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  • in reply to: Chupa songs #1037744
    haifagirl
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    I was at a wedding last night, and after the brochos, before breaking the glass, they sang “Im Eshkacheich.” I thought that was really nice.

    in reply to: height in shidduchim #1034081
    haifagirl
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    I dated a guy who was shorter than I, and he also had a slight disability. Neither of those was the reason it didn’t work.

    in reply to: If you think the R word is offensive you are retarded #1199763
    haifagirl
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    Yes to both.

    in reply to: If you think the R word is offensive you are retarded #1199760
    haifagirl
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    In the last month I’ve heard the word used twice. Once was when a woman was telling me about her son, and the second time was when someone was telling me about her sister.

    in reply to: Things people in the CR find offensive #1038588
    haifagirl
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    I have heard people introducing themselves as Mr. (or Ms./Mrs./Miss) So-and-so. That’s really not correct. A person should introduce himself (or herself) by his (or her) first and last name. The person should then respond by calling him (or her) Mr. (or Ms./Mrs./Miss) So-and-so until told to do otherwise.

    I have noticed a lack of etiquette in the frum community. Don’t get me started on table manners!

    in reply to: How do you translate your Hebrew name? #1034338
    haifagirl
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    I only have a Hebrew name and it has a ch in it. I have been to the doctors office where they called it with a j. 🙂 I should probably go by my middle name which is way easier to pronounce. 😉

    I once had to go for a test at a hospital I didn’t ordinarly frequent. The waiting room was quite crowded. Many of the women there were Polish. When the person who had been calling people out of the waiting room went out to lunch, her replacement couldn’t pronounce the Polish names. Those poor Polish women didn’t recognize their names the way she pronounced them, so she would spell them, but that really didn’t help. Luckily I used to speak a little Polish, so at least I was able to pronounce the names. She would mangle it, I would pronounce it correctly, the Polish woman would thank me and everything else proceeded as it should.

    So should someone named Malka introduce herself as Queen?

    My mother told me that when she was younger she knew a couple people named Queen Esther. There are still people around with that name. Look in any big city phone book.

    in reply to: Things people in the CR find offensive #1038584
    haifagirl
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    The first time a child (approximately four years old) called me by my first name and the parents* didn’t say anything. I was quite taken aback. I thought, here I am, more than 20 years older than this kid, and he’s treating me as if I’m his peer, and it seems to be accepted. That was my introduction to the frum community. I got used to it, but I’ve never liked it.

    I always thought it was strange that my friends’ children would call me by my first name, yet they would call their friends’ parents (who were my age) Mrs. So-and-so.

    *For what it’s worth, many, many years later the mother of that kid told me she didn’t like when Plonit came over because Plonit always called her by her first name. Plonit, at that time, was probably 18 or 19.

    in reply to: Things people in the CR find offensive #1038578
    haifagirl
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    And have you ever noticed that a child will call an 18-year-old who is married “Mrs. So-and-so” (or “Mr. So-and-so”), but will call a 50-year-old who isn’t married by his or her first name?

    And an 18-year-old will be called a “married woman,” but a 50-year-old is a “single girl.”

    in reply to: Things people in the CR find offensive #1038577
    haifagirl
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    when should they start calling someone an “older single”

    At least 40.

    A girl who is 23 is, technically, young enough to be my granddaughter.

    in reply to: Things people in the CR find offensive #1038569
    haifagirl
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    I’m single and nearing my 22nd birthday, and although many of my friends are already purchasing double strollers,

    My friends’ kids are purchasing double strollers.

    in reply to: Sem and Security #1034745
    haifagirl
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    For what it’s worth, there’s a seminary in Haifa, and things have been very quiet here.

    in reply to: Recipes for the seriously poor #1030196
    haifagirl
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    A few years ago I had a week where all I could afford was 3 onions. I made soup and made it last.

    in reply to: WhY iS CAPiTALIZaTIoN NEcEsSArY? #1030041
    haifagirl
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    It looks better because we are used to it.

    That’s true. It’s a convention. And we should try to be conventional.

    Because we are used to it, it makes it easier for us to read. Obviously, if you have something you want to say, you would want to make it as easy as possible for people to get the message. Capiche?

    in reply to: Be kind to divorcees #1029779
    haifagirl
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    would you agree that some people might find your desire to eat by yourself (even on Pesach) outside the mainstream population? Very few people consistently want to eat their meals alone.

    There you go. You made the assumption that a lot of people make. I never said I wanted to be by myself. I said I wanted to be AT HOME! There is a difference. I would love nothing more than to have a dining room full of people. But in MY HOME, eating MY FOOD.

    The problem is I don’t have a dining room, or even a dining table. I have a bed and a coffee table. That isn’t conducive to having guests. I hope that someday I will be financially able to have a larger apartment, and lots and lots of company.

    For what it’s worth, when I was in a better financial situation, and did have a larger apartment, I did invite people. I was usually (but not always) turned down. Occasionally some other singles would come. Families never did.

