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when I had the question, I called a Rav, and his Psak was its Asur, unless I get permission from the producer. I called the producer and he said NO. I offered to mail a check for copy (same as original cost) and he still said NO. So no, you dont buy rights to do whatever you want. You buy the right to use the purchased copy you paid for, nothing else.
Ari, what is your source of Parnassa, and how would you feel if someone would bypass your services and cause you a loss of income?
Poeple, please dont be selfish and look for every excuse why its mutar. For you its $10, for someone else its their Parnassa.
Moshe, thanks for articulating. I dont express an opinion.
if no personal reference, and many times its written to be displayed – what is the problem?
yes, people do purchase it. if he doesnt know how to write, he would buy it same as he would buy her a ring.
Chassonim, I sugget you tell your Kalla: “I prefer you do not display it” if thats what you wish.
OTOH, I know a girl who wrote her classmate a nice poem for her engagement, which the couple included in an album of cards, and shared with friends. One bochur, a friend of the chosson was impressed with the depth of midrashim combined (a rarity in our day and age, huh?) and was asking if the writer was a single girl. Today they are a happy couple.
His original interest was created based on her depth, thinking, talent, expression.
if you make a shiduch, it is a great mitzva and a zchus, and would be noble not to expcet $, unless you gave up a job and repalced it with shiduchim.
If you met your bashert thru a shadchan, OTOH, money is most appropriate, even a very small amount, according to what you can afford. Let them choose what they want to use the moeny for.
$750 is very nice. if you can afford $250 or even $36, all acceptable. Remember to include a card showing your appreciation. That will be cherished and long lasting…
So, may I wish you a Mazal Tov?
Yes, there is a category MO Machmir, and there are terrific group of people under that category. Attend a a minyan 3 times a day, kovea itim, and usually college educated. The more machmir- the better. You wont see their engagement pics in a way that would upset his Rav or her HS teacher…, or myself.
big debate if children do. associated with serious conditions. I would say: dont.
s20, any strong colors can invite wrong attention and is a breach of Tznius. why paint nails? why??
Would you paint your nose?
please explain why you would want nails painted. once you start thinking thru, your sensitivity to Tznius will kick in.
which employer provides food? be polite and appreciate what you get. For those who need a babysitters in Brooklyn without a long list of requests, I can match you with some very good people. Day time for sure.February 9, 2011 4:21 am at 4:21 am in reply to: Those who used to call R Blumenkrantz a"h for advice, who do you call? #756355
of course, non can be same as R Blumenkranzts ztl, I went to his levaya, he didnt know me by name, but i felt so much hakaras hatov. what a caring father he was to anyone who contacted him.
I called once for someone who came from overseas, and needed a school. He told me: Tell Rabbi x I said she should go to his school, vekach haya. a 2 minutes conversation and it was a done deal BH. no discussion of tuition. just a word from R Blumenkranz. loved and admired by all.
R Gissinger I am told is very hard to reach, a lot of good people around, but no replacement, not the same. R Feiner is a young person, he moved from EY not too long ago, would be curios to hear more about him. His wife gave a shiur, and in my humble opinion it was too much like a morah talks to high school class, not my style at all.
wedding gowns for family members, crowns for kallas (I can donate some for anyone who opens a gmach), shoes coats in excellent condition, used furniture gmach (shadchan, no need to store it, just accept calls with descriptions of wanted/ want to donate and connect them), loan of sheva brachos outfits for imemdiate family or kalla (again, can take numbers, size and connect ppl, no need to use your home)
HS girls are so busy. they dont have time, if you know differntly pls let me know
do you or someone u know have personal experience u can share re arrowsmith?
what is the group at ptach like? socially? academically? where do you go after graduation?
forget about shabbos, how about mid week?
and in my area, city must start clearning parking spots taken by snow, please call adn email Greenfields office. if he gets 1000s of emails, he will press city. Has been over amonth, and we have no parking spots!
Greenfield HAS been pressing the city. have you seen the YWN homepage today? http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/article.php?p=83426February 8, 2011 10:42 pm at 10:42 pm in reply to: What do you think of Olgas on Smith in downtown Brooklyn? #737953
I got a prob. when I am asked to order food, I order for mostly non kosher people, and am given a budget based on non kosher, so I order Kosher, adn end up paying out of pocket for the balance, and wodner maybe allow them to order and bring something from home. Only gain for my financial daily subsidy is knowing sometimes that a jew eats kosher. (a jew sometimes in group, not always).
not enough info on their site, parents, can u please share?
