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April 23, 2012 4:18 pm at 4:18 pm in reply to: The Missing 165 Years – Discrepancy Between Jewish and Secular Calendars #1014169
I think another reason Rav Schwab withdrew his original suggestion was because, if so, it meant that our count of shmitta and yoivel would be wrong if we accept the secular historians count.
The proper way is to look for middos, ehrlichkeit, talmid chochom (or bas talmid chochom).
” It is no coincidence that the levels of heart disease, diabetes, and similar issues are high in our community.”
Where were these stats invented? Who said it is any higher than average?April 23, 2012 12:00 pm at 12:00 pm in reply to: The Missing 165 Years – Discrepancy Between Jewish and Secular Calendars #1014162
pba: An error can be an intentional error (as you suggested) or an unintentional error. Nevertheless, it would be descrbed as an error either way. You suggested it was an error (“messed up”) and possibly intentional. I did not change your connotations as to whether it was intentional (“on purpose”) or not.
Sorry for the misunderstanding.April 23, 2012 3:44 am at 3:44 am in reply to: The Missing 165 Years – Discrepancy Between Jewish and Secular Calendars #1014155
Who are those “some” that think Chazal messed up the years? Talmidei Chachomim or secular historians?
Where is this famous question discussed in Rabbinic literature?
Why not assume the error on the part of the secular historians? Why assume the error to Chazal?
And what is the relevancy of the year 6000?April 23, 2012 3:41 am at 3:41 am in reply to: The Craziest MURDER: See if you could guess the ending. #869975
Is this in Snopes?
What other calendar remained in use, unmodified, for nearly as long (and accurately maintained the dates correlating to the seasons and solar/lunar cycles)?
Something a yodle comes up with on his own to shlug up accepted psak or teitch.
Certain commenters here have a tendency to practice this.
An ugly girl can plaster makeup hollywood style, and presto, she’s pretty.
lesschumras: You gotta be kidding. Where do you come off saying that the Arizal negated Mesorah and Daas Torah?? Aside from chutzpah that is about as inaccurate as can be.
Segulas are brought down in various seforim. They are a yiddishe concept.
If a SY girl marries out, she loses her SY minhagim/traditions and assumes her husbands.April 22, 2012 11:43 pm at 11:43 pm in reply to: Girls High School Curriculum: Maybe all the schools need to do this #870085
The original beis yaakov’s most certainly did teach bnos yisroel housewivery.
Chacham: Please provide a cite for the Reb SZ,CI, and Steipler (if its true). Thx
oomis: As mdd pointed out to you, it is not a matter how you “feel” or “prefer” about it, it is a matter a of Jewish law. And I’ve already cited above the law is that one must even give up their life rather than shake a woman’s hand.
yoyo56: where does it say that?
See Igros Moshe E.H. 4:60.
The ARI HaKodesh instituted Nusach Sefard. I would take the AriZal anytime.
147: Your comments about havara (and nusach) are your own boich svaras.
What’s your plan?
21 is a bit late for a girl to start dating.
MCP: If you eat pork, you won’t either be struck by lightening.
Assur gomur m’doraisa.
The Chazon Ish stated [re: a man shaking a woman’s hand who is not his spouse, his mother, his daughter, or his granddaughter] [p.p. 130-131])
A Yeshiva student from England refused to shake hands with his step-mother when greeting her. His father was extremely upset with his refusal. He demanded his son display “derech eretz” towards his step-mother and shake her hand. The son refused stating he was taught it was impermissable with a non close blood relative. This affected the fathers relationship with the son. Some family members told the son to give in al sholom bayis. The son asked a shaila from the Chazon Ish. The Chazon Ish responded with a short and sharp answer – “Chok V’lo Yaavor, Issur Gamur” (It is a prohibition that one dare not violate; It is absolutely forbidden,) Violating this halacha was out of the question despite sholom bayis and kibud av. (Oz Vehadar, p. 494).
The Chazon Ish and the Steipler have broad enough shoulders.
When there is a gun to your head there is no time to go call a rov.
I see a lot of jealousy against Brisk above. Although there is reason to be jealous of Brisk, jealousy (and sheker) is still forbidden.
Sam: The Chazon Ish and the Steipler says shaking a woman’s hand for business is yeheirag v’al yaavor. Rav Moshe has multiple teshuvos saying it is assur to shake a woman’s hand in business. The case I presented is certainly worse than shaking a woman’s hand.
Oomis: Yeheirag v’al yaavor exactly means one must be ready to be killed even if they are an anusa.
What is Israel Option and Masa?
There is no reason this invented date couldnt be changed by a simple legislative act.
OneOfMany: Tell me about these scholorships. They are news to me. $7k for a year in Istael??
Hugging is derech chiba.
