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It will also raise inflation, which is part of the Fed’s program to create demand.

WIY:

I happen to like the socratic method (If you haven’t noticed yet). I apologize if it bothers you. It is a rather jewish thing to do it seems, always answer with a question.

For things like mitzvos of Yom Tov, if the label item is nicer, and it can be afforded, then why not? (Rhetorical)

WIY:

Fair enough. But it then seems you can indulge if it is a “minhag” and you are not using other people’s money.

How about Halacha, like buying clothes for Yom Tov?

Wolf:

Old school Lakewood was the real deal.

CN:

Even if you are correct (which you are, it is an outright MB 512:3), you go to far in your Kannoiness.

Besides, Wolf did say he discussed it with his Rov. Perhaps having Yiddishe Nishamos at a Yom Tov meal overrides the Gezairah?

I surely would think so, but I am not a Rov (and neither are you, obviously).

Mod80, I’m not sure that’s true. I think the “assur” cries are becoming more and more of a problem in the Jewish community in general. People aren’t properly educated and if they hear something that is different from what they specifically know, they don’t question “could it be ok” but rather say “assur, treif” etc. Each Rav paskens differently, so it may be assur for you, but it doesn’t mean its always assur.

To SJS and Mod80:

Rav Gifter always had a shita that one should look up the question, chances are someone has asked it and we can at least base ourselves off that.

It is a lost art, to find out what the Halacha is Vs. assuming Assur or Muttar.

Look it up at the source, and learn the Halacha.

Check with your Rov that you are correct. I have been told by my rov on a number of times that I was correct, but still should not do it for other, not necessarily pure halachic reasons (and yes, I listened).

Don’t just follow the “Kol Korei” or the latest fad (either for Issur or Heter), be knowledgeable.

That is what worries me. Not the Assuring (which is easy) or Mattering (which is more difficult), but the Am Haratzus and the inability to learn and think independently.

if your husband is in kollel then act like it.

Why, if daddy is paying for it?

Reminds me of the Marvelous Middos Machine song about the toy store

ramateshkolian:

I assume then you do understand Tznius.

What is the Mekor for Tznius?

Mod80, feel free to pipe in whenever you want, you know we agree on this one, and have discussed it before. I’m going in the same direction.

Yes names from Tanach have more holiness.

Like the popular names Nimrod, Yishmael and Ezevel 🙂

Vs. The names Gimpel, Yenta and Kloynamus.

I assumed her name was something like NELI (Netzech Yisroel Lo Yishaker).

MF:

The IG”M is talking about there where the resturaunt is mixed, kosher & non kosher. There, one can not enter because someone will think the person is eating the traif stuff, or that the store is Kosher.

Here, we are talking about a well known non-kosher resturaunt (in which no one would have a Hava Amina that it is Kosher) where you can buy a soda. As I said, if the guy is holding a burger, it would be MA.

Nireh B’aynai, that if there would be a Safek (such as Dunken Doughnuts or Subway, which some are Kosher), it would be more of a problem, and perhaps the IG”M would apply.

It is a good Mekor though (and very much Nogaigh in other cases), and I thank you for pointing it out to me. This is why I stay, to learn.

When I was in sem, some of the teachers only called me by my second name, my first name not being ‘frum’ enough.

MeShom Rayiah?

Sem is (IMHO) one of the great destructive forces in Klal Yisroel, for many reasons.

SJS:

Maryis Ayin is (in those cases) only if someone would think it is Kosher. If it is a known Traif store (such as McDonalds), there is no Maryis Ayin since no one will think that the cheeseburger is Kosher (Al PI Rav Belsky).

Well, as I said, I won it at an auction. I probably would not have bought it outright.

CV, not complaining that you DO have one 🙂

BP Totty:

Once a neighbor parked in my driveway.

Then he had to leave his car.

It was a mistake, he apologized, Vaiter.

Was I annoyed? yes. But know what, he is 99.9% of the time a great neighbor and a good friend (and I’m happy to have a frum neighbor as well).

P.S. I like my grass and trees; why should I move?

The main issue is spiritual emptiness.

I respectfully disagree.

The people that I know that have real money (9 figures +) do not and have no need to “flaunt” it.

It is the people who do not have money who worship/obsess over it (at least from what I have seen, from the kollel guys who hock about it to the people who borrow to dress their children matching or to make a wedding “just like the Cohens'”).

Then if they get it (in whatever fashion), some people feel the need to say “I’ve made it” to their peer group. Ga’aiva, perhaps.

The only reason to have money is as a tool for Avodas Hashem. Pay bills on time, pay tuition, give tzedaka (All Mitzvos D’Orayssa), as well as other good causes.

Now, being that I am not in Ramat Eshkol (to the OP), I can’t speak for other areas.

There is also peer pressure involved in those areas (possibly), which may “force” people to dress showy. Ramat Eshkol is the American neighborhood in Yerushalyim, correct? It may just be importing those attitudes (maybe, I don’t really know).

Wolf: Good for you, that is the right thing. I still don’t have a megillah (after all these years), I just don’t see it as required over other expenses.

And?

As long as you explain to dress Tznius, what would be the problem?

Of course, having such a large Upsharon that you would invite like a wedding sounds like its own issue.

The friend was pressing me, and it turns out that it is because the girl already likes my son.

Hate to point this out, but this is a point for separation of genders for “various organizations at which he volunteers”.

(I assume NCSY type?)

Depends if it a girl or boy.

Girl would be nuts to give up a date in most cases. If I was the parent, I might try to convince my daughter myself.

Boy who has a list can just say I will put her on the list.

Boy who has no list, what do you have to lose?

While I’m also Chassidish and disagree with many things you and others write, I wouldn’t bash and degrade you for it. I believe you do what’s good for you and when Moshiach will come, he will show us the right way for it all.

I like this, and it is very true.

They refuse to teach their kids English so they will not be able to mix with the outside world and pratically be forced to stay in the insular communities in which they were brought up.

This is the essence of Israeli Charadism.

It has always been so (IMHO).

No.

The special interests are too entrenched in the system.