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i think that its a very good thing.
try not to react right away to situations. pause and think what is the best and the right way to react and respond to the situation or to what someone had told you.
also try to figure out why you react or behave in a certain way. get to the source of the negative mida
Reb Eliezer, sorry, i dont know what JIGSAW means. i am asking about putting together pieces of a puzzle forming a picture.
how could we get the white house to read this thread?
with efraim and menashe its actualy 13 shvatim. so include your hubby in the shvatim.
hey Badchan, lets hear/read a sample of your badchonos
Everyone knows their weakness, maybe someone has a problem with having someone of the opposite gender at their table. especially during a meal where people loosen up, more talkative; friendlier, (i hope i was understood correctly).
I also heard about malachim being created from the words of davening, and the quality of the malach depends on the correctness of the word. but its not a contradiction to what others have mentioned that the tefila is accepted regardless ( not sure about missing a letter in krias shma). i have sources for both, hopefully with time i will post.
The explanation is, there is a difference if the mistake occurred as a result of negligence; being lazy to put in the effort to learn how to read proper, or the mistake occurred as a result of human error although the proper effort was put in, or someone that had started to learn how to read later in life – by no fault of his own – and is in the process of improving his reading.
To a child who we wanto encourage to put in the effort necessary to learn how to read properly, we say how each word creates a malach and the type of malach depends on how he pronounces the word. at the same time someone who did put in the proper effort to read and when davening with proper concentration trying to read each word proper, but by mistake pronounces a word incorrectly, his tefila is accepted.
as i said, hopefully i will post sources for both sides.
thanks for the clarification.
so if the chasan is reading this, lets wish him Mazal tov too. so Dear Chasan, Mazal tov! binyan adei ad with all good brachos. you got a great Kalla, she is always ‘SHOPPING’ for another mitsva of the ‘613’. and both of you, if you need any advice about preparations to the wedding or about life in general, here in the CR is the place to ask. we are the experts in all matters of Torah and mitsvos, in Nigla, Nistar, Halacha, according to Peshat, Remez, Derush and Sod, and in all matters of life in general.
Mazal Tov! Mazal Tov!
Is the Chasan someone from the CR?
for sure you have to pronounce the K. whats the הוה אמינא not to?
‘I ENJOY YOUR פךפול’. so say a קדיש דרבנן.
yes and no.
of course tefila is an avoda shebelev etc. but it is expressed in the words חז”ל were mesaken to say. and just thinking about the idea of tefila without saying the words you are not fulfilling the mitzva of tefila. and whatever Chazal tell us to do is RATSON HASHEM, HASHEM wants us to say these words and to say them correctly. at the same time yes you are right if someone is saying the words and trying to connect to Hashem his tefila is still worth much even if some words were not pronounced correctly according to dikduk, because of his good intentions.
Reb Levi Yitzchak Barditchever was melamed zechus on those who are davening in a way that the noise coming out of their mouths is a noise of mumbling etc. He said that a mother understands what her child wants even when her child is mumbling, so too Hashem understands everyone’s davening. but obviously as i said this is a limud zchus, but one should make an effort to pronounce the words properly.
KORIM refers to Moshe Aharon and Shmuel.
about שלוש עשרה מדות not sure what your question is. רבי ישמעא-ל is saying it and its found in the beginning of תורת כוהנים.
Reb Eliezer. correction: it should be YI’DEMU -silent. YID’MU means similar.
Joseph. I hope by saying it correct from now on i will elevate all the past tefilos. similar to Teshuva transforming the Zdonos to zechuyos, for sure here being shgogos.
Is making a puzzle on shabbos permitted?
Please give a source with your answer.
rebbedebbie, if you feel uncomfortable that itself is a reason your wife should not invite them.
devny, thanks for putting on a smile on my faceDecember 3, 2019 10:26 pm at 10:26 pm in reply to: Does a Divorce indicate a Family lacked Shalom Bayis? #1807285
to support what you are saying: there is a yiddish expression: א פאטש פארגייט און א ווארט באשטייט, meaning, that a patch will pass but a ‘word’ will remain.November 30, 2019 9:03 pm at 9:03 pm in reply to: How should one protest against shmoozers during davening? #1806008
if you will tell those who are talking, in shul while they are talking, chances are that they will answer back: mind your own business; who are you to tell me: etc. etc. the best way would be to pick up a phone during the week, when you are relaxed, and the other party is not in middle of talking in shul, and tell them what inpact his talking has on yourself. you came to shul to daven and hear krias hatorah and how its disturbing you etc. dont give them mussar, just focus on yourself. so 1) call during the week. 2) focus on yourself. try it out and let us know how it went. HATZLACHA RABBA.,
you get credit for doing what Hashem wants YOU to do. it is no one’s choice into which family to be born. Hashem put you in the right place/family to be born, and HE gave everyone their individual path in life. so, the question ‘who gets more credit’? makes no sense.
it should mostly be based on logic. but you also need some feelings or at least you see the feelings coming. those that have lots of emotional exciting feelings etc. does not mean at all any better happier marriage. as fast as that excitement came it can also go with one argument. the main connection and bond starts after getting married.
