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Me, since 1960
Has given me countless hours of pleasure and education, and much profit over the decades.
I bought my first house with the profitable sale of coins from my collection back in the mid 1970s.90% of civil disputes are resolved without a trial. This includes arbitration. Most Americans don’t realize how often they waive their right to a trial and have agreed to binding arbitration with banks, retailers, etc. Read your credit card agreements and you will find you can’t go to court. Most people agree to terms of use on the internet without ever reading the terms.
Many of the 10% that go to trial are resolved before a verdict is rendered.Most attorneys never litigate a case. In the British legal system there are Solicitors who do the bulk of legal work and Barristers who only appear in court hired by the solicitors.
The shul I grew up in had the custom that hats were not worn in davening, only yarmulkes. Some members who wore caps all day at work would arrive in shul, remove their caps, don a yarmulke from the box and daven. After davening they’d reverse the process.
@Avi
A lawyers job is to advocate for the interests of the client to the best of the lawyer’s ability. It is NOT against the Code of Ethics top enter a not-guilty plea for a client the lawyer “knows’ to be guilty. The attorney cannot allow that client to take the stand and testify falsely. If the client insists on taking the stand, the lawyer is obligated to meet with the judge and prosecutor in chambers and say that he is opposed to the client testifying and expects it will not be truthful.
Because the standard of criminal doubt is beyond a reasonable doubt, a lawyer with a ‘guilty’ client who pleads not guilty may present alternative theories of the crime which raise doubt.Here in OOT America a Beis Din usually has to be brought in from the big city at a great expense and non-frum people are not interested. Unlike in Israel, judge here refer to secular mediation venues.
@chabadgal
I am old enough and wise enough to avoid being baited.
This thread was started by Joseph ion what appears to be a troll mode.
When the Shakespeare quote was posted, my decision was reinforced.As I have posted in the past:
I don’t practice criminal law
The vast majority of my clients are not Jewish
I insist Jewish Divorce clients go through the Get process.
In CT, the family court judges will (not must) include the requirements of obtaining a Get and who pays for it in the civil divorce decree. I achieved this about 20 years ago.I encourage Jews seeking to sue a Jew to use the services of a Beis Din, but the few Jews I represent are usually not frum and that idea means nothing to them.
The typical Jew I represent is dealing with Probate Court (Surrogate’s Court for you NYers)>wills, adoptions, name changes, not suing other people.As others have said there is much work a Jewish lawyer can do without violating halacha. We have to pick and choose what we do, as in any other profession.
@uncleBen
I spend less than 30 minutes per day on the CR
Usually while on placed on hold during a telephone call
This is actually the case as I type. It’s 6:21 AM here in CT I’m on hold with a client’s bank in Europe, where they are seeking confirmation of some transactions.@UncleBen
B”H I’m quite healthy. Coffee has a calming effect on me, not a stimulant. I have a mug before bed each night to relax me and I sleep a deep and comfortable sleep.
My parents also slept only 4 hours per night and neither one drank coffee@DovidBT
Eating coffee grounds stains the teeth.Here in the country they go in the compost pile and areused in next year’s vegetable patch@Reb Yidd23
Was the brewing system comment directed at me?If so, most of the time I use a French Press, otherwise a stove top percolator.
I do not care for most drip brew systems……………………………..
No reason to reinvent the wheel…I’m a Lawyer not an engineerFor large crowds, we use 60 cup Farberware samovar style urns.
Lightbrite…………..
I am awake (up dressed, out of bed) 20 hours a day.
I drink about 8 cups of coffee each day
I drink about one gallon of spring water each day as well
6 ounces juice with breakfast
maybe 8 ounces of milk in any given week
Ice Tea in the summer
Hot tea only for a cold or sore throatI must disagree with the premise of home made wine being superior to purchased wine.
I love a good Red.
1961 was a great year (vintage). My father laid down quite a few cases. ( I was far too young to have made my own in that year) we drank some at our daughter’s chasunah this summer.As for coffee, I do buy already brewed outside the house. In the house we roast and grind our own beans. Since I drink about 8 cups a day it’s worth the effort for great coffee
If cooking steaks, chops or burgers on the outdoor grill a sprinkling of salt on both sides will help develop a wonderful crust. This keeps the meat juicy at high heat.
