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  • in reply to: Oh my aching…. #758405

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    My back…may Hashem bless my chiropractor for realigning me all the time during this pregnancy. I think I would be an invalid without him.

    in reply to: Motzai Pesach: Buying the First Pie of Pizza #942307

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    Usually the profit goes to tzedaka. I don’t do it but don’t think its a big deal.

    in reply to: Starbucks! #967131

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    Update from my Rabbi: I can still drink at Starbucks (obviously kosher products – so no ham sandwiches, gosh darn it).


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    I get my husband shirts at JC Penney. We never iron and they look nice.

    in reply to: Starbucks! #967130

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    Here is a longer quote from the article:

    The article has presented the different reasons why one might adopt a strict or lenient position on the halachic issues raised, and classified the status of the different items sold in the stores. Individual Rabbis will consider these options when determining what is the appropriate kashrus standard for their community.

    I’m going to ask my Rabbi what he thinks. I don’t get Starbucks very often, but my smicha expired so I can’t rule on this.

    in reply to: How to remain neutral with the boys in college #758822

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    This was an interesting thread.

    Hudi,

    You can be nice and friendly, without becoming close to your classmates.

    You can share your notes or copy theirs and still just be friendly.

    Also, keep an eye out for some frum guys – I met my husband in college 🙂

    in reply to: what would you give up? #758543

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    I think its important for everyone to decide what’s important to them.

    I wanted to get married outdoors so I prioritized that. (Actually, I wanted to get married in a small ceremony in a shul in Venice, but was totally struck down by that LOL).

    We didn’t have flower centerpieces at all – they are a total waste of money. But we did make sure to have beautiful flowers for me, my bridesmaids and the chupah (and all the men had nice bouttonnieres).

    Photography was important so we had a good one.

    I didn’t care at all about the band (was totally happy with a cd player LOL) but my FIL is a professional musician. Andy Statman (famous klezmer musician) even played at our wedding!

    Also, don’t upgrade the food. Its not worth the cost. Simple is perfect.

    in reply to: How long before Y"T does your house become Pesachdik? #1009498

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    It doesn’t.

    We close up shop and go to my sister for Yom Tov. Bless her!

    in reply to: Do You Own/Lease/Finance Your Car? Which one and Why? #756737

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    We purchase outright.

    in reply to: El Al Flying on Shabbos #756440

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    Popa,

    You are wrong about flying on Shabbos.

    I once asked my Rav about this. I was flying to Japan and curious if it would be possible (we wouldn’t actually consider doing it, but I thought it was interesting).

    He said you have to be on the plane before Shabbos. Once you are on the plane, you are allowed to stay on until the plane lands. You are even allowed to disembark and take your luggage off the plane. Once you get to your destination, you are not allowed to leave the airport until Shabbos is over.

    He did say its not hashkafically preferable.

    Not every Rav may pasken this way, but its not a “You are NOT allowed to fly on Shabbos” ruling across the board.


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    There is no difference between a “major” issue, and a “minor” one.

    I disagree.

    While my sister holds by a different Rav than I do, if I had a question that I needed an immediate answer to and she told me her Rav said XYZ, I would rely on that (l’kula or l’chumra) for the moment if it were something minor. Minor being something like a simple kashrus issue. I would then ask my Rav what to do at a later date going forward.

    in reply to: bechira and the Truman Show #756424

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    As his desire to do things different from what the writers envisioned grew, he was able to go further and further towards free will.

    Its like saying does your 5 year old have free will for keeping kosher? Not really. Do you keep ham in your fridge?

    in reply to: Broken English #756415

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    I don’t own a goyta or a babysitter.


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    Mod80, that answer is good enough for me too. But its not “proof” which many people want.

    Popa, are you saying matter could be a supreme being?


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    You jump from “there must ultimately be something which was not created” to “it must be that something is a supreme being.”

    Matter may be that which was not created.

    (BTW I tried that argument with her)


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    This thread is actually indicative of a big problem in the kiruv world (both rechokim and kerovim). “If you don’t believe my answer, its because you are clinging to tiny improbably chance that it may not be true.”

    This thread also shows that people don’t really understand the difference between correlation and causation. Never mind that revisionism is high up on many people’s lists nowadays.

    However, one atheist (a non-Jewish woman, former Christian, who is very knowledgable and thought deeply before abandoning her faith) asked me this question which I couldn’t answer effectively “You expect me to believe that G-d created matter because otherwise where would matter come from. But if you can believe that G-d always was, is and always will be, why can’t I assume the same for matter?”

    in reply to: Post Here to Add/Change Your Subtitle #1198951

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    I would appreciate a new title. I don’t think my claim to fame is that I’m not Joseph 🙂

    in reply to: Sleep (or the lack of it) #756153

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    Sounds like motherhood 😛


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    Its interesting to see how people view those young teens with honest questions.

