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For the past few nights it’s been like this:
Brush teeth, read books, say shema, turn on music and lie down next to the one making the most noise.
At 9:30 or so my wife wakes me up for maariv and when I come back I take the baby for a walk outside until he is out cold.
Then I come back home and go back to sleep.
eclipse-
eclipse-
It was nice meeting you.
Stop by every so often to let us know how you are doing.
You’re going to be in my prayers over Yom Kippur.
I hope you’re successful in all your endeavours.
SJSinNYC-
Like I said- some may not apply to you.
The instance I had in mind (I posted this on another thread once) was after a horrible date I just drove all the way down the belt until I had enough, turned around and came home. I felt the need to be by myself for a long time without telling anyone where I was going. My parents thought the date went great since I was out so long until my father notice the mileage on his car the next morning and I told him what happened.
I hope you’ll agree with me that a married person can’t just disappear for a few hours- without telling anyone- when they feel they need it. (You mentioned that you tell your husband and he understands.)
NEEDIDEAS-
Sorry to scare you, but yes it is scary.
There is allot that you don’t know about yourself yet (so how can you expect to know it about your spouse);
(some may not apply to you)
1) How you function on 2 hours sleep every night?
2) How you function under financial stress?
3) After being taught your whole life to avoid members of the opposite gender, you now have to be around one of them for the better part of every day, how will you relate to your spouse?
4) How will you relate to having another set of parents (your in-laws) who are not your biological parents?
5) Think about all the responsibilities you never had before – car insurance, health insurance, home owners insurance, rent/ mortgage… it can be very stressful handling them all.
6) As much as people think they know how to raise children- all kids are different and there are no instruction manuals. As much as you and your spouse talk and think you are on the same page before the next generation comes around- once they arrive you may have totally different views.
7) When I was single if I had a tough day, I just wanted to be left alone (go for a long drive or walk all by myself). You can’t do that when you’re married.
If I had to offer some advice- make sure there is nothing that is blinding you from seeing the other persons faults. Try imagining this persons personality with the face of someone you find unappealing (I tried it and it worked for me), see if you still like their personality.
And no, I don’t think it takes two to tangle, I think one is enough!
artchill-
One of my favorite lines that my wife quoted to me from her Kallah Class-
“Don’t ever brag to anyone else about your husband. If you do feel the need to brag about him- call your mother-in-law.”
It considers the dialogue box as one post. If you log out and the dialogue box goes away the count will go down.
The mother.
Why did he go by Joyce and not Alfred?
What was the first name of Joyce Kilmer?
SJSinNYC-
I go to the early minyan every morning but it doesn’t help, there are still ads and newspapers all over the place.
After that I still have to go to work to pay tuition. (Would you advocate free tuition for children of men who stay home because they don’t want to see any immodesty?)
apushatayid-
I agree- if they didn’t want people to do that they would send a unique code that only works once.
I can only try-
Instigator holds the black one, victim holds the red one. They touch the metal contacts together. BEEEEP.
It works just as well if either party has a pacemaker.
I can only try-
The repairs are long finished, I knew enough about voltmeters from high school to get the job done. I was just curious about the additional features.
(The problem was that the defrost heater was busted, a brand new one cost much less than the price of the technician walking through the front door!)
You may find this amusing-
The kids wanted to know how to use my “new toy” so I showed them how test batteries and outlets. By the continuity tester, I told them that it’s a love tester. If someone wants to know if they love someone else, they hold the red wire and the other person holds the black wire. If the voltmeter beeps when the ends are touched it means that he/ she loves the other person. It comes in handy when two of them have a disagreement and one says “I don’t like you anymore”. I tell them that it’s not true and make them take the “love” test. The results are always positive.
(It gets me nervous when they test to see if the baby loves them.)
I can only try-
Question for you-
I bought a Craftsman digital voltmeter so I could fix the refrigerator. It’s much more advanced than the one I used as a kid.
There are two wires (black and red) but three holes- grey, black and red. I’m curious to know what the grey one is used for. There is a warning on it- “10A For 30 sec. MAX every 15 min. FUSED”. I have no idea what it means but I’m nervous to experiment.
Can you shed any light?
coke-
If you find your spouse on your first try- congratulations.
If some crazy stories happen to you- keep in mind that you’ll appreciate your spouse much more when you do find the right one.
(And remember to come back here and share them with us.)
I can only try-
Thanks, I used to be very interested in Perfect Numbers when I was growing up. I still find it amazing how closely Perfect Numbers are related to Mersenne primes.
When I was younger there were only 31 Perfect Numbers known and each one was closely related to a Mersenne prime. I used to go to the library to look at the newest editions of the Guiness Book of World Records to see if any new Perfect Numbers were found. (This was before Al Gore invented the Internet.) In the early 90s there was another one found and it was also related to a Mersenne prime.
There were 15 more found since then and it’s been proven that Perfect Numbers and Mersenne primes are one-to-one.
1) ?
2) Hadlakas Nerois for Yom Kippur, When one sees a tree budding, Lishmoa kol shofar when the second day of Rosh Hashana is on a Sunday and being killed al kiddush Hashem (once in a lifetime).