The only time I salt meat before cooking indoors is if I’m making hamburgers in a cast iron pan. It would have to be a blizzard or hurricane for me not to be grilling them outdoors.@akuperma
I understand the British legal system that existed in the colonies.
Your post did not refer to that but the ‘original language of the Constitution in 1775’ which is why I called you out.
I know all about the Articles of Confederation and other documents that predated the Constitution. They contained no 2nd Amendment.There were Jews in New Haven Colony….my birth town from the 1600s, the same in the Colony of New York.
No Colony was owned by a Quaker. The Colonies were owned by the Crown, Charters were issued to individuals, such as the Quaker in PA.,I grew up in New Haven. Back in the 1950s and early 60s each house had a concrete liner in the ground with a removable waste pail for food garbage (it had a step on lid to open). The city put contract out to bid with pig farmers who bought and collected the food waste weekly.
By the mid 1960s most homes had garbage disposals so the program was discontinued….no farmers bid as the amount of waste had fallen to far to make collection economically feasible.My current town collects leaves in the fall. Yard waste cannot be left for the garbagemen, either mulch it back into the lawn or bag it and take it to the transfer station yourself
@Lightbrite
Sideboards, Buffets, Servers, Consoles are made to stand against a wall and unfinished on the rear. They do not have storage above the counter level (usually not taller than 41″
A wall unit is not finished on the rear and is placed back to the wall,
An Etagere is finished on all sides and is often used freestanding as a room dividerIn addition to sofa, couch and Chesterfield, is Divan and Chaise Longue (long, not lounge).
Shorter couches (2 places) may be called Settees or Love Seats@akuperma
‘the original language back in 1775’ You need a course in Constitutional Law…I’ll be teaching one this coming spring semester.REALLY?????????????
The Constitution was not drafted until 1787 and ratified by 1789. The Bill of Rights (Amendments 1-10) date from 1791.
Certainly, the Quakers of Pennsylvania did NOT belong to the State Church and support the King of England, the titular head of the church.@iacisrmma
As an attorney I tend to read and analyze carefully. The use of the term ‘whole switch’ was a giveaway that subterfuge was employed to cheat the airline. Had the poster written that he asked a friend with a lightweight carry on to carry a few seforim there would not have been criminal intent.Someone who thinks he/she is superior or has greater rights than non-Caucasians because he/she is Caucasian
@iacisrrma
#1>>>if you are the ticket holder and redistribute weight between your own bags so each is within the allowable limit there is no problem
#2>>>if you are a ticket holder and you have some extra weight/space and you allow a friend to place some weight in your bag (and receive no compensation) you probably have no problem in terms of cheating the airline out of revenue. You may have security issues when asked if anyone gave you something to carry /ship or if everything in you bag belongs to you
BUT
#3 >>>If you are a ticket holder and know you are overweight on your carry on, so you do “a whole switch with my friends carry on so they wouldn’t charge me for being overweight” you’d be stealing. This infers that the traveler falsely had the friends legal weight carry on handed to airport personnel for weighing while the friend held onto the overweight bag, then exchanged bags and took the never weighed, overweight bag on the plane.
This is no different than having a friend hold some of your belongings, having your carry on weighed on check-in, then going back to the friend, retrieving your belongings and stuffing the bags with un-weighed goods. That’s stealing.You learned for 3 years in Yeshiva and brag about cheating the airline of its overweight charges by switching bags with your friends.
That’s pure G’nava
My parents left Brooklyn more than 65 years ago to own a business, a house and raise their children in a Connecticut city.
They did NOT move to the suburbs.
The poster writing about Cleveland is not writing about moving to a suburb of the city with the ghetto. Waterbury, Rochester, etc. are not suburbs.
These are all cities that have had orthodox communities for decades, dating back to the 1800s. Young families are encouraged to repopulate these communities and make use of the infrastructure that exists and was paid for by earlier generations.
My parents raised their children in Connecticut, we raised our children and they are raising their grandchildren. Day schools, yeshivos, mikvaos, cemeteries and shuls exist. The buildings are long paid for. It is much better to repopulate the neighborhoods that suffered white flight in the 1960s and 70s and the decreasing birth rate among non-frum American Jews than turn these buildings into ‘Black’ churches or charter schools.Rav Miller’s words were very specific and they applied to direct suburbs of the large city frum ghetto, they should not be extended to cities that have had long standing orthodox communities and institutions.
