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  • in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1832550
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    @coffeeaddict

    The last time I went to Newport was in 2015. at that time the bridge still had a toll.
    That said I paid tolls in MA and NY within the past week on my E-Z pass

    in reply to: Going local for Mesivta versus out of town #1832250
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    I have watched Mesivtos open and fold over the years here in CT. A few local parents decided they didn’t want to send their boys away after 8th grade. So they hit up the local Baal Batim and opened schools. In 6-8 years the schools would fail (usually after the first group of local boys had graduated and the original group of parents lost interest).
    My older brothers went to Mesivta in Brooklyn, but did not live in a dorm, they lived with my grandparents who lived within 2 blocks of school.
    I went to Mesivta in New Haven. My two sons went to Mesivta in Brooklyn, they dormed during the week and spent Shabbos with my grandparents.

    The only boys who I noticed being sent to Mesivta in New Haven during the 70s and 80s were those from troubled backgrounds, but whose parents could write a large check. The Litvish Mesivta (along with day school has closed down amid scandal and the RY is in a state jail cell for what was done to vulnerable students in the dorms.

    I would never willingly send a 14 year old off to live in a dorm somewhere and attend Mesivta in these times. I might consider boarding with a family I have vetted, but would prefer they live with relatives. My grandsons of that age are Brooklyn and living in my sister’s home during the zmanim.

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1832204
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    @yehudayona
    I have never discussed my posting on or reading of the YWN Coffee Room with any family members and only two close friends

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1832207
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    @KlugerYid
    Yes I am a literalist, lawyers must be. If it isn’t in the 4 corners of the contract it doesn’t exist as far as the law and courts are concerned.

    Yes I believe on taxing the wealthy to pay for the greater good. That’s what a society should do. We are a Republic and elect legislators to run the country, make the laws, set budget and taxes. We can vote people into or out of office. Locally I have voted for increased budgets to support the public schools, something that benefits the community as a whole, even if my family does not use it. I voted to approve bonding for a new public swimming pool. Again we won’t use it but it benefits the community as a whole as do parks, libraries and other amenities. I get the indirect benefit of increased property values because of these taxes.

    We don’t have toll roads here ion CT. Our Governor is pushing for tolls to pay for infrastructure. I support this user fee. I pay tolls in all the surrounding states and think they are appropriate for CT as well,

    In this case my ire is in being asked by someone not making the wedding to contribute. Unasked he called the three other grandfathers asking for money and embarrassed, his child, the mother of the Kallah.

    Last night we were at a Melave Malka at the Kallah’s parents’ home. They and my son/DIL made it clear that they neither needed or expected any financial contribution towards the wedding. The grandparents are honored guests, not part of the planning or hosts

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1832210
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    @DaasYochid
    I was clear that I’ll vote against Trump.
    I did not say I’ll vote for Sanders.
    There are always more than 2 candidates on the Presidential ballot.

    BTW>>>Israel is not my litmus test for determining how to cast my ballot. I support Israel, but not always the party or person in power. I don’t get involved in their internal politics, that is for those who live there to do, I do live ion the USA and my choice for President is predicated on what is best for the USA and my life as a resident citizen.

    in reply to: What programming language is better to start learning? #1831954
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    Feeling very old
    About 50 years ago learned both COBOL and Fortran using mainframe computers with punchcards

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831937
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    @Klugeryid
    leave it you to interject politics into a question about a chasunah.

    Bernie Sanders can’t force you to do any of the things you mentioned. He has but one vote in the Senate. Tax bills must pass the House and the Senate and be signed by the President (Or have a Presidential veto overridden by Congress)
    The President can’t impose taxes on his own.

    But keep spewing hatred that has nothing to do with what is asked and I’ll keep thinking you are a troll or a fool,

    If you read the posts your would see that parents of the Chassan?Kallah are upset. They didn’t ask for help and apparently don’t need it. The New Grandfather in law is a busybody, butting in and causing problems (IMHO).

    BTW>>>>>Have you ever seen my make a statement that I am a Bernie Sanders supporter. He is not my first choice, I currently don’t have one and the CT Primary comes after Super Tuesday. That said I shall vote against Trump in 2020.

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831745
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    @AviK
    I posted to inquire about changing custom that I may not be aware of.