    In fact, one person even said, “Cooking for eight is a lot different than cooking for one.” Since he was an expert, I wish he could have taught me how to cook for one. I usually just gave my Shabbos leftovers (of which there were quite a bit) to some people who I knew would appreciate them.

    in reply to: Be kind to divorcees #1029768
    haifagirl
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    Well, I’m not a divorcee, but I am single, and I live alone. I’m sure most people mean well when the invite me, but it always comes across as if they feel I am:

    a) incapable of cooking,

    b) too stupid to figure out how to say kiddush, or

    c) all of the above.

    I don’t like going out. People look at me as if I just came from another planet when I tell them I eat my meals at home. It’s especially difficult during Pesach.

    On the other hand, one woman (I’m not sure if she’s a divorcee or a widow) found out I do my own seder. She said it never occurred to her to do her own. But she was so happy that I gave her the idea so that she could have HER seder in HER home.

    Not everybody likes to be invited. If you want invitations, ask for them.

    in reply to: Poll: What's Your Favorite Nosh? #1027065
    haifagirl
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    I practially live on Bamba. It has no sugar, white flour, artificial sweeteners, etc. Since I made that my snack of choice, I have lost a lot of weight.

    in reply to: Engaged on 3rd date #1027031
    haifagirl
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    Danny Bonaduce married his second wife on their first date. (Am I the only Partridge Family fan here?)

    in reply to: Ending it after 10 dates over text #1027186
    haifagirl
    Participant

    The one time I had to break it off with a guy I did it in person. Then I went to my friend’s house and cried.

    in reply to: "Official List" of CR Users #1220782
    haifagirl
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    I am so honored to be in the top 10.

    in reply to: Things that are avoda zara #1094557
    haifagirl
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    haifagirl
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    I can’t believe you’re still debating this. Go open up any math book. You people do know what books are, don’t you?

    in reply to: if you could find out one thing … #1015478
    haifagirl
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    Wouldn’t it be wonderful to live in a world where chickens could cross the road without having their motives questioned?

    in reply to: Binghamton, NY #1003073
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Mods: You can close this thread. He found a way to get to Baltimore. Thank you all for your help.

    in reply to: Ear Piercing #1002134
    haifagirl
    Participant

    I really, really, really wanted pierced ears. My parents wouldn’t allow it. I finally did it right after I moved out when I was 19.

    Looking back, I’m glad that’s how it worked out.

    in reply to: Democracygood or bad? #995079
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Democracy is bad. That’s why the Founding Fathers chose to make the United States a republic.

    in reply to: What do YOU think is the most important part of a song and why? #969163
    haifagirl
    Participant

    I thought I replied to this, but maybe not.

    The most important part of the song is obviously the melody. The lyrics, without the music, is just poetry–not a song.

    While the harmony may be beautiful, and the rhythm complex and interesting, neither are much use without the melody.

    And the performer, without the melody, is just some guy standing around holding a microphone.

    So why the question?

    in reply to: How important are brains? #969478
    haifagirl
    Participant

    I would not consider marrying somebody unintelligent. That could be why I’m not married. Not enough smart guys out there.

    in reply to: George Zimmerman is not innocent #966883
    haifagirl
    Participant

    The truth is far more boring. It’s all about ordinary, everyday stress management, relationship counseling, etc.

    And if one doesn’t have stress, or a relationship, etc., how would one benefit from therapy?

    in reply to: Words unspokenwhat happened to them? (Dating) #966120
    haifagirl
    Participant

    and maybe I would love to just share it with a friend;

    You can call her.

    It’s obvious you are in a lot of pain. It’s not easy being single in the frum world. You just need to have emunah. Hashem knows what’s best for you.

    You may want to find someone professional you could talk to. You have too much pain to handle alone.

    And if you can handle some “words of wisdom” from an older single, it does get easier.

    in reply to: Nice Try, Syag! #1158591
    haifagirl
    Participant

    I’m not a big Slurpee fan, and I had a convenience store across the street from where I worked. I didn’t have a reason to go to 7-11 very often.

    in reply to: Nice Try, Syag! #1158589
    haifagirl
    Participant

    I can probably count on one hand the number of times I was in that 7-11. And I would probably have fingers left over.

    in reply to: Someone With Dairy Allergies During The 9 Days #964482
    haifagirl
    Participant

    I’ve never understood why people go so crazy during the nine days. I very rarely eat either meat or dairy, so these are just another nine days for me, food-wise.

    in reply to: About windows I do shutter #962898
    haifagirl
    Participant

    haifagirl, how would one shutter “about” a window? (Sorry, I couldn’t resist).

    First, about can mean around the outside.

    Next, shutter is a transitive verb that can mean to furnish with shutters.

    So, just think of that sentence as being:

    Around the outside of windows I do furnish shutters.

    in reply to: Henry #991398
    haifagirl
    Participant

    George was a nice guy. He wasn’t, however, perfect.

