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ok, this is not actually emoticon613, it’s her roomate… because, as some of you know, she doesn’t drink. I, on the other hand, come from a family of somewhat conissuers. I’m a girl and obviously i’ve never been drunk or tipsy, but I do enjoy a good wine (dry, semi-dry, or dessert — not sweet!)or bourbon anytime- mostly on shabbos, a simcha, or special occasion.
lkwdfellow, you’ve got good taste. my particular favorite is maker’s mark 46. it has a nice aroma, full woody caramelly taste that blends nicely with the alcohol- neither is too overpowering, and it has a nice aftertaste, not bitter like other bourbons.
chessedname, i disagree. if you married someone, that was bashert, but it could be that it was bashert that you married your not-bashert!
lemony – ‘i haven’t the faintest idea of what is going on here’ (her first word back from the hospital, and her comment in the eighth book about klaus’s bedsheet rope situation (? – not sure aobut that last part)
and i didn’t cheat
last read them like 4 years ago
hello! i LOVED count olaf; he was my favorite character!! i was so sad at the end cuz he died…
directions from mapquest
pietrasychomollaviadelrechiotemexity!!
(trivia – what does this mean, NO CHEATING!!)
LEMONYSNICKET!!!! I’M OBSESSED WITH A SERIES OF UNFORTUNATE EVENTS!!!!!
mind game
you’re definitely not alone.
there are so many teens out there who ‘don’t know who they are.’ and plenty of non-teens too, come to think of it.
truth is, most of us carry uncertainties around, and i think that the biggest nisayon in this case is not letting them overwhelm us or convince us that we’re bad ppl just b/c of those probablematic hashkafos, or aveiros, or wtvr it is.
i think that a good idea is to get a rav who never knew you before (or a rebbetzin/wtvr.), this is what i did, and talk to him/her, ask your questions, air your difficulties, etc.
it really helps.
mosherose you are quite nuts!
“mice”r money
😉
three blind mice
did you make that UP?
one minute, i thought you always make shehecheyanu on a bris, no?
i’d be a little wary of unfiltered honey – bee fur or legs don’t sound all that appealing to me…
i help a certain family in e”Y on thursdays, i’ve been with them for over two years.
the oldest daughter is dying for me to get married already (she’s 10) so she can go to the wedding, preferrably as a bridesmaid. she keeps asking me i’m getting married here or in america.
so once i said, what if i get married in america? she said she’ll come anyway, so i told her that tickets are really expensive. so she said she’ll take a boat instead, to which i replied that boats are just as expensive and totally not worth it. so she said she’ll walk and i said, you can’t walk over an ocean, she canged that to swimming, and i asked her if she wouldn’t get tired. so she said
‘so i’ll walk the other way around the world!!”
(ps. when i told her that there was a bigger ocean the other way around, she said – fine, i’ll build a bridge, and don’t you get married within the year cuz that’s how long it’s gonna take me!)
away from her desk (at the moment, may i take a message?)
ditties
vus is de shailoh??
my father explained it to me:
mesivta of greater los angeles – calabassas (which is in the valley technically, but if you live in calabassas, you say you live in clabassas, not san fernando valley.)
los angeles mesivta – the high school of the boys’ cheder. it’s in the city. and chassidish, mostly (i used to pass boys going there on my way to school = mortifying!!!! but i always used to wonder what the goyim must’ve been thinking, seeing a boy and girl coming down the street towards each other, but as soon as they notice each other, the girl starts walking in the street and the boy hugs the walls on the other side of the sidewalk, both of them pointedly looking everywhere else but at each other. it alway made me laugh. that was before i walked in the alleys…)
random, but – speaking of haikus, blinky, did you guys know that shema yisrael hashem elokeinu hashem echad said properly is a haiku (japanese poem, 7,5,7 syllables, usually about nature)?
i mean, it’s like a haiku, lehavdil and all…
i just got myself fired
for being way too tired
so now i must find
a job of some kind
oh, someone get me hired!
he’s a great eater!
(not considered good information on a boy…)
Pizza Mayven!!!
but i don’t remember how it tastes i’ve been away from LA so long…
are you sure mesivta of LA is in the valley? i was under the impression that that was the name of the boys’ cheder’s high school in the city?
i bring my purse!
but i sit in, so it’s easier; i just stick my purse in the hall closet on the way in.
in the winter, though, i put a comb, lipgloss, my cell phone on silent/vibrate, a bus card, and sometimes money, although i usually don’t need that if i have a bus card, into the deep pockets of the winter coat.
if you’re in seminary, say you went on a date. no one will believe you…it works, if you weren’t just tearing through the dorm in search of something normal to wear cuz all your clothes are at the laundromat.
sof davar: i tried. i actually ‘flipped out’ in high school, so i did this at a time when i was cutting out a lot of things in my life, and billboards were ‘easy fixes’ for the sort of stuff that i was trying to avoid. so instead of putting myself in a constant nisayon at least twice a day,i just walked through the alleys. i didn’t do it at night for the most part though. that would’ve been a lot more dangerous.