Lia, What a chutzpa on her part.
first, for you to give her, is simply assur!!
How to do it diplomatically? “we right now have committed our charity”.
when u see avovda zara “shaketz teshaktzenu”, of course you are not permiited to support avoda zara!!
Be proud she appreciates how charitable we are.
is it fair that working ppl sponsor the non working who choose not to work?
while no personal connection, I know of a lot of wonderful families that owe their wholesomeness to BYOBP and Rabbi Shapiro. Some who had no chance elsewhere. BH.
As Hakaras Hatov, I would suggest parents to come up with a committe of parents who can raise funds to bring things back and return Rabbi Shapiro. Raising funds takes a lot of work, but survival of teh school is important.
We dont want to be forced out of Brooklyn to Lakewood, and still in our hands.
And let me share the news, Lkwd schools are very choosy, and you wont have a welcoming committee awaiting you, for many ordinary families.
Are Gedolim guiding the show here? probably not. Does Rabbi erenreich have a saying? same answer.
Sad. Something can be done, and should be done.
Why should litvish be forced out of Brooklyn?
bpt, well said.
you want to sit in kollel and I would pay for your grocery, without asking me?
How about if I wanted to sit and learn and you go out and work to pay my expenses?
we paid for storage for gifts, we had a small place… so anything that could fit into a wallet was appreciated!
wrong name, send me an email, will send back info
Reuben Ingber. Its a male.February 3, 2011 12:30 am at 12:30 am in reply to: Just curious …………. What does everyone do for a living? #1119656
bird, can you email me?
you must be a man,cause most ladies dont mind being invited and no need for cooking and prepare for Yom Tov.
1. Why is it so bad to go?
2. If you dont want, why do you feel an obligation?
3. Would you be happy to invite them, or you want a quite Yom Tov?
Just to let you know, many friends who are married to a large family, and in laws are tired of preparing a hugh YomTov would love to be invited, but dont have the option. If you feel you want some quite time with wife and kids, I totally udnerstand. You can! would be nice if you help wife with preparation more than you usually do, since its a lot of additioanl work and stress for her to do it at home. Have a great Yom Tov!
bird, cant you google him like I did? you will be thankful you met him. Dr Ingber
always, thanks for your post, but I still appreciate more suggestions. Not all cooks use same ideas…
Gimpel, it simply turned to what really stands behind the post. If one asks: How can I hide from responibility/ law while enjoying the benefit of others filling up my slack, the answer is: why are you avoiding responsibility. Ma Damcha Samuk medamo. so always there will be some “spiritual” souls, counting their summer homes and saying why spiritually you dont need to have a responsibility. it is not an easy sugya.
bird, Dr. Ingber in Flatbush accepts your insurance, and you will be amazed with his work.
honey mustard – if put on skin and baked –
1. how long do you bake covered, and how long uncovered?
2. I find that flavor remains on skin only which my family doesnt eat – does anyone get somehow flavor on the actual chicken? How?
Pushat, a talmid could have done it. same one who gave the idea, no?
I just find it hard to imagine a RY going along with a Lottery idea. I feel they are distant from earthy concepts.
Never hang up. Its wrong.
In business, its a good way to lose your job. You want customers to treat you well? maybe at the Airlines Club at the Airport. Other jobs, typically, clients approach can really range.
you will always meet bosses who are unreasonable, clients who are unreasonable. Survive. with grace is even better!
Certainly a charachter builder, aka as “middos”.
chichago people, what coats do you find suitable to deal with the harsh winter? brands for mens coats, light, long enough and extra warm? thank you
for honey mustard, or soy honey – how long would you bake? covered?
for rice: if I bake my chichen for 2.5 hours, wouldnt rice be too soft?
What is parshas Ki Teitzeh all about? isnt protecting a milchemes mitzva?
CS is being nice to clients and resolving, not being a mechanech. It is understood when they are upset at the company, they call the company, and you represent the company, so being yelled at is a part of the package. Your job is to be pleasant, LISTEN, apologize for the issue and calmly try to help. If being nice is too much for you, if you take it personal, if you feel you DO NOT represent the company, the job is not for you.
CS is restoring client trust in company – How would you do it? certainly not by a chinuch approach…
he is going out with many girls and it adds up?
well, for calcualtion purpose, his future wife is going out with others at the same time, and others are spending on her….
