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mybat – “It gets pretty hot…and if I’m gonna warm something for shabbos day it’ll get hot if I put it on early enough (2 hrs more or less).”
Many rabbonim, including my own, frown on this custom because (m’ikor hadin) of using tashmishei kedushah (aron kodesh)for mundane purposes and for item of lesser kedusha – See Darchei Chayyim Veshalom and SA Orach Chayyim 154.
And why was my post deleted yesterday?
“Just to note (for Yomim Tovim at least), if your oven has a pilot light (as opposed to an electric ignition), R’ Shachter holds that you can shut the oven or burner completely, because the flame isn’t being extinguished. It’s only being shrunk back down to the pilot. In such a case, for safety purposes, you should shut the burner whenever you’re not using it. “
When you ignite a stove from its pilot flame, there are two separate unconnected flames created. If R’ Shachter holds that you can shut the oven or burner completely, you are extinguishibg one of the flames totally. It seems to me that R’ Shachter may be using the s’vara that Rav Moshe used for his chidush.
Feif Un, in which sefer did you see R’ Shachter’s shita?
Mod- I had forwarded the name of the Rav I spoke to who was a talmud muvak of Rav Moshe to the CR editors during the last dabate. While the Rav gave me permission to use his name, I didn’t want to do it in a public forum but if that is your requirement, I have no problem.
if you can give me a psak that Reb Moshe wrote in a sefer, please do, otherwise please consider this issue closed
it has nothing to do with pc
has to do with people poskining serious shailos for themselves based on hints and heresay from an unknown person on an internet forum
Pashuteh Yid, thank you and let’s include chanuka menora flames and flames used to search for chametz. As you stated, so much suffering and lives lost has occurred in recent years as a result of fire safety negligence.
Exactly my point; thanks.
“…are not from the group overly concerned with “covering their hair.”
Chazal and our Rabbonim are not concerned about large hats for women, that message should be loud enough for us.
If you want our daughters to be tuned in to the important issues of our holy religion, stop with the ridiculous.
“Why is it that people reject shidduchim suggested to them because the family is balei teshuva? Isn’t it something to be proud of? Whats wrong with marrying in to such a family? Shouldn’t they be accepted like everyone else?”
Didu, I couldn’t agree with you more. And I don’t only talk the talk but I walk the walk.
But the main reason why FFB families run away from ba’alei tshuva shidduchin is hypocrisy from on top. While there are a few exceptions, the majority of Rabbonim and kiruv professionals in the Orthodox world, while they advocate FFB/ba’alei tshuva marriages, will not have their own children marry ba’alei tshuva. If this were not the case, you would find the acceptance level vastly higher.
Does anyone know how the dress norm in Crown Heights to wear shirt tails outside of the pants started? I don’t see any older Chabad people doing this and I would bet the past Rebbe had his shirt tucked in.
“Yes, but many people only want to go to a frum one.”
When it comes to healing, go to the best rather than the frumest. Many well known therapists or physicians in the frum world have good PR but lousy track records. A pathology is a pathology and will be diagnosed and correctly treated by a skilled professional therapist. I have heard this advice from a respected Rav and posek.
“And dowries have been provided by the kallah’s family to the choson throughout Jewish history.”
You mean in recent Jewish history.
But more true: Jewish men have worked and supported their wives and families throughout Jewish history.
With one exception, all my sons-in-law work and B”H learn before and after work; and I’m very proud of them. I also have a son-in- law who learns and is supported by his father who works and learns before and after work; and I’m proud of both of them.
I don’t think your concern is even a g’zerah l’gezeira. The metal is outside the sukkah and not part of the s’chach nor does the s’chach rest on the meatal. And even if it did, m’ikor hadin the succah is kosher.
If a child can do na’anuim, you are obligated to provide him with a kosher esrog and lulav.
Many children are in this category; if not all, if you believe the grandparents of these little geniuses.
When Rabbi Auman’s daughter married into Chaim Berlin, he insisted on a pre-nup, as is his shita. Rav Aharon Shachter was maskim.
There is already a proliferation of “chesed tzadakos”; more are not needed. In addition, after all the high advertising and administrative costs, little resources are left for true aniyim.
“..aren’t you supposed to wear your tzitzit strings out?”
I once asked a world renowned Rav and Tzadik why he didn’t wear his tzitzis out. His response was that he was not on the madreiga to do it.
“The Rosh Yeshiva was not wearing a jacket or hat”
Rav Ruderman always wore a homburg and fine kapata while walking, which he did often. In warm weather the homburg and kapata were grey while in cooler weather they were black.
estherhamalka – Why a kosher lulav and esrog? Because that’s what chinuch is.
Why put real tzitzis on your son when you can tie some strings to his pants?
Why give your four year old son chulent with kosher meat when you can teach him oneg shabbos with treif which is a lot cheaper?
Can you say “choking hazard”?
Can you say “adult”?
g’mar chasima tova.
If your mouth is very dry, you can suck on a button.
Popa, I’m trying to figure what you’re talking about.
We are to blame for the high divorce rate because we are silent. Who wants to chas v’shalom ruin a shidduch by revealing that this handsome frum looking yeshiva bocher from a heimish family, is really a bum? No amount of counseling is going to help a marriage where the husband is a womanizer, or drug addict, or gambler, or gay, or abuses his wife.
Brooklyn College, that’s where we go. It’s a wonderful place for tashlich and the guard is very cooperative.
I wish some courageous Talmud Chacham would publish an English sefer listing all legitimate heteirim (ikor hadin); it would be a best seller.
mdd – “they would catch a couple of these t’snius-challenged women and give them lashes. Tho OTDs would be dealt with even more harshly.”
