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As most years when the 24th is not a Friday, I worked the 11 pm to 7 am shift at our town’s 911 phone center, so employees could spend time celebrating their holiday with their families. It let’s them go to Midnight services.
It was B”H a quiet night. No fire dispatches, 2 ambulance/EMS calls, one to a local nursing home and another for a woman gone into labor. No 911 calls for police emergency on the overnight.
I went to shul on the way home and will go back for a noon to 4 pm mini shift this afternoon. Regular employees return for the 4-midnight shift this afternoon.
NOT ONE STEP…..
I don’t support the thrice married adulterer who spews lies every time he opens his mouth.I can’t still want him as I never wanted him.
@meno
A kidney donor can donate a second kidney as a cadaver donorMy BIL rec’d a cadaver kidney. His body rejected it after 20 years. By that time his son had become an adult with children of his own. 15 years ago my nephew donated a kidney to d=save his father’s life. B”H donor and donee are doing well.
A familial donor is always the choice for less chance of organ rejectionCalling 311 on someone blocking your driveway is not mesira, it’s useless when you don’t live in a city that has 311 service………………..
I didn’t not say I don’t use the driveway. I use it occasionally. I expect my private property to be available when W want to use it. I pay the taxes and insurance and have not given rishus to others to use it.
Your logic would say that when I am not in residence at my Florida home a stranger could use that. Nonsense!
BTW, I expect to use the Brooklyn house next Wednesday, as I prefer to be where businesses are open in 12/25 than in small town CT.@Mistykins
Try reading the OP.
Nowhere does it state that the offender is Jewish never mind a frum yid with 5 kids struggling to pay tuition.NO EXCUSES for bad behavior. Can’t afford a tow, don’t park illegally in someone else’s driveway. AGAIN, the OP says in the driveway, not on the street blocking the driveway.
I’ve posted before that we also have a house in Brooklyn (inherited from grandparents) that we use occasionally. We had to put a locked gate across the driveway because when we occasionally showed up to use the house someone else would be parked on our land. Neighbors on the block knew we weren’t there full time and the assorted relatives that were allowed to live there while attending college or yeshiva didn’t have cars.
@funnybone
If the offender was parked in the street blocking your driveway and you called the police who had it towed, then mesirah might be an issue.
BUT, if the car, as the OP wrote, is parked in your driveway on your private land, then you as the owner van call a tow company to have it taken away at the offender’s expense. You have not turned the offender over to a non-rabbinic authority (police, secular courts). The owner of private property has the right to have a car towed.AND, yes I have checked this out with my Rav. I am a property owner and have had problems with people parking on my land when they are not tenants, customers or guests. I have the right to tow, I don’t need to call the [police. The tow companies must report in a timely manner to the police so if the towed party calls in a stolen car report it can be checked against tow lists.
@thelittleIknow
I hope you never have to know much about divorce, but I am a family law attorney.
“Batei Din are not apt to accept a case that is not in their geographic area.”
Actually it happens all the time.
Outside major Jewish population areas there are not many Batei Din.
I live and practice law less than 75 miles from Manhattan. The nearest regularly establish Batei Din are
in NY. We often take the parties to Brooklyn or Long Island for a Jewish Divorce.
For uncontested Jewish Divorce, where everything has been worked out beforehand, I may import a
Dayan from Chabad in Brooklyn. The driver he works with is his sofer to prepare the Get and two
Rebbeim from the local Chabad day school serve as the other members of the Beis Din. My preference is
an established Beis Din that meets regularly and has an office and staff, especially if there is a chance
that the divorcing couple or their offspring may ever want to settle in EY and get married there.@lakwhut
Since when are you a Posek?
If a Jewish Couple had a civil marriage then they need to get a civil divorce in many jurisdictions.
If they don’t…there are consequences that may prove to be expensive or worse.
#1 Remarry and get charges with bigamy…jails/fines
#2 Tax liability on your ex-spouse’s income
#3 Your ex-spouse’s income may be counted in determining social benefits (Section 8, SNAP, tuition assistance.
#4 You new wife goes to collect a spouse’s Social Security benefit and you find out your first wife is already collecting against you
#5 Your first spouse has a claim on your pensionEvery married couple needs not only a civil divorce but a properly executed QDRO…Qualified Domestic Relations Order. This spells out what happens with benefits such as a pension that may be many decades off.