is there? i hadn’t noticed. but she’s in the high school; she didn’t go to their elementary school.
sjs – why not both? (this is, incidentally my answer when s/o asks the incredibly inane question – middos or torah in a boy??)
but about the cooking. in tiferes seminary, you can learn to cook if you want, because the girls are free in the kitchen and can use basic ingredients and stuff like that, and they make their own breakfasts, and melava malka, and, occasionally, make their own in shabbos.
and they also learn rambam.
but when all is said and done, number one, some people can’t even follow a cookbook, and two, the ikker avodah for a woman is wife/mother, and if she can’t balance that with parnassah, then guess which one will have to go?
a good shabbos and a good chodesh and a gezunte vinter, as well! to everyone…
i’m sorry, really sorry to say this, but i have too many friends whose families moved them to eY when they were teenagers, and their yiddishkeit REALY REALY suffered. so mamashtaka, yes, suffering by living a mitzva.
and if you come to eY with a teenager who’s oolai, already unstable, once s/he discovers ben yehuda/crack square – that’s it for her/him. i’m so serious. and that can also happen to one who wasn’t already unstable, but became so as a result of the move.
i also have friends who came here and it was the best thing for all involved.
i would say that this is a highly personalized issue and should be discussed by anyone considering it, with his rav muvhak, or someone who is suggested to him by his rav muvhak.
I LOVE LA!!!! but so saying, i also moved away from LA myself and don’t intend to go back there (famous last words…) except for brief visits.
but:
1 – the community is warm and caring. very very very caring. and it’s also diverse. very very very diverse. so the issue becomes how to love and care and also make sure not to fall in your own standards. and lots of people succeed, but as laguy said, go in with your eyes WIDE WIDE open.
2 – there are superb mosdos for both boys and girls. i went to byla, and it is the most amazing school on the entire planet (ditto smile99!), with the most caring hanhala, rabbi bursztyn is a tzaddik and my second tatty…really. again, the students are very diverse. there are girls, a lot of them, that go to the best seminaries, and unfortunately, there are girls way on the other end of the spectrum. my sister goes to the ‘chassidishe’ high school, for the reason that that one’s not so diverse. the very frum persians and chassidishers, and some very frum yeshivishe girls also go there. it’s also a very very good school. the elementary schools are also very good, and somehow less diverse, but i guess that makes sense. there are very good ganim there also, private playgroups, etc.
calabassas is a great yeshiva, teh type does vary from year to year, my brother went there. then there’s ygla, yeshiva gedola LA, which i see very good outcomes from in general. i don’t konw it so well. and there are smaller, less known, but equally good yeshivos peppering the scene.
it’s also very strong on kiruv.
3 – takeout food and restaurants = yum yum yum!! plenty of kosher restaurants with good hechsherim, obviously not as many as bkln, but yeah.
4 – living cost is VERY high. definitely two incomes are almost imperative.
5 – pritzus. that is the biggest catch in the whole deal. the la brea/fairfax community itself, is a residential area and therefore, doesn’t have the billboards discussed. BUT – A. it’s bisected by a main street, which certainly does have priztudige billboards up. i actually lived on the corner of that street and another, and i had to keep the shades of the window facing thataway, closed for a couple of weeks because of the billboard staring into our house. B. it’s ‘enclosed’ by melrose, la brea, and fairfax, all main streets, melrose being the absolute most pritzusdig of three, but all of them pretty bad. la brea’s not as, and that’s where at least three of the mosdos of LA are. C. as for the goyim walking around, i don’t think i agreee with whoever said they’re not so bad. they’re pretty pritzusdig. LA is in HOLLYWOOD, i don’t know why people expect differently.
this is one of the main reasons i moved away. i (a girl, yes?) walked through back alleys to get to school to avoid the pritzus. it was a bissel crazy.
BUT LA IS THE MOST FANTASTIC PLACE TO LIVE IN THE WORLD IF YOU CAN’T LIVE IN ERETZ YISROEL (bad case of chein makom al toshveha…) 😉
moq, i think the source is the same as i quoted before, mesillas yesharim, perek yud alef, b’pirtei middas hanekiyus. check it, and tell me if i’m wrong cuz if i am, i have to go back and relearn it 😉
i learned that watching a movie can be ‘avizraihu d’arayos’ (actually i think this issue – not with a movie but with ‘sense of sight’ in giluy arayos – is brought in mesillas yesharim, perek yud alef, b’pirtei middas hanikiyus) – with literally means, ‘accessories to arayos’, or things that can lead up to the actual aveira while not being the actual averia itself.
no one’s going to like this very much, but i also learned that ‘avizraihu d’arayos’ are also ‘yehareg v’al ya’avor,’ just as the actual aveira is. my teacher brought that from somewhere else, i don’t remember the source.
sorry…
just s/t funny – i have a slight reversal tendency in reading, so i thought the title said ‘does a BLT help?’ and was thinking, like, help what, exactly. LOL!
oomis: i don’t know that Hashem ‘cares’ more about one thing than another. eilu v’eilu divrei Elokim chayim – (i’m making this interpretation up) Hashem doesn’t allow us to hate people for no reason, and also doesn’t allow us to be untzniusdig. now the question that remains is really not what Hashem cares about (b/c we really don’t know and can’t say), but if the lipstick is tznius or not.
but “it is the Gemorah who makes that moral equivalence of sinas chinam and too much csmetcs both bringing about the churban bais hamikdash”
so i guess there’s your answer.
i just like playing devil’s advocate. 🙂
please.
please.
people – i think there’s no reason for this conversation. meaning:
1) a lot of what’s being said can be VERY VERY hurtful to readers. really. how do you think a ger/giyores or a child of one feels when he sees “are you prepared to marry a ger.”
