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Look for a gemach gemach?
(Sorry, I couldn’t resist…)
The Wolf
He gives us the rosaries, he gives us the tzitzis.
That should read “We give him the rosaries…”
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I’m sorry wolf, this post should not have been edited. We thought your sarcasm was directed at another poster, not at yourself. If you’d like please repost, although at this point the humor will have been mostly lost
Mazca,
It was a joke. A “nun garment” is called a habit — hence my choice of words.
My apologies.
The Wolf
Perhaps we should all keep rosaries and other such objects on hand for trading in just these circumstances. He gives us the rosaries, he gives us the tzitzis.
The Wolf
(Yes, I’m just kidding. Don’t have a cow everyone!)
Joseph,
IIRC, it was all religious symbols.
The Wolf
Which shaygetz isn’t anti-semitic?
Yes. All in the spirit of al tistakel b’mah sheyesh bo, elah b’kankan…
The Wolf
nun garment
You might want to get into the habit of finding out the names of things. 🙂
The Wolf
In Bnei Brak.
B’nei Brak is the only place I can convert? I highly doubt that.
The Wolf
It is imperative that a child be properly secured, even when making the “smallest” of trips.
Agreed. That’s the rule in my car. If a child (of any age) is not secured, we don’t move.
The Wolf
Of course not. You’ll be in starched-white tachrichim then.
Well, I won’t have the tachrichim until AFTER I’m dead (hopefully). And I figure that I’ll probably be wearing *something* at the time that I actually do die. And it won’t be a pink shirt. 🙂
The Wolf
What is the correct way to deal with a child who, unfortunately, does not take the inyan of wearing a hat and jacket seriously
If that’s the biggest problem in your teen’s life, then you’re doing fine.
The Wolf
You can always convert.
Cool. Where do I sign up. Seriously.
The Wolf
Blue and grey is one thing but i noticed pink and purple too!
Just about every button-down shirt that I own is one of two colors:
1. White
2. Blue
This has been my personal style for years. On Shabbos/Yom Tov (or to special occasions — weddings, job interviews, etc.) I wear white, while during the rest of the week I wear blue.
Then, one day, I was walking through Macy’s looking for new shirts I found a purple shirt that caught my eye. I brought it home and showed it to my wife — and she was wondering who I was and what I did with her husband. I still have the purple shirt and wear it on occasions with the other weekday shirts.
However, you’d never catch me dead in a pink shirt. 🙂
The Wolf
Maran Hagoen Rav Elazar Shach told American educators that Yeshiva boys should be taught Chumash in Yiddish, even if the boys speak English amongst themselves. He furtermore said that both boys and girls should learn to be comfortable in Yiddish. He also said that Yiddish is spoken by “all jews” (that is his phrase).
I guess according to Rav Shach, I’m not Jewish. 🙁
The Wolf
HIE (or whoever you are)…
I spoke with my rav* and he confirmed what I pretty much suspected… that the misuse of an eruv by some does NOT invalidate the eruv at all. I also asked him if he ever heard of the sefer you mentioned and he did not.
So, it comes back to this… you gave me a claim from a sefer which I cannot find and for which you cannot name an author. I have no idea who wrote this sefer, whether it is an authoritative sefer, or even whether or not it actually exists.
So, I put the ball back in your court. Please back up your statement that the misuse of the eruv by some invalidates it for all.
The Wolf
* A fellow who, I should point out, is opposed to the Flatbush eruv.
Sammygol,
What a horrible story!
Aside from the fact that the Rav (despite his statement to the contrary) DID, in essence, call thousands of Jews who follow their rav m’challelei shabbos, he also chose to publicly humiliate this potential witness. Even if the Rav truly had a legitimate problem with the potential witness, this is the type of thing that you take care of in private, not in the presence of others*.
The Wolf
* As proven by the fact that sammygol was there. The only reason for the rav to do this to someone else in front of sammygol is if he was the chosson, kallah, one of the parents or the other potential witness — which, from his description, does not seem to be the case.
FWIW, Eeees and I made one shidduch together. We never asked for anything from the couple, but they presented us with small gifts (neither was well off) as tokens of thanks.
Considering the fact that they got divorced, I often wonder if I should reimburse them. (No, not seriously…)
The Wolf
Who says that Shabbat is free?
Not free, per se, but there is a teaching that expenditures for Shabbos are repaid by HKBH and not included in your yearly parnassah cheshbon.