    None of this has to do with the parents of the Chassan’s means. I know what size checks my son and DIL get as attorneys in my firm.
    It has to do with the grandfather of the Kallah inserting himself, unasked, into the planning/financial process and trying to get other grandparents to foot the bill with him. The mother of the Kallah was embarrassed when her father git such a call from her father-in-law.

    I am aware of changing customs in that today it is not unusual for the Chassan’s family to pay part of the expenses. In my day the parents of the Kallah paid for it all. Mrs. CTL and I made weddings for our three daughters and paid for them. It was our pleasure

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831693
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    @1
    We don’t meddle in our adult children’s business and would not presume to get involved unasked in the finances or planning of a wedding.

    If our son or DIL even hinted they could use some assistance in meeting their wedding obligations we’d hand over a signed check and smile.

    as for what else I need the money for?
    In the next couple of years I shall enter retirement from the full time practice of law and I”YH will have many decades more to live and the expenses to go with that life.

    Mrs. CTL and I would much rather give the Chassan/Kallah a down payment for a house than pay for a party that lasts a few hours. Maybe we’re old fashioned?

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831609
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    To all who have posted………………

    I posted this in sincerity. It is no secret that I live in small town New England and am not always up on the newest ways of doing things in town.
    I couldn’t ask friends or relatives because as they know the name of the Kallah and her family.
    This is the first of our grandchildren to get engaged and maybe there are new norms for grandparents. When our children got married their grandparents were honored guests, not hosts or sponsors.
    But things change and this is a good sounding board with a cross section of frum Jews.

    To be perfectly honest, we were given the wedding date to block out on our calendars. I have no idea where the wedding will be held in the Tristate area. I don’t need a lot of advance notice to plug the address into my GPS. I will show up wearing a suit and hat, Mrs. CTL will wear an appropriate dress after consulting with our daughter in law about colors, etc. We’ll be there on time and have a good time.

    Thinking back, my Zaidy did pay for something at my brother’s wedding 49 years ago. Zaidy wanted Cigarettes and Cigars on the tables. My parents were not in favor of providing tobacco products. So Zaidy told the caterer to bill him the $300.

    in reply to: The top two dems are either a sodomite, or a communist #1831586
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    @RebbeDebbie

    You have NO clue of what a communist is.
    There is a HUGE difference between a Socialist and a Communist.

    Under Communism individuals own nothing. Capitalism is alive and well under Socialism, but the government taxes wealth and income to provide programs for the benefit of all members of society. One can still own private homes, businesses, stocks, bonds, etc. Under Socialism.

    Social Security and Medicare are socialism in practice

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831414
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    @Joseph my wonderful friend
    Do you really want a misnagid in the Brisker tradition for a SIL?

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831411
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    @rational
    My son did not know about this call, but DIL called Mrs. CTL this morning to say her father giot a similar call.

    Grandpa may have money, but so do Son and DIL, the parents of the Chassan. They are both attorneys in the family firm That shiny diamond on the Kallah’s finger came from our vault. The great-great-grandfather the Chassan was named for gave it to my grandmother in 1919.

    I find your comments about first generation to have made it in America amusing. I’m 5th generation American, the third generation to have gone to college and professional school and/or own home(s) and businesses/ I don’t think like a greenhorn.

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831407
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    @Lowerourtuition11210

    I didn’t have to tell our son and daughter-in-law about the call. This morning Mrs. CTL got a phone call from our Daughter-in-law. DIL was horrified to find out the same grandfather of the Kallah called DIL’s father with the same question. DIL is a friend of the Kallah’s mother and called her. Seems the man has done this on his own, without consulting or getting permission from the Kallah’s parents. DIL thinks he believes grandparents should pay for as much as possible as there are younger children to educate and marry off.

    I think that he should stop sticking his nose into other people’s business and his hand into others’ pockets.
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    There was no ‘professional shadchan. Couple was introduced by mutual married friends. We keep our noses out of such things. It is the parents’ place to pass judgment/approval not ours.

