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June 21, 2010 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm in reply to: BP Oil Spill & Moshiach #687421
wow, it’ certainly food for thought.
mod, isn’t that essentially what can happen to kids if we lay it on too thick? i wonder, b/c when i was a kid, an adult told me one tisha b’av that if i really daven hard enough and i’m nice to the other kids, mashciach will come on tisha b’av. i guess he didn’t mean that year, cuz i’m still waiting…June 21, 2010 8:33 pm at 8:33 pm in reply to: Potatoes & Onions #686819
mchemtob: right you are. it’s getting a LOT easier! and thanks for that orzo recipe; it’s become a definite favorite…June 20, 2010 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm in reply to: The Stigma On Therapy Etc. #690388
kapusta, it’s not a pride issue; i got her to go when we were both out of town together for an extended period of time, where there was no chance of anyone knowing. she is afraid of her own parents finding out, and of course they would, b/c they’re overprotective and track all she does, etc., etc. really a tough situation.
artchill, i don’t see it. if that were the case, then the reaction to the word ‘therapy’ would be fear, not disdain.June 20, 2010 5:49 am at 5:49 am in reply to: Making Stuff Up and Sources #687904
myfriend said exactly what i meant, just better. thank you my friend… 😉June 20, 2010 5:47 am at 5:47 am in reply to: The Stigma On Therapy Etc. #690371
i don’t think that’s true, hereorthere. i went to therapy, psychologists, social workers, and none of them said anything about chemical imbalance; they just talked things through with me, etc.June 20, 2010 5:04 am at 5:04 am in reply to: The Stigma On Therapy Etc. #690369
i think that’s retardation…June 20, 2010 3:25 am at 3:25 am in reply to: The Stigma On Therapy Etc. #690365
i agree that the friend needs to get help; she’s the one who doesn’t.
and b”H the friend is not me; i already went through therapy, that’s why i’m so mad that she won’t and that there’s such a stigma. it’s a built in family issue not something that came up later and not internally caused…June 19, 2010 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm in reply to: Making Stuff Up and Sources #687900
i believe that’s a different story. that touching is only to show in a concrete manner that they are now for each other and no one else. in a picture however, that is not necessary anymore and may be improper as well.
that wasn’t what i was talking about when i mentioned poses however. but i don’t want to go into it. all i say is that i didn’t mean regular picture type contact.June 19, 2010 9:02 pm at 9:02 pm in reply to: Donating A Vein #686648
squeak – lol! you almost had me there for a second, before i went on to the part where you explained yourself…
btw, totally unrelated, but how do you guys put subtitles under your username? i can’t figure it out!June 18, 2010 11:18 am at 11:18 am in reply to: Donating A Vein #686642
no they actually invented it yerushalayim. around the same time that they took the word gullible out of the dictionary…June 18, 2010 11:14 am at 11:14 am in reply to: Making Stuff Up and Sources #687884
*who are you talking about*
whoops – before i edited my comment, i had said “my teacher said….” and then i forgot about that, so that’s who i was talking about.
but i don’t think it’s a separate issue. i meant it could be what he meant, that it’s a problem to have the picture up on the wall.
(and i also meant chukas hagoyim, not minhag hagoyim. it was very late. 🙂June 18, 2010 11:10 am at 11:10 am in reply to: Which State Do YOU Live In #686835
YERUSHALAYIM (the place to live…)
and i have to agree with speaktruth!June 17, 2010 9:10 pm at 9:10 pm in reply to: Making Stuff Up and Sources #687877
i did learn that it’s minhag hagoyim to have the wedding pictures out on the wall.
i wonder if she really meant that if there’s a pose that shouldn’t be seen by anyone, that’s the problem.
i don’t think i should go farther than this.June 17, 2010 7:56 am at 7:56 am in reply to: Donating A Vein #686636
i don’t think that’s medically possible.June 15, 2010 7:52 am at 7:52 am in reply to: Any recommended Jewish novels? #1125604
when i was in seminary in e”y, they took us to the daughters of different gedolim from the past generation, and one of them told us that her father used to do crosswords from the newspaper in places where we can’t read other material.i guess it just depends which newspaper you’re talking about.