So it all evens out.
and iyh she will make for him many many meals, 3 /365 a year for litvish, more if you are chassidish, so its a small investment..
if the girl is 18, and she is not comfortable – ask her. It should be her option. “I would like to take you out for Dinner, would that be ok with you, do you prefer milchig or fleishig”
Derech, its easy to be a groyseeh knocker sitting in Brooklyn, going to Miami for winter vacation, catskills for summers. Move to Chevron, spend there some time and then tell us how much bitachon you have.
and a superb head counselor, who really cares and available, and makes a hugh difference for campers experience, placing them in the right bunk, etc.
a girl who works all day, comes home to spend time and effort to prepare for a date, deserves a nice dinner. If you cant afford, and have nothing creative for the date, why do you just let her know in advance….. She will have to decide if you are the guy for her. When someone I know was dating, asked for advice about a guy who seldom got her a drink, many times went to purchase after the register was closed, so he saved his $, and was told to look elsewhere. If he doesnt try to please you now, when will he?
and if he has no money, let him try to earn. Shlomo Hamelech already said…
Ari, negia is a Halacha, its not an opinion, and I find the entire posting photos of young ladies distasteful.
miami, thanks for your comment. I find it hard that we understand someone needs to protect the country, but it should be someone else. So many here are asking how to trick the system and not serve. Tefilos and hishtadlus, which is the army, protect your parents who made Aliya still there, they protect your Rebbeim, friends, our brothers and sisters. So why should do all the work on your behalf??
Would we be willing to have no one being drafted, and go back to 1940? give up the country?
Difficult question.January 31, 2011 3:51 pm at 3:51 pm in reply to: If you were buying a sheitel now, which would you buy, where and who #733704
if you see someone wearing a beautiful sheitel, ask them where they got it and how happy they are with it, that is best way. you have to like the appearance, and you can be the only judge. asking strangers? who says you like what they wear?
Not all Shevys are good quality. Ask, ask ask.
One more thing: ask the person if she needed any service after the purchase, how easy it was to get to the seller. A Kalla friend bought a new expensive one from someone who sold her a nice shaitel, and did a fine job styling, and promised to be available during sheva brachos for touch ups. it has been 2 yrs and she still didnt return any of the calls and msgs with kids etc. Collecting 3.5k was quick, anything after was impossible. so ask in advance.January 31, 2011 5:22 am at 5:22 am in reply to: If you were buying a sheitel now, which would you buy, where and who #733699
many lemons out there…January 30, 2011 11:21 pm at 11:21 pm in reply to: Of your Shidduch related decisions what would you change if you could #735765
eclipse, is it over?
tzvi, if a girl feels she didnt get enough love and attention at home, lack of warmth, pain from parents interaction, (Not referring to OP) and such, she has scars that need a lot of help to be a good parent and be able to function and build a good home. sending them away to get good hashkafa doesnt heal the pain. I am still looking for a good home for that girl… was trying while she was in England, and now looking while she is back. anyone? (Ohel helps till age 18)
making a plan to work for earrning is such a logical thing to do. Right now, for every young person considering marriage. Marriage is a responsibility. The Kesuba you sign means exactly that. Rely on charities when you are young and able is lack of self respect. go get a job, like the Tanoim did.
health, now I remeber the frum nurse at Mimo. He was finishing his shift. Looked like a nice guy, no other experience with him.
yossi, I agree with your post – prob cant use maaser, but if OP has issues paying for dates, I suggest he thinks how to afford a wife and a family, so no disaster is approaching… feeding a family is much more than cost of a date.
when I checked on Financial aid for a deserving family, no school in the UK offered any. Its more a US thing, sponsored by our Malchus of Chessed.
OP, if you dont want to spend on the paper, can arrange with a friend who buys/ subscribes – reading a paper a few days later (even a week or so) is still full of good articles. Just took a Bina sitting here since Erev Pessach, (was bh very busy), and still enjoyed it.
the question is good, and its food for thought: if dating is expensive, married life and iyh a family is much more, so time now to sit down and make a plan. you need an income. Midbar and Man from Shamayim are not given anymore. Better plan now then be stuck with harsh relaity, which can bring shalom bayis issues. Its not the Shver, its you who sign the Kesuba and take responsibility. Can you tutor? can you do hashgacha / cook for a camp during bein hazmanim? have yeshiva pay you to be in charge of some job there? I know someone who paid his own tuition for yeshiva by cooking for a camp every summer. you need some source of income to be and feel like a mentch. My humble opinion.