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what does he offer? find out details of what his treatment has to offer. Heard about many partictioners, conventional and non, but not his name.
TWIG, Consult with smart rabbonim/ rebbetzins, therapists would be sometimes more objective than parents, adn can help get a better picture of what would be a good approach. Better to get clarity and help before than after.
tzippi, thanks for your post. We do need to do a lot of davening. what else did Rabbi Reisman say about the situation? He is such an amazing person, a torah giant, and a hugh Anav… (and he doesnt need my Haskama..)
Health, that male nurse is not frum. For those praising Kimball, is that the Lakewood Hosp? Whem a relative was taken, Hatzoloh asked for a frum doc to see her. until a frum doc came in, a Muslem doc signed his name on her chart, and the frum docs said hospital rule doesnt allow them to see a patient after someone signed his name on her chart. The Muslem doc was never available for the family to disucss a major situation, and when the family wanted to transfer for a major procedure to a NY hosp, he already made his own arrangement for another NJ transfer to a practice of his friends, and didnt retrun calls from the NY Hosp who agreed to accept but needed to talk to ehr doc, so he basically forced her to go where he chose. Bikur Cholim there said it was correct that a frum doc cant interfer once the Muslem was quick to put his name on the chart. BH, took 2 more hosp to arrange a transfer where the family felt was best for the situation, but Kimball certainly did not help. (while they didnt mistreat, they caused a delay of 7 criticald days witha forced transfer against family wishes)
I am sure Gateshead is great. But, sounds like the girl is unhappy, critical of her current system, and may need some help before just sending her off to England. (if you are in the US)
First, growing up with divorce situation, plus lack of happiness in school, rightfully or not – she may benefit from a good female frum therapist who will help her gain inner strength and possible an accepting and happy perspective on life, in general.
She may benefit from a smaller school with a dorm to build herself, school with a lot of spirit and hashkafa, but it doent not have to be across the ocean. Many possibilities in the US. Find out about local options. I know a girl who came back from England, had family issues (not her fault, of course), parents were hoping England would be a cure. It was not. She made good friends, and deferred the issues, but nothing went away. I am currently looking to place her ina good home for better role models. I am sure your daughter has wonderful parents, but life is not always easy for a child growing up in a divorce situation.
Good luck
spend quality time, calmly. dating provides lots of experiences, situations to discuss. you can learn alot about the person. treat her well and create a relaxed atmosphere. this is not an investigation session. its a pleasant conversation of 2 people who would like to get to know each other. remember to do everything with grace and respect, and remember Hashem is there too. How would he want you to treat his children?
Even if the answer is no, its still Hashems child, and you should leave person feeling respected, appreciated, and feeling positive about self. If you call shadchan with a No, remember to list 2-3 positive qualities about the person. the shadchan will pass it along. You never want to hurt another jew.
mimo has a long long wait in ER unless its a major heart situation. true.
their robes are totally not suffient for frum ladies, and I cant understand why NYC hospitals offer better robes, while a frum centered hospital cant get something better.
a certain russian male nurse in ER should be replaced, he expressed cruelty more than once.
compassion? – a word from the past. didnt see any there. (its not a study, its only particular experiences. wonder if a study was conducted, what % would say same)
To their credit, medically, when a family member was rushed to ER with unidentified issue, which required more intervention later, they provided good medical care and came up with a diagnosis at the end of the night. (admitted 8 pm, was on the way home 8 am and able to attend shul) – to me, that was impressive. many consults, labs and finally CT which showed issue. so overnight, everything was rolling.
How likely is it that foster kids would have no major issues and would be easy to raise?
Yichud also seems an issue.
Fab?
eclipse – I apprecaite your approach, its correct for litvish derech. I respect chassidim who are more restricted when it comes to other genders.
Makdim Beshalom – important.
Tznius bet. genders – not any less important
Health, I offer 15% off to YWN members…
Tax season is here…
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my sister went to a rav/ or a mekubal after she was married with her name (raditional, from tanach) and was told to add a name to make it better (whatever that means) and was offered 2 names that would work well with her name. one option was shira, which she chose. dont remember which EY rav it was, can be one of 3.
another sister said naming after someone (even from tanach) comes with a bag of issues the person named after had (tzaros, for example: yosef) and therefore prefers to name modern Hebrew names that are not after ANY person.
does anyone know if there is any makor to it?
Avocado salad with exact quantities?