3) Like mentioned above- this year. The other answer I heard- when Rosh Hashanah begins on a Friday- doesn’t happen in modern times.
4) Vayoshoku Hamayim.
Post Shidduch story-
At an Aufrof, Sheva Berachos or whatever (it’s not really important) for a friend a different friend pointed to a guy and told me that he’s married to an old flame of mine.
(Well actually more like an old atom bomb, but that’s for a different post.)
So the whole time I’m curious to know if she pointed to me and told her husband “there- that’s the guy who I was telling you about…”.
After I washed for the meal I went to my seat and guess who was sitting in it?
Keeping a straight face I said, “So, you’re going to take my seat also?”
He had no idea what I was talking about but the guy next to me was laughing so hard his kishkis fell out and it got served in the cholent. (I guess it must have been an aufrof or Shabbos Sheva Berachos.)
tikvuchka-
I agree 100%. After a certain point I realized that I would not be finding my wife through a professional shadchan. I’m a male though so I still had lots of names coming in from friends and neighbors.
Would I have used Frumster if I was a female? I can’t answer that question.
BP Totty-
I usually agree with your point of view (and find you humorous at times) but I’m going to share with you the following story.
A fundraiser was collecting for his yeshiva saying that they wanted to pay their staff in full before Yom Tov. One person whose door he knocked on asked how the yeshiva could possibly need money if they just spent $17,000,000 on their new building.
“Simple”, answered the fundraiser, “people will give money to have their names on a building, they won’t give money to have salaries paid”.
To an outsider, what may look like mismanaged funds, is actually money donated to be used towards a specific cause.
blinky-
In general that’s how Dor Yeshorim works, but anyone can go to their local lab, have the tests done and the results given to them.
Of course if two people are told that they are not compatible then they know that they are both carriers. They are supposed to keep it a secret but you know what ends up happening.
“Well you have to promise not to tell anyone because I did and so did the person who told me…”
My mother tried setting up her friends daughter with a guy.
Her mother called back all offended after finding out that the guy is a carrier while her daughter is not.
My mother insisted that they go ahead with it anyway since it’s only an issue if both of them are carriers.
Her mother took offence at the suggestion and said it’s not up for discussion.
Later she realized that while she was thinking Dor Yeshorim the girls mother was talking about the Eruv.
I probably should have worded that differently.
There are a certain number of math courses needed to satisfy the math requirements for graduation. If I went for a degree in another discipline those math courses would have helped. Passing Calculus I showed proficiency in those courses and satisfied the math requirements to graduate.
In high school we had college teachers who taught some of the courses. They were willing to teach it at a higher level so that we could get college credits if we were willing to enroll and pay tuition.
I earned many credits this way but I don’t think it was worth it financially in the long run.
(Some of the courses weren’t necessary for the degree I was seeking. The math courses were all prerequisites for Calculus I, which would have all been satisfied anyway just by passing Calculus I. Yeshiva credits filled up the remaining credits needed to reach 120.
Had I not been in yeshiva or received yeshiva credits those courses would have been very helpful to satisfy electives.)
Theoretically I could have forgotten about graduating from high school since I had enough credits to apply to college as a transfer student (and they don’t need to see a diploma) but my dear mother couldn’t bear the thought of her son being a high school dropout.
oomis1105-
Like “Al Pi Halacha”? I never thought of it that way since I just assumed everyone knows what Pi is.
A Real Idea-
I also like e but I like Pi better as it’s more mystical. Think about a small penny you find on the street. Pi is buried in it. All you have to do is measure the circumference and divide by the diameter. e on the other hand is the limit of (1 + (1/X))^X as X gets closer to infinity. Of course you expect that to produce something that never ends.
Anyway, his middle name includes both Pi and e.
I read Aleph Shin and enjoyed it. The plot definitely took unexpected turns but at some point I figured out what would happen at the end.
Personally I can’t say how well researched the book was as I am unfamiliar with the streets in Iran, the flight controls on a fighter jet, the different chambers on a submarine and the geological makeup of the ground under the Aswan Dam. I am basing that on what other readers wrote. I did enjoy it and found it addicting.
I did not read the other three books.
In a different thread it was mentioned that the same author (possibly using different names) wrote four books;
1) Aleph Shin,
2) Samsons Lion,
3) Every Man A Slave and
4) Ten Lost.
Supposedly they are very well written and researched and most readers find them very addicting.
If you can’t find it I’ll try to look it up.
My wife reminded me that Pi is the product of at least one irrational. Being that women are never irrational (sorry, don’t know the source) that would mean that I am the irrational one.
Radical Two didn’t go over to well either.
kapusta-
No, he’s not married yet.
A shadchan once called to tell my mother about a girl for me but didn’t say her first name. She explained that we should decide based on her middos and not kill it because of her name.
(I’d post it but I wouldn’t want to offend anyone during Elul. It wasn’t too bad either.)
No, I knew him well enough to know that there was a different reason, and he knew that.
