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Thank you, 147. I am always fascinated by your calendar facts.
Someone told me that next year Asarah b’Teves is also in Friday. I think he assumed that because the Yomim Tovim fall on the same days of the week. You’re saying that Asarah b’Teves is different. Correct?
Edit: There will be no Asarah b’Teves next year. 😉
(For those who find interest in the correlation between our calendar and the secular calendar, the next Asarah b’Teves, which is on a Thursday, is Jan 1.)
147 – just curious, America doesn’t know how to deal with snow because New York is America?
Also Lakewood.
Something in the water there?
Onegoal, then why buy cholent at the deli?
Sam, all the more reason to think you wouldn’t get a positive reply. 😉
Sam, and you thought maybe one of them is on the CR? 🙂
Not I, obviously. I should probably look into it more.
WIY, it’s not a halachic issue per se, it is an issue of sensitivity, and I think tzaddiq expressed it well.
My thinking was that he had a point, but OTOH, it’s not as if it’s served on Tuesday. Having cholent on Thursday night seems to me to be an expression of enthusiasm that Shabbos is coming.
Anyhow, it was good. And my chavrusa had kugel.
I hope everyone chapped that this was another of popa’s troll threads.
So someone brought cholent tonight to the bais medrash in which I learn at night. So my chavrusa taynas* that cholent on Thursday night takes away
from the kovod of Shabbos. What does everyone think about that?
*Which reminds me that I have to fast tomorrow so maybe I shouldn’t have eaten it for a different reason.
Don’t forget to fast!
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/bris-woes#post-502112
Gavra, At least I disclose my real gender 🙂
So you claim.
The part about popa being bored and a yeshiva guy is also speculation.
The part about messing with people’s heads is undeniable.
Popa, you must be even older than me.
This may be true for a certain age group.
I was a frequent poster for a while before I got a subtitle, but I never asked for one, and the whole thing was only of mild interest for me.
Syag, was your middle finger bent all the way in?
I have no issue with them changing the title, but when they write edited, although I assume they have a good reason, it’s hard to know if the intent of the poster remains clear.
I was joking when I said you should davka marry a carrier.
This is about my personal view; I don’t think we’re supposed to live our lives based on remote possibilities.
Do I know for sure that it wouldn’t affect my thought process if I knew?
No, but I would hope not.
Is it a good idea to have a public database listing everyone’s carrier status? Of course not, that’s not my argument.
Gamanit, I’m pretty sure she was joking.
We agree as to the reason it follows her. We disagree as to whether the other possibility is absurd.
You’re right, HaLeiVi, “[closed]” is not in the address bar.
The mods seem have been having a good time lately. They apparently played around with the spelling of the OP here:
This is an old trick.
But it was still nice for Onegoal to bring this back for the new generation of CR readers, and nostalgic for us old timers.
See Sotah 21b.
See Sanhedrin 75a.
The chilluk is precisely what I wrote.
I don’t think it’s absurd, especially when you consider that there may be times when he does do the mitzvah himself (for example, she’s in the hospital).
The reason the minhag does follow her is probably precisely because she is the one who physically performs the mitzvah, so it’s hard to find an example.
The closest I can think of off the top of my head is that if someone has a minhag to do metzitzah b’peh, he will hire a mihel who will do it, rather than rely ib the mohel following his own minhag.
It’s not a perfect example, though.
It may seem absurd, but I don’t really mean that the minhag is the instruction per se. Her lighting would be an expression of his minhag; the way he perpetuates his minhag is through her lighting.
Also, if it were negiya derech chibah, even pikuach nefesh would not be docheh.
WS, au contraire, why should recessive genes be taken into account if they’re not both carriers?
No, I haven’t misunderstood. I disagree. There could have been a minhag regarding how a man instructs his wife to light.
Oomis, I’m not sure which aspect you are referring to, and this is probably not the venue to discuss it, but it would depend on whether it’s something purely based on minhag, or whether there’s a halachic angle to it.
So everyone agrees with me that it’s a factor that should be taken under consideration.
No, I do not agree.
Oops, wrong username.
torah613torah, i just want to say what an amaaazing person u must b 4 having gone through such hoooorrrible experiences and stil coming out strong. ur such an inspirashun!!!!!!!!!
Also, you keep on contradicting yourself. When you say, “you shouldn’t suggest a shidduch without having any idea if it’s shayach. You’re just wasting people’s time and possibly insulting them.”, and, “unless you’ve met both the boy and the girl, however briefly, you shouldn’t be the shadchan” you are being absolute.
However, when you write, “your success rate will be very low compared to friends and family” and, “Doesn’t mean it’s the best use of shidduch energy.” you imply as I wrote, that it’s not a total waste.
I know a lot of people with successful marriages whose shadchan didn’t know both the boy and the girl, I just used myself as an example.
T613, I agree that a suggestion from someone who knows both parties might make more sense to follow up on, but suggesting research based on some vague information is hardly a waste of energy.
Oh, okay. In any event, Sam, nice to see you pop in.
What are you guys talking about?
Ever try driving between Lakewood and NYC at 9:30-10:00am?
T613, that’s fascinating. So the question really should be, “Would you marry someone who is NOT a carrier?”.
T613, my shadchan did not know both of us.
I hope you or golfer aren’t my wife.
T613, that’s because they’re not all the same.
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Ubiquitin, you’re making a circular argument. If the minhag followed the man, it would express itself in how his mother lights.
Ubiquitin, I know that, but I hope farrockgrandma didn’t really consider that worth pondering.
if the only goal is avoiding genetic mishaps, a more diverse population can only improve things.
Why would anyone suggest that that’s the only goal of shidduch or marriage? It’s just one detail, albeit an important one.
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They’re all the same anyway, so might as well go by what most random people in the CR say.
Why not? It’s his mitzvah as well, just that only she actually physically lights, and it’s actually a chiddush that it follows her family.
Farrockgrandma,
1) I don’t understand why that would be the case, but even so, it’s irrelevant as long as we keep testing, and infinitely better than the alternative.
2) Why limit ourselves to that when we have, b”H, genetic testing?
Ubiquitin, presumably, the husband’s mother would be following her husband’s mother, who is following her husband’s mother…