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  • in reply to: Declining a Shabbos Meal Invitation #1151570
    haifagirl
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    “No, thank you.”

    HI!!!

    in reply to: made up words #1113313
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    “Oase” which means to stop at an oasis on the tollway to use the bathroom or get a snack. Ex: Does anybody need to oase?

    in reply to: For those who don't like gefilte fish, an alternative #1110937
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    Tuna salad.

    in reply to: The Amazing Superlative #1108894
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    I’ve been complaining about this for years. Amazingly, it hasn’t caught on.

    in reply to: Challenges of making Aliyah and how to overcome them? #1100533
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    In order to have a successful aliya, the first step is education. Know what you are getting into.

    The second step is attitude. You really have to want to be here. A man I know tells everyone, “If you are not prepared to clean toilets for a living, don’t come.” Not everyone has to take that kind of a job, but it is a possibility. I started out here as a cleaning lady.

    I came on my own, so I really can’t address the issues that a family would face, but just coincidentally, Friday night I ate by a couple who made aliya 20-some years ago. I don’t remember exactly what she said the ages of her kids were, but the youngest was 8 and the oldest was already here in yeshiva. She was told one of her daughters would have the most difficult time (the 12-year-old, maybe?), so she gave her a lot of extra attention. It turned out that she was the child who adapted to Israel the best. If I had to give advice to someone with children, I would say give them lots and lots of attention.

    in reply to: Eretz Israel for my FIRST TIME!!! ever..! #1104643
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    Where can I swim on a kosher beach?

    In Haifa (on Sundays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays for women).

    Id [sic] Avoid [sic] Tel Aviv and Haifa,

    Why?

    Do NOT discuss politics there,

    Was that a separate thought or part of the previous? Again, why?

    in reply to: Giving a name that's not a name #1094847
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    Good point! why is it that violet is a name but purple is “ridiculous” ?

    Purple is just a color, but violet is also a flower. Flower names are common: Rose, Daisy, Hyacinth, Lily, etc.

    in reply to: Homemade Hummus Help #1056145
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    Make sure to remove the skins from the chickpeas. It makes the hummus smoother.

    in reply to: what are the job options for a bais yaakov type girl? #1055360
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    How many $400 Sheitels do you think a Macher sells per week? Of course they dont make $20 per Sheitel, but they dont sell many of them either

    You do realize that selling sheitels is just a part of their business, right? They also wash and style sheitels. (Just like the hair on your head, sheitels get dirty and need to be washed.)

    Some also cut hair.

    Some also sell hair accessories.

    And a lot of sheitels cost a lost more than $400.

    in reply to: what are the job options for a bais yaakov type girl? #1055351
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    $20?! If they charge $50 for a wash and set, how is the profit only $20? Do they really use $30 worth of shampoo? Hairspray? What?

    And if they sell a new one for $400+, I can’t believe the profit is only $20.

    in reply to: Is it ok to publicly bash President Obama? #1055646
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    Question: if/when you go visit the president, would you go in a suit?

    If your answer is no, i dont believe you

    In the Oval Office or on the golf course?

    in reply to: what are the job options for a bais yaakov type girl? #1055348
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    So this begs the next question, what type of courses/training can one take besides graphics or shaitels?

    Actually, it doesn’t. It raises the question.

    That aside, I don’t have a degree and I consider myself successful. I think we need to define “success.”

    in reply to: what are the job options for a bais yaakov type girl? #1055334
    haifagirl
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    Perhaps I should have rewritten the sentence:

    “The response that cv gave was correct, however, . . .”

    in reply to: what are the job options for a bais yaakov type girl? #1055332
    haifagirl
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    Haifagirl, shouldn’t the “c” in “cv” at the beginning of the sentence be capitalized?

    No, because it’s a name. People are entitled to spell (and capitalize) their names as they see fit. I choose to spell haifagirl without a capital.

    Different style guides have varying opinions.

    in reply to: what are the job options for a bais yaakov type girl? #1055330
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    If Bais Yaakov type girl spells “collAge” instead of “collEge”, she can’t be a teacher or secretary.

    cv, you are correct. However, if you are going to criticize someone’s spelling, you should make sure your spelling and grammar are impeccable.

    in reply to: Is Being Right More Important than getting along? #1053078
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    I have a similar problem. We have certain rules we’re supposed to follow. While it annoys me that other teachers don’t clean the classrooms when they finish, that’s all it is–an annoyance.

    However, one rule is that we are not supposed to speak Hebrew in the lessons. I do my best to follow that (not so difficult since my Hebrew is pretty poor). But I sometimes lose students to teachers who are willing to speak Hebrew. Since I get paid only for the lessons I teach, following the rules is costing me parnassah.

