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  • in reply to: Customs re: 2nd wedding for halachic reasons #1215579
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    Popa & benign already gave you great advice.

    I’m just here to wish you both-

    MAZEL TOV!

    May you build a beautiful home together and may the years ahead be filled with happiness!

    in reply to: Non-slip Tallis #1219402
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    What women need is a Non-slip sheitel.

    I would try Meno’s advice of using duct tape and silly putty, but I’m afraid that might be painful.

    in reply to: Alter, The Thread Titler! #1213630
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    Frum Shleppers Will Help You Move to the End of the World.

    Is it assur to eat a sheretz-like Monster who eats Cookies?

    in reply to: Is it assur to eat like Cookie Monster? T #1213648
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    I’m not completely sure about the Halachic implications of messy eating or over-indulging in cookies.

    However, if you eat like Cookie Monster, please stay outside a radius of 400 ammos around my house, beginning Rosh Chodesh Nissan.

    in reply to: Is Amona like Gush Katif? #1214070
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    For one thing it’s much much smaller, both in geographic area and in population.

    I can’t give you exact figures; maybe another poster wants to provide them.

    Or you can look them up and let us know.

    Also Amona was already evacuated once about 10 years ago.

    There have been other demolitions and evacuations of small hilltop communities, but that one resulted in some famously ugly and violent clashes.

    in reply to: What's Another Toot? #1213108
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    Blueberries are ochmaniot.

    It begins with an aleph.

    in reply to: Foods Rashi never ate #1216215
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    I like your question, lightb.

    I hope someone can give us a good solid answer.

    Or at least hazard an educated guess.

    in reply to: Foods Rashi ate #1216613
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    cucumbers

    in reply to: 40 days before you were conceived… you were in the womb! #1211137
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    Joseph, you are correct that one should daven for a boy.

    In a case where someone already has a son, or many sons, is it even permissible to daven for a girl?

    Not asking you to pasken here if it’s actually muttar/ assur. Just curious to hear what you (or anyone else) have to say.

    in reply to: What you prefer to receive as mishloach manos #1211386
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    2 types of good quality chocolate.

    TYIA

    in reply to: Size of a Muni-Meter #1209642
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    Levs you should probably bake him a cake or send him a nice gift.

    Where else could you find someone to help you out with something like this?

    And now that you have the measurements, I hope you realize we’re all waiting to hear the conclusions you reach based on them.

    in reply to: Girlz and Guyz #1209461
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    Yes but DY you forgot to add-

    * except on the CR where women can and do pasken shailos all the time

    (I’ve heard even a mod can possibly be a woman)

    in reply to: I remember… #1209706
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    Blue aerogrammes?

    Blue aerogrammes!

    What a wave of nostalgia that brought on!!!

    There are so many things I remember from my childhood that don’t exist any more, I wouldn’t know where to start.

    But it’s the people I miss most, WinnieTP.

    The type of people that don’t exist any more (except a few very old ones) that I couldn’t describe if I tried. People who practiced a type of Yiddishkeit that doesn’t exist any more. People who didn’t pretend to have all the answers, and who didn’t need answers to all their questions. People who were happy to be able to a Mitzvah, without demanding an explanation for why it has to be done exactly that way and what exactly is in it for them, besides the simple joy of serving their Creator.

    in reply to: Time To Make A Difference #1209383
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    FutureP & Lightb,

    At the risk of sounding repetitive,

    Exactly my thoughts too!

    I guess most of us couldn’t help noticing.

    I was thinking how ashamed they’re all going to feel afterwards. And it’s all on record. None of the 70 will be able to say, “oh no not us, we were good to Your children.”

    May it be soon in our days.

    in reply to: It is the same tune!!! #1225924
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    Geordie, seriously, “niggun mi’beis Abba”??

    I’m the only one ROTFL?

    in reply to: A posek can tell you who to marry #1210227
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    !!!

    No way I can comment on any aspect of any of Rav H Schachter’s Halachic rulings.

    But–

    Do you all realize?!

    I think he just solved the shidduch crisis!

    in reply to: What's the story with the Durham campus? #1209257
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    Chattanooga TN

    Oh

    Sorry

    Thought this was one of those geography game threads

    in reply to: What book do you want everyone to read? #1209320
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    Getting back to the OP, and excepting any sifrei kodesh,

    Perfidy

    in reply to: Hashovas Aveidah/mais mitzvah #1209241
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    Why do we need to form committees?

    What’s next?