100 would go to same hospital and tehir experience would be so different. thread is much too general. what are we rating? surgery skills? nursing staff? admin?
someone in my family had a major surgery in a good hospital in NYC
1. Surgeon was selected with Rabbi B – Paid privatly, was skillful and professional – would be rated A
2. Follow up care – couldnt ever see or speak with a doctor, instead had a PA who wasnt too knowledgable, and said she could get all answers, which clearly were not helpful, so rated D
3. Staff in OR – told me another frum patient once died there, while I was waiting in holding area – F, need to complain, didnt know where to complain so didnt so far, but beyond horrible
4. Bikur Cholim room – amazing, cant thank them enough A+++
5. roomate – Horrible. one was yelling all night and didnt allow for patient sleep till I got staff to move her out – lost most of night, next roommate had 100 visitors, loud, every minute. When I asked in nursing why they allow to violate policy, they said patietn was a hospital worker, couldnt enforce it with.
6. nurses refused to bath patient who was at hospital for 4 weeks, saying if they have time at end of shift. really didnt feel like it, and never had time, despite repeating requests from patient, and said showers use in hospital are prohibited for health reasons. I can go on and on.
OK, So overall, how would you rate place?
So all rating above, if you rated hospital is good b/c of a good Bikur Cholim staff – arent you oversimplified??
For those who asked:
there are plenty of indoor workout options. and walking is an exercise too…..
Consult with your Rav. Every community has its own standards. Follow your LOR.
if anyone can post their number, it will be appreciated.
Fab, mazal tov!!! much Nachas from the entire family!!
My friend is looking into fostering, can you offer some good tips? may I ask what type of shiduchim are suggested to such kids when they reach the age?
asking only LeToeles, Mazal Tov again!
where in BP are they? (Gartenhause) have not heard of them before. just curious. bh not for anyone who needs the service, but nice to know some tzaddikim around..
Elzee for low cost, sometimes at Macys. S n W if you want to pay pretty bucks. (every item I looked at there was going for approx $200 and up. Macys was much more affordable. You can dress very well for less.
Miri, its ok to talk to girl friends detailng your skirs, keep coffee room in tznius, being machshil others is hard to fix.
Also, discussions about perfumes in a mixed room is totally inappropriate. Its a start of Getting off the Derech, if not for you – for others – please behave responsibly.
can anyoen offer clear directions where on site I will locate her?
Rikki, for a teenager, its hard to deal with for many reasons, and I understand why you try to avoid him, its ok to deal with it in any way that you are comfortable with. Do look for someone like a mechaneches you can be close with, who you can talk to on a regular basis and get chizuk. you will need to be well connected (good friends, a mechaneches, a rebetzin – there are so many wondeful ppl around, if you tell me where on the globe I can try to match you with a mechaneches/ rebetzin who will udnerstand you and support you, and be available to listen regularly). ebing well connected will help you ride the wave as healthy and strong as possible. if you can try to be a role model for the younger ones, it will be very beneficial. ignore his negative behaviors, and show them what good and solid lifestle is. he shouldnt be doing chillul halacha in the house in front of others. Hope things go well.
not tznius to post. not tznius to hand in your public area at home (living room) either. would you want your guest to be sitting there looking at your wife? why? certainly not tznius!
what is the advantage of having it done legally?
is a document of mesader kidushin overseas good enough?
can anyone post a a link please?????????
several people have, but they were not posted. I am not comfortable linking that on this site. sorry
Lia, where are you located? put us on your waiting list……
Sorry I am unsure how to create a new post, can anyone help with directions?
will post here another q, my apology to OP:
Friend went shopping with me, after filling up her cart with Kol Tuv, she swiped her benefits card. She purchased items I would love to buy, but I dont, unless its a super speacial occasion. She explained the kids “love Sushi”, for one. Large Salmon package, you name it. They both are jobless and get Tzedaka, large family.
Now, last week of the month, she tells me she has no $ left on her card to buy for shabbos.
I am tempted to explain how funding can be streched. Budgeting, etc. Is it appropriate for me to say anything?
most socializers here are singles. when you ahev work and family commitment, it fills your days….need to find time to daven, learn, attend family simchas BH
1. giving. whatever your friend needs.
Help them with Shiduchim, referrals, resources, babysitting when they go away etc.
2. spending quality time together
before booking, go over and see for yourself, whats impresive for one person may not be good enough for your expectations. check it out, Mazal Tov!!
some things we are expected to do (one of Aseres Hadibros is honoring our parents) are not always easy, and we still have to do it.
What makes it hard for you?
Anything that comes with difficulty is rewarded accordingly. Try as much as you can, Hatzlacha!
I dont feel its fair to drop someone if she is not going to do x.
You can suggest what would be helpful for her, but withdraw a friendship if she doesnt accept your advice?
I always was avialble to support classmates who were not as strong socially, academically etc. and I dont regret it. Chessed is what makes us better. Thats what Hashem wants from us.