I recently represented a Jewish Woman against her ex. He turned 60, retired and went to collect his pension from the State of CT. He filled out the forms electing to have wife #2 collect his pension after his death and taking a smaller monthly amount. SURPRISE!!!!!! 35 years ago when he was divorced from wife #1 I represented her in civil court (they already had a get from the beis din. I drafted the QDRO which was approved by the civil court judge. Wife #1 was entitled to one half the value of his state pension at its vested value at the time of divorce. His election to take a smaller pension so wife #2 could have a survivor’s benefit violated the terms of the QDRO. He was forced to take full monthly payments and wife #1 gets a check for 27% from the state each month, he gets 73%. If he had been allowed to take the reduced sum wife #1 would only be receiving an amount equal to 16%.Lakwhut, you are NOT an attorney and should not be giving legal advice or making legal pronouncements.
Dina malchusa Dina………………….
I don’t take Jewish Divorce Clients unless they agree to a get in a beis din in addition to the civil divorce for tax and other similar purposes.@rebbiedebbie
My late mother Z”L always said that the key to being a good mother in law was to keep your mouth shut and your refrigerator open.
My father said that for father’s in law substitute wallet for refrigerator.
@Akuperma
Making false generalizations about Democrats!
“One can not be Democrat unless one supports abortion on demand, without restrictions. ”I am a registered Democrat. I have held elected office as a Democrat. I do not support abortion on demand without restrictions. The Chairman of my Democratic Town Committee, as well as 6 members of its board are devout Roman Catholics who oppose abortion.
There is no requirement for being pro-abortion in order to register as a Democrat.
Your lies are not appreciated.
My brothers and I all had full beards from the age of 16. My 12th grade rebbe told me it was inappropriate for a high school bochur in his class. Mt father Z”L came in to see the menahel. He told the menahel that the baby raced rebbe was jealous that I could raise a full beard and he couldn’t. The menahel and my father had a good laugh and the subject was never brought up again.
@Kluger
I feel your pain. McCoun are hard to find, have a short growing season and often mislabeled. Our tree yields the nest apples in early October.
Supermarket staff have no idea about what variety of fruit they sell. I only like Santa Rosa Plums. BUT the supermarkets just mark plums as Black Plums or Orange. Last year, I found a display in Shop-Rite marked Santa Rosa and was all excited. Took one bite and spit it out. It had a orange interior. Santa Rosa have a dark red flesh.NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am a New Haven Native. We love Apizza. Pronounced ah-beatz…………………
Extra thin charred crust, baked in a coal fired oven. Crushed tomatoes, olive oil, a bit of dried spices and a dusting of grated Romano cheese. Mozzarella and other items are extras.At home I use a wood fired outdoor brick oven top make apizza
@knaidlach
There is no ‘usual’ in 12 step meetings. These organizations have meetings that pop up all over and are run by volunteers. there are virtually no paid staff, they collect no dues and do not run by a set of rules/regulations.They are easily hijacked by the beliefs of the meeting leader.
Outside of the biggest cities they usually meet in churches. The attendees have addictive personalities. What the 12 step leaders do is substitute one addiction for a another harmful addiction. Many local church leaders see these meetings as a source of new recruits into their congregations.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
I often limit just how much I say about myself and am open about my opinions. My adult children are approaching the point where I plan to retire from the active practice of law in the not so distant future and they will take over my firm
In anticipation of this, and having seen so much heartache while practicing family law, I went back to school part time a couple years ago and have completed a degree and certification in couseling. As part of my required practical hours and internship I attended many hours of 12 step meetings as an observer and worked with addicts/alcoholics who attend. My comments here are anecdotal, but the details of the push to yoshke in these meetings is chronicled in my degree thesis with documentation.
Life outside the self imposed ghettos of the frum world is quite different. Most American Jews live outside these ghettos and we have an obligation to see that they are not led to yoshke while attempting to fight other demons.@knaidlach
There is a big difference between theory and practice.
The 12 steps as laid out in print and as applied in these meetings vary by the person running the meeting. They are all volunteers with addictive personalities.
Most of these Rabonim and frum therapists (unnamed by you) have never attended such a meeting as they are not open to the general public.
My initial involvement in court was because a client came to me about his 18 year old grandson who got a DUI ticket and was sentenced to 9 moths of meetings. The grandson kept coming home with these saint/prayer cards and saying the leader kept trying to convert him. Since they have the higher being premise it is not the place of a civil US court to order attendance.In Brooklyn there may be frum 12 step meetings, but in most of America there are not.
Klugeryid,
He doesn’t scare me.
I would love to see Trump out of office and if it takes Bloomberg to beat him so be it,This is NOT an endorsement of Bloomberg. I’ll not make a choice until the CT State Democratic Convention in 2020 when I know who will be on the primary ballot. That said, I’ll not be voting Harris, Sanders, Buttegig, Booker, Yang….and the list goes on.