    A committee in yshiva to make sure the bachurim put on Tefillin? Bentch after meals? Treat their friends respectfully?

    It’s funny you brought this up today because I just got a call from a stranger trying to return an item a family member left behind in a place where he learns. And it’s not the first time such a thing happened.

    Basing my conclusions purely on personal, anecdotal evidence and not a comprehensive double blind study (sorry), I say the likelihood of having a lost object returned if left in a shul, beis midrash or yeshiva is 90% higher than that of an item left in other public places such as an airport, train station, bank or department store.

    (Please no anecdotally based studies to follow on the prevalence of forgetfulness in my family vs the general public.)

    in reply to: overturn a beis din decision #1214023
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    L1970, I feel for you. You’re going through some very tough times and it must be so painful.

    You just got free advice from a competent real live attorney (not easy to come by outside the Coffee room).

    I would think that’s for sure your best option right now.

    And when it’s all over maybe send CTL a bouquet of roses for his wife. (Hoping she is well, CTL!)

    in reply to: Forbidden Fruits and other produce #1209037
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    Yehuday, it depends where.

    Northern Poland, Lithuania, yes, agreed- a lot of root vegetables, maybe apples and pears in summer.

    But further South- and I’m not talking coast of the Mediterranean south, I’m talking about countries commonly considered part of Eastern Europe- there were Jews living in places that had a lot of fresh produce in the summer. Asparagus. Cauliflower. A great variety of berries, including raspberries, were used to make jams and preserves. I’ve often wondered how that worked. Dried fruits like raisins and dried figs were also quite common, by the way.

    in reply to: Tznius and kiruv #1211409
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    No experience with your issue, but I do have some speaking to Rabbis and Rebbetzins. You’ll probably realize this yourself eventually: they don’t always tell you what you were sure they’d say! Sometimes they say something entirely different. So maybe have that conversation with the rebbetzin after all.

    If you’re a little uncomfortable talking to her, is there maybe a different Rebbetzin (or Rabbi) you’re close with that you can ask?

    Because I agree like others mentioned, that the CR isn’t the best place for this.

    You’ll find lots of threads here about tznius but when it comes down to deciding what to do IRL, you want expert advice and a personal consultation. Or at least that’s what I’d want…

    in reply to: Feeding Bachurim #1209054
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    Anything involving deli will probably go over well. Any or all of the following: Deli salad. Deli roll. Deli platter. Anything with pastrami in it. For some inexplicable reason a dark dry form of salami is much appreciated.

    Also, I was trying to avoid mentioning this, but since I think nobody else did I’ll tell you that some might feel their Shabbos seuda is incomplete if you don’t offer herring. A few types. Usually served with kichel. Often followed by a lechayim. I can’t make suggestions in that department but any yeshiva bochur worth his salt will help you out with that.

    in reply to: The #1 tragedy facing the Frum world in America is: #1209493
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    That’s our #1 tragedy?

    Sorry, but no.

    Not even close.

    Our #1 tragedy is that we were not zoche to be makriv a korban tamid today.

    And of course we can’t look away from the various broken hearts, our own and others’, that will not be completely whole until that smoke rises above Yerushalayim again.

    in reply to: Has photography become too much of an obsession by simchas? #1208873
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    I hear you Joseph. I really do.

    But I read lightbrite’s post and I couldn’t help agreeing with every word.

    Think how precious some of those photographs might be to some future descendants you’re not even dreaming of yet who will see a picture of a great-grandparent they only heard stories about but never saw!

    Maybe the photography at our weddings is a little overdone and over the top. But so are so many other things at our weddings.

    I second DY in wishing you a Hartzlichen Mazel Tov!

    And hire the best photographer you can afford.

    in reply to: 7 letter word game #1208412
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    rainbow

    wishful

    in reply to: This generation vs. former generations #1208227
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    ItisTimeforT,

    Pachad Yitzchok by Rav Yitzchak Hutner?

    Or Pachad Yitzchak by Rav Yitzchak Lampronti?

    Care to tell us a little about what you’re referring to?

    in reply to: 7 letter word game #1208402
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    chasten

    noisily

    in reply to: Izhbitza chassidus and open Orthodox #1209921
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    You know Avi-K, I could totally have a discussion with you.

    But then my eyes see this phrase–

    “…husbands wave their fat fingers…”

    and I see where you’re coming from.

    And I realize that even if I catch my breath and try having a conversation with you, you’ll find someone like me totally beneath your lofty level of discussion and not worthy of your valuable attention.