Yes, ask. You can’t go wrong. And he is wiser (and a bigger talmid chochom) than you.
See m in Israel’s comment. There are studies and patterns, not guesses.
Why are you surprised, considering who invented this?
And they chose the date of the Warsaw Uprising, because that is what they think Judaism is all about. They have nothing else.
The real, and only, day is Tisha B’Av.
General Dentist, 2940 Ocean Pkwy. Google Dr. Martin Bienenstock.
Shabbos guitar? Why not kosher pork or electronic wings to fly with.
oomis: Violating Shomer Negia is Arayos and more chumor than violating Shabbos. If a goy put a gun to your head on Shabbos and said turn on the stove, you could turn on the stove. If a goy put a gun to your head — even if you were a single girl — and said hug that man, you would have to let him kill you rather than hug that man.
There are exceptions to every rule.
In reality your question is a local issue of America and it is the job of American rabbis to decide. However my view is in agreement with the rabbis there who permit the husband to remarry without any difficulty and he needs to deposit a get with beis din. But when the judgment of the secular courts has been nullified then it is prohibited for the husband to remarry until he has properly divorced the first wife.
You should be aware that we are obligated to fight against her going to secular courts and we prevent her from remarrying if she does and if the get is given under these circumstances there is a suspicion that it was coerced (me’usa). Nevertheless in a case where she claims she can’t stand him (ma’us alei) and there is no reason to believe they can be reconciled and the man is simply being cruel to her and is being spiteful by not to giving her a divorce – then even though it is prohibited for us to exert any force- G-d forbid! – nevertheless it is correct to notify the husband that the view of many of the gedolim (e.g., Rambam, Ravad, Behag, Rashbam, Rashi etc) is that he is sinning and they would encourage him to give her a get. Because even these poskim are concerned about creating [an invalid get] which would leave her as a married woman even bedieved – so G-d forbid that we should use any type of coercion. Regarding the issue of tormenting her and leaving her an aguna – it is correct for him to be concerned for her claim that she finds him revolting (ma’os alei) and it is prohibited for him to leave her as an aguna – even if she is not correct. But we are not to coerce him G-d forbid with any type of coercion that would possibly bring about a get me’usa. Rather [once we have informed him that it is wrong for him to withold the get] he needs to come the the realization himself that he must conduct himself like a descendant of Avraham and the verse says that the ways of Torah are ways of pleasantness and all its paths are peace and that he will find happiness with someone else.
Teshuvos v’Hanhagos (1:389):
However it appears that what is prohibited is to humiliate him and to shun him in a manner similar to cherem – i.e, not to do business with him and not to do him a favor – and that is not done today. (Chazon Ish understands the Pischei Teshuva differently). But when he is not actively humiliated but that he is only not given honors for example he is notified that he will not receive an aliyah in his shul or any other shul and that he will not be allowed to be the shliach tzibor – then this is not like cherem at all even though it causes some humiliation. The only pressure permitted is that he should know that the community does not approve of his conduct of being cruel to his wife – but this is not called force at all.
This that the wife creates pressure with the claim that he is tormenting her and she can not stand the situation any more and that she is ready to go to “rabbis” who are lenient in divorce – that is still not justification for us to make rulings against the Torah. The ways of G-d are hidden and some suffer physically while other suffering financially and some suffer in their marriage. We need to hope to G-d that the end of suffering has arrived and that he will divorce her. On the other hand, to force him with high payments for food or to humiliate him when it is not permitted – it doesn’t help because this pressure only produces a get me’usa – G-d forbid – which has no validity. But concerning cruelty and spite which is characteristic of Sedom – only Heaven can punish him.
Rav Moshe, in Igros Moshe (E.H. 4:106), seems to make it impossible to justify publicly embarrassing a person solely for the purpose of giving a get – especially when he can not escape from the embarrassment by moving to a different neighborhood or community.
The Minchos Yitzchok (8:137) also would invalidate direct pressure to give a get by public humilation. The only pressure permitted is that which comes from something else which is alleviated by the giving of the get. If the sole reason for the pressure is to force the giving of a get – he says it invalidates the get according to all opinions.
Rav Eliashiv (Kovetz Teshuvos 134):
Rav Moshe has 3 or 4 teshuvos in the Igros Moshe where he keeps repeating it is prohibited to shake a woman’s hand in business. Two of Rav Moshe’s teshuvos prohibit it even if she offers her hand first to you.
Comp777: Not necessarily correct. I’ll start a new thread about this later, since it is OT here.
Most women will not walk away from a good marriage.
A woman can’t walk away from a good marriage, since her husband can deny her a divorce as he is under no halachic obligation to divorce her considering it is a good marriage.
What’s a non-male?
The Chazon Ish writes shaking a woman’s hand, even for business, is Yeihareg V’al Yaavor.