    I’ve brought it up to the supervisor and to her boss. I’m waiting to see what happens.

    in reply to: Am I Allowed to Knock Out My Neighbor's Teeth? #1054669
    haifagirl
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    Oh, I was hoping you’d come and knock out my neighbor’s teeth.

    in reply to: How do you tell a good friend you no longer want to eat at their home? #1051894
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    A friend of mine recently told me she doesn’t allow cookbooks in her home if they have treif recipes. I was very happy to re-read this thread and realize I’m not the crazy one.

    in reply to: How to tell if a song is Jewish #1098029
    haifagirl
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    What if it’s written by a Jewish person but has no lyrics?

    in reply to: Gender neutral he/she #1051222
    haifagirl
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    The words “goddess”, “princess” and “queen” are actually very demeaning.

    So what exactly are we supposed to call Elizabeth II Regina?

    in reply to: Gender neutral he/she #1051219
    haifagirl
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    So do not be ashamed of sometimes using man to include women, or making he do for she.

    Amen!

    in reply to: Gender neutral he/she #1051214
    haifagirl
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    No, I’m not. I didn’t understand your point.

    in reply to: Gender neutral he/she #1051212
    haifagirl
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    Those who have questions should raise their hands.

    Problem not solved. Plurals are plurals.

    Yes, plurals are plurals. What does that have to do with anything?

    in reply to: Gender neutral he/she #1051201
    haifagirl
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    Sample sentence:

    If anyone has a question, it should raise its hand.

    If anyone has a question, Sir/Madam should raise Sir/Madam’s hand.

    If anyone has a question, they should raise their hand.

    If anyone has a question, someone should raise someone’s hand.

    Those who have questions should raise their hands.

    Problem solved.

    in reply to: If you could change the Shidduch System #1056210
    haifagirl
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    Thumbs-up, Oomis.

    Absolutely!

    in reply to: 3 most important qualities to look for in a shidduch #1051754
    haifagirl
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    Apology accepted.

    in reply to: 3 most important qualities to look for in a shidduch #1051752
    haifagirl
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    Or maybe you know someone who’s looking for someone with bad middos?

    in reply to: 3 most important qualities to look for in a shidduch #1051751
    haifagirl
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    Haifagirl, don’t you think midos should be somewhere on your list?

    Maybe you should ask:

    Don’t you think being human should be somewhere on your list?

    Don’t you think being male should be somewhere on your list?

    Don’t you think being Jewish should be somewhere on your list?

    Don’t you think being post-bar mitzvah age should be somewhere on your list?

    DY, don’t you think some things are so obvious that they don’t need to be included?

    in reply to: 3 most important qualities to look for in a shidduch #1051741
    haifagirl
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    Let’s try this:

    1. Intelligence.

    2. Good grammar.

    3. The ability to extrapolate from a list of two items that there is no third item important enough to warrant a mention.

    in reply to: 3 most important qualities to look for in a shidduch #1051733
    haifagirl
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    Intelligence. Good Grammar.

    in reply to: Text to Israel? #1050336
    haifagirl
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    As far as I know, no Israeli carries have e-mail addresses for the phone numbers. I looked into it when I first moved here. It’s a pain.

    in reply to: Fast songs #1072176
    haifagirl
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    Go to YouTube and search for “fast Jewish music.” There’s plenty.

    in reply to: What Makes Jewish Music Jewish? #1051285
    haifagirl
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    Do you object to Golfer’s answer, music created by and for non-Jews?

    But how would one recognize it as such? I remember playing a piece (I wish I could remember the name of it) that one member of the band described as “Star Wars Meets Klezmer.” Many of us agreed that it was an accurate description. I believe that means it sounded “Jewish.” It was written by Michael Reilly (he’s not Jewish). I don’t believe he had any intention of marketing it to any particular ethnic group. Is that Jewish music?

    Is Ilya Levinson’s “Klezmer Rhapsody” Jewish music? I never asked him who his intended audience was, but I believe he wrote it for the soloist with the Maxwell Street Klezmer Band.

    in reply to: What Makes Jewish Music Jewish? #1051277
    haifagirl
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    Let me re-phrase my question somewhat. To those people who listen to only “Jewish” music, how can you tell? What distinguishes it from “non-Jewish” music?

    in reply to: What Makes Jewish Music Jewish? #1051269
    haifagirl
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    If you are sincerely interested in staying away from music that’s not good for your Neshama, then a good barometer is your own Neshama’s reaction to the music you’re listening to.

    I never said I was interested in staying away from any type of music. It’s just that I am fascinated by all the discussions in CR about non-Jewish music. I’m curious as to how one defines music as being “Jewish” or “non-Jewish.”

