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Boys used to go to brisk for kodshim..now they go for nashim. hehe couldent hold myself back!
yitzchokm- I know this is the wrong thread but…shout out to you!
Once killed a Mountain Lion with his bare hands-That post is a Sheretz biyadeinu! hameivin yavin.
Ain apitrupis laarias! if you dont know what to do misafek close it!
Shout out to jewishfeminist! where ever she is. Been a long time..
woohoo! Go yivanim! The maccabeets is only liked because it makes us feel as if we can be like the goyim..We were so excited when they got aired. Why is that?
Rabbi Mod shlita, how are you?? DIscussing these things stam can cause hirhur aveira!! But thats ok because its for toieles…its like discussing it with the rebbitzin or rav..Let me ask you a question. Would the rav or rebbitzin allow other ppl who its not nogeah to hear the conversation? there are ppl even kids on this because maybe there parents trust and think this site is safe. A kid now is pondering and imagining the dif. bet hollywood and us! YOu prob wouldent be able to ask a prominent rav if it was muter..that wouldent be pretty.
Your foresure not posting this..But..oh just post it thx:)October 18, 2011 4:53 am at 4:53 am in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #818035
YO MODERATERS! just trying to get your attention just in case you skimmed the last few posts:). Why are you allowing this thread to stay open?October 18, 2011 4:06 am at 4:06 am in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #818032
Mods-All these recent posts are hinting if not out right prust. This is the yeshiva world, and we shouldent be talking dress sizes. What BPT just wrote really bothered me..please..i think you know you should close this thread.
Sam2-We did not create the concept..last time i checked it dates back to…..moshe rabbeinu.
Psychological problems are like any other health problems, and the sooner its treated the better. At least go over to an adult who is a mumcha in this. Otherwise it will get worse and worse. It can never hurt to go to the doctor, especially a problem in the mind. If you arent married then notice it will prob get worse when being in constant discourses with your spouse. You feel comfortable right now, but your scared of what will happen in the future. Like ppl who are prone to get problems they have to take care of themselves early on so to you should take care of this as soon as a psychologist will see you.
Try to go through rashi and some mifarshim after. So that the shnaim mikrah is just to remind you of the pasukim so you can go deeper. And it will make it more gishmak, and when you finish all the mifarshim..come back…i want a brocha.October 16, 2011 1:24 am at 1:24 am in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #818011
Thanks, have anyone for me:)
This is getting off topic..The point of a shmooze isnt to use it to point at the other guy…rather take what you got and apply it to yourself..otherwise it will just be an argument that is external instead of what it was meant to be internal..In YOUR HEART..think about it. Most ppl are to busy with everyone else they forget to make time for themselves.
Nechomah-The yungerman 20 yrs ago was able to take care of all his responsiblities w/o texting…what changed. Learning is only to be disrupted for pikuach nefesh….for that you can pick up the phone and dial.October 16, 2011 1:14 am at 1:14 am in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #818009
Maybe this could help: If the girl is red from someone random, we look at the resume. The resume has to be solid. written well. Good schools (especially seminary). Support has to be good. Then we check personality and looks. All this to see if the outline is good…than we dig for dirt.
The only way personality and looks helps GET dates is if the boy knows of you or the person redding it.October 12, 2011 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #818005
Well do the shaddchanim tell you why you dont get dates. Because if everything is normal with you…you should be getting dates
If you only knew what type of guy i am. Its part of my overly egotistcal side. Its just the way i speak.
yitay-I think youve missed the point. Ill help you out, the messilos yisharim was about it being on the forefront of your mind…NOT A PROOF TO THE FACT!October 12, 2011 8:28 pm at 8:28 pm in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #818003
Bouncy-What are you looking for? If learning can you support.
i know i chopped after..hashem not la. But thats charachter assassination. If you have a problem with my point argue with that.October 12, 2011 7:54 pm at 7:54 pm in reply to: THANK YOU HASHEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(BY:GUMBALL)!!!!!;) #817372
The question isnt only how you feel about hashem! HOW DOES HE FEEL ABOUT YOU! Everyone is so busy loving hashem they forget to do what he wants.October 12, 2011 7:32 pm at 7:32 pm in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #818001
Every girl should have a picture on their resume..that would solve everything! Moms wont ask about looks.October 12, 2011 6:41 pm at 6:41 pm in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #817995
BPT-Wooo! nobody does it with a sneer..I gently press the send button to the shaddchan “DOA”.October 12, 2011 6:22 pm at 6:22 pm in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #817992
Lol Translation- Whoever yashrus20 is thinks hes so good looking that he like a girl has what to care about.
