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WolfishMusings, I really hope Moshiach is close, but I am kinda wondering the same thing.
Pple that got engaged at a young age and never went through singlehood, cant understand you-period. Just like any other challenge. However, trust me, once you get married Hashem makes you forget the challenge. And so that is why many marriedd pple just cant understand their single friends or co-workers, even if they were single for a while themselves.
oomis1105, My rebetzin told me that pple confuse the number 40. The mekor for davening 40 days is from Moshe Rabeinu, but she does not know the mekor for 40 pple doing a certain mitzvah. “B’rov Am Hadres Melech” the more pple that do a mitzvah, the more beautiful, but the number 40 in terms of pple, do you know a mekor?
I once heard a speaker say, we all want perfect husbands/wives…but are you perfect? So if ur spouse was perfect why would he/she marry you????
I once met this woman in Israel and she told me that she had just been to NY for a wedding. SHe said the diff btwn us and u is that we make very simple weddings, no fancy meal or elegant flowers bec we put the money towards the young couple – for an apt. et. While you make super expensive weddings and then the young couple has to manage ontheir own, paying rent etc…
I found myself in a chasidish camp one summer (how that happened is a story in itself) and got to know a lot of very wonderful girls from very chasidishe homes. I really admired the camp mother and spoke to her quite often. She told me that she met her husband in just 3 dates in one week, and since her parents did a lot of info beforehand this was enough time for her. She told me that in her circles they meet a minimal amount of times and this system works very well since they do thorough research before the boy and girl actually meet.
This is not something to debate if you think its right or wrong, point is, pple do it and it works for them.
I take silver foil paper and wrap the strings in them so they are compltely covered. Then i put them into the washing machine with my white load. I dont know if the silver foil is good/bad/indifferent to the machine, but this is how I do it.
It’s always good to discuss a serious date with a mentor. Sometimes someone objective hears things differently and can spot red flags. Don’t push your concerns under the carpet bec of excitement. Voice your concerns to someone you trust (s/o experienced, not your 20 yr old friend) to see if they are indeed valid.
Remember that Yom Hachuppa is a tremendous day and affects your whole life. There are some pple that didnt have the rosiest engagements but then went on to be very happily married. I am no prophet, but this for sure can be attributed to the tefillos on the Yom Hachuppa.
My husband got a text “My wife’s food melts in my mouth…I just wish she would defrost it first!”
A friend was saying that her son really wanted a Kipling briefcase, but of course she felt it was too expensive so she bought him the copy for about 10 dollars. When she brought it home, he said, but where’s the kipling bear? so she went to a store that sells Kipling and bought a real kipling keychain for $18 and attached it to the briefcase. Now for $28 he has a “kipling” briefcase!!!!
In my days it was Lisa Frank, a/o remember that?
We use chicken…didnt read e/o comments just the title and I am mentioning our Minhag.
We got pulled aside once and they were inspecting my father very closely. They called in few guys and studies his passport, we didnt know what was going on! Finally they said you look and have the same name like someone that we are after. Have a safe flight!
I lost my diamond earing and I was really worried. It turned up in a drawer…
I watched it too, it brought the point across very sharply. thanks for posting
We just got MBD’s new CD for a gift. It is super!! If u dont have a copy yet go out and buy one!
I dont mean to be nosey, but what sort of mistake would make your boss yell at you like that? Keep in mind that when you get paid very well there are higher expectations and bigger consenquences when goals are not met.August 29, 2009 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm in reply to: A Yeshiva Bochur Writes: A Look Back at My Summer; Yizkeraim #655904
Point being – take something extra upon yourself. Whatever you see fit, but see how to become a better person
For the best cookies ever look in the cover of teh Quaker oats box. They are called Vanishing oatmeal cookies, cuz when u make a batch they vanish! I sub the raisins for chocolate chips thus they are chocolate chip oatmeal cookies!!
Need a good slice of pizza in Israel? Visit Big Bite off of Shefa
What advantages does it have over yahoo mail?
I listened to the sample and it sounds great. Problem: I am not ready to spend the money on a new cd at this time. ( just spent too a lot on vacation.) I just log onto mostlymusic.com and listen to the live stream. I keep it going all the time for a fresh variety of music.
Jax, That’s funny, I also saw Prime grill at first! I guess I am in the mood of sauteed liver!
HidingUnderCover, My sister convinced me to switch to gmail, claiming it is way better than yahoo, I dont see what’s so great about it. I find it hard to loacte an old e-mail because e-mails are grouped.
I know of a few couples that did not reveal their mental issues and of course resulted in divorce. SO by not revealing the issue, I don’t see any portection. One needs to plan for the future when withholding such vital info.
I would look into it before breaking a light bulb, although it is practical. There must be a reason why EVERYONE uses a cup.
