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ZK,
Just think of the tune do-re-mi-fa-so-la-ti-do….I assume u r familiar with it)
The last “do” is the same as the first one…
Now read Avram in MD again
This is what ZeesKite wrote in the over-moderation thread:
ZeesKite
Because Mommy said so!!!!
To MOD-95
I want to be as polite as possible. There was one poster posting on Erev Shve’ee shel Pesach. She was just respectfully alerting the ‘Olam’ to the atmosphere of laxity in tznius in hotels. She was in one on the first days, and felt the lack of Kedusha overwhelming. I thought a site such as this would be THE place for such comments. (There was no single place named – no Lashon Harah problem at all).
157, I could hardly believe what I was reading.
One of the J signs is rachmanim bnei rachmanim, so your constant refrain when encountering Yiddishe nishamos in pain is “I do not care” is disturbing. Perhaps you are really from the Waltons and not the Goldbergs.
Secondly, you seem to put no blame on the person who is acting improperly. Why is that?
Thirdly, a person who mistreats a spouse to such an extent is most unlikely to adhere to boundaries being set.
Fourthly, the “gentleman” in question was unlikely to behave in such a manner during dating. No doubt he was probably charming. SO the lady chose him as he presented himself, not as he actually was…so no, she didn’t get what she wanted. NO ONE wants that, no matter how desperate you seem to think a woman would be…
Sorry to see you have had unhealthy experiences in life.
I sincerely hope it gets better.
I’m glad you are typing with your toes 🙂
This reminds me of a very inspiring young man, an armless pianist, who won a China’s got talent event by playing the piano with his toes. Unreal.
I have heard this same complaint from a famous company which offers a longtime guarantee on its products…with certain zipcodes being the highest representatives of unethical returns.
I’ve heard that the Arizal says that those who steal will come back in a gilgul for payback
This is similar to the Gebruchs thread in depicting people who are so self-absorbed, they have no room or regard for others’ minhagim. Only their way is the correct way.
Whatever happened to elu v’elu? Whatever happened to tolerance?
Obviously this guy didn’t do a great job getting rid of his spiritual chametz.
And a gut/git moed to u, 2.
moadim l’simcha (I think that covers it)
Who says she has to understand the minhag at all? Is she so self-absorbed that she cannot hear anyone else’s needs? She exemplifies the “I” generation. It’s all about her. If she doesn’t understand it, then forget everyone else…
It’s no wonder that R Paysach Krohn among others is giving a shiur after Pesach about the I generation. I hope the “lady” in question will be attending.
“since everything I do is wrong anyway, perhaps you shouldn’t take any lessons from that”
Wolfish, why so self-deprecating? Or are u a henpecked spouse? I’m sure u could find at least ONE thing u’ve done correctly (your spelling, e.g.)
Moadim l’simcha
Remember to count Sefira, especially the women out there who do not go to maariv
Thanks everyone for putting out the welcome mat. Much appreciated.
Hey, amichai, I see we have similar names…
They say everyone has a twin somewhere in the world; I guess I might have just found mine…
Thanks for explaining why I was not believed when I had posted originally several times that I was new (I think). In fact, the remaining umbilical just fell off
Wishing everyone a gut/git moed
I appreciate the welcome. A lot.
To answer your question, Yossi, I joined on April Fools (no kidding) 2 weeks ago. According to my profile, I posted on 64 threads and had started one. I had written at times that I was new but forthcoming comments just skipped this… So you may understand how it’s a bit tough to understand….
Aries, I’m not sure how you missed when you have followed my comments in “Being Followed” (no kidding)(page 2) among others.
Hence the feeling of invisiblity
But I hope we’re all visible friends now and thanks for the welcome
Chag kasher v’sameach
Welcome to the CR! Hope u have an enjoyable and meaningful time here.
BTW, I’m also new and found it interesting that I didn’t get much by way of a welcome and felt mostly invisible…that’s why it’s important to me to welcome others who declare they are newbies!
chag kasher v’sameach!
Malka Saftlas 718 615-0227
A wonderfully warm and talented woman…she makes women look so naturally beautiful….
Treat others as you wish to be treated.
Hashem treats you as you treat others.
absolutely love what Walton wrote!!!
mewho, after her parents basically just shook off their daughter’s concerns and invalidating her as a person, I feel it was quite harsh to call the daughter’s lament “bube maises.” It was immediately after your post that the OP felt she needed to leave the CR. The post felt on the geder of ona’as dvarim. You’re correct that “posting here is not helping any” if some people answer with little warmth and support, though this did not have to be the case. Remember, she is our sister….