    Remember, I’m talking about MUSIC, not LYRICS.

    in reply to: What Makes Jewish Music Jewish? #1051263
    haifagirl
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    It seems, from the replies, that there is no agreed-upon definition of “Jewish music.” That raises the question of whether or not there is such a thing as “Jewish music.” If there isn’t such a thing as “Jewish music,” can there be “non-Jewish music”?

    in reply to: What Makes Jewish Music Jewish? #1051252
    haifagirl
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    AND THAT IS WHAT MAKES THEM JEWISH SONGS

    I didn’t ask about Jewish SONGS, I asked about Jewish MUSIC. So far I haven’t been given an answer. Perhaps there is no answer. Perhaps there’s no such thing as Jewish or non-Jewish music.

    in reply to: A real debate about women #1049754
    haifagirl
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    Do any American Orthodox women hold political office? Just wondering.

    I did.

    in reply to: What Makes Jewish Music Jewish? #1051247
    haifagirl
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    My brain goes so fast my fingers can’t keep up. That should have said:

    Are certain intervals Jewish?

    Thank you for pointing it out.

    in reply to: Calling uncles and aunts without using their title #1136748
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    Most people my age are grandparents (just to let you know how old I am). I still call my one remaining aunt Aunt Shirley. (Luckily her name really is Shirley or that would be totally weird.)

    Slightly off topic, when I was first becoming frum, I spent a Shabbos with a frum family. I was totally taken aback when their children called me by my first name. I was nearly 30 and I didn’t feel that I was in a peer group with 3-year-olds. I soon discovered that it was the norm among frum people to address single women of any age by their first name. It was quite disconcerting when married “women” younger than I (teenagers, actually) were called Mrs. So-and-so by the same children who used my first name. I’ve gotten used to it.

    I might add, however, that one of my second cousins has her children call me Cousin Haifagirl. She doesn’t want her children calling adults by their first name.

    Off my soapbox now.

    in reply to: Girl I want to get engaged to wants me to change my Rabbi #1047179
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    A woman needs a father. A woman needs a husband. That’s the way it has worked for thousands of years. You think your bube’s bube had a Rav?

    It’s not tznius for women to be marching off to rabbis. This is a new phenomena.

    Since I have neither a father nor a husband, where am I supposed to go with my shailos? The CR?

    And b’michilas kvoid haifagirl (who is awfully quiet these days),

    One phenomenon

    Many phenomena

    You are welcome.

    Thank you.,

    in reply to: Non- Jewish Music #1046383
    haifagirl
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    I’m Jewish and I’m writing a symphony. Does that make it “Jewish music”?

    in reply to: Stupid things people have said to you #1043040
    haifagirl
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    Actual conversation that I know about:

    “What are you looking for?”

    “I’m not really sure. Oh, but not a kohen.”

    “You don’t want to marry a kohen?”

    “I can’t marry a kohen.”

    “Why not?”


    Stupid conversation I had with a friend:

    Friend: How old are you?

    Me: 52. [This was a few years ago.]

    Friend: Oh, you’re the same age I am. I’ll be 52 in May.

    [pause, laugh] Oops! My husband just reminded me I’m going to be 62, not 52.

    in reply to: Totally Random Thread Title Just to Confuse PAA #1061322
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    Personally, I notice that Chofetz Chaim guys are more mentschlich and mature than other yeshiva bachurim.

    Absolutely!

    in reply to: Common Sayings That Irritate Me #1148970
    haifagirl
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    “Alas poor Yorick” what century are these people living in, exactly? That sounds like Shakespeare

    Good guess! What a shame you had to guess and didn’t have an education that exposed you to great literature. It’s from Hamlet. The quote is “Alas, poor Yorick! I knew him, Horatio.”

    Aside from not hearing the name “Yorick” that often (at least, not in the U.S. or Israel), what makes it sound like Shakespeare?

    in reply to: chofetz chaim vs. chaim berlin vs. BMG #1035816
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Chofetz Chaim

    in reply to: smartphone #1115792
    haifagirl
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    Back to the original question . . .

    To those of you who think he shouldn’t reject a girl with a smartphone, why would you want to condemn her to a life with such a narrow-minded guy?

    in reply to: smartphone #1115790
    haifagirl
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    I was at a wedding the other night. The chosson’s grandmother couldn’t be there. Her daughter (the chosson’s aunt) used her smartphone to livestream the entire thing to her mother so she could participate in grandson’s simcha. You’d have a lot of trouble doing that with a kosher phone.

    in reply to: Yeshiva World Not Working In Israel? #1034897
    haifagirl
    Participant

    It’s working in Haifa!

    in reply to: Totally Random Thread Title Just to Confuse PAA #1061297
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    I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people in the supermarket and thought, I can tell he didn’t learn in Chofetz Chaim.

    You can always spot a Chofetz Chaim guy by his good middos.

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