I dont really see how thi thread can work out. I am in the cr room now but dont know if I will still be by the time this post gets posted.
estherh, sounds scarey. I live in a series of close apt. buildings and any babysitter I use would be from the complex, so we dont really have a problem with not knowing who we are are hiring. But I do find some to be more well suited for the job than others. I find some girls want to babysit as an outlet, so they can come to me and burn the phone line, while others are really intent on doing the job to the fullest.July 25, 2009 9:16 pm at 9:16 pm in reply to: Pet Peeves; A Little Negativity, But a Lot of Fun! #997210
I get bothered by snobby people that walk with their noses in the air..I live in quite an upscale neighborhood and I have some neighbors that are very intimidating.
ex: I was walking with 2 neighbors (and our babaies) to the gym (the gym has babaysitting). One looks at the other and says, “there is no room for 3 carriages on the side walk” and she gave me a side glance. Naturally, of course i walked ahead. But u see what I mean…
I just felt really good treated out to dinner with my husband and son by my aunt!!
I feel good when my house is very clean and today I am having a cleaning lady for 2 hours!! I cant wait!
Just one note of Chizuk, I had 4 teeth pulled at one shot. The pain doesnt last more than a few days. And the swelling should go down in a week. I was totally swollen that when I went to work, one co worker stared at me and said “I thought you were Phyllis’s sister!”
I think I will be doing a real “fishy” nine days. Btwn salmon, talapia, flounder…fish goes great with potatoes, fried, baked, in a knish…
Anyone from Brooklyn has heard of the Shadchanit “Sara Richards”. She has years and years of experience. That being said we can be sure her words hold a lot of weight.
Regarding one point in letter I can speak from personal experience. I myself “ripened” before I got married (not by choice 😉 . The single years were that of tremendous growth, learning and maturing. Holding down 2 jobs taught me responsibility, loyalty and dependability.
Additionally, my husband has a friend going through some Shalom Bayis issues now, some of the stories he tells, insinuate not a lack of middos, but a basic lack of maturity.
my in laws use china generally, but they will serve some things in plastic, for example dessert. Also they have no problem bringing out the cole slaw in the container they bought it in. SO they have amixture there. By my parents even water comes out in a pitcher!
“Heshy, YOU DO THE DISHES???? Wow!!! What a wonderful husband!!! “
yeah, i hope ur wife appreciates this, my husband doesnt mind helping with diff things around the house, but he would not appreciate doing the dishes!!
As for the dishes, we eat on china and I do not have a dishwasher.
I just read a letter in the Hamodia Daily asking the oilem to be careful with Tznius in their zechus. Summer months are coming up and we know that everyone is hot…but a little extra can go a long way…
I found the CD really entertaining! I especially enjoyed Joe DiMaggio’s card, while my husband was facinted by the explanation of Birchas Hachama.
SJSinNYC, do u think it looks stupid to wear a skirt instead of shorts in 90 degree weather, well to some pple it may look stupid. Or how about pple that wear knee socks/tights only instead of anklets, does that look stupid? U have to be proud that u are a jew and not worry about “looking stupid”.
joyous, i really agree with you that if you are in a place where a hat a jacket seem out of place, it might not be an appropriate place for you to be. I think that on Chol Hamoed thats the appropriate attire for a man.
onlyemes, when it comes to Yidden “group-identification” is a very big element. It is something we aught to be proud of. The problems arise when we were are not…
My first day was Friday, I went to work and B”H baked challah, if that is not getting into the swing of things, then what is!!!
yossiea, pple mistaken chol hamoed with a weekday meant for trips. It is actually a yom tov, and about it is written, that one that treats it lightly has no share in the world to come…(pirkei Avos). I am not saying not to go on trips and to spend the day in shul ( which is not a bad idea), but a little respect means dressing with respect, and I think wearing a hat and jacket is very appropriate.
One thing u cant deny… there are certain behaviors u wouldn’t do in ur hat and jacket that u might do with ur sleeves rolled up…
I am so settled back into routine I cant believe Pesach was only last week!! I mean once u go back to work and the kids are back at school, u just get thrown in!
I think especially on chold hamoed a hat and jacket are very appropriate! people have a tendency to put others down when they can’t reach that level. GIve the guy credit and pray that one day u will be on that level.
Oh that is so sly!!! If u want to know if a guy smokes u gotta ask info, dont try asking the guy himself!!!!
Oh my Dr. Pepper that is so humiliating!!
Mrs. Beautiful, I agree with you about maturity being an essential for marriage, I have this friend that tells me some stories about arguements she has with her husband, I fell bad that I cant advise her, since i think e/th stems from her immaturity.
How about Baltimore,we did that last Pesach,it was very nice. They have a massive aquarium, very interesting science museum, a beautiful Barnes and Nobles, water and boats..all in one tourist area. We also did Ride the Ducks there, which they have in manhatan as well…u go on a tour by bus, then the bus goes intot the water as a boat. It is a very nice trip. Not too far either.
Does age matter – very general…matter in terms of what type of relationship and how large the age gap. i find once i got married the pple I became friends with were mainly girls at my stage of the game, not depending on how old they are. When I got married some girls my age had 3-4 children, so our schedules were completely different as apposed to younger friends or even older ones who had also just gotten married, we were on the same page so to speak.
try calling Aderet Music aka Mostly Music. Check them out online…
kapusta, I dont get it…
squeak, wow those were all fabulous!!
We were sitting around discussing a new store that opened up …we were yapping about this aspect of the store and the other when someone asked a real nosy question, to which someone else answered “Its really not your business.” NO PUN INTENDED.