2 years ago the mods were very strict..this is what happens when you get to involved with the kids in the coffee room..hashpah.:)October 12, 2011 6:15 pm at 6:15 pm in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #817991
lol popa you rock!!I dont know though..some guys have what to care about. ðŸ™‚ (there is noway the mods are letting this:)
This mod feels like he’s missing a joke, but will let this through until someone complains.October 12, 2011 6:01 pm at 6:01 pm in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #817989
Notice its girls who get upset at this. from your perspective your right, but the other half of the world are men. Its the way hashem made us..we care more about looks than you.October 12, 2011 5:45 pm at 5:45 pm in reply to: How many time did you "one and done" based on looks? #817987
Popa-sry thats confidential lol..based on my answer some shaddchanim might guess who i am. But being that im like 65 yrs old its not so bad in ratio:)
Have a great yom tov..everyone should use the gift of perspective from the yom tov of yom kippur..to help use the gashmius of succus, and be mikadesh the yom tov of succus in a truley uplifting way. Its much easier to focus on hashem when your fasting..so this is really a much bigger nisayon and gift to be able to use the gashmius to get closer to hashem!October 12, 2011 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm in reply to: SHIDDUCHIM! (Because we all really want to talk about it) #820712
I was on here two years ago.
imaofthree-its better for the girl that she doesnt get said no to after the first date. If a guys mother asks then thats what he wants. Making him go on a date blindly isnt going to help anybody.
We should have shaddchanim just for the older age group..so as to help focuse on them..not only the ones right out of seminary.October 12, 2011 5:23 am at 5:23 am in reply to: SHIDDUCHIM! (Because we all really want to talk about it) #820704
Oh and i was talking about guys in yeshiva.
Tweet- Youve made my night! thanks, did not know that.October 12, 2011 5:19 am at 5:19 am in reply to: SHIDDUCHIM! (Because we all really want to talk about it) #820703
Temmimusdik..not ruchniasdik. Its a misconception that they are one and the same. Alot of times the girl herself might be suprised to find out shes not as frum as she thought. They want a good learner, with great personality, and speaks well…hmm its fine but shes no rebbitzen. Alot guys have trouble bec. those girls who want personality..most of the time arent as frum as the learning they want.October 12, 2011 5:14 am at 5:14 am in reply to: SHIDDUCHIM! (Because we all really want to talk about it) #820702
Bar shattya(ya nice name)-People who learn the torah all day=GEDOILIM, PEOPLE WHO MAKE UP THINGS=BAR SHATTYA!
Why is it not about alot? If its asur and youl get even one more person isnt that enough?
And i agree we are lower..just trying to understand it. (i knnow im a nobody to evn say that but..you get my point)
YO SEUSS- WHOS FEELINGS ARE YOU HURTING??October 12, 2011 5:01 am at 5:01 am in reply to: SHIDDUCHIM! (Because we all really want to talk about it) #820698
Many people have asked why so superficial and go for frumer families? Well because of this. At least although not in seminary, they have a wonderful spiritual atmosphere to come home to. A home that can keep the girls neshama lit with a bren a little longer.
There are 2 points. One-Do you want to? Two-If you do you should ask them. They prob will give you permission, but if you see hesitancy..then use your sechal. If it gets to a point where she 25 and your 22-23 then again use sechal(you do want to get married)
i need the answer quick its for a segula for my sis. thanx.
i know this is random but it is also very important: When is netz hachama tom. morning??
