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I was at a wedding last night, and after the brochos, before breaking the glass, they sang “Im Eshkacheich.” I thought that was really nice.
I dated a guy who was shorter than I, and he also had a slight disability. Neither of those was the reason it didn’t work.October 3, 2014 7:05 am at 7:05 am in reply to: If you think the R word is offensive you are retarded #1199763
Yes to both.October 2, 2014 5:34 pm at 5:34 pm in reply to: If you think the R word is offensive you are retarded #1199760
In the last month I’ve heard the word used twice. Once was when a woman was telling me about her son, and the second time was when someone was telling me about her sister.
I have heard people introducing themselves as Mr. (or Ms./Mrs./Miss) So-and-so. That’s really not correct. A person should introduce himself (or herself) by his (or her) first and last name. The person should then respond by calling him (or her) Mr. (or Ms./Mrs./Miss) So-and-so until told to do otherwise.
I have noticed a lack of etiquette in the frum community. Don’t get me started on table manners!
I only have a Hebrew name and it has a ch in it. I have been to the doctors office where they called it with a j. ðŸ™‚ I should probably go by my middle name which is way easier to pronounce. ðŸ˜‰
I once had to go for a test at a hospital I didn’t ordinarly frequent. The waiting room was quite crowded. Many of the women there were Polish. When the person who had been calling people out of the waiting room went out to lunch, her replacement couldn’t pronounce the Polish names. Those poor Polish women didn’t recognize their names the way she pronounced them, so she would spell them, but that really didn’t help. Luckily I used to speak a little Polish, so at least I was able to pronounce the names. She would mangle it, I would pronounce it correctly, the Polish woman would thank me and everything else proceeded as it should.
So should someone named Malka introduce herself as Queen?
My mother told me that when she was younger she knew a couple people named Queen Esther. There are still people around with that name. Look in any big city phone book.
The first time a child (approximately four years old) called me by my first name and the parents* didn’t say anything. I was quite taken aback. I thought, here I am, more than 20 years older than this kid, and he’s treating me as if I’m his peer, and it seems to be accepted. That was my introduction to the frum community. I got used to it, but I’ve never liked it.
I always thought it was strange that my friends’ children would call me by my first name, yet they would call their friends’ parents (who were my age) Mrs. So-and-so.
*For what it’s worth, many, many years later the mother of that kid told me she didn’t like when Plonit came over because Plonit always called her by her first name. Plonit, at that time, was probably 18 or 19.
And have you ever noticed that a child will call an 18-year-old who is married “Mrs. So-and-so” (or “Mr. So-and-so”), but will call a 50-year-old who isn’t married by his or her first name?
And an 18-year-old will be called a “married woman,” but a 50-year-old is a “single girl.”
when should they start calling someone an “older single”
At least 40.
A girl who is 23 is, technically, young enough to be my granddaughter.
I’m single and nearing my 22nd birthday, and although many of my friends are already purchasing double strollers,
My friends’ kids are purchasing double strollers.
For what it’s worth, there’s a seminary in Haifa, and things have been very quiet here.
A few years ago I had a week where all I could afford was 3 onions. I made soup and made it last.
It looks better because we are used to it.
That’s true. It’s a convention. And we should try to be conventional.
Because we are used to it, it makes it easier for us to read. Obviously, if you have something you want to say, you would want to make it as easy as possible for people to get the message. Capiche?
would you agree that some people might find your desire to eat by yourself (even on Pesach) outside the mainstream population? Very few people consistently want to eat their meals alone.
There you go. You made the assumption that a lot of people make. I never said I wanted to be by myself. I said I wanted to be AT HOME! There is a difference. I would love nothing more than to have a dining room full of people. But in MY HOME, eating MY FOOD.
The problem is I don’t have a dining room, or even a dining table. I have a bed and a coffee table. That isn’t conducive to having guests. I hope that someday I will be financially able to have a larger apartment, and lots and lots of company.
For what it’s worth, when I was in a better financial situation, and did have a larger apartment, I did invite people. I was usually (but not always) turned down. Occasionally some other singles would come. Families never did.
In fact, one person even said, “Cooking for eight is a lot different than cooking for one.” Since he was an expert, I wish he could have taught me how to cook for one. I usually just gave my Shabbos leftovers (of which there were quite a bit) to some people who I knew would appreciate them.
Well, I’m not a divorcee, but I am single, and I live alone. I’m sure most people mean well when the invite me, but it always comes across as if they feel I am:
a) incapable of cooking,
b) too stupid to figure out how to say kiddush, or
c) all of the above.
I don’t like going out. People look at me as if I just came from another planet when I tell them I eat my meals at home. It’s especially difficult during Pesach.
On the other hand, one woman (I’m not sure if she’s a divorcee or a widow) found out I do my own seder. She said it never occurred to her to do her own. But she was so happy that I gave her the idea so that she could have HER seder in HER home.
Not everybody likes to be invited. If you want invitations, ask for them.
I practially live on Bamba. It has no sugar, white flour, artificial sweeteners, etc. Since I made that my snack of choice, I have lost a lot of weight.
Danny Bonaduce married his second wife on their first date. (Am I the only Partridge Family fan here?)
The one time I had to break it off with a guy I did it in person. Then I went to my friend’s house and cried.
I am so honored to be in the top 10.July 13, 2014 9:31 am at 9:31 am in reply to: 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 – 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 x 0 = ? #1125427
I can’t believe you’re still debating this. Go open up any math book. You people do know what books are, don’t you?
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to live in a world where chickens could cross the road without having their motives questioned?
Mods: You can close this thread. He found a way to get to Baltimore. Thank you all for your help.
I really, really, really wanted pierced ears. My parents wouldn’t allow it. I finally did it right after I moved out when I was 19.
