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Let’s sing together (only the men of course).
ayaya yayaya ya ya, yamaya maya yamayaya eiya ma eimaya yei yei. ei ya ma eiya mayama ya yei yamahama aya ya ya ya
hai yama yama haya ama tama ya hai ma ma ma yatararam.
yamaha hamaya ma yama tararam
I don’t think the husband’s request comes from yiras shamayim. seems to me that he wasn’t comfortable telling her what he really wants.
1) they have to improve their relationship that they are both comfortable to share their thoughts and feelings etc.
2) is the husband attracted to HER? or to external things of her?
At first, I wasn’t sure if I should write that, because it might cause friction between them. But I see the question was posted 7 1/2 years ago, so i guess this is not nogea lemaase for this couple now.
It says תמים תהי’ עם ה’ אלקיך. when someone is ר”ל not well, you give extra צדקה, say extra תהלים, say מי שברך, and try to get the best doctors, and follow doctor’s orders, and have אמונה and ביטחון in ‘ה that He will make the person well.
I wish your wife a רפואה שלימה וקרובה בתוך שאר חולי ישראל
זה הקטן גדול יהי’
so can someone here find the teshuva of R’ Moshe where He discusses cholov yisroel and posted here?
gedoilei yisroel would advise people that complained haveing sfaikos in emunah, to keep cholov yisroel
it seems that you didnt see the tshuva of R’ moishe permitting cholov stam but you are not asking anyone for a source as to where that teshuva can be found. and you are OK to rely on what you heard from someone that heard from someone etc. but for the limitation on the hetter you need a source…..
I dont have IGROS MOSHE next to me now.
R’ Moishe’s hetter was limited to a specific situation only. unfortunately, it’s being used as a regular hetter. especially when its so easy to get cholov Yisroel.February 16, 2019 7:02 pm at 7:02 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1680385
k-cup no pictures on misrach wall, in front of the mispallel, as it says in shulchan aruch.
daas yochid. cheasidus DOES NOT SAY THAT ITS BETTER NOT TO SLEEP IN THE SUKKA< YOU ARE WRONG> learn the sicha insideFebruary 15, 2019 3:21 pm at 3:21 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1680342
I just realized that I missed a word ONLY. his hanhaga was not ONLY al pi halacha….February 15, 2019 3:12 pm at 3:12 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1680337
I’m disturbed about some comments here about the rebbe’s biur for not sleeping in the sukka.
its OK to be mefalpel in anything that any godol beyisroel had said. its also encouraged to discuss it and try to understand. the Rebbe himself encouraged for everyone to discuss, ask, and answeer etc. on things He said. and yeshivos give out constantly koivtsim with peoples haoros on the Rebbe’s sichos. but many over here had expressed them self so direspectful, just because you dont understand it. and you didnt even learn the sicha inside. besides thats bichlal not a derech halimud. anything you don’t understand will you say its wrong or ridicules? and here we are taling about a manhig yisroel of thousands and thousands of yidden all over the world, a big gaon in all chelkei hatorah and in peshat remaz drush and sod, as its known to any yodea sefer and even a shtikel talmid chacham, an ish kadosh vetahor, a baal mofes veruach hakodesh with thousands of stories to testify this. how can a simple yid express some of the above expressions that I don’t even want to quote???? I’m surprised the moderator let it through.
this comments dont deserve i should comment on them, but since i saw them, i felt i should be moiche and stand up for kovod of my Rebbe.
this is real ביזוי תלמיד חכם. and if you are even a small talmid chacham you know what chazal say about המבזה תלמיד חכם. I strongly suggest you go to the rebbe’s oihel to ask mechila. if you can’t go personally you can send a fax or email to the office there and your letter will be brought to the tzion. plus to do תשןבת המשקל I suggest you publish here in the CR your apology.
be well and have a gut shabbos and a great improvement in kovod talmidei chachamim and gedoilei yisroel and manhigei yisroel.February 15, 2019 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1680309
about someone davening to a picture of the rebbe.
I am 3rd generation chabad (maybe more but we don’t much about earlier generations). my children and grandchildren are chabad. so are my siblings and my wife’s siblings, I went through chabad yeshivos, I traveled the world and visited lots of chabad shuls and communities, I have never seen anyone davening to a picture of the rebbe and I don’t know anyone who does that.
and even if you will find someone doing this, this is not chabad, it’s his own thing. and he does not deserve attention here in the coffee room.
and even if he will say that he derived this from the rebbe’s sichos etc. so the tsedukim and missioneries also use pesukim of tanach to support their shitos, so what? וכי מםני השוטים וכו,
‘February 15, 2019 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1680310
about not sleeping in sukka.
the sicha can be found in, ליקוטי שיחות חלק כ”ט עמוד 211.