2)many FFB’s also have not frum relatives, at least nowadays. and therefore have to deal with family issues anyway.
3)it’s all irrevelevant anyway, being that Hashem makes shidduchim, and what will happen will be what will happen in any case, no matter what we do or don’t do to remedy or ruin the situation.
4) i’m a child of a BT and a giyores. having said that – chavivin yesurin, as rabbi akiva says. it’s a kappara for avonos every time s/o throws another barb at you for being ‘less than quality.’
for the complaint part of this – as of now i haven’t seen anyone for like ten months now, and you know what? i’m not even old. so there.
(chavivin yissurin – i shouldn’t complain 🙂 )
ben torah: you’re a guy, cannot understand girls, etc.
to actually answer what you said, i’m considered very very high level bais yaakov, yeshivishe, whatever, and i wear make-up. and yes, i like looking pretty, i feel better that way. when i know i’m coming in contact with boys (not for a date) i tone it down a bit – but i wear make-up.
and my rebbetzin wears make-up.
obviously not all those creams and powders and what have you that oomis was talking about (btw oomis, that sounded to me a bit over the top, could be i’m wrong.), but a woman does not want to look ‘schluchy’ no matter where and what stage of life she’s in.
and i’ll agree with you that a woman/girl can look pretty without make-up, but MOST of us, including shpitz bais yaakov girls, are not (yet) and maybe never will be, on that level.
so please.
EDITED
ok.
about ‘chilling’ in hs just cuz u’ll ‘frum out’ during sem: i actaully flipped out during hs. then i went to sem. and in sem, i solidified my views and goals, and who exactly i am. i started shidduchim while i was in seminary, and i’m still in shidduchim now. what i told shadchanim and prospective mothers-in-law (i try to meet the mother first or at least have the boy meet my rebbetzin) while i was in seminary is TOTALLY different than what i’ve been telling them since seminary, b/c in sem i still didn’t know myself well enough.
about the ‘bloody fortune’: it depends. if ur a good student u can get either a sponsor or a scholarship. i got both i think. it also depends which seminary u go to. now there are a couple of new half year seminaries (my bas bayis mommy is the principal of one of them) that are half the price, and half the time, and all the experience and learning.
more later be”H. gotta go fry onions, garlic, red pepper, and make potato soup. going away for y”t, don’t want my ingredients to spoil when i’m gone.
frum not crum – i know, i was an ateres leader three years ago when it first started. that’s an amazing program.
the problem becomes when the ateres leader’s teaching conflicts with the home teaching and that’s where we run up against a brick wall once again. “but my mother wears this and this” is a common refrain and you can’t tell a kid, well ur mother’s wrong, right?
SJSinNYC – care to elucidate? catfish?
i’m sure he didn’t mean to insult you chizz! he was just commenting.
i know this is slightly of-topic (even though it’s actually the starting topic), but about the short skirts. i really think it’s a big problem with ladies and teenagers but there’s probably very little we can do. what we can do though, is START WITH THE CHILDREN!! the little girls! DO NOT dress your three-year-olds in proper mini-skirts, DO always tell the littlest ones how beautiful they’ll look in tights when then they turn three, DO point out tzniusdig beautiful women in the street and comment on them, DO NOT turn them off from tznius from the very start!! i don’t know what we’re all complaining about when we likely made the problem in the first place! i know your three-year-old may look very sweet in her little black dress made specially for her size – BUT IT’S NOT!!!
reshaim merushaim. why? what’s the differencre? yushky pancake ruined ppl’s spiritual lives, and hitler/ahmidinijad (sp?) took ppl’s physical lives. i would therefore say that yushky pancake was even worse and definitely a rasha merusha.
i was telling my roomate about the mikva on mars thing and we were talking about sci-fi and how ppl were hoping by year 2000 we’d be able to set up oxygen-dependent living capsules on the moon with deliveries from earth every so often…
so i said to her, even if they could do that i wouldn’t live there; i don’t know who would.
she said, one thing’s for sure!
i said, what?
“it would be chabad!”
fabie – i’m with you. i actually didn’t notice i was busy saying tehillim and trying not to fall asleep/faint, but since we do things in shekel, it definitely didn’t sell for 10,000 dollars!
i’d guess around five hundred shekel though – my bas bayis mommy assumed her husband got a certain aliyah when she heard him bid 400. (he hadn’t but i guess that shows you how much they usually go for…)