Phyllis

Pple that got engaged at a young age and never went through singlehood, cant understand you-period. Just like any other challenge. However, trust me, once you get married Hashem makes you forget the challenge. And so that is why many marriedd pple just cant understand their single friends or co-workers, even if they were single for a while themselves.

I once heard a speaker say, we all want perfect husbands/wives…but are you perfect? So if ur spouse was perfect why would he/she marry you????

I found myself in a chasidish camp one summer (how that happened is a story in itself) and got to know a lot of very wonderful girls from very chasidishe homes. I really admired the camp mother and spoke to her quite often. She told me that she met her husband in just 3 dates in one week, and since her parents did a lot of info beforehand this was enough time for her. She told me that in her circles they meet a minimal amount of times and this system works very well since they do thorough research before the boy and girl actually meet.

This is not something to debate if you think its right or wrong, point is, pple do it and it works for them.

It’s always good to discuss a serious date with a mentor. Sometimes someone objective hears things differently and can spot red flags. Don’t push your concerns under the carpet bec of excitement. Voice your concerns to someone you trust (s/o experienced, not your 20 yr old friend) to see if they are indeed valid.

Remember that Yom Hachuppa is a tremendous day and affects your whole life. There are some pple that didnt have the rosiest engagements but then went on to be very happily married. I am no prophet, but this for sure can be attributed to the tefillos on the Yom Hachuppa.

A friend was saying that her son really wanted a Kipling briefcase, but of course she felt it was too expensive so she bought him the copy for about 10 dollars. When she brought it home, he said, but where’s the kipling bear? so she went to a store that sells Kipling and bought a real kipling keychain for $18 and attached it to the briefcase. Now for $28 he has a “kipling” briefcase!!!!

In my days it was Lisa Frank, a/o remember that?

We got pulled aside once and they were inspecting my father very closely. They called in few guys and studies his passport, we didnt know what was going on! Finally they said you look and have the same name like someone that we are after. Have a safe flight!

I watched it too, it brought the point across very sharply. thanks for posting

I dont mean to be nosey, but what sort of mistake would make your boss yell at you like that? Keep in mind that when you get paid very well there are higher expectations and bigger consenquences when goals are not met.

For the best cookies ever look in the cover of teh Quaker oats box. They are called Vanishing oatmeal cookies, cuz when u make a batch they vanish! I sub the raisins for chocolate chips thus they are chocolate chip oatmeal cookies!!

What advantages does it have over yahoo mail?

Jax, That’s funny, I also saw Prime grill at first! I guess I am in the mood of sauteed liver!

HidingUnderCover, My sister convinced me to switch to gmail, claiming it is way better than yahoo, I dont see what’s so great about it. I find it hard to loacte an old e-mail because e-mails are grouped.

I would look into it before breaking a light bulb, although it is practical. There must be a reason why EVERYONE uses a cup.

estherh, sounds scarey. I live in a series of close apt. buildings and any babysitter I use would be from the complex, so we dont really have a problem with not knowing who we are are hiring. But I do find some to be more well suited for the job than others. I find some girls want to babysit as an outlet, so they can come to me and burn the phone line, while others are really intent on doing the job to the fullest.

I just felt really good treated out to dinner with my husband and son by my aunt!!

Just one note of Chizuk, I had 4 teeth pulled at one shot. The pain doesnt last more than a few days. And the swelling should go down in a week. I was totally swollen that when I went to work, one co worker stared at me and said “I thought you were Phyllis’s sister!”

Anyone from Brooklyn has heard of the Shadchanit “Sara Richards”. She has years and years of experience. That being said we can be sure her words hold a lot of weight.

Regarding one point in letter I can speak from personal experience. I myself “ripened” before I got married (not by choice 😉 . The single years were that of tremendous growth, learning and maturing. Holding down 2 jobs taught me responsibility, loyalty and dependability.

Additionally, my husband has a friend going through some Shalom Bayis issues now, some of the stories he tells, insinuate not a lack of middos, but a basic lack of maturity.

“Heshy, YOU DO THE DISHES???? Wow!!! What a wonderful husband!!! “

yeah, i hope ur wife appreciates this, my husband doesnt mind helping with diff things around the house, but he would not appreciate doing the dishes!!

As for the dishes, we eat on china and I do not have a dishwasher.

I found the CD really entertaining! I especially enjoyed Joe DiMaggio’s card, while my husband was facinted by the explanation of Birchas Hachama.

joyous, i really agree with you that if you are in a place where a hat a jacket seem out of place, it might not be an appropriate place for you to be. I think that on Chol Hamoed thats the appropriate attire for a man.

My first day was Friday, I went to work and B”H baked challah, if that is not getting into the swing of things, then what is!!!

I am so settled back into routine I cant believe Pesach was only last week!! I mean once u go back to work and the kids are back at school, u just get thrown in!

Oh that is so sly!!! If u want to know if a guy smokes u gotta ask info, dont try asking the guy himself!!!!

How about Baltimore,we did that last Pesach,it was very nice. They have a massive aquarium, very interesting science museum, a beautiful Barnes and Nobles, water and boats..all in one tourist area. We also did Ride the Ducks there, which they have in manhatan as well…u go on a tour by bus, then the bus goes intot the water as a boat. It is a very nice trip. Not too far either.

try calling Aderet Music aka Mostly Music. Check them out online…

squeak, wow those were all fabulous!!

We were sitting around discussing a new store that opened up …we were yapping about this aspect of the store and the other when someone asked a real nosy question, to which someone else answered “Its really not your business.” NO PUN INTENDED.