pascha bchochma

Don’t worry; beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, so every girl can be a model to someone…you just gotta find the right beholder!

pumper

Don’t assume that these boys weren’t looking for someone pretty-they probably think that this “not pretty at all” girl is gorgeous.

Thank God that beauty is, in fact, in the eyes of the beholder…otherwise there would takeh be a pretty serious shidduch crisis…

Yatzmich

You are so right.

blabla

First of all, I hope you’re feeling better today. I know that with depression there are better and worse days. I hope today is a better one.

I’ve seen someone very close to me overcome depression more than once,and as their main source of support, I have come to learn a thing or two about living with depression.

Since I am not familiar with your emotional/mental medical history,the severity of your depression, or your general lifestyle and possible causes for your depresion I cannot offer specific advice, but I believe that the RIGHT PSYCHOLOGIST and a great SUPPORT SYSTEM are crucial for your recovery.

So you might want to read through these few questions below, and see if your psychologist is indeed doing what he/she should:

1. Is this psychologist treating the symptoms, or the problem? Depression manisfests itself in a variety of ways, but the key is to treat the underlying cause.

2. Does your psychologist spend most of the session talking to you about “how you’ve been doing” since the last visit, or does he/she ask you to brief him/her on how you’ve progressed (or haven’t, C”V), and then immediately starts talking tachlis. The former is a big red flag. The better psychologists are mainly focused on tachlis, and encourage a good support system (family, friends)to let you vent or offer encouragement.

4. Who controls the session? You or the psychologist? He/she should. Do you feel that he/she has a goal for each session, or do you just talk about whatever until time is up?

I have lots more to say, but I hate long posts, so one more point:

Please, please, please tell me your getting support from someone other than us members in the cr. That is so so important. I don’t know if and how often you still check this thread, so I hope to God there’s someone who is there for you whenever you need an ear or a hug.

I’ll be davening for your hatzlacha! And I promise you that life won’t always be this ___________- you fill in the blank….

I think that all we really need is a friend. I mean, what did people do before the days of psychologists, or at least, before EVERYONE had one?

Come one, most of us are pretty much okay. Of course we have our down days, but that doesn’t mean we need professional help. We just need a friend.

Be it a parent, a spouse, a sibling, anyone really who cares enough to ignore their phone for a while, and bother to understand what’s going on in our lives. (And no, texting “wasup” every couple of hrs don’t count, and neither is email.)

Just mytake on this.

Funny.

…and then there are some who display publicly what they shouldn’t

rebbitzen

Unless you meant that a spouse/parent/friend can substitute the psychologist. In that case, I agree.

mikehall

We all use speech, body language and actions to express our emotions. Sometimes it’s outright, and sometimes it’s subtle.

Most people pick it up even when its subtle, although some are more perceptive with these things than others.

Sorry, you’re right.

Professional

You make it sound like makeup is wrong, period. Is that what you believe?

And who’s supposed to say it first…but what if he/she/me/you is older…and what if it’s the opposite gender….seriously, guys!

Do whatever your Mommy and Daddy taught u to do when u were three.

From their website…

Our approach is very gentle and non-invasive, where individuality and individual freedom of Choice are respected through the tender regard for human dignity and ethical co-operation; where respect for one’s integrity is directly related to the highest good of oneself AND the highest good of all.

If I remember correctly, according to Rav Falk, it may be applied in mild/close-to-natural colors.

ofcourse

I guess you should try to be Dan L’Kaf Z’chus the women and girls in the shul, because that’s the right thing to do.

Personally, I find it pretty embarrasing that such an incident can take place in a frum shul. It is completely unacceptable.

Where I daven, no girl would have the audacity to sit if there is an older woman standing! And if it’s a pregnant woman, you would find bubbies offering their seat to her!

This better be a one-in-a-million situation….