also, gedolim probably don’t read these books because that’s bittul Torah, which is a totally different issue than yiras shamayim.June 15, 2010 7:47 am at 7:47 am in reply to: Broken Engagements #919361
my parents got married at 17/23, legally. so i imagine it was probably legal, what wolf did. there are many minor kallahs, especially in the aforementioned ‘ultra-frum’ group…June 14, 2010 7:32 am at 7:32 am in reply to: Broken Engagements #919301
just to set one thing straight – it’s not only the chaddishe velt, it’s also the ‘ultra-yeshivish,’ especially in eretz yisrael. i’m not chassidish but in my circles, three is the norm.June 13, 2010 5:15 am at 5:15 am in reply to: Ascending Har Habayis?! #686243
sorry, i posted a whole long post that seems to have been edited out (as i thought it may be) so i’m going to have to formulate something that won’t be. but not now. no time.June 13, 2010 12:34 am at 12:34 am in reply to: Ascending Har Habayis?! #686239
sjs – you must be joking.June 13, 2010 12:26 am at 12:26 am in reply to: Broken Engagements #919272
there are many cases of divorce that are completely justified, such as clinical abuse.
however, there are such cases, even of clinical abuse, where the couple dealt with it together with a therapist, and are still happily married, and the children are fully relieved that the intended divorce did not happen. i was there, i witnessed the entire thing; the kids, although ablsolutely terrified when the parents fought physically, *begged* their mother to please not allow a divorce.
divorce should be a dirty word in the jewish home, but only as long as it’s theoretical. meaning, the education should be that marriage is forever, etc, etc. but when there is a case of divorce in the community, the community has to be supportive of all the victims, and not vindicitive in any way.June 12, 2010 11:47 pm at 11:47 pm in reply to: Any recommended Jewish novels? #1125580
then who are you to speak for them? (emoticon613’s roomate)June 10, 2010 6:59 am at 6:59 am in reply to: Broken Engagements #919226
thank you mosherose! i’ll have to second that.June 10, 2010 6:55 am at 6:55 am in reply to: Any recommended Jewish novels? #1125566
hereorthere – besides what shraga said, they are some people who just can’t sit and read midrashim. i personally have problem with the lashon hakodesh, and the english translations i’ve found with the exeption of a few aren’t that great unfortunately – if a/o knows of any good ones, tell me!June 9, 2010 9:37 pm at 9:37 pm in reply to: Any recommended Jewish novels? #1125557
sjs – what did she write?June 9, 2010 5:23 pm at 5:23 pm in reply to: Any recommended Jewish novels? #1125553
dr. pepper – lol!!
the coming revolution by zamir cohen is not a novel, it’s a science book, but it’s amazing! first of all you CANNOT tell it’s translated. second, it brings in meforshim that prove that we already knew what science is telling us today, while reminding the reader that torah came first and science doesn’t prove it; it proves science. it’s a reallllly good book!June 9, 2010 5:11 am at 5:11 am in reply to: Any recommended Jewish novels? #1125550
more later iy”HJune 8, 2010 10:13 pm at 10:13 pm in reply to: Ascending Har Habayis?! #686235
may i ask which ones, or wouldn’t i know them?June 8, 2010 10:12 pm at 10:12 pm in reply to: Any recommended Jewish novels? #1125548
dr pepper – samson’s lion is aleph shin for the secular reader and it’s under the pseudonym alex wolf – get it? it’s great actually, that book, just a little less…sheltered. like the theological discussions are expanded upon and there’s some stronger language in there.
meir uri gottesman’s books are amazing!!!
nachman seltzer’s books are pretty good, good plot, good writing style, a little fantastic (as in fantasy) in my opinion.
ananowriter – THE POMEGRANATE PENDANT IS THE BEST!! i’d forgotten about it, but it’s sooo realistic, true to the people and to the times, and the writing style is stunning!