YOU DON’T MARRY THE ONE YOU LOVE, YOU LOVE THE ONE YOU MARRIED.
yes, it is hard.
but we were taught to have Bitachon in Hashem that the right one will come in the right time. and in the meanwhile just do what needs to be done. talk to shadchanim; family members; friends, keep on going out, and of cores some Tehilim and Ttsedaka.
BENIGNUMA. “the bachur should do whatever he wants” ????????? we were taught to do what HASHEM wants not what WE want. even according to the shitos who are matir, its obvious that being machmir to be yotshe the shitos who are machmir is hvodas HASHEM, letting your beard grow is serving HASHEM, doing it for HASHEM, and shaving is for YOURSELF.
but maybe he really needs money, and he just came up with an idea thinking that this will help him make money, doesn’t he deserve to be given Tsedaka? do you check out every beggar or meshulach asking for money if he really needs it?
i never understood it. there are so many shitos of gedolei yisroel that shaving is an isur min hatora. why wouldnt shomrei tora umitsva behidur keep that? why choose the shitos who are maikel when so many shitos are machmir?
how much will SHADCHONOS GELT be?
and who gets paid?
write down every single day at least 5 good things in your life. may be simple things as:
i had a good night sleep;
i am healthy;
i have food for today;
i have family/relatives;
i have a roof over my head;
i have clean cloths for today;
i have some income;
i have heat;
my phone is working;
i have ‘theyeshivaworld’ to go to.
I am sure you can add many more things.
do this every single day, and THINK about the good things you are writing down
YABIA OMER, why are you asking?
is it for yourself? you don’t want to become a Rebbe?
or are you asking for your son?
YABIA OMER, why are you asking?
is for yourself? you don’t want to become a Rebbel?
or you are asking for your son?
CTLAWYER, what you are describing seems very unusual at the 12 steps meetings,
i had one done a few years ago. i don’t remember the drink being so bad. just make sure to be close to a bathroom.
its a very good thing. but like many others things that you have be careful to use it in a proper way LAAVODAS HASHEM.
we are talking here about LOVING all jews. you can love all jews and at the same time not agree with them. i do not believe that the Vilner Gaon HATED any jew
CTLAWYER. the 12 steps are based on basic rules which is according to the torah. the 12 steps are approved by many rabonim and frum therapists.
The Little I know.
you have the facts wrong. an alcoholic that is working the program and is doing well may even work in a bar.
I am so surprised to see ביזוי תלמיד חכם ברבים. I am מוחה ברבים.June 7, 2019 7:17 pm at 7:17 pm in reply to: Looking for a Beautiful Shavuos davening in Flatbush #1740032
wherever you will be try to make add more lebedikeit etc.
what about the bad odor created naturally in your mouth after a night sleep? why get rid of it?
and what about the sweat the body produces?
anyway, this discussion is irrelevant, because it says in Shulchan aruch to cut your nails every erev shabbos, and to get a haircut on erev shabbos if your hair are long, and to rinse your mouth every morning, and to wash your body on erev shabbos, and for kovod habrios to wash your body as often as needed.
‘Like manna from heaven’.
good timing! the מן started coming down yesterday ט”ז אייר.
the rebbe writes in his hagada (ואנו נוהגין ליקח בצל (או תפוח אדמה
chabad does not “steal” the afikomon.
some say that its hinted in maamar razal חוטפין מצה בלילי פסחים בשביל התינוקות שלא יישנו(פסחים דף קט, ע”א) .
but there is also a maamar razal: בתר גנבא גנוב וטעמא טעים (ברכות דף ה’ ע”ב)
a yid should utilize all the kochos that Hashem gave him. Hashem gave each one the exact amount of kochos he needs to fulfill his mission in this world. not more and not less. if one utilizes all his kochos to the fullest, he is a godol. there is no mitsva to become a rosh yeshiva, a rov, a famouse askan etc. but one is required to become what he can become.
v’ohavta leraiacha komocha rabi akiva omer zeh klal GADOL batorah. ahavas yisroel makes you a GADOL.
OK, I get it, I should not advertise
does that mean that the men also got perfume?
does that mean that men also got it?
Let’s sing together (only the men of course).
ayaya yayaya ya ya, yamaya maya yamayaya eiya ma eimaya yei yei. ei ya ma eiya mayama ya yei yamahama aya ya ya ya
hai yama yama haya ama tama ya hai ma ma ma yatararam.
yamaha hamaya ma yama tararam
I don’t think the husband’s request comes from yiras shamayim. seems to me that he wasn’t comfortable telling her what he really wants.
1) they have to improve their relationship that they are both comfortable to share their thoughts and feelings etc.
2) is the husband attracted to HER? or to external things of her?
At first, I wasn’t sure if I should write that, because it might cause friction between them. But I see the question was posted 7 1/2 years ago, so i guess this is not nogea lemaase for this couple now.
It says תמים תהי’ עם ה’ אלקיך. when someone is ר”ל not well, you give extra צדקה, say extra תהלים, say מי שברך, and try to get the best doctors, and follow doctor’s orders, and have אמונה and ביטחון in ‘ה that He will make the person well.
I wish your wife a רפואה שלימה וקרובה בתוך שאר חולי ישראל