@Joseph
Why would someone cut off a car instead of passing/overtaking it?
#1 Lazy/ignorant/self entitled driver
#2 Realize you need to be in the right lane soon to exit…you are in a lane to the left, since you won’t be retirning to that lane it isn’t passing/overtaling
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People who speed up to prevent your changing lanes are disgusting@Joseph
Passing or overtaking a car>>>you are driving behind that car in the same lane. You signal a left lane change and move into the left lane, gain enough speed to get ahead of that car to the point it is visible in your inside rear view mirror. Signal right, switch back to original lane and resume driving at safe speed.Cutting off a car, you change lanes quickly to get in front of a car in the other lane and continue driving in that new lane,
@Golfer
The Chesterfield Sofa was originally designed in the mid 18th century. It has rolled back the same height as its rolled arms and is usually button tufted.
The main section of the CTL home was built in 1803 and has many period appropriate pieces. Our 2nd floor has only 7 foot ceilings. There is a Chesterfield in the sitting room. A high back sofa would be out of scale.BTW>>>>I also own a Chesterfield Coat for winter dress wear.
We don’t keep Silver in the credenza…it’s in the foyer and holds gloves in the top drawers, and attaches, brief and mah jongg cases in the lower cabinets. Silver is in the breakfront and butler’s pantry.
Credenza
Sideboard a/k/a Buffet
Breakfront a/k/a China Cabinet a/k/a Hutch
Sofa a/k/a Couch a/a Chesterfield
Etagere a/k/a Room Divider a/k/a wall unitThe fancier the name the higher the price
Originally, these words meant different things: e/g/ A Breakfront has drawers and/or cabinets below and glass fronted doors to shelves above. The lines of the front are broken…the center section may protrude several inches further from the wall from the side sections. A china cabinet will be all the same depth and usually only one (or one set) of doors. A hutch will be open shelving on top. But today they are used interchangeably.
Mrs. CTL is a designer. I have education by osmosis
Nicotine ADDICTION…………….
Smoking is not a habit, but an addiction. It takes a serious commitment and medical and psychological help/support to beat the addiction over a long period of time@Meno
Nowhere in my post did I say it is legal to drive above the posted speed limit. Please don’t put words in my mouth and then state I said something was legal.Many states have a ‘fair and reasonable’ doctrine that can be used in defense of a traffic ticket. For example:
‘Your honor, there day was sunny and clear. There was little traffic, tghe car ahead of me in the right hand lane was only going 55 in a 65MPH posted zone. I accelerated in the left lane to 68 MPH to overtake the slow car, returned to the right hand lane and resumed a speed of 64MPH.’Police radar guns clock a diriver at an instant in time, there is no recording of how long you exceeded the speed limit to decide whether or not to issue a citation.
Joseph…………….
It is illegal to drive in the left lane of a multi-lane highway in CT at the posted speed limit or any speed for any appreciable distance or length of time. The left lane is a passing lane, It is to be used for overtaking slower cars in the right lanes, after you have passed the slow car you should be returning to the right hand or middle lanes for driving,@Joseph
Big cities have a much greater mix of people than small towns. It has been common for many years to see interracial couples on the streets of NY and no one pays attention. In small towns it is unusual and people gawk.@LeibGershon
Thanks for your reply.
Our daughter is 100% Han
There were more than a few like her in her schools over the years.BUT, you have presented a whole new scenario. Most who read the original post assumed 1/2 Black, 1/2 white. That’s why I asked the questions.
Your child will have more issues than a 1/2 white child. The small percentage of white in the DNA is of interest to you, but won’t matter to those meeting and interacting with your child…initial reactions are based on what meets the eyes.Big city society is far more accepting than small town society of interracial people. European society much more accepting than Americans.
Mammele………………..
Kohl is the German word for cabbage
Kraut refers to the outer leaves and stems. These less than prime parts of the cabbage were often shredded and pickled for winter use, or made into Krautsalat (Cole Slaw) in the summer months.My Oma and her mother (who I also remember) were born in NYC in the 1800s. They learned their speech before America was ever at war with Germany and I don’t believe their choice of words had anything to do with anti-German Soldier slang. During WWI in the US sauerkraut was called Liberty Cabbage.
