Ex-CTLawyer

@ToShma
Now you claim to have been quoting something, BUT I. The topic and your actual post no quotation marks exist.
I have no idea if it is in fact a quote or your summation of something I read.
Your posted topic is where you lay Shane in every Democrat and does not have the source listed. Your post has the source but does not lay shame.
My taking you to task has to do with your topic

@AAQ
No, prices don’t need to be controlled because some people want what is above their means.
People need to live within their means.

In the 1950s, my eldest brother had an over the top three day Bar Mitzvah celebration on a public holiday weekend. In many ways it was a celebration of my father’s business success not my brother.
It was soon followed by business reverses for my father, and my Bar Mitzvah consisted of a kiddish and luncheon for about 100 guests in the synagogue social hall. No night affair, no orchestra. I wasn’t scarred emotionally. It was what my parents could afford at the time without going into debt.

Every time we spend money we make choices and live with the consequences. If in fact the parents and chatan are working, as you post, and can’t afford to make the chasunah then instead of controlling prices we should examine their ability to earn, low salaries or perhaps their spending history that makes them unable to afford the prices.

You are a fool!
The vote of some 200 m Myers of the Democrat Party in no way causes you to put shame on every registered Democrat in the country. None of us elected more than one member of the House of Representatives.
I detest the Congresswoman but her constituents are entitled to representation and all powers of committee assignments that go with her seniority.
I also detest M Taylor Nazi Greene but her committee assignments and power are the right of her constituents.

Don’t like these members of the House? Donate and campaign for their opponents

@UJM
All of my siblings and I were married in the social halls of our synagogues. That was the standard OOT for baby boomers. In fact most shul Rabbis refused to officiate at the Chasunah (or a Bar Mitzvah) unless the Seurat Mitzvah was held in the synagogue. That way the Katy’s was under the rabbi’s control. Often there was only one caterer in town.
Of the 5 of us siblings, two had the social hall downstairs, three had the social hall on the main floor.
Nothing wrong with a simcha in a shul.
My parents were married during WWII in NYC. Guests had to send their ration points with RSVP cards so the caterer could get the foodstuffs. No shmorg or uninvited guests during wartime rationing.

@Rocky
Telling your child that these are our values does not mean they have to suffer. If they have been brought up to live within means it is not suffering. They have no false expectations.
I could afford to make the most lavish resort or hotel based Chasunos for our children but it wasn’t our values and they did not suffer by having affairs scaled to our values.
I think each would rather have the thrush’s they received than memories of one outlandish overpriced evening with hundreds of guests they did not even know,

In addition to the funding Amil Zola mentioned above ur town’s libraries have been recipients of trust funds bequeathed to them specifically for the purchase of books requested by residents. These purchases are not funded by the taxpayers and not subject to the far right’s attempt to censor.
Before you think it is only left wing and LGBTQ and smut that is being purchased and put on the shelf, they have purchased many a. artscroll publication at my request.
Requests for purchases by residents are honored each year until the years Trudy income had been spent. Usually lasts about 10 months each year

@UJM
It is only in areas of large frum Jewish population that all these distinction matter so much.
In small town America making sure you have a regular minyan of frum Jews is enough and the right/left Hasidic/misnagid/Israeli divisions cease to function within the shul walls.
This week, the shul where I attend daily minyanim (in the next town), moved minyan to the home of a member sitting shiva. He and his sons Yeshivish Litvak, 4 Israelis, 3 Hasidism and a number of us senior citizens who are EuroTraditional. Each there for the purpose of having the community make sure there was a minyan three times each day.
In the shul, there are a half dozen varieties of siddurim that serve assorted traditions, but whoever is shsliach tzibur davens from the official shul suddur. Harmony ensures survival, we avoid the narishkeit of labeling Jews

@UJM
A unanimous jury is not required in all cases.
In some jurisdictions and types of cases 10/12 may render a decision. This usually is in civil damages cases, not criminal cases that have possible prison consequences if the defendant is found guilty.

@Akuperma
The judge cannot lose on appeal.
The judge will not be a party to the action.
The appeal, if filed, will be DJT and Habba v. USA seeking the fine be dismissed.

Please stop posting inaccurate legal observations and stick to your field of expertise.

@DaMoshe
I agree with your post. Many in the CR have blinders in and suffer in-town myopia.
At almost 70 years of age, I don’t a black hat or a black suit. As I posted a long time ago: the first time I appeared in court as a young attorney, an esteemed judge took me aside and advised, in this business only the judge wears black. My suits and hats are midnight blue or darkest charcoal.
This does not make me less frum. I don’t feel out of place at a Yeshivish minyan or the annual Agudah Dinner. To be perfectly frank , they don’t care about the color of my suit or the color of my checks.