    What I find a little more disturbing is the attitude of if they don’t want to believe, they’ll find ways to refute your proof. If you can’t give them a good solid proof (even if its not absolutely fool proof), why would they believe? Do you think Judaism encourages mindlessness?

    in reply to: Boro Park Eruv #761077

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    APY, what a great summary 🙂

    in reply to: it turned dark purple #756501

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    My silver gets that way too LOL.

    in reply to: Strollers #755639

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    LOL @ GAW.

    Here is my general stroller advice:

    Look at your lifestyle. Are you a SAHM? If so, you will probably use your stroller a lot more.

    Do you have a car? Make sure the stroller fits in your trunk.

    Are you the type to take the kitchen sink with you? If so, get one with a large basket.

    Also, go to stores and try them out. Test out the folding mechanism. Test out lifting the stroller. See if it can accomodate an infant seat and how easy it is to snap one in.

    The City Mini is overall a good stroller (I have it in a double), but I find the seat doesn’t go all the way up, the basket is tiny and not very accessible.

    Shop for your lifestyle needs. Bugaboo is a good brand, but it may not meet your requirements.

    in reply to: Strollers #755637

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    My best investment was an Ergo Baby Carrier. Google it…its amazing.

    in reply to: Right-Wing Orthodox / Left-Wing Orthodox #755551

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    commonly called “just plain frum”

    in reply to: Strollers #755626

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    This $1500 is actually a really amazing stroller. It converts from a single to a double, is well made, lightweight and really versatile. If someone can afford it, why not? Also, there are some people who use their strollers all the time and need a MUCH better stroller.

    Let people spend their own money.

    (from someone who doesn’t have a fancy one)

    in reply to: Females and Hitchers #755422

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    Let me tell you about a true chessed that happened on Friday.

    Buses were running late out of Port Authority. The bus was already 30 minutes late and although I had plenty of time, I was afraid the next one would be 30 minutes after that, making it hard to get home in time for Shabbos. So, at 7 months pregnant, I stood on the bus. About halfway through the ride, I felt like I was going to pass out and a man gave me his seat.

    However, I still felt really sick when I got off the bus. I wasn’t sure I was going to make the 3.5 blocks home. I nearly stopped in at my cousins house to ask him to drive me. But my neighbor pulled up and offered me a ride. Bless him! I stumbled inside and my husband took good care of me, but I am honestly not sure I would have made it home without that short ride.

    So consider the chesed.

    in reply to: Fish and meat- Keilim #755141

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    DY, not just seperating fish and meat – its usually lobster and steak. No kosher lobster that I’m aware of (and really? boiling an animal alive? that seems so cruel to me)

    Technically, you could call sushi made with meat surf and turf since algae grows in the water 🙂

    in reply to: April Fools Day #903245

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    Mod-80, you must be THE April’s fool then 🙂

    in reply to: I Need A Vacation #755520

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    No, sorry. But if I find one, I’ll send him your way!

    in reply to: I Need A Vacation #755518

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    Sac, my cousin is getting married in South Africa in a few weeks and if I wouldn’t be 8 months pregnant at the time, I would totally use it as an excuse to go!

    Might I recommend Australia? Totally amazing.

    And bpt, Venice is not an open sewer. Its breathtaking and there is a lot of Jewish history there.

    in reply to: Fish and meat- Keilim #755138

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    Sorry DY, that was my brand of humor as surf and turf is not a kosher concept 🙂

    DH’s family doesn’t cook fish and meat in the same pot. When we were engaged DH and I discussed this and I thought it was too complicated for me. He discussed it with his Rabbi who said it wasn’t really an issue so we use fleisch pots for fish.

    in reply to: BLUE / WHITE SHIRTS #754822

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    In an appropriate setting, I would have no issues (other than the fact I am married LOL) dating a guy wearing shorts and a tshirt.

    in reply to: Boro Park Eruv #760958

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    For men (for the most part), not using the eruv in Brooklyn is no big deal. For women, its a lot bigger of a deal.

    When I moved to Brooklyn I asked my LOR about the eruv. He held by it and allowed me to. Growing up with an eruv, its a lot harder to switch to no eruv than if you never grew up with one.

    in reply to: BLUE / WHITE SHIRTS #754813

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    My husband only wears white for Shabbos because he says he likes to have something set aside special for Shabbos.

    He said the year he was in Beis Medrash and was required to wear white during the week also, wearing his suit with a white shirt for Shabbos didn’t feel as special.

    in reply to: Beautiful Food is Pointless #772275

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    LOL @ digest Mod-80.

    Sight is one of your senses. It enhances the food experience. I prefer the beauty of the food not outdo the taste of the food, but that’s a different story.

    in reply to: Fish and meat- Keilim #755133

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    No surf and turf!

    in reply to: Life Insurance in Torah Hashkafah #754057

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    Jewishness,

    You didn’t quote a source for the Chazon Ish. You quoted an “If I remember correctly” which means technically oomis is questioning what you wrote, not necessarily the Chazon Ish.