Virtually all 12 step programs are yoshke based. They all talk about following a higher power, but most have distribution of pocket sized cards with pictures of xtian saints and payers on them.
In the 1980s I went into the CT courts with two other Jewish lawyers to ban judges from ordering attendance at 12 step programs for drunk driving offenders. Now they are ordered to attend group therapy.
Personally, I do not believe group/public confession and absolution is a good thing and the sponsors can become too intrusive in an attendee’s life. They mean well, but are not trained professionals@working on it
I was in the retail business for many decades.
Your theory about the carts that cost a quarter to use as being a great expense because current carts have to be replaced is not correct. The locking device that takes the quarter and attaches to the cart ahead is an add on for standard carts.
Way back in 1980, my father had them added to our carts at our Danbury, CT store as so many carts were disappearing. At that time our standard metal carts cost approx $165 each and the locking mechanism was $28 installed. It was well worth it. When we sold the store at the end of 1987, only 2 of 150 carts had gone missing.@Billywee
It doesn’t matter what the name means in Romanian, because it is from an old Hungarian name hundreds of years before there was a Romania.More than 1000 years ago it was known as castrum Zotmar (Zotmar’s fort), a defensive position named for a prominent individual or family. Castrum has the same Latin root as Castle, a fortified building used for defense.
@Gadolhadorh
The shopping carts with chips that lock the wheels when trying to leave the store are a terrible idea. One needs the shopping cart loaded with a week’s groceries for a large family to get the bags to the car.
Here in the suburbs some stores have set the carts to lock at the edges pf the parking lots and it works. But stores such as Moisha’s depend on on street parking and shoppers need to be able to wheel the purchases all the way to the car.Other models that work successfully in non-urban markets include:
A system where your purchase is placed in a bin on a conveyor in the front of the store, you drive up, hand the box boy your ticket and they load the car.
A system used by the Market Basket Chain in Massachusetts and New Hampshire: they hire mentally challenged young adults who wheel the carriage out to the car for every customer, help unload and then return the carriage to the store.
These cost money and do raise prices slightly.<Moisha’s should adopt the system used by Aldi in the USA and many markets in Europe. All shopping carts are chained and you insert a quarter to release the cart. People return the carts to the lane and retrieve the coin.
I was in France this summer and the standard was a Euro coin. People in NY might not bother returning the cart for 25 cents, but probably would for a dollar@Klugeryid
We have a huge MacIntosh apple tree, and two smaller trees, one that is McCoun and one Winesap. They are about 75-80 years old. Our home was built in 1803 as a farmhouse and the neighborhood carved out of the land.
There is still a berry patch with raspberry and blackberry bushes in the rear of the property. Sometimes we get the fruit, sometimes the deer eats them.@Joseph
If it is just myself and Mrs. CTL, no. She is not very fond of beef. In the summer I order a couple of half cows and cut them down myself and re grill lots of rib and other steaks for the family and chashuva guests such as your family.
What is expensive is the fact that I introduced your daughter to lollipop lamb rib chops two summers ago.@interjection
Everyone has different eating habits.
There is no typical FRUM family.
You write of the typical Israeli breakfast which is quite different than the American.I start the day with a cup of coffee and a toasted bread item with margarine (not fond of butter) cost less than $1, Mrs. CTL has a yogurt and a small glass of juice which costs about $2.00. Our grandchildren are apt to have a bowl of cold cereal with milk or a toasted waffle and juice. They grab a piece of fresh fruit to eat on the way to school. Eggs for breakfast tends to be a Sunday morning thing in our family
I assume we eat more meat than you do for lunch and suppers. In season we grow our own vegetables. Right now the apple tree by our swimming pool is yielding a bountiful harvest for eating, baking and canning apple sauce (for Chanuka latkes).
We figure $100 per adult per week for groceries. That means food only, No paper goods, cleaning supplies or other things you might pick up at the supermarket while shopping. We figure about $75 per child under Bar/Bat Mitzvah age when they spend vacations and the summer with us. This includes non-alcoholic beverages.
We buy no prepared foods and cook from scratch. We also live in a country like setting that affords us a large garden where we grow fruits and vegetables. We do can/freeze/pickle our harvest.
Sorry for the typos in my last post. Grandfather’s Optometry practice was on the Grand Concourse at the NE corner of Kingsbridge Rd. Right across from Poe Cottage in the Park. They lived diagonally across the park in the Poe Raven Apartments on the sw corner of Valentine and 192. Robert Hall was in the building on the Concourse to the ear of the apartment building. That area of the Bronx was a great place until they opened Co-Op city and the whites left. My grandmother stayed until 1978 when we moved her to Florida. Then the family sold the building, happy to get out.
