Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
I don’t doubt your good intentions (and I’ll be honest, I have not read every post in this “fascinating” thread about whether black nail polish is tznius), but even if there is an absolute right or wrong in reading comprehension which can be applied here, you don’t have a monopoly on it.
And even if you do have superior RC skills, if others aren’t going by the rule book, you’re l’maaseh misunderstanding them.
Like whose brother? I thought you were asking about a yeshiva for your brother?
Then I’ll consider sending my kid.
My point had nothing to do with the moderator(s). It was that you can’t really expect anyone to roll over and accept your interpretation based on your claim that you scored nicely on some test. It comes across as haughty, and convinces nobody.
LU, I appreciate the compliment, but I think, ironically enough, that you missed my point.
I don’t disagree, but the counter theory is that the yeshiva guy is often (not always) in a better environment.
What if the rest of the CR is in the other 6%?
+1
I don’t know that guys who work part time have less internet access.
TLIK, sure there are fakers, but aren’t there erlich’e Yidden as well?
Aren’t we, as a whole, better off? Or are you so cynical that you think the vast majority of drum Yidden are fakers?
Yichusdik, my point isn’t statistics, and your quiting statistics is not very meaningful because there are so many factors which can skew the results.
My point is that living according to the Torah is the best possible way to have shalom bayis.
Do you agree?
Maybe it’s easier to fall into the problems because of technology
Maybe? Definitely!
Divorce rates are not only about marital harmony, they are also about societal pressure to stay married.
I would guess that in those societies with lower divorce rates, there is more stigma attached to divorce than in chareidi communities.
What happens if you think about using hot dogs? Is cholent like a korbon that improper thoughts ruin it?
I guess you don’t think that living according to the Torah gives us a healthier ability to relate to people than does living according to some other system, l’havdil.
I very strongly disagree.
WinnieThePooh, they can say the breakdown of who they treat, but they cannot say how that reflects on the overall percentages.
For example, if someone practices in Lakewood, they will likely see a higher percentage of kollel people than someone who practices in Teaneck and vice versa. There are non geographical factors that can skew it as well.
Please explain why people whose professions are to deal with problems have any more insight about the prevalence of the problem in terms of percentage than anyone else. Do they have statistical studies which we don’t?
I think the analogy is apt, and it is only natural that someone’s perception of how prevalent something is is colored by their experience even without objective evidence, whether the problems be emotional, physical, mental, or shalom bayis.
I would gladly want to believe that the Torah community fares better with shalom bayis. But the concept you cited of adhering to Daas Torah (altogether nebulous and vague) does not jive with the experiences of those who deal with the problems on a constant basis.
The relatively low percentage of sick people also doesn’t jive with the experiences of those who work in hospitals.
Two friends, Reuven and Shimon, were at a wedding, and the ceremony was about to to start. Reuven cut himself, but didn’t want to leave, so Shimon put his finger on the wound to control the bleeding.
Just then, they announced that Shimon should come up to be one of the two witnesses.
Of course, Reuven came with him.
When the rabbi saw them, he said Shimon was disqualified and they would need a substitute.
When Shimon asked him why, the rabbi replied, “because you’re a banned eid”.
It’s sometimes labeled “short ribs”.
Benignuman, I’m glad someone got it.
Christie would have been the best president ever, except for GWB.
Buchanan
Good thing you all reminded me. Thanks.
Then maybe it was something else.
Then maybe it was something else.
Does anyone remember when we start this year in chu”l?
Don’t forget that animal food is often chometz.
(Or was it something else you’re not supposed to forget?)
Don’t forget to make eruv tavshilin.
(Or was it something else you’re not supposed to forget?)
Well done.
ZD is right.
How does it come up?
Yes, but you need to do one of the above first. 😉
You can probably also log in to the main site, then back on the CR. That works for me and is slightly less annoying than deleting cookies.
