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  • in reply to: AZ's scheme revealed #774923
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    i thought putting down the info. was mandatory.

    I haven’t been arrested by the coffee police (yet).

    in reply to: Black Hat Advice #775639
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Forget the hat. It’s only an external. Work on your midos, on your bein adam l’chavero (including kibud av v’eim), your kavanah in dovening, your learning and performing the mitzvos with joy.

    Why does one have to be at the expense of the other? For many, the former enhances the others.

    in reply to: Pouring Wine/Grape Juice Back Into The Container #860465
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Does drinking the havdalla kos cause one to grow a beard? Does it do this to women too?

    Yes. But most people don’t have the money to waste in boiling down the silver every week after havdallah, so practically speaking its just not worth it.

    Women aren’t able to metabolize silver as well as men, so no.

    🙂

    in reply to: Bentchers – Bal Tashchis #775103
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Put it in shaimot in shule.

    I believe that the shul’s shaimos is generally not for anyone’s private use (it costs money to properly take care of shaimos).

    in reply to: Banning Bris Milah in the United States! #1032339
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    This study also identifies reasons why accurate data on these deaths are not available

    So the whole thing isn’t much more than conjecture.

    The people who insist on doing it today are meikel on pikuach nefesh.

    The people who consider it (mbp) “an arcane uncivilized practice” skewed the results of the studies.

    in reply to: How much davening do you say from the siddur, how much by heart? #774943
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    It is always far better to daven in a siddur, even if you know it by heart.

    This may be true for some people; others may be able to have more kavana with their eyes closed.

    in reply to: Black Hat Advice #775634
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    DY, association itself is not a positive or a negative.

    There’s no such thing as “association itself”; one is associating with something.

    in reply to: Black Hat Advice #775633
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I dont think the OP was asking for advice if he should wear a hat or not.

    Not clear, but either way, zahavasdad has a right to give his opinion.

    in reply to: Black Hat Advice #775632
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    zahavasdad,

    Here’s how to italicize:

    <em>Zahava's Dad</em>

    results in:

    Zahava’s Dad

    in reply to: Banning Bris Milah in the United States! #1032333
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    This study finds that approximately 117 neonatal circumcision-related deaths (9.01/100,000) occur annually in the United States

    I would guess that none are due to bris milah; the mohelim are more machmir than the doctors.

    in reply to: Black Hat Advice #775628
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Kibbud Av

    OK, now I’ll answer. If the father insisted that the son not wear it, I would not recommend wearing it. (However, in such a case, there are bound to be deeper issues.) If he merely felt it was silly, as the OP said, I would recommend trying to get the father to understand, in as mentchlich’e way as possible, that it’s not silly.

    in reply to: Pouring Wine/Grape Juice Back Into The Container #860462
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I think he meant that to avoid having to make a bracha achrona you should never drink more than m’lo lugmov.

    What I meant was that there’s a machlokes whether the shiur for a bracha achrona is a m’lo lugmov or a r’viis. If you drink more than a m’lo lugmov but less than a r’viis, it’s a shaila whether or not a bracha achrona is required, which leaves you in a catch-22; if you say the bracha achrona, it might be a bracha l’vatala, and if you don’t, you may have skipped a required bracha. To avoid the shaila, one should either drink less than a m’lo lugmov, and not say the bracha achrona, or drink more than a r’viis and say the bracha achrona.

    For havdalah, to drink less than a m’lo lugmov is not an option (just as one must drink a m’lo lugmov for kiddush), so you should drink a r’viis.

    in reply to: Black Hat Advice #775625
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    For those in favor of the Hat, lets say the roles were reverse and the Father insisted he wear the hat and the boy said it was Silly

    What would you recommend

    You asked the question, you should answer first.

    in reply to: Black Hat Advice #775623
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    real-brisker, I always wonder what “good” a black hat does.