@lakewhut
Since you were not specific about which community standards are being violated, I replied with something I am familiar with.
There are communities of Jews who have set dollar limits on simchas which limits families to cookie cutter packages at a few halls. That’s a standard I don’t agree with.
I would never tolerate a family member misbehaving in Yeshiva and being excused because Zaidy writes a big check every year.

To be blunt, organizations can not afford to blacklist or denigrate their benefactors.
Sometimes putting on a lavish affair is not a matter of showing off or going above community standards, but a means of employing many more waiters, bartenders, cooks, florists, musicians, photographers and rental company employees than the proscribed affair.

@Yserbius
It is not about affording Dental Insurance, but the fact that most dental insurance is not that good, pays little and has annual caps and exclusions.
Our dentists have told us not to buy the insurance, but bank the amount of the premiums each year to have towards major work when needed.
I have a Medicare Advantage plan. It added some minimal dental coverage last year. I was entitled to two cleanings and one set of Byte Wing Xrays for the calendar year. Not worth much to me.
The Dental addon plans I was offered, would not pay for implants, and had a yearly max payout of $2000, which doesn’t cover a root canal and post without a permanent crown in my area.
My trip for dental tourism is not on a whim, but well researched and thought out. This is not in response to a dental emergency, but something that could be postponed until convenient and affordable.

The secretary of Transportation does not run the day to day operations of the FAA.
There are thousands of civil servants employed in the agency and they run the computers

@Coffee Addict it is Joseph’s daughter who has spent so much time in our home.
If it was Mrs. CTL’s grandmother who was born in Budapest it makes my son(s) UJM’s lantzman (same with my first cousins) not me.
My maternal side is German from Bavaria, my paternal side Litvak from the Pale, all arriving in NY through Castle Garden more than 150 years ago.
The biggest feat is that the family extends to the 7th generation born in America and still frum.

@Gadolhadorah
I have never posted a recipe for sweet fish or anything else sweet.
I don’t like chocolate, ice cream or candy, give me the salty, crunchy snacks

@UJM
Mrs. CTL’s paternal grandmother was born in Budapest. An aunt of mine (by marriage) was also born there. Both made it to CT in 1938.
The first extended visit I made to Budapest 40 years ago
was with my aunt pursuing property claims.

@Always
You ascribe authority to the police they do not have. They make apprehensions, the magistrate or arraignment judge decides to hold or release. The DA, States Attorney or Grand Jury indicts on specific charges.

Here in CT we don’t have DAs, our Stated Attorneys are appointed employees not elected politicians and we don’t use a grand jury system to indict. Much smoother, less political system than New York. We also still set cash bail got most who are arrested

@AAQ
The CT court system helped facilitate WFH by requiring all filings do be done electronically. No more trips to the courthouse to file papers.
Many court proceedings are still being held via Zoom. This saves clients loads of money. I typically bill $250 more per hours for court appearances (plus travel time) than my standard rate. Much of the day in court is wasted waiting for cases to be called, judges interrupted for motions, 90 minute lunch breaks when I can’t do other billable work, so the client pays a full day and I don’t do a full day’s work for the client, but have to be available as the judge’s clerk schedules.
With Zoom, I can do billable work, until I hear the clerk call the case, there is no travel time to be paid by the client, no gas, parking, etc. I don’t take 90 minutes to eat, so i have another hour to work and bill another client. The first client is not stuck paying for a full day.

We have used WFH for decades, as long as an office staff member is in the office during opening hours, the attorneys can come and go as appointments and meetings warrant. We do not have walk in trade.
During Mrs. CTL’s long illness I did 90% of my work from my home office. I have a separate outside entrance and a few select clients could see me in person if necessary without me being unavailable for her needs.
My daughters who work for the firm, loved being able to work from home when my grandchildren were very young and I extended that workstyle to non-family employees as well. each clerical worker chooses one half day per week to be in the office and file. Phones are often transferred to ring off premises at the office manager’s or receptionist’s home office.
If I didn’t own our offices, I would downsize the firm’s space, but owning a fully paid and depreciated building means it is a prudent decision to remain.

@akuperma
This is one of the rare times I agree with what you post.
My late FIL Z”L was an officer in the British Police during the mandate, transitioning to the Mishtara upon independence.
We discussed this topic many times.
Most westerners just don’t understand that European colonial rulers drew maps and established countries where none had existed. A line in a map cannot unite tribes into a country.
In countless countries we have seen decades of civil war and genocide after independence.