Gadol
I absolutely remember Jahn’s ice cream parlor, but on Kingsbridge between Fordham and 192. I was born in New Haven, but my parents kept an apartment in Valentine until 1978 to make caring for my grandmother easier. We all took turns spending a night each week there until we finally moved her to Florida and sold the building. My grandfather had his optometry office on the Vincourse and my uncle had a tv store in Kingsbridge. Of course my fist bank account was at Dollar Savings Bank. So long ago@Benephraim
I remember Goffin wel, having been born and raised in New Haven…but he never went by the name Shimshon in his home town.
My Mother, and older siblings were from the Bronx. I was born after the family moved to New Haven in 1952. The family lived diagonally across from the Schiff Center on Valentine between 192 and Fordham. My siblings were all born at Royal Hospital on the Grand Concourse. Last week I took my some of my grandchildren for a ride thru the Bronx showing them locations where the family members had lived and worked. So sad to see what has happened to the Beautiful Bronx.This is NOT Trump’s tariff!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I make no secret of my disdain for Trump, but he is not to blame for this.
These new tariff’s are the result of a finding that European Governments illegally subsidized Airbus giving it an unfair trade advantage over Boeing. The court found in Boeing’s favor and ordered the US institute XXX dollars of tariffs on goods from these offending countries to make up the lost export business by Boeing.
There is another case pending with Airbus accusing the USA of the same action to support Boeing. If Airbus wins, next year the host countries will institute tariff’s on US goods to make up Airbus losses.
Consumers don’t but commercial airplanes, but they will pay the cost of government interference in airplane sales.
Yaakov Doe
I have tried single malts and do not like them
This misnagid doesn’t need to try a chassidic trafition
I tend to have lemon sorbet or fruit between fish and meat courses@RabbiGreenspan
Just should be ashamed of yourself casting such aspersions right after the Yomim Noraim.I can have alcohol anywhere I please that is legal. I just don’t waste the calories on something I don’t enjoy.
On the rare occasion that I drink hard liquor it is Canadian Club.As for serving guests, we have a well stocked bar, but my relatives and guests consume almost no scotch.
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As for your attempts to figure out my income, nice try but no cigar. I own and pay taxes on more than one house in CT. Thus, the 10K tax limitation is an issue. We also pay property tax on cars and have state income tax in CT. All deductions above 10K are gone. I am just talking about residential non-income property. Taxes on income property are deducted fully from income when figuring net income subject to tax.
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As my father Z”L always said: don’t complain about paying income tax, you’ve got to make it to pay it.
I simply explained how the Trumpian tax scheme has cut my available dollars for Tzedaka.BTW>>>I don’t have any single malt laying around, but there is a case of Johnnie Walker Blue sitting in a corner of my office gathering dust. It was a gift from a grateful client after winning custody of his children from his ex-in-laws who prevented his visitation for six years. No one in the family wants it, I figure I’ll re-gift it come the winter holiday season. Should I save you a bottle?
Rabbigreenspan
I don’t drink or buy Scotch. In fact, beyond wine for kiddush I drink next to no alcohol.
I did NOT say I was making 550-825 per hour. I said I bill those amounts. All the costs of running my law firm come out of revenues billed: salaries for employees, rent, utilities, insurance, employee benefits, employee education, licensing and professional fees. All the free initial consultaions conducted where no business is generated. The payroll for pro bono cases and tzedaka.
Akuperma
The state legislature looks at the target amount of revenue to be raised when setting rates.
A pack of cigarettes is about &10 so $1 in additional sin tax raises X dollars in taxes. Connecticut lawyers bill an average rate of $275 per hour so a lower percentage tax brings in the target revenue. In my case I bill about twice that rate for office work and triple for trial work. So my monthly tax remittances will be far above the state average until I retire in the not too distant future.@Akuperma
Wrong again………………………
Effective October 1, 2019 Legal services rendered in the State of Connecticut are subject to 6.35% sales tax. That is on top of income, purchases of supplies and services, licensing and property tax on all furniture, fixtures, office equipment in our offices.I don’t care high high the tariffs are raised on Single Malt Scotch. I didn’t buy it before and I won’t be buying it now.