Now, if you feel its taking too much of you, this is where you can set the limits. How often would you want to spend time with her? you do need to balance it out. you have other friends/family/school needs (lets say twice a week, reasonable? once?) or what topics you are willing to disucss.
You can try to share your mitzva with other friends, make a Kvius with one more nice friend of yours :”lets make x happy and spend one afternoon with her every week, or a Pizza every other Sunday?” etc. its a hugh Mitzva, and the impact on her life will never be forgotton. You are the light she has for now.
Set up your limits, and when you spend time with her, listening to her, giving her your friendship, remember you are emulating God and connecting with him. ‘Af Atta Rachum”
Hatzlacha!
purchased a USB that would enable overseas for our PC, person installed software on our PC. Shlepped it thru x rays and what not, and it ended up NOT working. check out a balckberry rental/ borrow – was told it works well. low additioanl fee for one month for international access.
can anyone suggest where I can add a new topic? cant see where menu for that be.
From upper 20s, for sure 30 and up, better to go directly to candidates. Parents would stop a lot of good suggestions, its the kids who know what they are interested in. Talk to them.
You want a story about a mother who stops every suggestion for her talented son, who is over 30?
The Tachsit is still home…, and I wouldnt think its his fault. (after suggesting some candidates to the mother )
Does anyone knows where you can order a professional album using a CD? doesnt need a photographer, but a company photographers send to to create the albums, gold edge etc. Thank you
going anywhere, even safta, is changing rules, schedules, anything you train them wont be kept the same way. Takes long to bring back everything to good order. Meal times, Jobs, Brachos, clean up, where one may may not walk around with food, whatever. take it into account, and Enjoy your trip!
Legal market is currently depressed. So are many other areas. Worth evaluating market options. Good name schools does pay, especially during such times…
Judah Harris, look him up on line. nice guy, professional work. nice to work with. Artisitic and full of life photography.
always, ONE bagel with whatever inside is expected. One -tow danishes to add – fine. Hugh amount from a Bris, unless you are sister/mother of Baal Hasimcha is NOT appropriate.
From other Simchas – Comeon, are you a member of Tomchei Shabbos?
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Ramat, places you mentioned have such limited Jewish communities. Ft Lauderdale, for example, just researched, hard to find a minyan for mincha unless you can make it on a very strict timing, no other options in town, same for Maariv. Limited Kosher food options if you keep cholov yisroel and no bakery with pas Yis. How big can the school be? and if any, most kids would be kiruv kids, no mainstream. I love the larger communities, with full services……
I like Sissu Vesimchu more than TM- TM is 2 flights down, gives a basement feeling to me personally, Sissu VeSimchu/ Sasson Vesimcha are street level, parking spots in area, great food, conveneint locations, great management and very reasonable cost.
Call them and let them know a happy customer (Simcha in Nov) referred you.
When you say service, do you mean white gloves? Hilton style?
Lets not forget Sasson vesimcha, they own 2 halls, 1 smaller in BP for Bar Mitzvas, Sheva Brachos, one larger on CI for Weddings. Owner is a mentch, a great person to work with. Made a beautiful Simcha. He was the caterer of Aterest Shlomo. Food is great, well priced, and the guy is wonderful to work with.
Mazal Tov!
Seems a lot of great advice above. If you have the time, how about transfer BTL credits and get a second undergrad from a good school? should be approx 1 year, and that will open many doors.
I would think its a good investment with many years of fruit iyh
Discolsure: I did same before entering a graduate program, and was happy I did.
happy to hear, may you and klal yisroel will continue to see yehuos!
How do you walk outdoors with so much snow piled up?
This is America! make it easy, and yet same flavors you are looking for.
Buy a frozen roll, you got a heimish gefilte fish. can be shipped anywhere, frozen!
bochur, many issues are not something a person would want to publish here, for that reason I offered a confidential consult.
fancy serving dishes, to beautify table, can get nice silver & glass combo pcs – really beautiful!
with lower budget – home made pie, cake, salads
For no time lower budget – a nice bottle of alcohol – one of the newer stuff
if opposite gender, DO NOT!
many 13th avenue places will NOT make it here. refuse to exchange, take back. Got an expensive gift from one of the fancy home and kitchen gadgets stores, went back with it unopened, she looked up and knew the name and number of purchaser, and after all verification she said she wont exchange or anything else. I explained I had no use for it. her CS made me clear I will never walk into that store again. Love NYC stores, where exchange/ returns are hassle free. I dont belive in abusing a return policy, but I do appreciate good customer service policy, hard to find in Brooklyn. If you had a different experience, please share!