I laugh at the mention of Pakistan and Bengladesh above. Lumping two territories separated by thousands of kilometers into one country because they were to be a homeland for Muslims was a joke.

@UJM

Don’t give up your day job
You have officially failed Constitutional Law
Try READING the 25th Amendment which lays out the procedure for filling a vacancy in the VP office. The President nominates a VP and the nomination must be approved by the House and the Senate.

This is different that Presidential appointments of Judges and Ambassadors which are confirmed solely by the Senate.

I have taught Constitutional Law over the years as an adjunct professor. You get an F.

@Akuperma
Your scenario is only applicable if the President and VP die virtually simultaneously.
Otherwise, once VP sworn in as President, nominates a new VP to be approved by both houses of Congress.

Right now, the House has no members, so it can’t happen, but it can if there occurred a vacancy in the Speaker’s position during a session when members have been sworn in.

Cold not coke… autocorrect

@commonSaychel
Thank you,
I have been reading since shloshim for Mrs. CTL ended, but there has been little to actually comment upon.
I have long made known my resistance to excess in entertaining costs, etc. Especially by those who go into debt to do so.
This morning in shul, one of the regulars had yahrzeit for his father. After davening and the Rav’s daily vort, he put a bottle on his table, with some plastic shot glasses, opened a package of cookies and we regulars all had a drink and a cookie in his father’s memory/honor. No fish, breads, cheeses, cakes, caterer, etc. We acknowledged the occasion and went on with our day.
This was just as meaningful as a lavish sit down breakfast, shared with the regulars who attend day in/day out, not those who find out there will be a spread and show up.

I would not buy anything Trump is selling (or sold) which is why I did not vote for him.

I am not a not a Republican, neither is Trump. He is chair of the Trump first party: All for One and Trump for none.

@yungerman
Wishing someone dead and buried is inappropriate.
As for your false accusations of voting from the grave, those abuses stopped decades ago.
As a local elections official, I can say that the only votes arriving from dead people and counted were absentee ballots filled out signed and mailed before death. I know this because Mrs. CTL voted in a primary absentee and died and wax buried before the votes were counted. Absentee ballots in CT are sent out 30 days before the election by law. These votes from the grave are not fraud

@Avira
I did not mention money or wealth in my comment.
The CTL compound came into existence out of necessity. Living OOT in a small town, building homes on land carved from our initial larger parcel allowed us to have a minyan in walking distance, a private eruv and a safe haven for our children and grandchildren each summer. It cost substantially less than housing and camp costs in NYC and its suburbs.
I have repeatedly talked about doing much of the building ourselves, and still do lots of the tasks. We had 3.5 inches of snow last night and I was out with a shovel clearing the walks and driveway so I could go to minyan in time for 6:30 davening today. I wasn’t waiting on a plow service to arrive.

As for what do we do besides give charity. Lots of volunteering in both the Jewish and community world. My daughters and granddaughters did their stints babysitting at shul and setting up the weekly kiddush and Oneg Shabbos. They also helped Mrs. CTL OBM cook many a shul dinner and deliver shiva meals. Our sons have taught afternoon Civics ad History classes (at no charge) in the local day school.
For twenty-five years, I have run three times a year Blood drives for the American Red Cross. They are the only organization allowed to collect blood in Connecticut (you can’t go to a hospital and donate) AND, Connecticut is the ONLY state in the USA where blood is free for those who need it. Mrs. CTL needed 18 units in her final hospital stay and I am proud to have helped make sure ample blood supplies are available.

BUT>>>>>>>>>>>>what is wrong with donating money??????????????
Shuls, schools, hospitals need donations to keep operating. So do soup kitchens, food banks, etc. Both here and abroad, especially EY.
I am not a doctor, I can’t treat you when you enter a hospital, BUT that Xray machine in Laniado may be one that I paid for. The local Rosh Yeshiva who is having a hard time meeting payroll or utility bills is not shy to call and request money over and above my annual contribution and I am proud to be able to help. There is little I need personally at this stage of life. All of a lifetime’s earnings and investments and generational wealth could not keep Mrs. CTL alive. Only KBH determined when her time on earth was up.
What I can tell you is that with the exception of Yahrzeit placques you will never find the CTL name on anything that recognizes a contribution or donation.
My father Z”L and grandfather Z”L taught us that it is in very poor taste to let people know what you give and even worse to make someone feel embarrassed that they can not give a similar amount or at all.
I remember from the time I was a child that presents were never opened in public. If attending a birthday party, my mother would take us from the room if presents were opened in front of others.

I don’t owe you an explanation, but your attack called for a reply