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So that there will never be any new (or bumped) threads dealing with either moishiach or the shidduch crisis.

I don’t hear anyone exploring the potential for selling your wife versus your children. In some cases, this would be a more progressive idea given that there already is a secondary market “varbeshe zacht”.

Correction: The name of the radio show is “Moishiach in the Air”

There is a radio show on motzi Shabbos called “Moisiach Now” which offers a very nuanced view of the prevailing Chabad shita that allows for one to believe in the imminent arrival of moishiach w/o necessarily coming out and saying that the “arrival” is really the “return” of the Rebbe. Likewise, there is enough debate among chazal as noted in the above posts (and prior threads) regarding the belief in one’s rebbe being moishiach for one to accept a more agressive view of how the rebbe himself dealt with the issue w/o it being characterized as mamash apikorsus.

And only 127 days until some in the tzibur have the minhag of removing “Mashiv HaRuach;” whereas most others replace it with the “Morid HaTal,”. It can get confusing unless you are a meteorologist or a rosh medinah who can control the weather with a black sharpie.

Reb Yosef is correct regarding the likelihood that a number of the FSU immigrants to EY (not just Russians) were likely never megayer c’halacha and pose a real challenge in terms of their future marriages, status of their children etc. Unfortunately, though, many who did properly convert are treated with a total lack of respect by many frum mosdos and are being pushed away from yiddishkeit rather than being embraced. While some skepticism is totally appropriate, there needs to be considerably more attention focused on their credentials rather than these broad characterizations we see in the media.

A man who literally seeks a get for a wife who burns his dinner will himself find an even more offensive burning smell in his version of olam habah (aka gehenom). Even our usual trolls have shown some restraint in recent years in posting such idiotic justifications for offensive behavior because one might bring down a literal holding or inyan from chazal. As others have frequently noted, you can probably find some basis from an out of context excerpt from tanach or some arcane gematria to prove or disprove anything you wish to belief.

Today we know from both gadolei torah and frum psychologists, family relations experts, etc. that in certain cases, divorce is not just the only option but it is the BEST option for the man and wife but also for the children. Obviously, we should exhaust all other options but there may be reasons beyond shalom bayis why a divorce is necessary.

Way too complicated……too much risk of burning down the sukkah if we were to place the mnorah right by the entrance with the intent of being hddur mitzvah. Also, sehphardim do not hold by eating sufganiyos in the sukkah. Finally, its hard to find weatherproof dreidel decorations at Leiters in the September time frame .

Silencing a loud schmoozer in shul in 2019 has changed substantially since 2012 where a poster noted that the preferred approach was for the gabbai rishon to get in the face of the offender and scream “sheigetz aross”.. Today, we use more subtle means of shaming the individual such as having the shalicach tzibur klop on the bimah and admonish the tzibur to daven more quietly since those sitting close by to Reb Shvuntz are having a hard time hearing him. If that doesn’t work, the following Shabbos he may find his shtender relocated to the small closet behind the varbeshe section where they keep the cleaning supplies. Other new high tech options include a Shabbos “taser for talkers” or including his photo in th0se annoying pop-up ads on “Stop the Talking in Shul”.

Its a free country and efforts by OOT mosdos to attracted educated/affluent yidden are no different then efforts by local economic development agencies to attract Amazon and other high tech companies. If you are a small but growing OOT frum community somewhere in yenavelt (from a NY perspective) its important to actively promote your new community, highlight the quality of life and cost-of-living benefits along with the new yiddeshe amenities (aka yeshiva, BY, mikvah and kosher markets). There is a new generation of younger couples who want to start a family without the noise, pollution, crime and other realities of life in the fast lane and also be able to afford a home and tuition that OOT communities sometimes offer.

Never believe rumors, especially on social media sites. Turns out that some say that “apoisheteyid” is not the same person as “asimpleyid”……nothing is simple or poishete. Could they really be TWO DIFFERENT POSTERS seeking to sow confusion (or is such an accusation considered lashon horah)??

Reb E: Then respectfully refer to him as either an “ehrliche letz” or as a “gadol among leitzim” and you will have successfully navigated the need for providing needed musar while adhering to the admonition of va’havta la’raacha ka’mocha.

Rarely do I agree so much with Reb Eliezer. Most of us can make a distinction between jailing criminals and separating them from their families for robbery, DWI, assault or serious white collar crimes versus separating children from their parent who cross the border seeking amnesty. Reb Yosef obviously believes the Administration position that a “crime” is a “crime”.