    It’s about association.

    bochur, I think its important to sit down with your father and talk to him about why you want to wear one and why he wants you not to. Does he not like “uniforms”? Does he think its a waste of money? Does he think its just about the exterior?

    Its important to have open communication no matter what the outcome is.

    Agreed.

    in reply to: AZ's scheme revealed #774918
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    You mean we can’t see that your a mother/audiologist?

    in reply to: Mental Illness..Hang The Stigma! #774538
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    DY – I’m not going to pasken whether you have to Dan businesses L’caf Zecus, but if you’re doing it for Mispacha mag, why not for YWN? Maybe they have a perfectly good reason for not removing the whole topic.

    You’re right, but whereas if I conjecture as to why YWN won’t remove it, I run the risk of the readers disagreeing, and another round of condemnations, all I said regarding Mishpacha is that they might have thought of the topic before this piece was submitted to them. Nobody can know otherwise to disagree.

    in reply to: Jerusalem is not for Sale! #774985
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    you are siding with those who hate us

    Shlishi did not side with them, c”v. The argument was against angering and instigating them.

    in reply to: Black Hat Advice #775604
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Does your father have a rav he respects who might be able to explain it to him?

    in reply to: Tequila on Dates #774313
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I always drink mine while saying Ashrei. I call it Tequila L’Dovid.

    in reply to: Banning Bris Milah in the United States! #1032313
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    this Mushemad

    I read that he’s a German.

    in reply to: Banning Bris Milah in the United States! #1032310
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Anti-semitic, but constitutional.

    That won’t help these r’shoim in the next world.

    in reply to: Pouring Wine/Grape Juice Back Into The Container #860456
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Some wine is poured into the kos first so that the wine should no longer be “pagum”. Any time one drinks from a kos, the remaining wine is pagum and should not be used for a subsequent kiddush. Pouring some more wine in “fixes” the pagum wine.

    For kiddush, the person who said kiddush should drink a “m’lo lugmov”, but if he can’t, someone else can.

    For havdalah, one must drink a r’viis, to avoid a shailah about a bracha acharona. Actually, one should never drink more than a “m’lo lugmov” but less than a r’viis for the same reason.

    in reply to: Punishment for Attack #775519
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    She can demand a get at will at any time, assuming she is willing to forgo her kesubah?

    No, I was unclear; what I meant to refer to was his right to give one.

    in reply to: Punishment for Attack #775518
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    a punishment of decades in prison

    The same question can be asked about any non mortal violent act, for which the Torah only imposes financial penalty (ayin tachas ayin, etc.).

    in reply to: Punishment for Attack #775516
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Also, even if she is unmarried she would presumably be tameh (nida), and he would incur the penalties resulting from that fact.

    In the times of the Bais Hamikdash, even unmarried women would become t’horah when possible in order not to be m’tamei food.

    in reply to: Punishment for Attack #775515
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    sounds like she’s a prisoner in her own home

    Why do you ask this about sotah more than any marriage?

    The difference between being able to demand a get is whether or not he pays the kesubah.

    in reply to: Punishment for Attack #775502
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    ayc,

    If she hadn’t secluded herself with him, she never would have had to drink.

    in reply to: Black & White and read all over #883625
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    The best guy in Lakewood. (redt)

    in reply to: Good Shabbos! #1135686
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Does anyone know what one is supposed to do if they remember they forgot Ya’ale V’yovo after the zman tefilah?

    Is it the same as missing Shachris, where one says two Shemona Esreis?

    Is it any different for a man or a woman?

    Yes, no.

    in reply to: Small Claims Beis Din #1194688
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    The gemara admonishes against this, lest the owner appear as a thief.

    Where is this gemara? I do remember a similar gemara, but it wasn’t referring to taking the original object back.

    in reply to: Business is Bad #774129
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Is it worth it for me to travel every day

    for more money?

