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Dear PBA,

I don’t know what to do. I cannot beleive Pesach ended! I mean…the school year just started! How do I make myself stop thinking that it’s the past since I can’t comprehend time has passed so fast?

Lost in Time

Hey style.

There’s a parable about a little boy. Every week for shabbos he would come give his mother “flowerrs” that he picked, for shabbos. “Just like his tatty.” IUn reality these were weeds or little grasses he found around the neighborhood. But each week the mom (of course) would gush over how nice they are, and tank you and wtvr.

One week, the boy comes home. Throws flowers and tables and says in a really grouchy voice “Here’s your flowers” As if he was forced to give them to his mom. His mom procceeded to throw them away. “If you don’t want to give them to me, so don’t. I don’t need flowers. You need the good feelings you get when you give them to me”

HASHEM is the mom, we are the boy. Hashem doesnt need our tefillos or mitxvos. We need to do them, to lead fuffiling lives. We need to daven and make a connection so we can lead normal, proper, humanitary lives, so we know what’s right and wrong.

Your davening, doesn’t matter whaty you ask for is more of a relashenship. Think of him as your friend. She can’t fix your problems, but you vent to her, she comforts you. Hashem does that anjd more. Just vent. Say “I was annoyed when _____ happened. Why? But I know you love me…” tell him about your day and your life. It may sound silly at first, like “C’mon, Hashem knows my life” but oonce you start you get hooked. It’s like chatting with a friend…

Perhaps he does.

I know kindergartners that read the book. For some reason he thinks adults likes us, haven’t.

Sir: I am adressing the few people that did act that way.

There is a right way and a wrong way to say everything. I don’t know what’s going on, but everyone should keep in mind to say it the right way. I’m sure there were people who said it thewrong way, again not refering to the majority. Kol Hakovod for those who did say it in the right way.

Wow, all of what I miss in a short 2 days!

I haven’t much to say, just that everyone no matter what should be considerate of each other and not rude.

There’s a right way, and a wrong way of saying everything.

Many people used the right way it seems…but not everyone

And if thew whole world was normal.

The CR surely wouldn’t be here.

Never heard of it. What type of magazine is it?

I remember the olemenu magazines….*sigh*

There is a difference from trying, than taking something upn yourself, lekabel al atzmecha mashu.

Trsut 789 AND yekke2- being Jews we all feel for each other. We feel the pain. When someone is in pain and you cannot do something you feel helpless and GUILTY. So, to push away the guilt, we do something. Some people take it in the right way. But most don’t. Anyone I’ve spoken to take on something to push away their feelings, like I mentioned in the first post, and 2 weeks later they forget about the kabala, guoilt gone, they haven’t gotten anywhere higher.

Yekke I have heard that mashul before.

What I am saying is that kabalos wane and don’t make people any better ussually when you make them in a time like this (any better say,2 months later- you are in the same place, back to square one. Maybe it will take 6 months..but ya). You need to work on what you already do so you will want to take on something more not for your guilt but for your ahava for the mitzvah. See what I mean? Girls take on more tzniyus as a kabalah, but half don’t even LIKE tzniyus in the first place and the second they are outta high school, their standards are dropped. Their kabbala along with halacha even. So instead of taking on a kabala, they should take on the mitzvah.

Growing up with so many mitzvos we are learned the motions from young but have to discover feelings for much of it later on. (Not everyone, but even people who do grow up in a place with feelings for the mitzvos, it’s not EVERY mitzvah) How can we take on something new when we aren’t doing the old to the fullest?!?!

Once we do that we will want to take on something new.

I have not yet a source for the kabbalah thing, but it just makes sense to be up to par with what you are ALREADY doing before you move on, no?

Please tell me if that sounds too crazy…

monsey23 – Actually, although that is the most popular thing to do nowadays, the Torah prohibits making a kabalah or taking on something in the time of Tzara. I have heard this from many renown speakers, if someone could find me the exact quote and where it says so, please post.

This is forbidden since when the feelings of wanting to do something so badly and sadness fade (which they will, be it a week or a month) so will your kabala. Okay you say, “I’ll take on a kabalah for a week, so that I won’t be mechayev” NO! If you are doing that then you are justy trying to rid yourself of guilty feelings. After a week, where have you gotten? Any closer to Hashem?

The RIGHT way, is to look at what we are already doing and try to do harder in their memories. Let’s say we already daven shemoneh esrie, try to have more kavanah in a certain bracha. Let’s say you lost the lust to do a certain mitzvah, you are just doing it with the motions at this point. Go, try to get those feelings back.

Once we enjoy doing what we are ALREADY doing, we will be happy, and in a better place. Once we are in that place we can take on more since we will WANT to take on more.

Let us welcome ChaniE back!

Hey!

Well, sometimes in certain situations you gotta give up control, you say Hashem, not in my control! Please just do what’s best for me.

When I was trying to get into schools, that’s what I davened for, it felt so good knowing the choice was so not in my hands and whatever it would end up it would be best and with a lot of siyatta dishmaya from all my tefilos.

We can daven for certain things too, like for someone to get healthy. For all we know the almost completed their tsfkid and it’s the end, but we don’t stop davening.

It’s not our job to figure out when we should be specific or not. I suggest in big things, like marriage, jobs, daven that you will have a good one that will what’s best for you, with good middos/good bosses and co-workers or whatever. If you go on a date or interveiw just daven for siyatta dishmaya and that whatever happens you will be able to see it’s yad hashem. You can daven it will go well, but not that you get the job or the boy. I don’t think that’s for us to decide. Daven Hashem takes care of you, keeps your emotions at bay, your hopes from being so high, that he is with you, and doing what is best and if it’s bashert that it will work.

I will daven for something like to be succesful in life, in school, with my friends. That _____ gets a therapist ASAP, and _______ and me stop fighting. But it’s petty sutff, I know if it’s not bashert it just won’t happen. It’s more me venting to Hashem and just talking to him like he is my daddy b(which he si)

Just let it flow, Hashem knows what he’s doing MUCH better than you. Don’t try to figure it all out. You can’t know if Hashem answered your tefilah, something that happens could have been destined from before hand, on a zechus of someone in shamayim, or someone else’s tefilah.

Wishing and davening you have much siyatta dishmaya and hatzlacah!

Everyone loves me!!!

I don’t think it’s fair to raise the bar, now we all have to give our teahcers? Girls come in with extravagant MM, and I’ve had enough.

Who started this craze of crazy MMs?

Says who exactly?

Mods, could I also get switched with someone good?

This is so weird!!

You think hackers are borted with thier livves??????

It’s the mods!

You can have a different username and screen name.

It’s some mods purim prank…

Let them try messing with ME…and my Screen name…

Listen, kids dress up to to what they want deep inside, if your kid wants to dress up as a disney character…that means he’s probobly way over in gashmiyus.

I’m just saying, the little boy/girl who comes home saying “I want to be a tzadik/esther” is who they want to follow after.

If your kid is a tzadik, you can use this oppurtunity to make him feel more special. “Wow, your such a tzadik!!! You’re gonna grow up and be a rebbe….” and so on.

What do Disney characters show?