    Interesting that you call it oomis’s own hashkafa when its a very mainstream hashkafa. Interesting.

    in reply to: Gebrochts #940830

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    oomis,

    I believe Chabad is makpid on keilim. So they wouldn’t eat from keilim that had gebrochts on it.

    Then again, they likely wouldn’t eat at your house for a whole host of other chumras they have too.

    in reply to: Gebrochts #940808

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    DH,

    Last year your grandmother could have used her regular pesach pots – its a leap year!

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over Not Tzniyus Advertisement #760009

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    OK, I’m getting bored of this topic. Next!

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over Not Tzniyus Advertisement #760007

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    DY, I’m not a fan of PETA 🙂 I think they do a lot of crazy things. I do think they are the type of people to paint of the streimel of a chossid.

    But I do think its important to live by the rules of the land, when halachically feasible. In this case it was and given H&M’s own writings for marketing, they would have modified the ad had someone contacted them.

    These bochurim covered parts which we can agree are NOT erva (like faces).

    I didn’t support throwing acid on women who weren’t dressed properly in Israel either. There are better ways to handle this situation and IME in today’s day and age the zealousness doesn’t often come from Torah.

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over Not Tzniyus Advertisement #760002

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    DY,

    I don’t personally agree with PETA’s agenda (at least on the whole, I absolutely believe in not being cruel to animals).

    However, at least butchering a cow gives sustenance to a person. You can use the leather from the cow to make shoes.

    Butchering an animal to make a hat does seem wrong to me. Unless you were going to freeze in the depths of Siberia, in which case it would be pikuach nefesh.

    in reply to: Can You Help Me With The Pro's? #753504

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    Hugs Eclipse.

    To those wondering about parents weddings, it depends who you ask. I was told that I could attend if I was truly happy for my mother (all her kids went to the wedding). Slightly different situation as my father passed away.

    in reply to: Gebrochts #940794

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    You can purchase time at a local matza factory and make your own.

    You can actually even make your own. Discuss how with your LOR as different people have different ways of doing it best.

    I am sure there is a way to make homemade wine too.

    We eat gebrochts, but there are plenty of non gebrochts options.

    We eat a lot of roast chicken, fish, meat and vegetables.

    This dish is always a hit:

    Cut up beets and onions into small cubes, sprinkle with a little bit of sugar and salt. Bake for about 15-20 minutes. Add cubed white potatoes, sweet potatoes and/or parsnip (carrots would go well too). Add garlic, salt and pepper (cumin during the year). Roast until done.

    in reply to: Married Lakewood kids want a down payment now! #753656

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    mytake,

    Historically, marriages were more likely to be business transactions. Its actually the older way to get married (with dowries).

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over Not Tzniyus Advertisement #759993

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    PETA is defending tzaar baalei chaim. A very Jewish concept. Yes, they take it to the extreme. However, there is no halachic need for a mink to die for a chassid to wear a streimel.

    And GAW, at least you are consistent. I can respect that.

    in reply to: Why the inequality?? #753921

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    HaLeivi,

    Everyone knows men are inferior to women 🙂

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over Not Tzniyus Advertisement #759983

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    GAW,

    I understand that it can be hard for men. However, what was posted on the sign was very similiar (and maybe even more tzanua) than what people on the street are wearing. Are you trying to tell me that a non-scantily clad picture is more alluring than a scantily clad woman walking down the street?

    PETA believes this is how to act as well. If someone posted how PETA had vandalized a picture of Chassidim wearing streimels on the street, no one could be ok with it.

    When we ask for freedoms we have to grant it to others, or we have no right to ask for it.

    For the record, H&M’s marketing department says the following:

    creative professionals located in the major fashion hubs of

    the world. The advertisements that we produce are largely

    identical in all of our markets, but the media strategy is

    adapted to local requirements and conditions.

    If someone had contacted them to remove the sign, they probably would have done something about it.

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over Not Tzniyus Advertisement #759977

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    Popa,

    The images were not objectionable in the sense of these bochurim requiring vandalism.

    They probably would have spray painted me if they saw me because my Rav follows a much more lenient view on tznius and halacha.

    Please tell me how a woman’s calves or face are objectionable. They are not inherently so. (I can’t actually see the necklines so I can’t comment, but one of the women in the ads is wearing a skirt).

    They were also cowardly and covered their faces.

    Shlishi, R’ Elyashiv protesting the rights of a father to remove his children from a public school is vastly different from allowing vandalism.

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over Not Tzniyus Advertisement #759974

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    If you can give me a good argument why a woman’s CALVES should be spray painted, then go ahead. (Never mind that they left the woman’s pants outline visible which I find strange)

    These are NOT lewd pictures. These are pictures of regular clothing that women on the street wear every day (and not even very explicit clothing). Its not bikinis and hot pants!

    The sign also mentions not to post pictures of WOMEN. Sorry, I do not support the idea that in America women should be hidden from view.

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