    That depends on:

    1) How much more money (minus traveling expenses)

    2) What you would be doing in that extra time ( e.g. it might not be worth it if it’s at the expense of your family and either way you’ll make ends meet)

    3) Whether or not all else is equal

    4) How much you like or dislike traveling

    in reply to: Mental Illness..Hang The Stigma! #774528
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Bomb – Wow, what a conicidence! And if you believe that one -I have a bridge to sell you. I guess you gave them an idea how to make money and they figured out a way not to include you. If anyone who should be boycotted it’s Mispacha, not YWN! Totally disgusting!

    Total conjecture on your part, and therefore unfair.

    in reply to: YWN Coffee Room Nightly D’Var Torah #1125020
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Derech eretz kodmo laTorah

    in reply to: Give it another shot or not #802538
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    From the little you’ve said, go for it.

    in reply to: Who would you rather consult??? #779604
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Might it not depend on what the issues were?

    in reply to: What is the Halacha? #774052
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I was simply pointing out an issue and a halacha since someone had the nerve to tell me that I “trample on halacha”

    I understood that statement as an admission that you only asked your “question” because you were hurt on another thread. Where did I go wrong on this?

    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    i tried ccleaner and you have to pay for it

    No, it’s freeware.

    in reply to: Small Claims Beis Din #1194682
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    You might be able to go to an individual dayan and, in advance, accept his psak as binding.

    in reply to: What is the Halacha? #774049
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    In short, you’re acknowledging that it wasn’t a real question.

    in reply to: Ger Disowns Pre-Conversion Family #833059
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    so is pacman joseph? mods can you spill the beans pls!

    The mods are the ones who give subtitles.

    in reply to: What is the Halacha? #774044
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Why was it a problem?

    Read BSD and m in Israel’s posts.

    in reply to: What is the Halacha? #774035
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    aries,

    Who were you addressing?

    in reply to: Talking about dates #774290
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    I think it’s unhealthy to talk about who you’re dating, as well as being somewhat coarse and immodest.

    in reply to: Proper Etiquette or Against Halacha? #773674
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Could you please clarify; these statements seem to be contradictory.

    The first statement is assuming that the halacha is this way, or at least that this particular individual sees it that way.

    I personally don’t know.

    in reply to: What is the Halacha? #774032
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    the halacha is work on your own failings and not worry about what other people are doing wrong

    Definitely, we should work on our own failings, but kol Yisrael areivim zeh lazeh.

    in reply to: IS IT OK TOO?? #774241
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    chocandpatience, Mother in Israel, bpt,

    Thanks, I did mean what you understood, but I haven’t had much time to post.

    MiI,

    Made sense to me.

    in reply to: Ger Disowns Pre-Conversion Family #833043
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    a Ger disowns his pre-conversion family

    AFAIK, not true (actually, it sounds ludicrous to me), although halachically, mid’oraisa they are not related.

    As far as honoring parents, IIRC, they should be honored because of darchei shalom and chillul Hashem.

    Concerning as marrying them, IIRC, prohibited mid’rabonon (which is still mei’ikor hadin).

    Regarding physical contact/yichud, I believe Rav Leff’s reasoning would be that there is no concern of it leading to an aveirah. This is the reasoning that a person is allowed to have yichud with a parent, although the parent is most definitely an ervah. (This issue is also relevant to an adopted child, although I seem to recall that the issue there is more complex.)

    in reply to: 9 new threads per month #773426
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Approximately 0.

    in reply to: CR or news? #773067
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    So what will we do in the kiddush club?…

    I’m getting hungry already…..

    CHOLENT!

    It seems that you fellows don’t know what the main course is at a kiddush club. 😉

    in reply to: Stam vs Akum #772983
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    look in chazon ish Y”D siman 41

    I’m familiar with it; I always wondered about the application halacha l’meisa, since the accepted practice was always like the Chasam Sofer to be machmir.

    This makes sense now; the Chazon Ish personally held like the Pri Chodosh, (as written in the sefer) but because of the commonly accepted practice, would only rely on his opinion b’sha’as had’chak (with the tziruf of avkas cholov).

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