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831400
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    @Yesorno
    I shall not be calling this man. I told him that I was not making or planning the wedding. The wedding plans and costs are discussions appropriate for the parents pf the Chassan/Kallah (and perhaps them as well).

    in reply to: Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah #1831397
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    @SyagLchochma

    ‘I am having a very hard time believing this happened….’

    my exact thoughts/reaction to the phone call

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    Smart enough to know he didn’t have a chance

    in reply to: Which colleges accept a BTL in the nyc area? #1831119
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    @smerel

    READ the OP. He wants to get a Masters Degree. Community Colleges offer 2 year programs and Associates degrees,

    The reality is that a BTL is a pretty worthless piece of paper.

    in reply to: Why do you support trump #1830332
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    I don’t support Trump willingly, but he is being fed and housed on my tax dollars.

    in reply to: Mitt Romney is now persona non grata #1829543
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    @klugeryid

    Always so sure, always so wrong.
    You’d wager he’s no saint.

    Mormons are the Church of Latter Day Saints.

    Senator Romney doesn’t need to take paper clips from the office, he is wealthy in his own right.

    This is one Democrat who could comfortably have voted for Romney for Governor or Senator

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1828752
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    @1
    Why move?
    I was just giving a historical perspective.

    I grew up in the retail clothing business. Until selling the business in 1988 we never used plastic bags for purchases, we used paper bags or boxes.

    I live in a state of my choice. I supported the law change, In fact some towns such as Westport have had a plastic bag ban for years. It’s no big deal to use paper or reusable bags.

    You just love to complain and be contrary

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1828551
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    @Gamanit
    I use the large heavy duty plastic bags with handles sold by Aldi for 10 cents. I get about 20 uses per bag.
    In CT it is the flimsy t-shirt sty;e disposable plastic bags that can not be sold by the stores. Multi use heavy duty bags are available,

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1828331
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    @CoffeAddict
    I can’t answer why she is using his account. She posted that info more than a year ago. I am not sure that he is even alive anymore.

    In our area, takeout food places have switched to paper or collect the 10 cent tax if the consumer wants plastic.


    @bk613

    The plastic bags are NOT sold, a tax is collected if a customer wants one. Therefore SNAP and WIC purchases are exempt because the purchase is paid fro by the state and the state doesn’t pay tax to itself.

    Years ago we were foster parents and the state gave us a card to buy for the child. The purchases of clothing and school supplies were not taxed because the state was the customer, not the foster parent…same with SNAP and WIC

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1828278
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    @Millhouse
    #1The Paper bags from Trader Joe’s have handles
    #2 For a hundred years or more shoppers in Europe have had to provide their own bags and most used public transit or walked.
    I always carried small net shopping bags when in Europe, cheap, easy to store in a pocket.

    It’s NOT all about you or NYers. The whole world is affected by the plastic mess in oceans, forests, etc

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1828191
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    @Coffee Addict
    Amil is a female using her husband’s CR account

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1828045
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    Here in CT the ban went into effect last July 1. It has been an easy adjustment. I keep a bag full of bags in each car and take what I need into the store when I shop.

    Thin plastic bags for produce, dairy, meat are still available free in stores, so one doesn’t have to worry about dripping into reusable bags.

    Some stores have paper bags available at no charge (Trader Joe’s for example). In Costco or Aldi I just use cardboard boxes to pack up my purchases.

    This is no big deal and much better for the environment and our grandchildren’s world

    in reply to: Torah hashkafah on having midwinter vacation #1828046
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    @5ish
    When I grew up OOT there were no Chabad Houses (although they ran the day school).
    The JCC ran vacation camps as well as programming on secular school holidays. It was a chance for us to meet the other Jewish children in town, not just those from our particular school or shul.

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1828015
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    @abbaS

    Youe logic is faulty, no one is going to start buying all their milk and eggs on line because they don’t get a free cheap plastic bag in the local supermarket

    in reply to: LED or lost empty dollars? #1827666
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    @rightwriter
    The problem isn’t the bulbs, it is your inadequate old wiring,
    Three years ago we replaced 57 75 watt floods in our ceiling cams (yes we have a huge house) on our first floor. We could not use CFL in those recessed ceiling cans.
    Our electric use fell substantially and the bill dropped about $100 per month. We have not had one burn out. I bought bulbs that had a MSRP of $14 in 4 packs at Ocean State Job Lot for $1.25/bulb

    Since then we have converted almost every other bulb in the house to LEDs, and have installed Solar.

    in reply to: Selective Service System – Do you register your sons? #1825715
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    @DovodBT
    “why aren’t the Equal Rights Amendment supporters demanding that women be included in the Selective Service registration?”

