sister bear- how’d it go?

Honestly, you have nothing better to worry about?!

I give you a bracha that this should be your biggest and hardest thing you have to worry about forever!!

My parents get food stamps legitimately and yes, when using it is kind of embarrassing. You are advertising to the world and very often the more well to do people (cuz it always happens that they’re the ones right in back of you on the checkout line) that you are in a hard financial situation. I don’t know. It’s not something that I want to advertise even though it might be known about my family.

We could be looking at it from the wrong perspective and if we are, please feel free to correct it but for now this is our feelings.

Good luck! I didn’t realize it rained so much until you posted this and the thread about your basement. I hope you get it all worked out soon and don’t have any more issues with it!!

am yisrael, thanks for the #. I think I am dealing with the issues by speaking to someone else right now but if I ever need to get in touch with Rabbi Goldwasser as well, I will contact him. Thank you.

stamper, that is definitely not the reason why I texted this shabbos. I needed to text this shabbos for other reasons. They did happen to be important ones. I’m not condoning what I did but I’m pretty sure that if I told a rav what I did and why I did it, they would be ok with it.

Thanks for your concern though:)

I’m gonna admit something. I texted this shabbos. I was so desperately in pain and needed to know that someone was here for me. I know it sounds horrible and I admit that I probably shouldn’t have done it but I don’t think anyone can understand what I was going through which caused me to do it in the first place.

BSD- your health insurance won’t cover this?

Having some anxiety issues right now. What do people do when it gets to the point where it’s hard to breathe and e/t feels shaky?

I technically have meds to take for it but that would mean telling s/o in my family that I need it and I’m not ready to do that.

I’d rather a more practical way to get through this. Any ideas?

I know it worked for one person because the staff wanted to get rid of her. She was making everyones lives miserable. Not sure about the other.

But also, here’s another fact. A patient does not have to take their medication that the hospital is giving you BUT the Dr can take you to court and you can be forced to take it by the judge. If this happens, chances are that your hospital stay will be a lot longer because of your non compliance. Also, in this situation, the Dr almost always wins. Like I said before, the judge trusts the Dr and if the Dr is prescribing something then it is being done for a reason.

Also, (and then I’ll shutup) if anyone has to go inpatient or to visit someone who is inpatient this happens pretty often. The nurses/Drs/mental health workers have to call security in order to get someone under control. A lot of the time just knowing that security was called, gets the patient under control without any force. But if a tranquilizer is given (through a shot) security will ALWAYS be there in order to hold down the patient since this is obviously against the patients will. If the patient willingly takes a tranquilizer, he will take it orally.

bomb- you da bomb:))

bomb- I don’t think you put this in but I could have missed this.

If you are in the hospital voluntarily and want to get out before the Dr lets, you can write a letter to the judge and petition to get out earlier. I’m not exactly sure how it works but I know some people did that (not very many) when I was in the hospital! It is very hard to get the judge to side with the patient because the judges assume that if the Dr is keeping the patient, then there is a reason for it.

Just to be dan lekaf zechus- maybe these people have emergencies and need to contact someone who can help them through it.

Just this shabbos I was told that I can call a certain person if something came up. He told me that he carries his cell around with him and I should not feel bad at all! So maybe these people also have a heter like I do/did to call/text on shabbos.

You want like the crushed beans and you would make it with a perculater? I’ll get you a website later on. I know of people that buy from them all the time.

hadassa- I wish I could like your entire comment! Very very well written and very thoughtful! If I knew people, I def would forward!!

I might get my head bitten off for this but we’ll see.

I recently became very good friends with someone. Can you blieve that he’s actually a he and I’m a she? Well, anyway- I KNOW that we are good friends but we DO NOT like each other in a guy/girlfriend typa way. How do I know this, you ask? Well, we’ve discussed it and both came to the same conclusion. We are friends but that is it!

Are teachers in private schools also mandated reporters or they don’t have the same law as public school teachers (I’m talking about NY)? I was told that private school teachers are not yet mandated reporters but they are trying to make it a law that they should become them. Is this true?

@m in israel- thank you for answering all my questions so clearly!

I am going to put in a call to my Rav (or really his secretary).

Also, I’m not sure if it’s in my best interest for my parents to know. They will get very nervous and don’t really know how to deal with these types of situations. It actually might be smarter of me to keep it quiet for as long as possible because there is still that little hope that this will blow over in a week or two.

I did speak to my Dr but I didn’t really tell him that I’m nervous about fasting tisha baav. I just told him in general what happened to me the last fast. I guess I should give him a call back and specify that I’m apprehensive about the upcoming fast.

Thank you everyone for being so supportive!

A lot of the time different people speak about the person that the shloshim is for. I thought that I would cry by my grandfathers shloshim. I was really nervous for it but turns out, everyone had such nice stories and things to say that it kind of made the hurt feel a little better.

@kj- ask any Dr in the medical field, anyone that knows anything about eating disorders. It is never fully away unfortanately. A small thing can trigger you and there goes it all. Trust me, this is not the first time it’s happened to me.

Yes, my family does know that I had an ed but they think that I am doing extremely well right now. Funny thing is, I am. I am not depressed and not suicidal, b”H. Just struggling with food.

I tried calling my Rabbi (that I’m comfortable talking to, that knows my entire situation) but he’s away for the summer. He said not to leave messages but if it’s an emergency then I can leave a message with his secretary and he will get back to whomever as soon as possible. I don’t think this rates as an emergency. But I don’t know who else to ask. I am just really comfortable with this Rav, I’m scared to go to anyone else!! Ideas anyone?

@blabla and aries- I’m going to call my rav but I’m embarrassed to tell my parents if he says that I shouldn’t fast. How can I tell them that without letting them know that I am struggling with my eating?

Thanks everyone!

@zahavasdad- thanks! First of all, I should ask a Rav over my Dr? Should I tell him what my Dr said?

Also, I am not a teenager- I am in my early 20’s. I did begin struggling with this when I was in my teens though and now it’s just coming all back, almost like it never left:( Weird!!

Why does everything have to turn into a struggle for me?

Why does not eating sound appealing to me? I know it’s from the fast and how good I felt while I was fasting but it’s really frustrating for me. Funny thing is though, the fast wasn’t even so good for me. I had a headache the whole time but knowing that I was in control of what I was (not) putting in my mouth brought back intense ed thoughts to me. I’m so sad about this:(

princesseagle- who is that meant for?

And having an eating disorder is like living through hell. It is so so so hard. If the person was not depressed before the ed, they definitely will become depressed while having the ed. Many people who have ed’s have some sort of other mental illness or some sort of other issue that they are trying to hide ie- cutting.

It is extremely hard to get over and really once a person has it, it never completely leaves them. It is a known fact that once a person has had an ed, their chances of them getting it again are VERY high.

It’s a really scary disease!!!