can i give a dvar torah one of these days
Feel free to post a D’Var Torah. YW Moderator-72
glad to see nobody missed me
I was reading through this thread and couldnt clearly transmit my feelings into words. But I’ll try. There was a time where I was also disinterested in yiddishkeit. It didnt actually affect my outside appearance. I am in yeshiva still. I was in yeshiva then and I sort of pushed through it. I was always in the yeshiva setting and couldnt relate to this obsession in learning. From a young age it was evident that I was beyond my years and was successful at it. My parents pushed me to learn alot. I had pressure from many directions. Dont misunderstand me, I think mitzvos are unbelievable, they are true good. If you think deeply into the humann physce, the mitzvos are truly in sync with them. THey mold you into the most ideal man. Foget the obvious ones of kibbud av v’em and tzaar balei chayim. But even the mitzvos relating to the korban pesach are there for a sense of grandeur, of beauty. The mitzvos of emunah give you a sense of relaxation, of knowledge that there is “someone” looking out for you that cares
for you. There is a vort on parshas bishalach I would like to share with everyone which has made an impact on my life. When the jews were in the midbar and did not have water they were complaining about dying there. They came to the oasis of salty bitter water. What did they do at that point? Moshe upon instruction from hashem threw in a bitter piece of wood and what happened? The water became sweet! Wonder of wonders! Let me continue on in this story… Hashem gives us a few mitzvos at this location and the possek continues if you listen to these mitzvos you will never get sick like the egyptions. Besause I am your healer. There are a number of glaring questions and lessons we can discuss here. For one: Why at this point did hashem feel it was time to give them mitzvos? Two: In reference to the doctor quote, if hashem is telling us that we wont get sick why do we need a doctor? There are various explanations, and using them I would like to take out a few lessons. Rashi explains that Hashem is telling us
that you wont get sick if you keep the mitzvos and secondly if you do get sick ie. you dont keep the mitzvos which causes you to get sick I am always here for you as your doctor to heal you. Beautiful words! But I’ll continue. When I first read this rashi it got me a little frustrated: hashem is threatening us to keep us in line! Come on! The ramban explains that it cant be further from the truth. He explains that specifically at this moment that all the jews saw that something bitter made something bitter. How can that be? Hashem knows and did it. So too there are mitzvos, like Im commanding you now at this pinnacle, that may seem bitter but they are really sweet. To bring this a little more down to earth, there are some mitzvos that are obvious the 6 mitzvos bnei noach plus a few more give or take that are easy to understand grab onto that enthusiasm and carry it over to those moments that are “bitter” which appear bitter but are really sweet. You can use the anomaly for your parents too. I dont remember
focused on it before but a parent who tells there kid not do go into the street it is obvious he cares for the best in the child. So in the next scenario he may have a funny way of expressing his caring but you see from the first time how much he cares but more than just cares, KNOWS whats good for the child. THere are times in your life teen, tha t you appreciate your parents will, there are other times where its a little harder. But try to carry over that enthusiasm. They may seem disconnected to your reality. To who you are but really they are trying to impart their belief in you and how much good you can do. THe president barack obama screamed his will of change across america. The critics are screaming give us something of substance, something rooted in reality. He plods onwith the message “yes we can!!!!” he may seam misconnected. I choose to focus on his enthusiasm. He knows he can make a difference. He isnt set back by “reality” so he will be able to break through reality. Teen times are tough, you
are disintersted. I can understand that I have my ups and downs too. But I try to plod on hashem is my healer, my doctor, my coach there with me as long as I want to grab on. He will heal you if you do the right thing. I am very lazy. I have no attention span. Just ask my chavrusah..lol But obama’s echoed message of hope of yes I can tells me to plod on. But we have more than obama. We have hasme on our side. In the way we choose hashem helps us. THat gives me the courage to push through the much and “reality”. THats enough for now. I probably lost everyones interest a while ago. I’ll continue some other time. I wish you well on your day to day. day by day push.
Its gotta be humple, b/c im the only one with a holy opinion! Oh yes i just pulled rank.
On another note women can take care of babysitting while the men attend the meeting.
BYM and Basyisroel-moish will deal with payment.
Nice Dvar Torah Rav Jay!
Shabbos Drasha: Parshas Yisro
Our minds are like a basket to absorb certain ideas. If a person does not have the right basket for a certain idea it wizzes right by. The idea your about to read is one that will need a change in thought process. The need to think “outside the box”. Why? b/c we have superficial minds that cannot comprehend such extreme ideas, but for once listen and understand and then decide what to do. For if it at least enters the basket then at least you can get a better look at what you may be accepting.
In the previous parshios klal yisroel wittnesed many miracles. They were so great that a shifcha by krias yam suf saw more than yichezkel ben buzzi saw, where talking more revealing than the ma”asa merkava itself. But we notice also a trend in the reaction of klal yisroel to all the gashmiasdik obstacles in their way. Their reaction is one of fear, one of isolation and the need for help. Klal Yisroel just witnessed amazing miracles and hashem promised them he would cont. wonders to ultimately bring them to mamod har sinai. Why then were they alway camplaining, why then did they make and worship the eigel hazahav??