still thinking…June 7, 2010 8:54 pm at 8:54 pm in reply to: Ascending Har Habayis?! #686232
feif un – i’m asking my rav (who’s hard to get hold of, so sit tight!).June 7, 2010 8:51 pm at 8:51 pm in reply to: Chalomos, the Meaning to Dreams! #686058
it’s not quite deja vu [two words ;)], although i get that too. it’s a sensation (some might call it an aura i think) that something specific will happen and then it does.
simple example: i was in camp and we went to the laundromat to do our laundry. as i was coming down from the bus, i had this ‘vision’ that the place is going to flood – and about halfway thru our trip, one of the machines started to back up, sending water all over the floor of the laudromat, pretty deep water!! it was sorta creepy.
it sounds unreal, like i’m making it up. i think that’s because of the wording, but i honestly have no idea how to describe it accurately.June 7, 2010 8:45 pm at 8:45 pm in reply to: Non-Jewish Jewish Music #688477
sms – thanks. it’s a good tip!
yitayninwut and sofdavar – i haven’t gotten back to you guys cuz i’m asking my rav and haven’t yet gotten hold of him. i’m not avoiding you!June 7, 2010 8:36 pm at 8:36 pm in reply to: Any recommended Jewish novels? #1125537
they are, and he’s amazing!!!! not stam! i also get very nervous from a lot of frum writing which made it very hard to stop reading non jewish books – but alef shin, ten lost, and every man a slave are fantastic!!
also, sun inside rain – by m. (no first name) bassarah is amazing! one of my favorite books.
heir to the throne by rothstein is terrific also.June 6, 2010 10:43 am at 10:43 am in reply to: Broken Engagements #919193
i know this sounds quite like nonsense, but in my circles, where it’s common for someone to get engaged after only three or four meetings, until very recently (more recently than in other circles), there was a much lower percentage of divorces/broken engagements. i think that the increase is actually due to increasingly immature people and the influence leaking into our insular commmunities.June 6, 2010 10:37 am at 10:37 am in reply to: Chalomos, the Meaning to Dreams! #686053
actually, twice i’ve had dreams that people i knew died and they both died within a week of the dream. very scary.
i’m a dreamer.
but this is interesting – sometimes, i’ll be awake, and i’ll have a sensation that a specific odd something will happen, like, i see a picture of it in my brain, and then it happens. anyone know what that’s all about?June 6, 2010 4:42 am at 4:42 am in reply to: Non-Jewish Jewish Music #688472
i’ll be back later to answer you more fully, but for now – what’s the proper context for this music in your opinion?June 5, 2010 10:57 pm at 10:57 pm in reply to: Ascending Har Habayis?! #686230
let me just ask you a question, feif un! if you had a bowl of cereal on the table, which legitimately may or may not be poisonous – 50/50 – WOULD YOU EAT IT?! no! (i hope not) any place on har habayis (and NO ONE knows FOR SURE – including poskei hador) is a 50/50 percent chance of issur kareis…June 5, 2010 10:40 pm at 10:40 pm in reply to: Non-Jewish Jewish Music #688469
when i’m talking music i’m talking heavy-metal, rap, and the like. i also include other songs, which may or may not be mutar but any regular old jew doesn’t have the depth to know, so he should ask a sheila. back to the rap and stuff, even light rap that has made its way into the lists of jewish music, is such a low form of music – it’s designed for the worst things, to bring out the worst in people. if one has the sensitivity, he’ll feel it.
yitayningwut – the music that i hear nowadays is not the music that i listened to then. it disgusts me because of what it is. when i used to listen to non-Jewish music, i wasn’t doing it lahachis, i honestly didn’t know it wasn’t allowed. same for movied and books. those were the only “bad” things i was doing, so these types of songs are not making disgusted at what i was. i’m disgusted at them, not at me.June 3, 2010 10:29 pm at 10:29 pm in reply to: Non-Jewish Jewish Music #688461
THAT IS NOT THE SAME THING!! tell me, do you get emotional from long division?? the music puts into even if you don’t feel it, the kochos of the composer.