The Wolf
Wasnt a special Mi Shebaeirach composed for those who dont talk during davening, composed after Tach vTat by the Tosfos Yom Tov?
Yep. My rav of my shul says it (while holding the sefer torah) every shabbos.
There is a time for tefilla and a time for learning. Why do we try and “chap” both at the same time.
Indeed. So my son taught me (unintentionally).
The Wolf
my point, clumsily stated, was that ones individual Kavannah is influenced by the Tzibur
Perhaps. Perhaps not. It could also be influenced negatively. Ever had your concentration broken by someone moving a chair, dropping a siddur, etc.?
The Wolf
…and if anyone complained (as a few animals sometimes did, when no pigs or dogs were near) that they wasted time and meant a lot of standing about in the cold, the sheep were sure to silence him with a tremendous bleating of “Four legs good, two legs bad!”
— George Orwell
The Wolf
Feivel,
You, too, are confusing the two issues.
How much kavannah I have is NOT dependent on whether I daven with a minyan.
Whether one is involved with communal tefillah IS dependent on whether I daven with a minyan.
BOTH are factors in how “acceptable” my tefillah is to HKBH. But when push comes to shove, the second can be dispensed with (otherwise there’s no point to daven alone when a minyan is unavailable). The first cannot.
The Wolf
I believe it is always preferable to daven with an minyen unless it is impossible, and then you must daven without a minyan. But there is always the obligation to daven, no matter what.
Well, I agree with you here.
I was taught that because of the darkness of the Galus of our generation that it is virtually impossible for a single Jew to reach a level of kavanah comparable to the “worst” minyan.
I’m not sure why you are conflating the ideas of davening with kavannah and davening with a minyan. They are two separate issues. Whether I daven with kavannah is a function of how well I concentrate on my davening, not how many people I have around me. Likewise, whether I daven with a minyan or not has nothing to do with whether or not I have kavannah when I daven.
I have been taught about our entire generation, not a Jew here and there – but the idea is that we are incapable of actually davening like previous generations
That may or may not be true… but that’s not quite the same thing you said earlier. Earlier you said that a person cannot discharge his obligation to daven at all without listening to the chazzan.
I reject the idea that we are automatically doomed to failure because of our inability to do something. If we’re still obligated to daven* (even alone), then I have to believe that it’s because we are capable of being yotzei the mitzvah while alone.
During this Galus, it is up to us to do everything we can in order to concentrate during our own davening and listening attentively to the Chazzan.
I fail to see why this is any different whether we are in galus or not.
The Wolf
* As opposed to our obligation to bring a korban, which is suspended while there is no Beis HaMikdash.
Is it not widely believed that, because of Galus and the difficulty of kavanah for most Jews, our own silent Amidah is not enough to discharge our obligation to daven and that we need to listen attentively and respond to the Chazzan’s repetition?
It’s not believed by me.
According to your theory, there is no point to daven when there is no minyan present — because you can’t discharge your obligation.
I also firmly believe that a person is capable of having kavanah in davening. That most don’t is an indicator of other problems, but not of a lack of ability.
And lastly, if they aren’t paying attention when they are actively saying the words, why do you think it will be any better when they are passively listening?
The Wolf
Grass tea tastes terrible
Off topic, but I can’t resist: Max & Mina’s has a grass-flavored ice cream. My son tried it the first time we went. It wasn’t too bad he said.
The Wolf
Wolf, are you saying that you have heard of a heter for coffee, or are you just strengthening the question?
I’m not saying that there is a hetter, as I am not qualified to say such.
But, just as you fail to see a fundamental difference between watering grass and making coffee, I fail to see a fundamental difference between those two and turning on/off lights.
The Wolf
In what way is watering grass different than brewing coffee?
Or turning off/on lights?
The Wolf
HIE,
I’ll try to find it myself. Please forgive my ignorance and tell me who the author of sefer shomrei mitzvos is and if I can find it in a standard beis midrash or seforim store.
The Wolf
Ah, so I have to bend my will to some unsourced statement in an unnamed sefer written by an undisclosed rav whom YOU hold to be authoritative???
My apologies — you did name the sefer earlier.
Nonetheless, I don’t have the sefer handy either — and until you can tell me what it says, specifically, I don’t have to follow it. How do I know that you are quoting it accurately?
Answer me this — does it specifically say that if some people misuse an eruv that it invalidates the eruv for all?
The Wolf
Joseph,
You could have summarized it in four words:
Learning good, work evil. 🙂
The Wolf
wolfish (i addressed you),i don’t either have the sefer handy but someone of authority told this, and YOU don’t have the right to challenge authority.