If you knew him you’d understand why he couldn’t simply say no. Nothing in his life is simple.
My wife and I tried setting up a friend of mine with a friend of hers. After doing his research he called me back and said, “thanks Avi, but I’m going to have to let you know that I’m not interested. I just found out that she has two names and by policy I only go out with girls that have only one name”.
In his defense- I know him well enough to know that it means that he did his research and feels that they are not for each other, however he doesn’t feel the need to discuss the reason with anyone else.
Pashuteh Yid-
I know a few families where the wife/ mother wears the tefillin of the house.
How did my wife convince me not to give our son a middle name of Pi? (My favorite constant.)
What about throwing blood on two corners of the Mizbayach?
(From Pesachim- shetayim she’hein arba.)
Also seen on a Rolls “PRE HMO”.
A colleague of mine (Not Frum) said there’s one way to explain the issue- ENTITLEMENT.
(He wasn’t referring to the yeshiva tuition issue but I think it can be applied there as well.)
When he was growing up his parents, European refugees, where just grateful to have their lives and each other, everything else was an added luxury.
They lived in a small apartment in The Bronx with their kids. He told me of a time when his parents had to pick between a phone line and something else (I forgot what)- and they picked the other thing. Cars and vacations were out of the question.
Fast forward to the next generation. When his daughter wanted to go to college, she didn’t want to go to city college (free room and board at home as well as in-state-tuition), she was entitled to the “college experience” at $40,000 + per year. For one semester she wanted to study abroad- well, guess what? She was entitled to it.
What ever happened to having to earn something to be entitled to it? Why is it that people are entitled to everything these days just by being born?
I couldn’t answer his questions.
Corn on the cob?
SJSinNYC-
Not all doctors 🙂
por-
With regard to Boruch Goldstein-
Jewish people have had a connection to the Ma’aras HaMachpelah long before Islam was ever founded. If Boruch Goldstein would have went on a rampage in a place where Jewish people never had any connection and all of the sudden some people wanted to open a shul nearby then I would have some serious issues with it.
Ames-
Welcome back!
Mazel Tov on your daughter. Hope you, your baby and the rest of your family are doing good.
What will it take to make you stay here?
I’m not sure if you read it but we also had a baby (we had a boy).
Can we start some sort of memorial for those who left?
Maybe if they see how much they are missed they’ll come back.
I may be wrong but I think that the TI-89 and the TI-92 PLUS had the same software. I don’t know of it having any such feature.
Can anyone shed some light?
That’s the one, I’ll let my wife know to look out for you.
The TI-89 was able to perform symbolic differentiation and integration as well as first and second order differential equations. It didn’t show the steps though.
Did the TI-92 Plus show the steps to get to the answer or did it just show the answer in symbolic form?
I gather that I’m a few years older than you and I know that there were features added in future releases which were not in the original release. Maybe that was one of the releases?
The other graphing calculator I have is the TI-86 which will give approximate integration values if an upper and lower bound are specified, but it’s bedieved.
SJSinNYC-
“GAW, that website is really entertaining. “
If it’s the same one that my wife got addicted to I have to agree with you on that. From what I hear their moderators aren’t as good as ours so maybe that’s what makes it so entertaining 🙂
Do you go by the same SN over there? I’ll ask my wife to look out for you.
The silver lining is that when my wife is done reading the posts over there she can’t stop thanking me.
Squeak-
I once brought a geshmaka calculus article with me to the dentist. He took one look at it and asked what it’s for.
“Oh, if I read this in the chair I won’t feel any pain” I answered.
He looked at me quizzically and said, “I get lots of pain just from reading the title!”
SJSinNYC-
The TI-89 does more than the TI-92, the TI-92 PLUS has comparable functions to the TI-89. I never owned the TI-92 PLUS (ot TI-92) but the only thing I think it has better than the TI-89 is a larger screen size.
You should be careful though, I don’t think either one of them is waterproof 🙂
Squeak-
“I was anticipating the “actually it’s a kohein thing” line (yes, I expect you to believe that), but I still had to hang onto my kishkes when I got to it.”
I was also anticipating it- I was just waiting for the perfect moment.
“I am loving how knocking the iron into YOU gave BOTH of you burns! I guess I should never face you with my back turned :)”
The solder we were using had a melting point of 750 degrees, how long does it need to be in contact with skin to cause a nasty burn? He accidentally knocked the tip into the back of my right hand with the back of his left hand.
“I hate your proof (if you ever meant it seriously)”
I never meant to take it seriously, I meant to give a deserving answer to the question. She did ask for it, didn’t she?
“As for the TI 89, I pegged you as a bit older. I never really had a use for one, though I did get a TI 92 once as a desk copy (mighty unusual for me). Who would have thought of using it to play music back when CD players were larger than the calculator?”
Many professors didn’t allow students to use calculators that had the QWERTY layout- the TI-92 was guilty of this. The TI-92 Plus compared to the TI-89 in functionality.
It definitely takes some creative people to use a TI-89 as an MP3 player. With 1MB of user available memory we only had enough space for a 10 second sound clip that was on a loop!