It is apparent that you had wonderful parents, but it seems from here that this may not be the experience of the poster. It is quite feasible that the poster’s lack of self-confidence and esteem, quite obvious from all the “What do I say” questions, stem from the parents’ inability to meet her emotional needs. I would venture to guess that this would not be the first time that the daughter’s concerns were brushed aside and not dealt with. This is supported by the fact the daughter felt unable to go to the parents for quite awhile and in fact, was concerned regarding her parents’ reaction to her experience.
If so, then this is part of emotional abuse. Unfortunately, it is not uncommon in our circles. Feel free to consult with professionals in this area to confirm.
It is also not uncommon in our circles for people who B”H have not grown up with abuse to disbelieve others’ experiences with it and the fact that it actually occurs.
To the poster, try to find a mentor whom you trust and to whom you feel comfortable speaking. This is sooooo important.
Thanks, eclipse.
I was getting the feeling that I was invisible
Sac,
Impressed w/ your attitude!
Kudos to u
My mother a’H would say that it’s great that u have a headache: a good sign that u have a head…
Yours rap was so funny
You’s right on the money
yours house is getting cleana
Just in time for the Saida
Taxes you’ll be filin’
Refunds will keep ya smilin’
Keep lookin’ for them chametz stuff
Till you’ve dunn it enough
When one door closes, another one opens.
If you remove this boy from your mindset, there will be space for the next one.
Have bitachon that your intended will find you in the right time.
Have simcha that u r exactly where u r supposed to be right now.
Easier said than done, but practice!
May u find your zivug hagun b’karov
It’s a mishigaas not to know your own mishigasim
I appreciate the sincerity in your words vis-a vis davening.
One point to consider:
The way one relates to others, Hashem relates to that individual.
So if one is less critical & judgmental, Hashem responds in kind.
I’ll just address 2 of your points:
#1- There are unfortunately people who have ADD or PTSD who cannot sit still. Speak to people who work with these kids or adults. Appreciate that you are not one of them.
#4- Some people look around to gain inspiration by those who are still davening intently because they would like to achieve that state, too.
In the merit of being dan l’chaf zchus, may Hashem answer all your tfilos l’tova bimhera.
And to HAVE kind & compassionate spouses!
AMEN!
Regarding your Forward Message question, I check w/ Snopes for accuracy. I find it to be an invaluable resource. I’ve requested from those who send the alarming emails to check w/ Snopes 1st b4 forwarding them to me.
use is as a learning experience instead of beating yourself up.
Why is everyone so keen on blaming the victim or making fun? Is it possible that she is indeed being stalked?
Speaking for any stalking victim out there, this is not a joking matter.
& we in the CR do not know if this is what is actually going on.
That’s the negative self-talk. Consider it tarfus!
Lupper -lunch/supper (as in “brunch”-breakfast/lunch)
-Be aware of people who put u down &/or make u feel badly about yourself; limit contact with them. Stick around positive people.
-Finish difficult tasks & work towards fulfilling a goal.
sac,
I was aware of that fact & so were they…it was a yeshiva…
call shomrim & a friend/neighbor
My bad memory of jury duty is being let go because I was on a long criminal case & missed lots of work…
I remember volunteering after Pesach to help a woman in BP change over to chometz…took the kids to a pizza shop there, where the proprietors GAVE OUT NUMBERS, there were so many customers!!!!!
What a culture shock!
Netanya’s was my family’s meeting place for years…loved the pizza…before my family moved…to Netanya
no problem.
U may also want to google “yeast allergy.”
I am not talking about celiac disease. There’s gluten allergy & sensitivity also. There r also those who don’t digest grains well (not celiac, the microvilli r damaged in that case). So they can have leavened corn or rice muffins, but that’s not hamotzi.
Celiacs may not have any of the hamotzi grains except for gluten-free oats!
Sorry, mod, but I know u r mistaken!
Whenever u r feeling down about missing the CR, all u need to do is remember your screen name: HAKOL TOV!
Some can’t eat yeast, some can’t have any grains, some can only eat gluten-free matzo all year round- they r at least thrilled that they can wash for Shabbos….
It’s amazing what one comes to appreciate when not taking all the normal things for granted, such as eating chometz…
Did u ever hear of “home away from home?!”
Just to keep things in perspective, there are some people who basically must eat Peachdik all year round cuz of dietary restrictions of grain or gluten…plz appreciate the fact that you don’t have malabsorption issues
apy- really inspiring!
may u & ev1 here who needs a shidduch find their zivug hagun b’karov AKY”R!
-To be aware of your negative “self-talk,” what you think to yourself & tell yourself…it should be considered treif
-when the yetzer hara cannot get you in the classic way (an overt sin), it’ll try to go this route (the “down” route, no pun intended
-actively give yourself a mental pat on the back whenever you catch yourself doing something good
-use what you did incorrectly as a learning experience, not a bashing one!