    George found out about a job opening at a company he really wanted to work for. Before sending his CV he asked an obnoxious English teacher he knew to proofread it. The teacher pointed out some mistakes. George corrected the CV and sent it off. George was very happy he got called in for an interview. The manager told him how impressed he was with George’s CV. He said since so many people communicate in text-speak, he rarely received a CV without errors. George’s was one of just a handful out of hundreds. Unfortunately, the interview didn’t go well. The manager was surprised that someone who submitted such a perfect CV couldn’t speak properly. He told George he was sorry, but communication was very important in this job. He needed someone who could speak clearly and correctly.

    George didn’t get the job. It was then he realized that he was missing an important life skill. Someone had tried to help him, but he was too stubborn to see it.

    This isn’t true. But it could be.

    in reply to: Blame the shadchanim #963549
    haifagirl
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    If I decide I want to move away to go to medical school, all I have to do now is hug and kiss my mother and shake my father’s hand.

    Why wouldn’t you hug and kiss your father, too?

    in reply to: Why Do People Speak This Way? #1008392
    haifagirl
    Participant

    It’s time for some grammar lessons.

    You were absolutely right in everything you said. Thank you.

    in reply to: Famous Personalities who are Jewish #1027160
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Orbach and Newman’s mothers weren’t Jewish. Same thing with Harrison Ford and Michael Landon and Michael Douglas

    Harrison Ford’s mother was Jewish but his father wasn’t. At least according to my aunt who lived a few houses down from them. And according to Wikipedia. 🙂

    in reply to: Taking Issue With High School Plays: What's The Goal? #961255
    haifagirl
    Participant

    haifagirl

    “Perhaps one purpose the play can be to teach the girls about the theater.”

    Can you guess whats wrong with your sentence? Gosh you need to back off on correcting everyone’s grammar and what not because yours aint poifect either.

    You are absolutely right. I do sometimes make mistakes. In this case I left out the word “of.” I frequently think much faster than I type, and my fingers don’t keep up. Sometimes I don’t proofread as well as I should.

    However, when I do correct someone’s grammar, I usually get all my apostrophes in there. (Should have been “what’s.”)

    in reply to: Hey Haifagirl! #960891
    haifagirl
    Participant

    So, always striving, tell me something about myself that proves you know me.

    in reply to: Why Do People Speak This Way? #1008390
    haifagirl
    Participant

    If i really wanted, i could speak like you

    So the question is, why don’t you want to? The choice is sound like an intelligent person or sound like an ignorant person. It would seem to me the choice is obvious.

    in reply to: Taking Issue With High School Plays: What's The Goal? #961249
    haifagirl
    Participant

    I used to attend the plays back when I lived in the U.S. I remember one play where the program listed a bunch of girls who had worked on props. I was really surprised, since there were hardly any props in the play.

    I wondered why they didn’t credit anybody with sets. The sets were very, very nice. I finally realized they didn’t know the difference between sets and props.

    Perhaps one purpose the play can be to teach the girls about the theater. They can learn stage technique, theater terminology, etc.

    in reply to: Turning 13, 20, 30, 40, etc.Shas Ratzon? #961053
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Toi: Care to buy a capital letter? And an apostrophe?

    in reply to: Hey Haifagirl! #960888
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Curiouser and curiouser!

    in reply to: Why Do People Speak This Way? #1008388
    haifagirl
    Participant

    From a different thread:

    My parents didn’t yell at her and then got mad at my wife and I for yelling at her.

    Here’s the rule:

    Take the other person out of the sentence.

    Would you say, “My parents . . . got mad at I”? Of course you wouldn’t! Just because you add another person into the sentence doesn’t change you from an object to a subject. You should have said, “My parents . . . got made at my wife and me . . . .”

    in reply to: Why Do People Speak This Way? #1008386
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Serious question- why do chasidim continue to hold on to the (seemingly incorrect) pronunciation of Hebrew words (I.e. choosid vs chasid)?

    You mean, “Vayehi beemay Achashverosh HEE Achashverosh . . .”

    in reply to: Snowden: Traitor or Hero? #962259
    haifagirl
    Participant

    I’d rather live in a country that doesn’t date mine

    Oh, you want your country all to yourself?

    Sleep deprivation?

    in reply to: Snowden: Traitor or Hero? #962254
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Would you rather live in a country where they data mine phone calls for terrorism, or where the people working for the intelligence spill their secrets and run away to Hong Kong.

    I’d rather live in a country that doesn’t date mine and therefore has no secrets for people to spill.

    in reply to: Girls: Like a guy? #961139
    haifagirl
    Participant

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/turning-60504030-shas-ratzon#post-441878

    *coughDOUBLESTANDARDcoughcough*

    Thanks for my daily chuckle. 🙂

    in reply to: Turning 13, 20, 30, 40, etc.Shas Ratzon? #961050
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Haifagirl

    I can’t believe your obsession with correcting others. You already envision what others would say in particular situations and how it would be wrong.

    Not envisioning, but speaking for painful experience. I’ve heard it said incorrectly at least 95 percent of the time.

    in reply to: Hey Haifagirl! #960885
    haifagirl
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    always striving: I’m calling your bluff. Tell me something about me that won’t give me away, but that I’ll believe that you know me.

    Good job!

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