Looking back, I’m glad that’s how it worked out.
Democracy is bad. That’s why the Founding Fathers chose to make the United States a republic.August 2, 2013 3:34 pm at 3:34 pm in reply to: What do YOU think is the most important part of a song and why? #969163
I thought I replied to this, but maybe not.
The most important part of the song is obviously the melody. The lyrics, without the music, is just poetry–not a song.
While the harmony may be beautiful, and the rhythm complex and interesting, neither are much use without the melody.
And the performer, without the melody, is just some guy standing around holding a microphone.
So why the question?
I would not consider marrying somebody unintelligent. That could be why I’m not married. Not enough smart guys out there.
The truth is far more boring. It’s all about ordinary, everyday stress management, relationship counseling, etc.
And if one doesn’t have stress, or a relationship, etc., how would one benefit from therapy?
and maybe I would love to just share it with a friend;
You can call her.
It’s obvious you are in a lot of pain. It’s not easy being single in the frum world. You just need to have emunah. Hashem knows what’s best for you.
You may want to find someone professional you could talk to. You have too much pain to handle alone.
And if you can handle some “words of wisdom” from an older single, it does get easier.
I’m not a big Slurpee fan, and I had a convenience store across the street from where I worked. I didn’t have a reason to go to 7-11 very often.
I can probably count on one hand the number of times I was in that 7-11. And I would probably have fingers left over.
I’ve never understood why people go so crazy during the nine days. I very rarely eat either meat or dairy, so these are just another nine days for me, food-wise.
haifagirl, how would one shutter “about” a window? (Sorry, I couldn’t resist).
First, about can mean around the outside.
Next, shutter is a transitive verb that can mean to furnish with shutters.
So, just think of that sentence as being:
Around the outside of windows I do furnish shutters.
George was a nice guy. He wasn’t, however, perfect.
George found out about a job opening at a company he really wanted to work for. Before sending his CV he asked an obnoxious English teacher he knew to proofread it. The teacher pointed out some mistakes. George corrected the CV and sent it off. George was very happy he got called in for an interview. The manager told him how impressed he was with George’s CV. He said since so many people communicate in text-speak, he rarely received a CV without errors. George’s was one of just a handful out of hundreds. Unfortunately, the interview didn’t go well. The manager was surprised that someone who submitted such a perfect CV couldn’t speak properly. He told George he was sorry, but communication was very important in this job. He needed someone who could speak clearly and correctly.
George didn’t get the job. It was then he realized that he was missing an important life skill. Someone had tried to help him, but he was too stubborn to see it.
This isn’t true. But it could be.
If I decide I want to move away to go to medical school, all I have to do now is hug and kiss my mother and shake my father’s hand.
Why wouldn’t you hug and kiss your father, too?
It’s time for some grammar lessons.
You were absolutely right in everything you said. Thank you.
Orbach and Newman’s mothers weren’t Jewish. Same thing with Harrison Ford and Michael Landon and Michael Douglas
Harrison Ford’s mother was Jewish but his father wasn’t. At least according to my aunt who lived a few houses down from them. And according to Wikipedia. ðŸ™‚June 25, 2013 12:33 pm at 12:33 pm in reply to: Taking Issue With High School Plays: What's The Goal? #961255
“Perhaps one purpose the play can be to teach the girls about the theater.”
Can you guess whats wrong with your sentence? Gosh you need to back off on correcting everyone’s grammar and what not because yours aint poifect either.
You are absolutely right. I do sometimes make mistakes. In this case I left out the word “of.” I frequently think much faster than I type, and my fingers don’t keep up. Sometimes I don’t proofread as well as I should.
However, when I do correct someone’s grammar, I usually get all my apostrophes in there. (Should have been “what’s.”)
So, always striving, tell me something about myself that proves you know me.
If i really wanted, i could speak like you
So the question is, why don’t you want to? The choice is sound like an intelligent person or sound like an ignorant person. It would seem to me the choice is obvious.June 24, 2013 8:49 am at 8:49 am in reply to: Taking Issue With High School Plays: What's The Goal? #961249
I used to attend the plays back when I lived in the U.S. I remember one play where the program listed a bunch of girls who had worked on props. I was really surprised, since there were hardly any props in the play.
I wondered why they didn’t credit anybody with sets. The sets were very, very nice. I finally realized they didn’t know the difference between sets and props.
Perhaps one purpose the play can be to teach the girls about the theater. They can learn stage technique, theater terminology, etc.
Toi: Care to buy a capital letter? And an apostrophe?
Curiouser and curiouser!
From a different thread:
My parents didn’t yell at her and then got mad at my wife and I for yelling at her.
Here’s the rule:
Take the other person out of the sentence.
Would you say, “My parents . . . got mad at I”? Of course you wouldn’t! Just because you add another person into the sentence doesn’t change you from an object to a subject. You should have said, “My parents . . . got made at my wife and me . . . .”
Serious question- why do chasidim continue to hold on to the (seemingly incorrect) pronunciation of Hebrew words (I.e. choosid vs chasid)?
You mean, “Vayehi beemay Achashverosh HEE Achashverosh . . .”
I’d rather live in a country that doesn’t date mine
Oh, you want your country all to yourself?
Would you rather live in a country where they data mine phone calls for terrorism, or where the people working for the intelligence spill their secrets and run away to Hong Kong.
I’d rather live in a country that doesn’t date mine and therefore has no secrets for people to spill.
Thanks for my daily chuckle. ðŸ™‚
I can’t believe your obsession with correcting others. You already envision what others would say in particular situations and how it would be wrong.
Not envisioning, but speaking for painful experience. I’ve heard it said incorrectly at least 95 percent of the time.
always striving: I’m calling your bluff. Tell me something about me that won’t give me away, but that I’ll believe that you know me.