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Again, you’re being idealistic. It’s not realistic for most people.
RD, not necessarily circular, Chacham Ovadiah likely felt that due to a different history for Sefardim than Ashkenazim, Sefardic customs were better preserved than Ashkenazic ones.
R’ Yaakov Emden allowed his wife to keep her minhag to say Shehecheyanu at candle lighting for Yom Tov. This is brought as a proof that the minhagim regarding women’s mitzvos follow her mother.
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Buffalo? That sounds familiar. Is that somewhere near Chicago?
Badchradyjew, I think you’re missing Gavra’s point, although I suppose tefillah is appropriate for his issue as well. I’ll try to have extra kavana during Sholom Rov/Sim Shalom.
Syag, I’m referring to people traveling between Lakewood and NYC.
Al ta’am vareiach ein l’hisvakeiach.
Does anyone know if R’ Shach’s Letters are available anywhere online?
In times of the Gemara, any limud Torah for girls was at best optional. Today, with the alternative being public school, BY is a chiyuv. Also, IIRC, one of the rishonim holds that any hotzo’oh for a mitzvah is included. Maybe R’ Schach is going with that. I’ll try to look it up; it’s supposed to be printed.
Gavra, in many cases I would include limudei chol.
I was told that R’ Shach holds that nowadays even BY tuition is included.
It’s not realistic for me as an individual to change our educational structure, but it is realistic for me to control my shopping habits.
Syag, I’m not kidding. If you think there are counterbalancing factors, that’s legitimate, but don’t just ignore the needs of people who will be taking six hours out of their day to celebrate your simcha with you.
That was my point. That you want guests to come, so you should accommodate them to that extent.
I should have caught that. I guess I’m tired; I woke up early for a bris today. 🙂
The first part still stands, though, because there are some guests, such as close relatives, who are going to come anyway.
Oomis, bacon and ham aren’t “fleishigs”. 🙂
Popa, that’s selfish. Even from a selfish POV, it depends on if you want them to come.
Mazel Tov!
To answer 1,2, & 3, we need to know the ratio of in towners to OOT, how long it takes for the OOT to get to you, and what time the minyanim are.
The seudah should immediately follow the bris, so as not to inconvenience the guests, and although theoretically fleishigs is better, most people don’t want it for breakfast.
Torah, I agree with Syag. Halevai there should be enough people who know both parties well to redt shidduchim, but there aren’t, and people need to suggest names and then have research done.
Miritchka, thank you.
WIY, I disagree. If you don’t shop for bargains (within reason), it’s not a hotzo’oh for Shabbos, it’s a hotzo’oh for your laziness. If you choose a yeshiva which is better for your son’s learning, however, even if it’s more expensive, it’s a legit hotzo’oh for Talmud Torah.
Gavra, then you should also count what you refer to as other kids s’char limud, since it’s a necessary expense in order to get your son into the class. And yes, I would say the same thing if the Mafia forced you to give an extra thousand. If that’s what you need to do, it counts.
And what they did in Europe is not nogeia, because that option is not available to you.
That wasn’t my menu, just my favorites.
Yes, I was dan l’kaf z’chus that the melted cheese wasn’t on the steak.
Gavra, does that mean you wouldn’t count transportation expenses? I most definitely would.
As far as a nicer facility, it would count if it helped him learn better, otherwise it wouldn’t.
Gavra, I don’t understand that. Since in order to have them allow my child in the class, I must pay a lot more than 2k, why shouldn’t it all count?
Also, is there a nafka mina?
It would have to factor into the decision.
It really shouldn’t
I’m happier not knowing.
Since there are people who think the way you do, I agree that it’s better that it’s unknown.
No, HaLeiVi, it’s not new. I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.
Nonikname, hopefully you will see clearly THAT He cares about you.
Syag, this is the coffee room. You’d have to apologize if you posted on topic.
SaysMe, yes, but not on the thread in which the info was spilled.
LF, you should learn piano or guitar instead of saxophone. Maybe then you’ll figure it out.
Popa, which one?
SaysMe, I don’t think Syag serves all of those things at the same party.
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I got a chuckle out of that, popa.
I’ve figured out who a few posters are, but I think I’d embarrass them if I told them, so I haven’t.
If I saw a guy posting in Starbucks from a BlackBerry, I’d probably assume it was popa. But popa, if you are posting from a BlackBerry and see a guy staring at you, don’t assume it’s me.
It’s different for each girl.
Are you writersoul?
Did you tell her that you didn’t really know the boy?
I think it’s ultra yeshivish.
WS, I was under the impression that you can’t take the Dor Yesharim test unless you haven’t taken, and promise not to take, your own lab test.
*facepalm*
1) It was Dash’s cynical side who first used the term monopoly.
2) Who cares if the term is inaccurate. The point isn’t that Shprintzy can’t compete, the point is that you can’t go to Quest or Lab Corp and test for these ten conditions.
Again, maybe this is for the better, and I think their intention is noble, but at least admit that it’s true.
I think that’s reason enough to do teshuvah.
Something to contemplate.
HaLeiVi,
To me it is. If there was a 5% chance of an affected child, saying I’m relying on Hashem might mean I’m being unrealistically idealistic. But there’s a 0% chance.
Nonikname, would you say that if they were both carriers?
It’s DY’s fault.
I’m the one who made the diyyuk that PBA considers me and WS idiots.
Then why can’t I afford a Lexus?
Only he finds a better one.
How about relying on Hashem? I don’t think rejecting someone with recessive genes is normal hishtadlus, although if they both do, then it is normal hishtadlus.
If they allowed you to also independently test, one could choose to do so, and if negative on all ten, never need to use DY (I assume that there’s a way to show certified results to the other party). The fact that they don’t allow you to test with them if you’ve done so makes it not worthwhile, because you’d need DY as a fallback in case one or more tests is positive.