    (For the record I’ll add that my fingers are thin; my husband has nice hands though he does in fact tend to gesticulate.)

    Just feel a need to say that I had hoped to edit a lot of things from that post before approving

    in reply to: 7 letter word game #1208400
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    tripods

    shellac

    in reply to: Recipe for Pretzel Chicken #1208197
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    Same as regular schnitzel.

    Dip chicken cutlets in flour, then beaten eggs, then follow with crushed pretzel crumbs (instead of corn flake crumbs or panko or whatever you normally use). Fry in hot oil, or spray baking pan with oil spray (Pam) then arrange cutlets, spray again, bake in oven.

    You can add soy sauce (just a little) or ketchup or barbecue sauce to beaten eggs. Don’t add salt or other salty ingredients (onion soup mix and the like) to pretzel crumbs as they’re salty enough, but you can add some spices like garlic powder, onion powder, hot pepper flakes or whatever your family likes. I think most people just enjoy the salty pretzel-y flavor and don’t bother with much else.

    in reply to: Lakewood Resident Screaming About New Shopping Mall #1208584
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    No way I can disagree with your last sentence, naftali18, as you quoted the Mishna in Avos.

    “Im ein derech eretz – ein Torah”

    A person has to first repair his Middos, then he can acquire Torah.

    This is a valuable limmud for all of us.

    Also an interesting limmud in light of this discussion.

    in reply to: Lakewood Resident Screaming About New Shopping Mall #1208552
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    Totally agree with you Zdad!

    It seemed to me that Gaw felt the shouting and screaming in public was being sanctioned by a poster in the CR (based on the post he quoted from). That post seemed to say the same thing to me as well.

    I’m not sure I’m necessarily in favor of speaking to Gedolim myself when I don’t understand something they’re doing.

    But shouting and screaming in public is ill advised regardless of who’s perpetrating the perceived injustice.

    Seems we agree on that!

    in reply to: Lakewood Resident Screaming About New Shopping Mall #1208545
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    Gaw feels that based on what he quoted he got carte blanche to protest the shittos of the Gedolim.

    Sure looks that way to me too.

    So what should we do when we disagree with a project the Gedolim support?

    Yell and scream in public?

    Request (or demand) an audience and yell at them in private?

    Burn dumpsters?

    Other?

    (Never mind. I notice lady in video ignored my questions too.)

    (Gaw, please don’t vote meretz!)

    in reply to: Shadchanim charges #1208008
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    Joseph wasn’t serious?!?

    in reply to: Shadchanim charges #1208002
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    You’re taking this seriously, LU?

    Ouch.

    Sincere apologies are in order here.

    Please accept mine.

    I hope you’ll take my most humble, sincere, regretful apologies and my heartfelt wishes that you soon find yourself under the Chuppah with someone perfect for you, in lieu of services not rendered.

    (And just so you know, those last three sentences were totally for real.)

    in reply to: Shadchanim charges #1207998
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    LU, Great, it’s a deal.

    Joseph, Sorry, it’s not.

    in reply to: Lakewood Resident Screaming About New Shopping Mall #1208536
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    This thread is just bizarre.

    On so many levels.

    I have a few questions for the lady in the video.

    The questions come from a neighboring thread featured here today called, “This generation vs former generations”.

    Dear Lady in the video,

    Where did your great grandmothers live?

    Were they from Lodz or Sanz or Satmar?

    Did they come from Brisk or Baranovitch or Slabodka?

    Were they from Hamburg or Vienna or Strasbourg?

    Did they live in Meknes or Djerba or Halab?

    Or did they hail from East New York or the Lower East Side or Baltimore?

    How do you think they would have spoken and behaved in public, among men, some of their own faith and some not?

    in reply to: Shadchanim charges #1207991
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    I’ll cut that in half.

    $2,500.

    And I’ll throw in a manicure for the young lady and a shoe shine for the young man.

    And a (not leather bound) Tehillim for both sets of parents.

    in reply to: This generation vs. former generations #1208212
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    Bluhbluh, if I understand your question correctly, you seem to think the passuk you quoted (which is actually Koheles, 7:10) indicates that we are wrong to think that the “olden days” were better, thus contradicting the Yeridas Hadoros theme of this thread.

    I think you misunderstood the passuk.

    There are a few ways to translate it, and none contradict the concept of yeridas hadoros. According to Rashi, “Don’t wonder or be surprised at the good reward that the Tzaddikim of earlier generations got, such as dor hamidbar and the doros of Yehoshua and David Hamelech, because everything comes according to the zchus of each generation.” (Please look at the Rashi yourself as my translation is not accurate.)

