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December 16, 2012 12:50 pm at 12:50 pm in reply to: Upset at two related things that were in the Hamodia Weekly #913374
Loyal Jew, that is not a financially sustainable model. Where are the parents supposed to get endless parnassa from, and what about their children’s children?
Men should, in my opinion, have a viable plan in mind before they get married. It is irresponsible to rely on miracles, having NO IDEA how you will ever be able to support a family, even if you are currently in learning. And this is primarily the man’s job.
OK, I hope the heresy is out of my system for now. 🙂
Thanks Wolf, that was a good answer.
However, I’m also curious about what WIY mentioned, whether they lit the Menorah in the BHMK the year after the nes, and if so how they did it for 8 days.
Whatever, I totally lost the thread of this conversation.December 16, 2012 3:05 am at 3:05 am in reply to: Upset at two related things that were in the Hamodia Weekly #913369
I’m grateful to Rabbi Dr. Twerski for printing that letter. It shows clearly the illogical and panicky attitude towards shidduchim that is the true progenitor of the “shidduch crisis”.December 16, 2012 3:03 am at 3:03 am in reply to: Does a Divorce indicate a Family lacked Shalom Bayis? #913361
Does starvation indicate a lack of food?
The Wolf: But wasn’t the mitzva in every home? And isn’t the BHMK our home?
WIY – Thanks. Great question. Now I am really curious! How did they light the year after? Does anyone discuss it?
Yes, but it should never be locked when they are sleeping. It’s a fire hazard.
It does depend on family dynamics. If there is a step-parent, or not everyone in the home is related the same way, of course there has to be a lock. But there also has to be a means of unlocking from the outside.December 15, 2012 10:55 pm at 10:55 pm in reply to: Connecticut elementary school shooting — our thoughts and prayers #913311
May they all rest in peace and the families be comforted. This was a real tragedy.
N.G. Well, I’m real. Are you real?
May one watch a classical music orchestra on youtube that was performing in a cathedral?
How I love strong, hard numbers that mean something!
Thank you Wolf! What is the confidence interval?
Curiousity – for some reason the mods let me post the internet dating thread, but it makes sense. If you really want to you can figure out who I am.
Thank you PBA, I agree and would not be as relaxed if I didn’t feel certain the mods keep our emails to themselves.
WIY – I specifically state I’m American in that thread, in this instance my comment was not a criticism of your punctuation.
uneeq – LOL, does this drive your family crazy?
Why do you spell Hanukka like that?
Bungee jumping sounds unpleasant. I know someone who taped a farewell message to their mother before skydiving, it was in poor taste.
Thanks OneOfMany, I was too lazy to google 🙂
Who makes up this drivel? 1 in 10 makkos had to do with blood. 1 in 10 girls do not get enough vitamin D. 1 in 10 adults snores in their sleep.
WIY – See the You’re wife thread. I did, however, feel very comfortable among Israelis.
WIY: Younger than you, I’m pretty sure.
1. Your phd will stand for: Permanently Headed Downhill
2. ??? ?”? ????? ???? ?????? ??????
What inspiring advice, ???? ???? ???, ???? ????
3. How did you know? She just came over and told me.
OneofMany – author?
uneeq – I sing the regular tune but changing it is a cute idea.
WIY: LOL. I was actually thinking it could be misunderstood as a website used to date things… date as in time.
Mercury: Thanks for your thoughtful response!
I wonder why no good yeshivish boy would put themselves on. I guess they are busy enough. I personally see it as a way to widen the pool (I don’t mind MO Machmir, if they are very frum and have a rav – it’s more important to me than having the yeshivish label.)
Interesting and enlightening comment about disabilities, I will have to watch out for this. Had I known I may not have joined.
SYAS: Interesting that you preface with SYAS is a great site. I also don’t like being unable to search on my own, I would prefer an anonymized profile at least. The shadchanim are also difficult to choose as they don’t seem to have any track record, so you have no idea who is effective. (Honestly, maybe I should get a married friend to become a shadchan on that website, so that I could search from their login.) However, I like that it is more tzanua than Jwed, and having a go-between.
Your futuresimchas story is great, I love the kind of story where in the end the suggestion came from left field!
Why isn’t there just one thread discussing parenting, and one thread discussing halacha, etc?
Because that’s not what a forum is for!!
