given me
I remember years ago when Chicago was getting its Eiruvin, we have 3 major ones now if i remember correctly. My father, zt”l a rov and his chavrusa took the pamphlet that they came out with and shlugged up pretty much the whole eiruv. The psak here was shopped around after Rav Aaron Soloveichik said no to it. That was a big issue. As a side point my father zt”l learned under Rabbis Starr, Kreiswirth, Kaplan, and Rogoff. If any one knows any of these Rabbonim. They were all gedolei torah. Eiruvin are not easy issues by any means to make a psak on. We should all be carefull about how and whom we quote