    2 reasons:
    1-they are against a draft
    2-why waste time pushing registration for a non-existent draft? There are better uses for their political time

    in reply to: Selective Service System – Do you register your sons? #1825578
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    @Yussel
    NO, Reagan did NOT start up registration again. It was a Presidential Proclamation by President Carter in 1980 that restarted registration during the Iran Hostage Crisis.

    in reply to: Selective Service System – Do you register your sons? #1825541
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    @Yaakov Doe

    Just to be clear I did not say local boards do not exist, I wrote that they don’t exist as they were during the Viet Nam War era…our last active draft.
    NYC may have one board per zip code, but here in the country a local board may serve a dozen towns. That said they are full of vacancies and do not meet in person or have in person training. Most do not have offices as the DofD is not interested in paying rent for useless space.

    in reply to: Selective Service System – Do you register your sons? #1825495
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    Although there is no current draft in the US, registration at age 18 is required. It is not optional for males.
    Local draft boards do mot exist as they did during the Viet Nam era.
    However, Regional Draft Appeals Boards still exist and are staffed by volunteers in case a draft is implemented.
    Both myself and another local Yid in my small CT town serve on the Regional Selective Service Appeals Board for Southern New England. We receive training materials several times each year.

    Students looking for Financial Aid for Colleges and grad schools and filling out the FAFSA form are asked if they have registered. If they have not, they are not eligible for aid, grants, subsidized and unsubsidized federal loans, etc.

    As for the OP’s question: “Do you register your sons?” the answer is NO, Your sons must register themselves when turning 18.

    in reply to: Why does Biden get a pass Or ”the donkey in the room ” #1825372
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    @Coffeeaddict
    after all, Trump is despicable

    in reply to: Are public displays of Frum support of Trump a safe thing? #1825313
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    @iacisrmma

    I oppose Trump, but would defend anyone’s right to show their support.

    in reply to: Why does Biden get a pass Or ”the donkey in the room ” #1824995
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    @CoffeeAddict

    I’ve posted before I don’t hate Trump, I hate his actions.
    He cost my family more than 300K in unpaid invoices when he filed bankruptcy for properties in Atlantic City. Our telecommunications equipment company had supplied the phone systems for two casinos. He appointed Linda McMahon of WWE to a major post. She beat our company for 200K in her corporate bankruptcy.

    My brother started the company back in 1977. I was an investor and partner and shared in the losses.
    Trump is an adulterer, liar, deadbeat, etc. That’s enough reasons for me to dislike his actions.

    in reply to: Why does Biden get a pass Or ”the donkey in the room ” #1824994
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    @Lowerourtuition
    I don’t care about Biden’s grandchild, it wasn’t fathered by Joe Biden
    I think Buttigieg would make an excellent VP candidate. He needs more years and experience before being Presidential material….especially foreign affairs

    I put Bloomberg and Steyer’s names in my post to make people realize there are other candidates. Not one word appears in this thread about Senator Klobuchar…she has promise.

    in reply to: Why does Biden get a pass Or ”the donkey in the room ” #1824734
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    @1
    Wrong as usual
    Not a fan of Senator Warren……she has yet to show how she can fund her Medicare for All plans in a fiscally sound way
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    That said, if she is the nominee and is running against Trump, I will vote against Trump
    But…….
    There are other choices besides, Warren, Sanders, Biden, Buttigieg……
    Steyer, and Bloomberg are more to my liking. I don’t buy Yang’s $1000 month welfare for all.

    in reply to: How should trump respond #1824516
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    Millhouse……………
    I do live in a hellhole…Trump’s America, but with G-d’s help his days are limited to no more than 8 years as specified in the Constitution.

    My family has lived here generations longer than the Trump family. My grandfather was not a saloon keeper and brothel owner as grandfather Trump in the Yukon. My wife did not come in on a visitor’s visa, work illegally and lie about her education. Mrs. CTL is a native born citizen with legitimate education credentials. I pay all my workers and contractors. I’ve had one wife and not committed adultery. My sons don’t hunt live animals. I haven’t been banned from running a phony charity and the list goes on and on.