Wonderful! What do you have in mind?
Concerning the nine days, Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv and Rav Pinchas Sheinberg both hold that today we all fall under the category of istenis due to our hygienic standards and bathing is, therefore, a hygienic necessity.
While my post above was written with more than a bit of sarcasm, you may not be aware of it, but the tznius police are out there and have been for some time; especially in schools. Women (and men), you are being watched when you bring your children in for interviews and then you wonder why they have not been accepted to that school. Can you imagine coming to a school not dressed to the utmost in tznius and in good taste, but it happens all the time. Women, what are you thinking? Same thing for shidduchin; get smart and dress right.
There is only one way to correct this problem and we need to get serious and stop being so politically correct. Every neighborhood must have a Vaad Hatznius which will appoint women to monitor the dress habits of its Jewish girls and Aishes Chayils. For persistent violators, warnings should be extended in a quiet way so that no one need be embarrassed as a result. If these warnings are ignored, then a quasi public “chairim” is in order. Just watch those hem lines come down!
I learned with Rav Schienberg that on Yom Tov one may shower provided that:
A600KiloBear – “anyone with a history of abusive behavior … Marriage does NOT cure these problems.
While Yaakov Avinu agreed with you and hid Dina in a box to protect her from his brother Eisav so that he would not marry her; Hashem, however, punished Yaakov for this action because certain women do have the special kochos to make a rasha do T’shuva.
HIE – Baruch Hashem you have a Rav who is an adom gadol and respected in the community. You are very fortunate and as the posters here can readily see it makes a big difference in one’s midos and hadracha.
So just continue to grow in your learning and yirus shamayim.
It’d ridiculous, as Rav Moshe had stated, to reaffirm what had already been established as mutar in the shulchan aruch. So as was mentioned earlier, if a Rav or Posek or kashrus agency does not explicably assir the fish, then ipso facto, they hold the kashrus status to continue.
It’s far easier for you to list the names of all the American Rabbonim who have stated that the fish is assur; all the rest are matir.
oomis1105, you are eating tiny little critters all the time, you just don’t see them. So it’s only a matter of size that we’re talking about.
And what about gefilta fish or herring, going to stop eating that now?
The only safeguard is to make your own gefilta fish from scratch like we used to do and check the fillets yourself.
I wonder if the mashgichim who check for fish worms will do it the same way that lettuce and other vegetables are checked by the large companies such as Eden or Bodek. Instead of checking each lettuce leaf or floret, like you would do at home, the mashgiach checks a small batch from hundreds of pounds of produce. If the small batch is checked to be bug free after the entire amount is washed, then the entire amount is halachically bug free even though it’s not checked. So is there some kind halachic mechanism for this type of mass fish production or will each of tens of thousands of fillets be checked? And how can you trust this checking on such a massive scale? On the video, it seemed like a tedious job just to check and remove the worms from one cod filet; can you imagine doing it for hundreds or thousands of filets?
“I’ve been to out of town places and find that the people there in general are so much more accepting and friendly.”
It’s a myth. People are the same people everywhere. It only stands out more in Borough Park or in Yerushalayim because you expect more.
The reason New York is the model for the world in terms of chesed organizations and is the address for just about every frum national tzadaka, is because the generosity of New York yiden as a tzibor cannot be matched anywhere.
“I know of a few who actually moved back home because they hated NY so much.”
Very few. Many of the intermediate and smaller towns which at one time had Orthodox populations; are now virtual frum ghost towns because eventually the children left and settled in the New York general area. There must be somethings New York has to offer which is not found OOT.
A few of my posts get through, but usually those end up edited; ah, remember the old days.
“I’ve also heard”…”I’ve also heard”… “I’ve also heard”…
Good sources.
“If a rav violates halacha himself, it’s not a good idea to use him as your rav… I would make sure to consult with an odom godol to see if I was doing the right thing.”
Are you saying that the Rabbonim who are matir, are violating halacha?
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“[My Rav]he holds that IT IS OSSUR to eat these worms…If someone who I considered my rav would rule contrary to the psak of the majority of ??????, I think I would have to get a new rav.”
So if Rav Rav Belsky was your Rav, or if your Rav was any of the vast majority of American poskim who hold that the fish is not treif, you would get rid of him; while most frum Yiden don’t.
Your Rav’s opinion is not relevant ???? ??????
My Rav’s opinion is very relevent ???? ?????. Isn’t that why you have a Rav?
Wolf – You’re right. I have photos of my daughters on display in our home, as well as wedding photos of my wife with our daughters. My Rav, who has no problem giving musser to me, has never brought it up. I have also seen wedding photo albums on display at the homes of Roshei Yeshiva.
I don’t think someone can bring a proof in halacha from was Sara being in her own tent.
And why do other frum publications, such as Artscroll, which are read by everyone and have Rabbonim to advise them; why do they allow photos of women if it were assur?
I’ve eaten in homes of Chassidim in my younger days and the entire family ate at the table.
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Your answer is a bit confusing.
“Is he (your Rav) one of the “numerous American poskim assiring”?”
Daas Yochid – “the answer is no.”
Or is it – “the answer is yes.”
Which is correct?
Is he one of the “numerous American poskim assiring”?
Does your Rav live in the USA?
CORRECTION: “again you respond to a reasoned sourced statement, with your own unsourced personal opinion”
Except for two Rabbonim, the other poskim that were listed as assiring, indeed did NOT assir.
Since the status quo was that kosher fish did not need b’dika, any posek or kashrus agency that does NOT assir now, ipso facto is matir, until such time that they explicitly assir.
Read the previous posts.
“determination of majority is based on “local”.”
What are you talking about?