the begining and most of the sicha the rebbe discusses the hanhaga of his father in law the frierdiger rebbe, that he didnt sleep in the sukka. AND THE REBBE BRINGS THE HETTER IN SHULCHAN ARUCH FOR NOT SLEEPING IN THE SUKKA. then the rebbe says that it is still not גלאטיק, meaning its not ‘smooth’ to explain that this hetter was the reason why the frierdiger rebbe did not sleep in the sukka. because the frierdiger rebbe did not look at any difficulties even when it came to hidur mitsva. He did not eat anything or even drink water out of the sukka, and even on shmini atseres, and even when it was raining, despite the dificulties He had to keep these hidurim. so the rebbe goes on to explain how his hanhaga was not according to halacha, not only as a hetter but it was fulfiling the mitsva of sukka bishlaimus. towards the end of the sicha the rebbe explains about chasidim not sleeping in the sukka, also al pi halacha. as i said its all in addition to the hetter in shulchan aruch.
in this forum its not the place to explain the whole beatuful biur of the rebbe. look it up yourself
joseph. its BAL tashchis, not BAAL tashchis. you wasted an ‘A’
many children, teens are in yeshiva all day and have no interest in watching sports. their interest is in more toichen’dige things.February 15, 2019 10:34 am at 10:34 am in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1680190
one thing is for sure. none of you have learned the rebbe’s sicha inside about not sleeping in the sukka. have you learned it inside you wouldn’t have said what you said. i will come back bli neder to explainFebruary 14, 2019 2:18 pm at 2:18 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1679773
‘But i agree that the over focus on the rebbe in chabad circles is a major issue and can lead to something ‘interesting’ things to say the least’.
ARE YOU BLIND????? dont you know the facts on the ground???? ”the over focus on the rebbe in chabad’ had brought about:
thousands and thousands baaley teshuva, and in all corners of the world;
thousands of yidden of all circles are learning chasidus chabad and deriving inspiration in their avodas hashem;
yeshivos and schools of chabad are shteiging in their learning and yiras shamayim, plus giving up of their free time to bring yidden closer to yiddishkeit.
טעמו וראו כי טוב ה’ i suggest you taste what chasidus chabad is all about and then you will see the emmes about chabad. and about ‘the over focus on the rebbe’.
‘You can look at it this way- this is one hiddur mitzva where other people are benefiting from the time/money you invest, as opposed to an expensive lulav/esrog, silver menora, beautiful sukka, fancy seder plate set..etc’.
I really like this attitude. beautiful!
LOTR92, are you being sarcastic? I’m just joking lol
ok I’m laughing ha ha ha. mishenichnes adar marbin besimcha
not sure what you mean. one thing I am sure that if the imitating is in a way of being sarcastic, that is definitely harmful to a child, or even a teen, or even an adult.February 13, 2019 11:06 pm at 11:06 pm in reply to: The world is in a state of Geula- and don’t misunderstand us! #1679435
1,960 comments on ‘GEULA’, WOW!
plus, it’s about the number of years we are in galus.
for sure we are all here in the coffee room ready for the GEULA.
rebyidd23. yes if its fun. but unfortunately for many it’s not fun, its a lot of stress, for themselves and for the family members
when preparing mishloach manos, one should make a cheshbon hanefesh how much of my effort is for the sake of the mitsva, for Hashem, and how much is to show off my creativity etc. etc. so for one person, working hard on a very creative MM is an expression of doing the mitsva behidur. for someone else, most of it might be to boost their own ego. so there is no rule or standard of how a MM is supposed to look like. and only hashem knows your intentions while preparing MM
I guess its all about having a balance. having a nice mishloach manos, but not overdoing it.February 12, 2019 11:14 pm at 11:14 pm in reply to: Problem Being Unable to Consume Much Alcohol – And Can't Get Drunk #1678485
will cofee room be open on purim? will the editor be drunk? so anything can be posted?
shokling by davening might come from נר ה’ נשמת אדם, a neshama is like a candle. a flame is not still, it shokels.
did you see me in the video? yes, I saw the Rebbe many times during davening. during shmoneh esssrei was standing still. and even the rest of davening was no shokling
make your face black. goyim will think you are really black.
I think of myself as a rabbi, and I don’t think I have Ruach HaKodesh. maybe I am just an Anav
i was thinking the same about giving kids the choice to make.