I believe that sin taxes: alcohol, tobacco are a good thing. If a high price reduces drinking and smoking I approve.@Millhouse
It may seem a simple solution to you, BUT in many of the US jurisdictions from which they fly, merely offering a singles sex section or asking the question violates equal rights in a public accommodation@Joseph
Only time will tell if Senator Sanders will still be a candidate come the Democratic National Convention in summer 2020. If he is, mine is one vote that will not be cast for him (and yes I expect to be a delegate, as in the past).BTW, your use of the word comrade is inappropriate. Senator Sanders is and admits to being a socialist, not a communist, they are quite different things.
It’s October 4th and I got my annual flu shot this morning
@Joseph
You may need to buy a new crystal ball
Last May I said ask me in a year when many of the then 23 will have dropped out of the race and you replied that Bernie will still be running.After his heart procedure and cancellation of scheduled events, who knows it he will still be in the race.
That said, I didn’t vote for him in 2016 and won’t be voting for him in the 2020 Democratic primary in CT, or as a delegate to the CT State Democratic Party Convention.@flatbusher
The prime reason for getting a flu shot in the beginning of autumn is that flu season begins and you may be exposed to those to are early to have flu.
Secondary reason is some years there is a run on the serum as the season progresses and it may be unavailable when you decide you want a flu shot.
I typically have my flu shot the first week of October. Two years ago the flu affected great numbers of people and the strain was a bit different than what was expected. In January my doctor suggested a second flu shot of the new serum that had been produced for the prevalent strain. I got the second shot, no flu. Three attorneys in my office all in their 40s laughed at the idea of a second shot, all three got the flu.@Klugeryid
I wasn’t talking about small town CT. I said I had driven in Saturday night so as to visit the family cemeteries on Sunday. I was in my CT registered car with the flashing blue lights and siren and plates that say Vol Fire and EMT.
I don’t have a NY registered car.
If I was ticketed in an emergency run to the ER. I’d deal with the ticket in court. I am admitted to practice in NY.
I read the post very carefully, as I read contracts. So much for all your words about R”H being around the corner, you were quick to sling insults and barbs.@Klugeryid
any sane person……
I resent your implication that I am insane.
You know I live full time in small town CT.
We are a town of volunteers. I and my adult children have all been EMT certified and have volunteered in our town’s EMS. The males all belong to the volunteer fire companies. As such our vehicles do have the flashing blue lights and available sirens.
I have made many a hospital run over the years transporting neighbors and family. I would decide whether to call a private service as you suggest, 911 or self transport based on the situation.BTW, if I was busy attending to a stricken person while waiting for EMT or ambulance the last thing i want to deal with is an inconsiderate trespasser parked in my driveway for his convenience.
@Meno
Our CT home is more than 45 Miles from a wedding hall. However, we own a couple of houses in Brooklyn that had been in the family. Too many neighbors thought they could take advantage of our mostly not being in residence to park in our driveway. One of the family would arrive in Brooklyn for a Shabbos or simcha and find our driveway occupied. So, the gates went up, along with warning signs not to block the driveway by parking in front of the curb cut on the street.
I am in Brooklyn now, having driven in last night so I could make the cemetery rounds this morning. Glad to be able to have just hit the remote and open the gates, as there was no parking on the block. As long as I am paying the taxes and maintaining the property its use is restricted to my family and invited guests. That stranger lingering in the driveway is just a inconsiderate trespasser.BTW>>>>in an emergency every second counts, imagine getting into your car in the garage to rush a family member to the ER and find someone parked in your driveway for their convenience…sheer chutzpah.
We have gates on our driveways. No stranger can pull in and park/stand there.
Probate Court in Connecticut, filing adoption and name change papers for a client. Court was suspended when the news came over the Judicial Marshal’s radio and the building ordered evacuated and closed.
The judge handed the baby to me and asked that Mrs. CTL and I assume temporary guardianship until government might return to normal. The adoptive parents were heartbroken, but after 10 days we were able to complete the adoption.No,
I get my flu shot the first week of October. My insurance company won’t pay if less than 365 days since last year’s flu shot.Some people replace them as soon as new models come out, others don’t.
I need a smartphone for business purposes. I avoided getting one as long as possible.
This month will be six years since the iPhone 5S came out. It cost me $100 from Verizon and a year’s extension of my contract.
On 09/20 I will have been using it SIX years. I see no reason to replace it. I don’t need more storage capacity. I have no music on it. I take pictures for business purposes and as soon as I send them to my computer and know they are saved there, I delete them from the phone.
I have never broken a phone so I can’t speak to repair vs. replacement.My kids laugh at me for using an older model. There is a drawer in the office with their discarded iPhones: 6s, 6Splus, 7, 8 10, etc, etc. Maybe the grandchildren will use them someday. Mrs. CTL still uses a flip phone. She keeps it in the car for emergency use only, never brings it into the house.