My mother’ side of the family came here from Bavaria in the mid 1860s. They spoke High German. That language had less influence with the slavic tongues that the low German of the north. Northern Germany was a great transit route for millions of Jews leaving Poland and the Pale of Settlement on the way to America via the port of Hamburg. They often spent years in transit and earning their fares and had quite an influence on the languages (both Low German and Yiddish).
I am confused…………………..
LeibGershon and wife are converts
Wife is Chinese…………………………………..
Is LeibGershon White or Black?
Is the Child 1/2 Caucasian and 1/2 Chinese or 1/2 Black and 1/2 Chinese?
I use the term ‘Black’ not African-American as I don’t know that the family is in the US.Mrs. CTL and I have a daughter adopted at birth in China. She was raised frum, went to day school OOT then Sem, then college and Law school (family tradition). Married a white male who was educated in the Yeshiva system then college/law school…marriage to our daughter and part of family firm.
No problem being accepted.@lightbrite
Mancaves for frum Jews are a modern thing………….BECAUSE
It is only in recent times that Frum Jews had homes large enough to have space for a Mancave.I was born OOT and my parents had left apartment dwelling in NYC for a large house in Connecticut. My father,A”H, like most of our neighbors , had the forerunner of the Mancave>>>>>>a basement workshop, where he could spend hours using carpentry and electrical tools building/repairing things for the family. There was no TV, Microwave, Couch or recliner, but an old club chair, an AM radio to listen to the Yankees or Dodgers baseball game and an ancient refrigerator with bottles of soda.
I still have assorted bookcases and tables he built in that woodshop, teaching skills to his sons. No female member of the family ever entered this refuge
In our home it was at whatever minyan he accompanied his father to……………….
Then he went off to work with the father.
Time off from Yeshiva allowed time to learn the family craft@huju
apology accepted.
I am of the generation where I usually heard cleaning help referred to as ‘the girl’ and find that reprehensible, even worse ‘goyta.’
My parents (and by extension myself and siblings) always paid a good wage to the cleaning personnel. After all,if they are to be trusted to clean in an environment with valuables (silver, flatware, jewelry) they should never feel a need or temptation to supplement a too meager salary.@Mrs. Plony
Prakas comes from the Turkish language. It entered both Ladino and Yiddish language. For Ashkenazim it entered the Yiddish of southern Poland, Bessarabia, etc.
In the eastern US it was the prevalent term in Philadelphia (where I attended college more than 45 years ago) and also was well known in Baltimore. Perhaps their early non-German Jewish settlers were from Bessarabia and southern Poland and the tern was established there.@Huju
I wrote one of those first 19 post and displayed no hostility towards cleaning people.
I wrote of dismissing a cleaning person who cleaned around things instead of lifting and cleaning the entire surface (after be told and warned that it was a requirement).I was paying $30 per hour for the cleaning person and we supply all equipment and supplies. $240 for an 8 hour day with a coffee break and paid lunch is not low wages for a job that requires no formal education.
We had no problem hiring a new person at those rates and conditions. I the past 12 years we have had 3 cleaning ladies. One left to get married and raise her children. One retired when she reached 65. The one who was dismissed had been with us about a year. Through the local grapevine we have found out that 3 other households had let her go because her work quality went down.
Lightbrite
I learned about guns in summer camp
We had a head counselor who spent WWII in the Polish woods fighting with the partisans against the Germans. He felt it was important that all Jews know how to defend themselves.I haven’t touched a gun in almost 50 years and that’s fine with me.
My eldest sisters in-laws grew up in the Yishuv during the 1930s. They both were in the Haganah and taught their sons how to shoot and care for guns.
Maybe the single males you know wouldn’t know if a woman got a professional manicure, but if a male grew up in a household where the women were fashionistas , his mother/sisters got their nails done every week he’d notice.
Certainly my sons and grandsons would notice how lovely a girls hands were and that the nails were nicely shaped and painted evenly.Single women may do their hair for every day life such as school/seminary or work, but for special occasions, and meeting a potential husband should be special, a trip to the hairdresser for a special style may be in order.
My two youngest daughters were married 14 months apart. They are the same size and often shared clothing. They never shared jewelry and never borrowed. From the time they became B’nos Mitzvah they received jewelry as gifts from family members for Birthdays, graduations, etc. Occasionally, they might buy a piece for themselves.
