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There is plenty of praise, They do tend to call chassim Pius people for example.
There was also lots of praise when that little boy was lost in Kiryat Joel, It was all over the news and they said how the whole community was looking for it.
It wasnt my friend who made that statement, It was the “Rav” they sent her to.
I think maybe 6 months ago, maybe there was a chance, but gasoline was poured on the fire.
Had I known the truth I would have begged my friend to ease up on the chumras (at least for his wife, but instead she was told if you dont follow our commuiities “customs” aka chumras you might as well be a schvarzer in the street. She tried to keep up, but just gave up.
Compromise has become a dirty word, people think if you compromise you are giving in, but when you take an all or nothing approach, it works sometimes and others it fails.
There is no such thing as a Chiloni COMMUNITY, there are Chilonim, but they are not associated with each other in any other way.
Unlike the Charedi community where you might say the Satmar, Belz or Yerushalmi community. When someone says they are Satmar they are saying they are part of the satmar community, when someone says they are Chiloni they are simply saying they are not religious.
The charedi want to be seen as a community, and when they look good , it works for them, but when one charedi does something wrong, it looks bad on the entire community.
Goq, they are only banned by insiders, Outsiders can and do have them
In todays society most people have become “reporters” anything that happens people will use social media to report it.
People will facebook, tweet or youtube events as they occur. Its become much harder for the “media” to have bias. In fact the media itself uses social media to get facts about current news. The media cannot have as much bias as before as there likely is video evidence of the event.
One should always remember Hashem is watching everything you do, but that can sometimes get stale . But today its very real. If you are rude , nasty or mistreat someone, someone else nearby might have his smartphone and video the whole incident and post it in social media. Someone is watching you.
In the charedi world there isnt this message and they dont seem to understand this. We are not living in a ghetto with walls anymore. When a charedi is yelling at soldier, I assure you someone else is nearby yanking out his smartphone and video taping it and posting it somewhere. The charedi world should take this as chizuk and perhaps see its internal issues, but that have decided to blame the outside instead of the inside.
WOW, there is well known Anti-Kiruv organization here in NY. They help people “escape” Ultra Orthodoxy.
From what I have been able to gather a rabbi wont help. it seems she was overwhelmed with the tough life some communities endure and the chumras overwhelmed her. She did go to a rabbi and he made it worse, the community is known to be one of the most right-wing and any diversion is seen as insubordiantion.
I really think its a lost cause. Its really been bothering me for a while now.
If you have ever watched some of my posts,I have generally rallied against going too far to the right. It has been my fear that people would get turned off to Judaism because of it. I had heard of people who left because of it, but its been mostly hearsay and I had not been able to verify it. This is the first person I know first hand.
On your tax returns, you are not allowed to deduct the entire $600, You are given an amount that the item is worth and you can deduct the rest (ie cost of cruise actually costs $300, you can only deduct $300)
I dont know if Tzedkah is counted the same, $300 is your own money and $300 is for Tzedkah
The reality is people rarely support Tzedakahs out of their realm. How many yeshiva dinners get people who have nothing to do with the Yeshiva to go?
Such as a cruise might get people who are not invovled with the yeshiva to at least take a look and find out more
Mazal Tov
Its a fundraiser , the idea is to raise money
I found out recently the spouse of a good charedi friend of mine has been secretly attending meetings of a well known anti-kiruv organization.
They seemed like such a nice couple and his devestation has become my devestation. I dont know what to say.
I knew people before who had gone OTD before, but this one has hurt the most.
Many funraising diners cost $250 a person, or $500 a couple.
$600 for a cruise is not so far fetched
I know quite a few of unemployed or under-employed Lawyers
A bunch of them do Discovery on temp basis (Basically going through mounds of papers) very boring
I wonder how many frum jews will meet , visit and vote for Christine Quinn when she visits Borough Park or Williamsburg
One of the 2 cases went before the Supreme court invovled a Lesbian from NYC.
Her “friend” of about 40 years had died and because they were not legally married she owed a Tax Bill of $376,000 (Or somehting close to that)
She sued that if they were legally married federally she would not owe the money (They were married in Canada and NY at the time recognized marriaged performed elsewher) Since Spouces can inheit money tax free
For the record Marrying your first cousin is only legal in 12 States (New York is one of them)
Polygamy is not against the Torah
Its only illegal for Ashkenazim because of Rabbenu Gershom.
It was practiced by Some Sephardim (especially Tamanim) until they emigrated to Israel after WW II
If it doesnt have at least 3 Pizza Stores and a chinese take out then it doesnt count as a jewish community
How about learning how to learn a blatt gemorah instead?
M-samech Chasson V’Kallah is a Mitzvah too
Its actually a bigger issue in Japan, the Emperor there is a line for 1400 years. The son of the Emperor has 2 daughters and no male heir
Nope
FYI They changed the law in England and no matter which gender it is , It will be direct in line to be the Monarch . It used to be younger brothers had precidence over older sisters. Not anymore. If its a girl, She will be queen no matter how many susequent brothers she has
I think its the Law in New York State that all prices must be listed either on the item itself or right below it on the shelf (Thats what most stores do)
One thing I have learned recently is people are different.
You cant cookie cutter people. For example if someone hates learning Gemorah, Making them learn 10 hours a day is a recipe for disaster.
You have to properly balance kids. If the bocher for example hates learning , begins to slack off and the Rebbe Slaps him. There is your road to OTD.
If the Girl is dressed properly tzniut but told she cant laugh in public, hears something funny and then laughs and is publically humilated. You have sent someone on the road to OTD.
Privately Im sure you can think of yourself. Speak to your kids try to figure out what borders are acceptable and what are not BEFORE everything collapses.
Its not true nobody knows why
Every case is different, but there is a reason
matan1
Read his book
Its on my bucket list to be Hypotized
From what I heard not everyone can be hynpotized and I always wanted to know if I was one of them
I think some here need to read Some of the new Seforim by Rav Avigdor Miller and his opinions on the topic
There is a new series out about his Thursday night Chat session where its discussed
Opossums are marcupials that live in New York City
Rav Edelstein has condemed the attack and asked for the Eidah to do the Same.