How grateful I am, to learn of your generous offer to provide all-encompassing counsel, free of charge and open to the public. Here are some questions:
1. Did your education benefit your trolling abilities?
2. Why haven’t I found a shidduch yet? When the telephone rings, it rings not for me. (Even when the bell tolls, it is usually a fedex delivery.)
Am I ugly? Not rich enough? Not chashuv? Uneducated? Intimidating? My boring username? Maybe it’s my third cousin who has red hair, black skin and one blue and one black eye? No one wants their kids to look like that.
3. Another problem is that I am not perfect. My neighbor is perfect. Her life is perfect. My life isn’t. I have so much self-doubt.
Oh, sage Abby, give forth your wise advising, may it flow like chalav yisrael chocolate milk and fill my cup to overflowing.
All the best
Torah613613TorahDecember 11, 2012 9:19 pm at 9:19 pm in reply to: You're Celebrating Your First Chanukah As A Married Person #990586
WIY: If English was not his first language, and he didn’t know how to use apostrophes, and he was brilliant and sounded appropriate in other ways, I would not say no. I would prefer if he didn’t use double negatives, but that would be being picky since I do.
just kidding, I really don’t care about apostrophes per se.
Funnybone: That post should be punctuated:
Your wife’s gift should be apostrophes for yourself? What would be your gift to your wife?
The serious answer is, it depends on our budget. I would be happy with flowers, chocolate, or jewelry. I also like meforshim on tefila. (I am a single girl, for the record, in case anybody has forgotten.)
more_2: How biased and offensive of you. I am American and can spell and punctuate with the best of them. Go USA!!!
I’m also a paying member.
Anyone else brave enough to share experiences?
99% of statistics are made up on the spot.
Re thread title: I am still not married. Of course there is a shidduch crisis.
Seriously, it has been found that pain relievers for physical pain often dull emotional pain.
You have two options: Distract yourself from it, or work through it. The latter is best done with a therapist or trusted confidant.December 11, 2012 12:46 am at 12:46 am in reply to: You're Celebrating Your First Chanukah As A Married Person #990580
If my spouse does not know how to use apostrophes, I would love my first Chanukah present to be proper use of apostrophes.
(You’re is You Are, Your is possessive)
zahavasdad – thanks.
Anyway, it’s too late now.
If you really dislike it, don’t give it free advertising. And whatever you do, don’t ban it.
nem – let’s euphemistically say, “focus on what’s really important”.
Can spell check be added to this site?
I’ve wondered about this question too.
Well, Moshe Rabeinu was in one Medrash 10 Amos, or 20 feet tall. So why are most Jewish men nowhere near that tall?
I refuse to ask the obvious question. You’ll just have to answer it.
I don’t buy into the idea that boys not having experience talking to girls, or knowing how to build a relationship, is part of the problem. Girls certainly don’t need experience to figure out how to get male attention – it’s pretty instinctive.
For every guy who lacks social skills, there’s a girl who also lacks social skills.December 6, 2012 1:44 am at 1:44 am in reply to: Poorer People Bigger Tzadikm; Richer People Not Such Tzadikim #910850
The best is “Torah UGedula Bmakom Echad”
Like Rabbi Yehuda Hanasi.
From my PIT:
What gives Rashi the right to comment on the Torah? (I’d like to see what you guys have to say)
I’m on Team Kiruv L’Kollel.
Or is it KOllel L’Kiruv?
I’m slim, and looking for a slim guy.
I’m normal height, and don’t really care about a man’s height.
I’m very intelligent, and looking for a man as intelligent, preferably more intelligent, than me.
Do I have a right to be picky if I have a trait as well?
Where do you make it? Why do you make it? What do you use it for?
Shmoel – Men also don’t wear coats until they will literally freeze. It’s a man thing.
I like the title.
If I said no to the first 30 guys who contacted me on Jwed?
If I said no to a guy with long hair?
If I said no to a guy who weighed 4 times as much as I do?
If I said no to a guy with a pet tortoise that had to be allowed to run free around the house all day?
Not true. The man is in charge after marriage as well.
At least for us frum people, the job of an ezer k’negdo is to be an ezer, only knegdo when it’s an issue of values.
I think that’s different.
Ain l’hitvakeiach, im taam v’im reiach.
Farrocks, the blond issue is a little odd as his wife will be wearing a sheitel.
Thank you PBA for standing up for what is right.