Ill answer through another question: Famous question why did hashem not let klal yisroel go derech plishtim, it would have taken them right to eretz yisroel. Why were they taken in such a round about way? Hashem realized, yes theyd seen all amazing miracles, but hashem still created a teva and you still have bechira and as long as the connection bet. you and hashem insnt in you your doomed to fall no matter what youve seen. Ergo, being that klal yisroel hadnt yet seen the torah and learnt it they would have as soon as they entered israel gon to this vinyard this one to that field and get on with the rest of their lives. Hashem made them go through the desert and learn the torah for forty yrs straight. They woke up heard shiur, in the afternoon again heard shuir and then chazra…They learnt it so much that it was nivlugh b’aivarim! It was seeping through their limbs, their bones! All the time im hearing of an amazing miracle that took place. Emails being passed around, “AMAZING STORY THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR
LIFE”. The problem is it does….but for how long? A week if your lucky. The idea is that the torah has to be you, your mitzius has to be torah, otherwise teva is like gravity if you arent constintley pushing up yuor doomed to fall. Klal yiroel who had 49 day of climbing the depths of kedusha and imersion couldent withstand their nisyonos with out constant limud torah all the more so we who are constantley involed with hevel havalim, and havent seen those miracles….how are we going to withstand our nisyonos? Answer is simple, hashem gave us a tool: The Torah. There is no other. You can look at things and through them appreciate the torahs truth and widom but the central tool is the torah. Logicaly hashem wouldnt make it so easy that when we see a miracle that we no longer have the same bechira, rather the miracle is a gift as a BOOST to come to the realization or god and as a result learn his ways and his path of truth.
Remember at everypoint in a persons life a human being has bechirah, it is the only thing that makes us human. At any moment we can choose wtvr our hearts desire. First step is to think about life, and hold nothing back. Rem. you only get one chance to live why not find out the best way to live it. Youl say but my avodas hashem is good enough….some times just good enough in your one time life just isnt good enough.
By: someone who cares. (i really do, and it is something that bothers me not from a critical view but a worrysome view)
Thursday Night Dvar Torah
Shabbos…shabbos…shabbos…why is it shabbos is me”en olam habba? Why is it considered a gift from hashem? Whats so special about not working, or davening more…? The noam elimelech writes that when betzalel built the mishkan he needed to be a big “kabbalist”. Why? He answers with the famous ramban that the mishkan is domeh to the world. And that the way hashem created the world was with all gasgmius, but b/c we needed a hacha timtza to get to ruchnius and be left with gashmius he gave us shabbos. So to by betzalel the mishkan couldent be all gashmius so he needed to be a “kabbalist” to instill (wtvr that means) kedusha in the mishkan. In the sefer hayitzirah it is written that the world was created with 39 peulos of tevah, 39 laws of what hishtadlus we have to do on this world. On shabbos it is assur to do any of these, even the slightest thing for fear of the gashmius infringing. We learn more, daven more, b/c on shabbos we no longer have the sor mera then aseh tov just the aseh tov.
B/c just like in olam habba all we need to do is learn, and not have to worry about the gashmius so to on shabbos hashem gives us a day of dviekus of davening and learning and not have to worry about the peulos of this world. If were not feeling shabbos its b/c were involved with weekday matters. Sports, bussiness, or anything which is nisht shabbos geret. The more we let go of these matters the more we will feel shabbos, b/c it truley is gift. And it would be a shame to ignore a gift that comes aroung everyweek, and the gift which is also domeh to the purpose of life. A guten shabbos!
(make me perm please)
jaymatt-forget it, the point was that although alot of ppl give its easy while i get it from seforim. But yeh im in yeshiva im supposed to be doing that, and the other divrie torah from google are awesome so really didnt mean anything by it. ðŸ™‚
And yes i have a Dvar torah for tonight ill post it later, and when i do im going back to perm??
Arievimzehlahze-Yes to women….umm….ill think of something.
asdfghjkl-thanx (can i give mussar?)
You know there is another way to become sorta a women rabbi get me a shidduch and shell be a rebbitzin (jk im only 20 and i needa shtieg).
My shadow-listen its not four years of college its 20 yrs of learning but good luck ðŸ™‚