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“Yes, I’m proposing that Shalom Bayis is more important (as far as HKBH is concerned, not “frumkeit” or “Charaidism”) than Tznius. Prove to me that I’m wrong.”
You completely distorted the gemara. The gemara tells us that shalom is so great that hashem allows his name to be erased. It says nothing about the fact that he allows a pritzus situation to facilitate shalom. In fact, the stated reason for “uncovering” (see Rashi on the word pura) her hair has nothing to do with shalom, rather it is to shame and rebuke her.
Why didnt you quote my response in that thread. I’ll write it again.
This “After all, the Sotah’s hair is uncovered in the Bais HaMikdash (not Tznius!?) to create Shalom. (and FYI, the gemorah cares less about that than Mechikas HaShem)” is a complete distortion of the gemara.
“What is a left wing modern orthodox parent to do when a child puts on a black hat, tzitzes and and a velvet yarmulka and will not drink the milk in the home.”
Nothing except try to understand where it is coming from.
Troll.
“After all, the Sotah’s hair is uncovered in the Bais HaMikdash (not Tznius!?) to create Shalom.”
What a distortion of the gemara!!
ViHakesef Yaaneh Es Hakol.
Dont patronize frum establishments that sell clothing that is inappropriate. Dont patronize media establishments (print or electronic) that advertise inappropriate clothing.
In response to what did your 18 yer old make this statement? Was it, “put your dirty socks in the laundry”, or, “I dont think hanging out all night smoking weed with the chevra is a good idea”. Context is everything.
“that seems to be a good point.”
It is a point that is lost on most people. The fathers/husbands are responsible for the spiritual atmosphere of the family. They should be very involved. There is also the not so small matter that they, for the most part, fund the purchase of the clothing that is not acceptable, hold them accountable.
Whether it is permitted or not permitted, anyone who opens a sefer to learn during any part of davening is making the statement that they would rather be doing anything, but, davening.
1: Have the Rebbetzin speak to the offending woman (and their mother when appropriate) and the Rav to their husband or father.
2: If it persists make sure the men get no kibbudim, ever.
Sadly, the way you describe your high school/seminary learning experience applies to many bachurim as well.
I think you should see the Hagaos Yavetz. I didnt see it inside, but as quoted by Reb Arthur Scroll (called Art by his many friends), he explains Rashi that R’ Eilish is teaching us that when it comes to doing a mitzva it is ok to not to worry about your kavod so much, even shlepping an animal through the street like an Arab merchant.
If your parents are mature, they will daven for your well being whether they know you are pregnant or not. If they worry whether you are pregnant, 3 months after the chasuna, then they have bigger problems to deal with. I dont pasken from story books, even those about the wives of gedolim.
“if Hermione was a Jewish married women”
Does this invisibility cloak somehow make her into a duality or some sort of trinity?
Unless you feel the person can help you in any way, whether spiritual, physical or emotional, why bother telling them, eventually, they will be able to figure it out on their own. This, in my opinion, includes parents, inlaws, siblings and your “best friend”.
I draw the line at rain slicker.
“Where is all the good music?”
Under C, for Carlebach. Sometimes under R, as in Reb Shlomo.
the g train. you never know who your carpool mates will be on any given day, but that only adds to the excitement.
a hacksaw ought to do the trick
“mine are grey”
I’m sure they would go nicely with mod-42s grey beard.
“so they are capable of making decisions when it comes to choosing a kallah.”
Lets start one step earlier. Let them decide who they want to date, why let their mothers make that decision.
I remember reading a similar story in the biography of Rav Shlomo Freifeld Z’l. Only there it wasnt the dalai lama it was some indian chief on a reservation somewhere in the us.
It doesnt matter who you dress for. What matters is, if halacha approves of how you dress.
“it is typically smarter to be dan lkaf zchus.”
It is not just a chumra.
With the Yom Hadin getting closer and closer, it behooves everyone to be mindful about how they would want others to view their actions, especially the beis din shel maalah
Avi K. Goggle the news.
Cut off about three inches. Should be comfortable then.
I dont know the specifics of her case. Just want to point out that the Iowa parole board back in May recommended she be paroled. Due to a technicality she had to serve at least 6 month of her sentence, a time that was just reached. The judge who oversaw this hearing, apparently agreed with the parole boards recommendation and granted her parole. If one wishes to believes that someone greased the board, as well as the judge hearing her case, nothing anyone says will change that cynical attitude. On the other hand I agree the argument, “oh those precious children” is not an automatic get out of jail free card as some seem to be arguing.
“The letter was signed by Rav Avrohom Yaakov Nelkelbaum, Rosh Yeshivas Mir; Rav Benheoil, Rav of Bnei Yosef and Rosh Yeshiva of Mikdash Melech; Rav Elyahu Ben Haim, Rav of Yesodai Mahsad (5000 congregants) in Queens; Rav Shlomo Tzvi Stern, Debreziner Rav of BP; Rav Amram Klein, Ungar Rav; Rav Moshe Green, Rosh Yeshiva of monsey and Rav Yisroel Neuman, Rosh Yeshiva Lakewood.”