I assume Rav Kotler from Lakewood speaks English even though he grew up in EY but subsequently left his family there and came to the U.S. in the early 1980s to become Rosh Yeshiva of BMG when his father was niftar. Someone may know more details but it may just be his preference to do his presentation at the siyum in Yiddish as I assume he does for all his BMG shiurim and schmoozes.

Little I Know….Yes. Just as bizarre as anyone who would seriously suggest that making a decision on a life-long marriage commitment should be undertaken in the absence of emotional connection. The OP asks whether such a decision can or should be made based on logic or love. Clearly, the answer is elements of BOTH.

Love meant something very different in the “good ole days”……we bring down from the parsha that Rivkah was initially more focused on Yitzchak’s camels and love came later. With Yaakov avinue, however, it took 7 years of hard labor to lock-in the relationship.

Flatbusher: Perhaps you and the OP are talking by one another. I think most would agree that keeping the sad looking spider plant on the window sill (that looks half dead) is not a concern BUT that a yid hanging “cute little reindeers and tzelems” from the branches of the big jade plant sitting on the old shtender in the corner of the living room has created an issue of maris ayin and should consult with his/her LRP prior to engaging in such holiday décor.

I may have to change my chodesh Kislev cactus minhag. I just made a quick trip over to the home depot for furnace filters and at the checkout there was BIG display of what were advertised as “X’Mas Cactuses” (which look nothing like a real cactus) in addition to the usual Poinsettias. While its obviously not going to be confused for a conical shaped evergreen with cute little reindeer and tzelems hanging from its branches, I’ve been advised by a chashuvah posek that there is an equally big inyan of maris ayin in connection with a feaux X’mas Cactus.
Also, while we’re on the subject of the “yom tovim”, don’t forget to make your dinner reservations at your locall glatt Chinese restaurant for ניטל נאַכט‎.

We have a big cactus plant originally grown in EY on which we hang drawings of how we visualize our favorite CR posters. There is a special decoration on the top of the cactus for our very own Reb Yosef (not to be confused with the other “reb Joseph” from the goiyeshe X’mas story.

BTW, are the economic issues and selection criteria materially different for BOYS” Camps?? If so, why?

Avi K: I’d gree with Yabia. You may recall about 10 years ago , Maran Ovadia, Z’L, gave blanket approval to geirus performed by IDF rabbonim , mostly on Russian immigrant soldiers many of whom at the time were not recognized had paskind that the military conversions were treifus. The Eidah rabbonim organized mass demonstrations against R’ Ovadia which got really ugly. In retaliation, R’ Amar, the head of the Sehphardeshe Rabanut, ordered his mashgichim to raid dozens of schlachthoises and food processing plants under Eidah supervision. Just one of many instances where Sephardeshe and Eidah affiliated mosdos came into conflict on matters related to the IDF and recognition of actions by the Medinah.

Once the beis hamikdash has been rebuilt after z’man moishiach, which nusach will the Cohen Gadol use during the avodah/? Will the Levi’im respond Amen or UUUMEIIINE? These are momentous questions which need to be resolved.

with all respect, I’m not sure what point your are trying to make. Perhaps there are not that many Ethiopian jewsi in the NYC metro area and those that are having health issues may go to a different hospital than where you practice. Otherwise, your not taking WHAT in a prone position is a bit unclear.

After several years in camp, these girls are almost young women and should be kept home in the summer, focusing all their energy learning varbeshe skills and on finding a choson so they don’t become victims of the shidduch crisis.
On a serious note, if its a good camp, let them enroll for a few years and then move on to some other summer activities.

Several major social media sites have removed like buttons or are considering doing so because of the adverse effects such “ratings” and “popularity” have on posters. Think of the loss in self-esteem that be incurred by Reb Yosef, MeirG,,TforT, and other emotionally fragile posters who might be driven to harm themselves in a frenzy of realization of their lack of self-worth. Think of all the posters frequently referenced as “self-hating” yidden, “am-haratzem”, etc. who might suddenly look up the meaning of these terms based on numerical metrics of their popularity (or lack thereof). Also, some recent studies show likes/dislikes actually resulting in a new loss in “engagement time” (aka time spent on the website” because readers will simply cliick on an imoji rather than draft a thoughtful posting. Lower engagement time means lower ad ratesl and fewer entertaining ad for makubalim coming from EY promising to cure your gout or provide a segulah to solve your elderly (22 yo) daughter’s shiduch crisis (for a small fee).

IF IT AIN”T BROKEN, DON”T TRY TO FIX IT!!