As for your theory that a girl could wear the same outfit for every first date, you never lived in a dorm. No girl wants to kidded by her dorm-mates observing: ‘Soraleh is going on a date, she’s got in her Black Calvin Klein and the Beverly Feldman Pumps, again.’
Interesting choice of words, as Gefilte is not Yiddish for stuffed/filled, the actual word is: אָנגעפילט
Similarly Cabbage in Yiddish is קרויט (kroyt)….
With a matrilinear line that is German, cabbage to us is Kohl, not Kraut. Oma referred to stuffed cabbage
gefüllt kohl.
The Polish cleaning lady ate nadziewana kapusta, also known as golumpkis (cabbage rolls).
In Russian it was known as Фаршированная капуста (Farshirovannaya kapusta)
In every Hungarian it is: töltött káposzta the same Slavic root word. Yserbius123 claims Cholopshis as Hungarian, but is a term used by Hungarian Jews, not the name for the dish in the Hungarian language.
Mrs. CTL’s step-father was Hungarian and his family was in the food business. They did not use the term
cholopshis. He said he never encountered it in America until the refugees/survivors started to arrive after WWII and the 1956 uprising. We live near Bridgeport, which had the largest Hungarian ethnic community outside Hungary (Jews and non-Jews), there are still Hungarian food markets and they use the kaposzta label for cabbage rolls,Not matter what name you use, it’s a winter dish I love, especially when kept warm on the blech for Shabbos lunch, I much prefer it to cholent.
When the work done doesn’t meet your standards and you have already explained and given warnings, it’s time for the cleaning person to go.
We recently let go a cleaning person because both Mrs. CTL and I were home on 3 days that she came to clean. We found she was cleaning around things, without lifting/moving them. This was unacceptable to us. We don’t pay $30 per hour for someone to ‘neaten’ when she should be cleaning.
@Chabad 770
“We speak the real old Yiddish from back in Russia not with any English”My Oma would laugh at you ‘peasants from the east’ and how you butchered the German language.
Yiddish didn’t start in Russia, it developed as it moved out of Germany (Ashkenaz).
I went to a Chabad Day School, and still have plenty of interaction with Chabad in a number of cities…they’re more than happy to take this misnagid’s checks. There is plenty of English in their spoken Yiddish. They didn’t have computers, cell phones, automobiles, radio back in the pale of Settlement and words for these items were added from English.@Meno
Even if the Mikvah wasn’t used most of the year, the expenses I listed would exist.
An organization would not dare operate without insurance, both liability for slips and falls, etc. and casualty….fire, theft, a tree crashes through the roof, etc.
Towels need to be purchased and cleaned, soap, shampoo, etc is needed.
Especially if not used regularly, deep cleaning is required. Have you ever opened up a bungalow or winter vacation home after a long absence? Dust, dirt and dead inssacts will be there, no matter how well you cleaned before leaving,
Utilities>>>you still need water, maybe air conditioning, a heat source for water and building, electric lights, etc. Here in New England, you must heat to a minimum of 50 degrees F in the winter or risk freeze damage to the water system
Payroll….who cleans and fixes for free?
Upkeep? it will need painting every so many years, grout needs cleaning, rubber flappers in the toilets need replacingTo the best of my knowledge I don’t know CT Rebbe…………………
Pricing is based on 2 things: supply/demand and opportunity to raise funds. You might ask why a Kallah is charged 3 or 4 times the regular rate before her wedding compared to what she’ll pay afterwards.
BTW>>>>OOT most communities have only 1 or 2 mikvaos. In our area there are set fees for women, but just a place to leave a donation for men.
@Meno
Assuming the building is paid for…ongoing expenses:
Utilities>>>water, electricity, gas, oil
Insurance……lots of possibilities of slip and fall accidents in a Mikvah (we tile, steps).
Cleaning>>>>>the showers must be cleaned, bleached regularly, floors swept, etc.
Supplies>>>soap, shampoo, towels, toilet paper
Upkeep on rotation>>>painting
Alarm system and monitoring
Telephone
SalariesHe needs education……………
Real wicker furniture (not the imitation garbage) belongs on the porch, in the yard or around the pool. It can be cleaned by hosing it off and goodbye dust.
It is not appropriate for indoor use, just as bubbe’s velvet love seat with the silk tassels doesn’t belong in the yard….unless waiting for bulk pickup day