Daas Torah: “When the Torah describes some people as beautiful, it has meaning. Obviously, there is objective beauty.”
good point. So I guess there is some objectivity involved, but I think there is also a lot of subjectivity.
Thank you for the compliment, but I am a daas yochid, not Daas Torah.
Yes, there is definitely also subjectivity. The gemara by eishes yefas toar says that v’choshakta bah refers a case where the soldier is attracted to a woman who is not beautiful.
So someone can be objectivity not beautiful, yet someone is attracted to her.
If you have emotional issues with relationships, you will have a much harder time getting married than you will with any or all of the mumim above.
+1
Or commitment issues.
beauty is subjective
When the Torah describes some people as beautiful, it has meaning. Obviously, there is objective beauty.
Leben and yogurt are basically the same. The main difference is cultural.
In any case, gedolim are not Hashem and can err.
But non gedolim cannot err, so we should always listen to them?
Why would someone quote a Pischei Teshuvah when it’s a Rema and a Shach?
The P”T refers to that Shach, but isn’t paskening the din. It’s in the first page I linked to.
Pischei Teshuva Yoreh Deah Sif Shin Tzadi Alef Sif Koton Ches
I think you mean Shach, based on Rema.
OCD can sometimes mask itself as meticulous religious observance, but sincere, legitimate meticulous religious observance does not make you OCD.
Twelb minus one.
Maybe he was discouraged when writing that post and sounded like he was ready to throw in the towel. Does that imply that the marriage is really not salvageable through mutual therapy?
He said that the two rabbis involved said he should give the get. You can imagine any scenario you want to, but I’m responding to what he wrote.
BTW, Lenny, according to the Jewish Press, a husband who refuses to give his wife a get deserves to be beaten up or thrown in jail. Just FYI.
Enough Divorces: Lenny wrote, “Set aside the question of whether I should come to my senses & just agree to write a Get.”
He agrees that the sensible thing to do is to write the get. I just don’t think that this point should be set aside, when it will be cruel to his wife.
Lilmod, sorry, this one isn’t a joking matter.
Lenny, there are indeed two sides to every story. The last two people to be objective are the two spouses. In fact, the saying goes: There are three sides to every story – his side, her side, and the truth.
Your question was about a situation where the marriage is non functional. A civil divorce has been given, and you are no longer living together.
Both your rabbi and now the rabbi whose advice you sought (“But in the next breath, the Rabbi said I should give her a Get anyway because wife is unhappy, unwilling to work on it and we’d both be better off.) are advising you to give a get.
Withholding the get at that point (I don’t know if you’re at that point yet) is simple cruelty. Don’t be a jerk – listen to the rabbis and give her a get when they tell you to.
So you’re asking if it’s technically a violation of halachah to be a total jerk?
If the liberal media wouldn’t focus on them, they would remain marginalized.
I can think of more important differences…
Ben Shapiro did not say good things about Bannon. He said that he just didn’t witness any anti-semitism from him.
Well, the issue being discussed is whether he’s an anti-Semite.
The fact that a Jew who worked under him, and hates him, still says he never saw any anti-Semitism, seems to me to be a pretty good indication that he isn’t.
The mainstream media is suddenly giving these people air time to advance it’s liberal agenda and discredit Trump, who has repeatedly disavowed them, and has the most openly pro-Israel stance of any president (elect) I can recall.
But the alt right claims he’s an anti-Semite, so it must be true.
Right, mw13?
(IMHO there’s nothing like listening to the Modzitz Kaddish & Shoshanas Yaakov. I’m sure you have your favorites too.)
I do have my favorites, including those.
Aside from his preserving Modzitzer nigunim for us and future generations, he composed many beautiful nigunim of his own, some of which are standards which some people are surprised to learn were composed after the war.
These include the famous Eishes Chayil, Mizmor L’Dovid, and Yosis Alayich.
Y’hi zichro baruch.
An emes’er aishes chayil; the aish is from her nose.