I was thinking about חושך שבטו שונא בנו. I think that it’s OK when the hitting is PURLEY a tool for educating. unfortunately, today, in many or most or all cases its an expression of anger, on not being able to tolerate etc. or at least part of it is anger etc. then it’s not allowed. when you are angry you are not fit to deal with disciplining children
shmaya. I don’t have any experience with bais din, but i I think that it’s ok to ask the bais MAIHAICHAN DANTUNI?. meaning: please explain to me how you came to this decision. you might have a better idea of how to proceed from there.
my point is, that at the same time that we have emunah that hashem already decidedwho is your sivug, and if its meant to be it will happen regardless what your pic looks like, we still have to do things in the best natural way for things to work out. my opinion is that a pic might turn away others, and might prolong etc. the process even if its the right one.
especially in your case, that you describe yourself, that you look better in real life, so why the pic? the pic is a limitation.
having emunah is not a contradiction to do things in a natural way.
let me ask you:
when you go out would you wear the same clothing you are wearing when you are in the kitchen cooking? or would you dress nicer etc.?
why have a resume?
why go out at nice places?
I’m sure you get my point.
hatzlacha rabba in whatever and however you do.
1) anyone here can post whatever they want. no one is obligated to respond the way someone else wants.
2) when I wrote my comment, your comment was not yet shown. so I responded to avocado’s original question about hitting and screaming.
3) what I meant that it creates a distance between parents and children, was a much greater distance then according to torah. the torah wants a distance based on respect and awe. I’m talking about a distance that the child is scared to discuss things with parents, to open up to them, to love them, to care for them.
4) for NOW, I will tell you another thing you should not do. you took apart my comment, made fun of me for writing some things. DONT DO THIS TO YOUR CHILDREN. your children might respond to you, not in the way you want them to, DONT MAKE FUN OF THEM, all you have to do is, repeat the question in a soft tone. talk to them in a way that they should want to talk to you and discuss things with you.
5) it’s late now, maybe tomorrow or after shabbos i will come back here to give you posotive thing to do.
seems you are very comfortable in your own skin. very healthy emotionally. people who are not comfortable in their own skin, are not emotionally strong and healthy and might turn to unhealthy avenues to medicate themselves to make them feel comfartable and good.
1) if you ask lots of people and you get the same answer, you have a general idea of what he/she looks like.
2) yes maybe its prost to ask about looks, but we are talking about someone who does want to know about the looks.
how would you know if he has a tail or not?
by yelling or hitting you might succeed getting your children to listen and obey, but you are causing them to have a negative attitude to that thing you wanted them to listen to. you want to educate them in a certain behaviour but by yelling and hitting or even forcing them to do something you are accomplishing the exact opposite. plus it creates a distance between parents and children. parents must learn other ways how to educate children.
I am against it. because let say you don’t like the way he/she looks in the picture, you would not go ahead with it. but have you met the person and see his/her personality then the looks wouldn’t bother you (as much).
when requiring about the other prior to going out, you should definitely ask about looks, and as long you hear that he/she is at least average looking, don’t ask for a picture. in other words: a picture might limit your chances.
and the same for sending your pic. I think you are limiting your chances by sending your pic.
(well really I shouldn’t say that to you because I don’t know what you look like, so maybe it doesn’t apply to you. but I am talking in general)February 6, 2019 10:31 am at 10:31 am in reply to: Is it healthy for yeshiva bochurim to learn from a New Vilna Shas? #1674925
i agree 100%
le..le…lechaim..lechaim eve..everyone hehe..here. letlets allll bbe hahappy. pupupurrim is almooost hehehere.
REBITSIN, with hohowmmany bottles do..do.. you cccome home wwwith? when iiis your nnext vacation? cccan i.. i.. cccome along? LE..LE..CHAAAAIM!!!!!!
why not a siyum on both every day?
too much to learn?
or too much to drink?
or both?February 5, 2019 3:03 pm at 3:03 pm in reply to: WATCH YOUR POCKETS! Thief Stealing At Williamsburg Weddings #1674614
If she really needs the money, maybe you should leave a few dollars for her to take, with a note saying: nits gezunterheit oif gutte zachenFebruary 5, 2019 3:01 pm at 3:01 pm in reply to: Why do we have Rosh Chodesh? Where does it come from? #1674612
an extra korbon was brought in the bais hamikdash on rosh chodesh. for that we daven musaf on rosh chodesh (and yom tov).February 5, 2019 2:48 pm at 2:48 pm in reply to: Why do we have Rosh Chodesh? Where does it come from? #1674590
‘WHY IS IT A HOLIDAY “GIVEN TO THE WOMEN”?’
because the women did not give away their gold earrings for the golden calf.
CA we have a klal מעלין בקדש so every day we should drink more wine then the day before. i would like to see you on כ”ט אדר שני
haimy are you leaving the CR?
Gadolhador lol thanks for bringing simcha to me with your last comment
CA do you drink wine every day of adar?
this is on my mind. not sure if its appropriate. i am thinking maybe to leave the coffee room.
or maybe people should write in a way that you cant know their gender. just stick to the topic