this is really beyond my ability to fully comprehend let alone explain, but i can tell you one thing. personally when i hear modern not jewish music, it makes me feel completely grossed out and nauseous (coming from someone who used to listen to this stuff regularly) and i don’t want that in my life anywhere.
if you want something from the gemara, (i’m a girl, i can’t give you sources) in discussing the reasons why acher went off, rashi brings that acher was accustomed to listening to non – Jewish music.June 3, 2010 5:06 am at 5:06 am in reply to: Mistaken Lyrics #1087766
be’sha’a she’melech ha’mashiach ba (x2)
oy yoy yoy yoy
oimed al gag, gag beis hamikdash –
mashmia le’yisrael v’oimer:
higiyah zman, higiyah zman geulaschem,
v’im ein atem ma’aminim, (x2)
re’u be’oiri sh’zoirayah.June 2, 2010 4:17 pm at 4:17 pm in reply to: Mistaken Lyrics #1087758
postsemgirl, i think it’s amar leib bar hey hey, not lay.
anyone actually know the words to ahallel, amallel?June 1, 2010 10:00 pm at 10:00 pm in reply to: Mistaken Lyrics #1087742
this is the first time i ever knew the words to that song!!!!! i’m so excited!!!!!!June 1, 2010 8:29 am at 8:29 am in reply to: Non-Jewish Jewish Music #688441
grada – what if i’m a girl? what if i have a reading problem? what if i’m a composer and a music lover and if i don’t listen to music it’s really depressing?
but that wasn’t the point of the thread.
yitayningwut – i’m not challenging people’s tastes. but if you want halachic view on music (this is just one that i can think of off the top of my head), read harav elya weintraub’s zy”a responsa on non – jewish music, where he mentions a few famous tunes that an erliche yid should not be listening to.
sofdavarhakolnishma – i totally agree with you about certain songs.
One fine Shabbos morning, one bee says to the other, “i’m really hungry.”
to which the other replied, “Schwartz down the block is having a kiddush, go check it out.” so the first bee flies off down the block.
Half hour later, he comes back licking his lips. “Thanks buddy, that was a really great idea.”
the other bee looks at him funny and asks, “Yo, what’s on your head – a kippa??”
the first bee retorts –
“i didn’t want anyone mistaking me for a WASP.”May 31, 2010 9:54 pm at 9:54 pm in reply to: Non-Jewish Jewish Music #688435
mr. – this is tachlis. i don’t want to be trashed with non jewish music. all discussions of how we can or can’t put jewish words to non – jewish music, if i don’t have to i don’t want to be listening to this stuff. and i don’t want non – jewish music at my wedding (iy”H soon by me… 🙂 ), and so the yidden one was very helpful, thank you bear.
cb 1 – i know not all non-jewish songs are bad, but i don’t know which ones aren’t, so i prefer to stay away from as many as i can.May 31, 2010 8:14 am at 8:14 am in reply to: Non-Jewish Jewish Music #688412
anyone else?May 30, 2010 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm in reply to: Places To Go On A Date #774433
what about israel?May 28, 2010 11:04 am at 11:04 am in reply to: Ascending Har Habayis?! #686227
certainly not i!!!! 🙂May 26, 2010 10:26 pm at 10:26 pm in reply to: Ascending Har Habayis?! #686223
wolf, these are the poskei hador. i don’t think that anyone can argue with them, i really don’t. it’s not a question of my rav or your rav…unless we involve the sphardim – anyone know what rav amar or rav ovadia yosef say on the subject?
🙂May 26, 2010 5:02 am at 5:02 am in reply to: Sholom Rubashkin #687147
i don’t understand what’s going on here…May 26, 2010 5:00 am at 5:00 am in reply to: Ascending Har Habayis?! #686215
i didn’t say that there aren’t rabbanim that permit it – but you can’t argue with rav elyashiv and rav kanievsky among others. and even though people already said it – i know there are places one is allowed to go, but “fuzzy” was a good way to put it – and i don’t know about you, but if there was a slight chance i was gonna be kareis-ed, i wouldn’t play with it.