    If you think this thrice married adulterer, bankrupt liar is a proper role model for the country I feel sorry for your lack of morals.

    in reply to: Why does Biden get a pass Or ”the donkey in the room ” #1824515
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    I detest Trump’s actions, but that doesn’t mean I support Biden. In fact I shall not be voting for Biden or Sanders in the Primary or CT State Democratic convention. I have made my point in my local Democratic Town Committee that both of these men are too old to start a 4 year term as President. They have had their time in elected office and it time for new faces.

    As to the accusations of the OP. Vice Presidents have no power except to break ties in the Senate. They stand in the wings, fill in for the President at funerals and inaugurations around the world but cannot hire or fire federal officials. I doubt there was an impeachable offense. Much of what Biden is accused of happened when he was not in office (after January 20, 2017 and therefore not subject to impeachment.

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    @Klugeryid
    I don’t hate Trump
    I hate his actions and words
    Big difference

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    @Syag
    I never used the term deport………………
    I said he should pack up his fractured family and leave the country.
    Deportation is government action. I’m calling for all of them to go voluntarily, and not at taxpayer expense.

    Let his shiftless sons spend the rest of their days hunting in Siberia. Maybe Melania could finish that college degree she claimed she had and didn’t.

    in reply to: How should trump respond #1824148
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    @huju
    If Trump was convicted he would not be sentenced to prison. He’d cut a deal with Pence (as Nixon did with Ford) and be pardoned in advance

    in reply to: How should trump respond #1824062
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    The Adulterer in Chief, Liar in Chief wouldn’t know how to do an honorable thing. It is time for him and his despicable fractured family to pack up and leave the country. Let his buddy (puppeteer) Putin resettle them in Siberia

    in reply to: Shame on You for Voting Dem #1824058
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    @RebbYidd23
    I post that there is no such thing as a ‘true American’ because the term is one without an official definition. It changes to suit the speaker.
    Does it mean citizen, native born, patriot, supporter of the current government?
    These days I find it used to accuse non-followers of the political right of being less than ‘American’

    If one googles true American the responses are about a drinking game.

    In the early 1970s when I was protesting the war in Viet Nam I was accused of not being a True American. I took my chances in the draft lottery unlike Private Bone Spurs or GW Bush pretending to fly jets in the Texas Air National Guard while not showing up regularly.

    I am active in politics, have never missed voting since I was able to vote in 1972, pay my taxes and am not afraid to question government officials. Nowhere is it written that an Anerican has to have blind allegiance to any elected official

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    @RebbeDebbie
    The Independent Senator Sanders is not a Communist, but you spread lies.
    There is no such thing as a true American. That is white supremacist talk and they hate you (and me).
    It is perfectly legal for a Communist Party candidate to run for office in the USA. This is not the 1950s Joe McCarthy era.
    In the 1970s I hated my local war hawk Congressman and his other major party pro Viet Nam War opponent, so I voted for Joelle Fishman the Communist Party candidate in CT third district. i was anti-war, but a TRUE American

    in reply to: What’s in your ultimate burger #1823979
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    Ground neck and skirt about 80% lean. Hand formed 6 ounce patty, season each side with coarse salt and freshly ground pepper. Cook 2 minutes each side on a 550 degree F grill (charcoal or gas if no charcoal is available)

    in reply to: Shame on You for Voting Dem #1823721
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    Coffee Addict……………
    Are you aware that you don’t have to be a registered member of a party to run on their ticket?

    In our area, this year the Dems ran 2 candidates for Board of Education and 4 for Town Council who are not party members. They all won seats. They may caucus with the Ds but are not beholden to vote the party line.

    Senator Sanders is running for the D nominayion, but is an elected independent, not a Dem.

    in reply to: Shame on You for Voting Dem #1823394
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    Coffee Addict
    When one votes for a candidate on a minor Party line instead of the D or R lines, than the voter is saying I do not endorse the party or its platform. That is the important difference

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    Because it is not anti-Semitism and a non-issue.
    The crusaders were trying to take control of Jerusalem from the Moslems between 8 and 900 years ago. It was not capital of Israel at the time. There was no Jewish state with a capital then/

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