If none of the above are my Rav, Rosh Yeshiva, Posek or Rebbe, what aveira have I committed if I vote for a different candidate? What aveira has my own Rav committed when he suggests voiting for a different candidate?
I think the shiur is 4 mil. However, only 1 mil if it will make you go backwards.
“now people can see that the argument made against yeshivas is coming from ignorance”
You are being too kind. It is coming from stupidity and a dose of jealousy and hatred.
I admit I stopped reading the opening statement after the words “The result of that is that many (or dare I say, the vast majority) guys learning in kollel full time don’t actually learn seriously all day”. I dont know what the OP advocates, or why.
My only comment is, that anyone who can be motzi laz on those who engage in learning with such a stupid generalization (in elul no less) should not be taken seriously at all.
The badchan, the musician(s), the hall. they dont do it for free.
“this is about exact halacha”
Yes it is. And a security camera would go a long way to resolving any issues of yichud.
Is laboratory grown hamburger, hamburger?
Perhaps your wife opted for the larger size because she feels fat in the smaller one. She figured if she told you she thought she looked fat, you would tell her she looked great, but if she said she felt it was lacking in modesty you would commend her for being scrupulous in this matter. I guess her strategy backfired on her.
Is there a security camera in the office?
I am always entertained when I hear someone start singing shir hamalos.
Oh the irony of it all.
“they may ban biking in their community for safety reasons.”
A more appropriate ban for health reasons might be to limit ones intake at tikkun to 2 pieces of herring and a cracker.
According to wikipedia (almost as authorative as “my friend said he heard from someone in shul at a kiddush, that someone asked r’ chaim and he reportedly said”)….
Before wristwatches became popular in the 1920s, most watches were pocket watches, which often had covers and were carried in a pocket and attached to a watch chain or watch fob.[3] In the early 1900s, the wristwatch, originally called a Wristlet, was reserved for women and considered more of a passing fad than a serious timepiece. Men, who carried pocket watches, were quoted as saying they would “sooner wear a skirt as wear a wristwatch”.[4] This changed in World War I, when soldiers on the battlefield found pocket watches to be impractical and attached their watches to their wrist by a cupped leather strap. It is also believed that Girard-Perregaux equipped the German Imperial Navy with wristwatches in a similar fashion as early as the 1880s, to be used while synchronizing naval attacks and firing artillery.[4]
Which insurance company? Not every dentist is a member of every plan.
I think people are confusing “kula” and a psak that is meikel.
I think a major reason is because one need not “learn” the mishna berura, just read it and see the psak. The arush hashulchan on the other hand is really a summary of the sugya.
“see sefer Oz V’hadar Levushah, in English, by HRH”G Rav Falk SHLIT”A from Gateshead, England”
One might also want to review Halichos Bas Yisroel by Rav Yitzchak Yaackov Fuchs. Whatever guide you do read, the most important thing is, when in doubt, ASK YOUR OWN QUESTIONS TO YOUR OWN RAV.
“personalizing’ our religion has never worked.”
The only way to give good advice, is to personalize it. 4 inches is a very good suggestion to ensure one is properly covered at all times in all situations. I do not deny that. However, it is just that, a very practical suggestion. It is NOT halacha, and a Rav must use his seichel when to give certain advice and suggest certain things, and when not. I am not him, and I do not claim to be inside his head to know what motivates him to advise certain things, to whom and when. Regarding your knowledge of his name, that is largely irrelevent to this discussion since you have obviously been guided by someone else to use the 4 inch rule. I am not looking to offer you guidance or to disagree with the advice you were given, that is for your Rav, Husband or father as the case may be.
“I’m not sure I understand. Your Rabbi has different standards for different people?”
No, he has one standard. The halacha as he learned it from his Rav.
You really need to get close to a Rav. Perhaps then you will understand.
If clicking on the songs benefits you in any way, I am not adverse to clicking again, this time with mute enabled. I’m not against you, or your songs, I just dont enjoy them.
“Anyway, can anyone list a Rav that doesnt suggest this?”
Mine. He deals with individuals of the kehilla, as individuals of the kehilla. He doesnt issue cookie cutter guidelines or advice to anyone. To one he might suggest the 4 inch rule, to another he might suggest 6, while yet another he may make no suggestion at all. He works with everyone on their own level.
I guess the “how to halacha books” are for those who do not have a Rav. Baruch Hashem, my family has one.
“I am here to vent over the fact that the largest Kosher supermarkets in the Catskills have decided to stop using price-tags on 99% of the items in their stores.”
I can not comment on this statement since I only shop at one of the largest Kosher supermarkets in the Catskills. Since I only shop at one, I can not make a general claim about the largest kosher supermarkets. The store I shopped in this past Friday, and again yesterday, had prices posted on the shelves, and also had a price check scanner in the store. If I wished to know the price of any item, I only had to check the shelf or use the scanner.
I am sorry you had a frustrating experience shopping at this store (these stores?), but to take a swipe at all of the largest kosher supermarkets in the Catskills, is simply wrong ethicly, and probably halachicly too. In the meantime, adopt some of the suggestions offered here, or shop elsewhere.