    As for the OP’s question, which I understood as: Was the yeridas hadoros greater in our generation than in previous generations?

    I think the answer might be: Yes.

    The generation that lived through the Holocaust went through tremendous nisyonos. Those who were in the USA at that time also went through great nisyonos, as shmiras Shabbos was not a simple thing here in the early part of the 20th century. The members of that generation who managed to remain frum, to keep Shabbos and to send their children to Yeshivos were truly remarkable people. Many were actively involved in building Yeshivos and Bais Yaakovs in a spiritual wasteland that did not seem to be fertile ground for such an undertaking.

    The post_Holocaust generations (I think we’re just getting started on the third so can we say there are two that have reached the maturity needed to be part of this discussion?) have different nisyonos: They must deal with nisayon of “osher” or wealth as opposed to the suffering of those who raised them (even a poor person today lives with luxuries that were unknown a couple of generations ago), and the great nisyonos that come from living in an immoral society coupled with advances in technology that makes the immorality almost unavoidable.

    It would seem to me that our generation is not dealing with its nisyonos as heroically and successfully as those who preceded us, and it looks like we’ve fallen an extra few steps back in addition to the natural step back each generation takes.

    I’m open to hear from anyone who disagrees!

    in reply to: What are the chances of the Obamas being mekareved? #1207553
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    Geo613, DC

    in reply to: question about a rabbi #1207445
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    The one she met on the plane on the way to E”Y.

    in reply to: Preparing children for REAL LIFE at a very young age #1206553
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    Dear tiny little lump of human,

    Wecome.

    Lesson 1:

    In His infinite wisdom the culmination of the B’riya was a wondrous creature!

    She will feed you and carry you with her wherever she goes. She will provide your needs graciously, free of charge.

    If you spit up on her, wake her at 1, 2, 3, and 4 a.m., and get the crib sheet dirty (again), she will continue to care for you and cherish you.

    If there are any problems, cry, and she’ll attend to them.

    And when you turn into a full grown mature human she will continue to love you.

    Rejoice! This is only the first of many wondrous gifts He has prepared for your enjoyment.

    in reply to: Video of Throwing Towels #1205984
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    Live and let live is one of those ideas that infiltrated our ranks from secular society. Some things that we see in secular society are blatantly obviously not good and not for us. There are a lot of other ideas that seem smart and easy to adopt, even if they don’t really align with our hashkafos.

    The Hellenists had ideas that some of us fell for too. Not every Yid joined Mattisyahu in the war against the Greeks. And Mattisyahu doesn’t seem to have taken live and let live as his motto. Wasn’t it something else?

    Maybe you want to think about changing your motto, PJ.

    Anybody want to come up with a good motto for PJ, in honor of our victory against Yavan?

    (Please nothing along the lines of, “All the oil in those sufganiyot will soon have you buying a bigger size coat”)

    in reply to: Video of Throwing Towels #1205977
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    On this day of Chanukah, the 3rd

    I’m sending a Bracha, a wish and a word

    For Lilmod ulelamaid to hear

    That at this time Chanukah next year

    You’ll be so busy in your own home

    You won’t have time to read this poem

    in reply to: Video of Throwing Towels #1205975
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    So that’s actually an article!

    By Rabbi Yair Hoffman!

    On this site!

    That I missed…

    Must have been paying too much attention to things happening IRL.

    Slackening off on theyeshivaworld.com…

    Whoops.

    in reply to: Video of Throwing Towels #1205952
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    I refuse to believe this is an actual minhag with any basis in anything real or holy.

    As far as I know, chassidim, same as the rest of us, are born with a yetzer hara, and get a yetzer tov when it’s time for them to start behaving like good Jews who take responsibility for their actions. And as is the case with the rest of us Yidden, the two both have great influence on their actions.

    in reply to: Let's hear from the Dem voters #1206101
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    When Trump made comments that were perceived as bigoted and racist, Republicans from all over the US and different branches of the government came out denouncing both the man and his statements

    Not a single Democrat whispered a word in defense of Israel or against Obama’s latest outrage last week.

    If you know of any CTL, I would be very happy to hear that I’m wrong.

    in reply to: question about a rabbi #1207434
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    Can’t keep up with you LU.

    LOL was to your 1st.

    in reply to: question about a rabbi #1207433
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    LU, LOL

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