HIE,
Ah, so I have to bend my will to some unsourced statement in an unnamed sefer written by an undisclosed rav whom YOU hold to be authoritative???
Sorry… if you can’t produce the source, I don’t have to take it on your say-so. In that respect, I DO have the right to challange YOU — since, until you can tell me otherwise, YOU are the source of your statement.
The Wolf
I wish for pig to become kosher
I read a short story titled “The R-Strain” by Harry Turtledove (the famous alternate history author) about a future where someone genetically developed a pig which was a ruminant. The scientists then asked a rabbi whether or not the pig was kosher — since it now chewed it’s cud and had split feet.
The rabbi debated the issue with himself and, ultimately, ate the pig.*
The Wolf
* Please don’t start in on how the rabbi’s decision was wrong. Turtledove is a sci-fi author, not a halachic authority and the story isn’t meant to pasken.
One may not say Tehillim or other prayers during Pesukei D’zimrah or Chazoras Hashatz.
“…and from my students (I learn) most of all”
I used to open up a sefer (usually a Mishnayos) during Chazaras Hashatz. Then, about two years ago, I found my oldest son reading a book for school during Chazaras HaShatz. When I told him that it was inappropriate to do so, he countered that I also read during the Chazarah. I tried, at first, to rationalize my actions with the fact that what I was reading was actual learning while he was just reading a novel, but, when push came to shove, he was right — what I was doing was wrong too — even if it was in learning. I had to admit to him that he was correct — and I at that point told him that I would no longer learn during Chazaras HaShatz.
As a result, since then, I follow along with the Chazzan during Chazaras HaShatz — and so does he.
The Wolf
FWIW, I don’t worry too much about it. What we spend on food we spend, and if HKBH will send it back to us, He’ll send it back.
In addition, in our family, the “traditional” Sunday night dinner is Shabbos leftovers. If HKBH wants to deduct from our “Shabbos allowance” for that, then so be it. I’m not going to throw the food away.
The Wolf
The ingredients for different Oreo products can be found on the Nabisco web site:
The ingredients won’t tell you if it’s kosher or not, but they will tell you if there is anything blatantly dairy in the product.
The Wolf
Considering that condensed milk is one of the ingredients in Tootsie Rolls, I’d say the probability of it being dairy is 1.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tootsie_Rolls#Ingredients
The Wolf
The sugya in Sanhedrin makes it very clear over and over again
Does it? I have to admit it’s been several years since I learned that perek of Gemara. Can you point to one specific place?
The Wolf
Rabbi Avigdor Miller, tzl states that anyone, like Paroh, can have his bechirah taken away by HaKodesh Barchu in certain inyonim. How that relates to Acher, ben Dosai and others, I don’t know.
I’m not familiar with ben Dosai, but I always had my own thoughts on the other two cases.
Pharaoh’s free will wasn’t taken away from him — rather it was restored to him.
Acher’s free will to do teshuva wasn’t taken away from him — rather the bas kol said that even if he did do teshuva it would not be accepted. (I have problems with this approach too, but that’s for another time).
The Wolf
Wolfish, does a crack addict have bechira if he will take the next hit or not?
Not comperable. Stealing a tarteimar of meat and drinking some wine is not physically addictive.
The Wolf
so go argue with the Daas Zekainim MiBaalei HaTosfos
I thought that’s what I was doing….
The Wolf
The Torah states that one who curses his parents is Chayiv Skilah – death by stoning.
Yes, you said that before. But the fact of the matter is that that is *not* the halacha. We don’t stone people for simple disobedience. We do so if they hit their parents or if they curse them — but not for simple disobedience.
The Wolf
Sheigetz Aross!
Was that meant for me? Or for someone else?
The Wolf
He no longer has a bechira, and he sealed his own fate.
Ah, I didn’t see this before I put up my last post.
Even so, how can you say that? Don’t we have it as a tenet that a person is *always* capable of doing teshuva (as long as your name is acher 🙂 )?
The Wolf
he will be a vadai killer, so we give him the sekila now.
So then where’s his bechira?
The Wolf
The answer is because he doesn’t listen to his parents and that’s considered cursing them, the punishment for cursing the parents is sekila. So he is being punished for this sin. Baal tosfot.
That’s very nice, except for the simple fact that there are definite parameters to cursing one’s parents and simple disobedience or even direct disrespect, while being forbidden, does not equate with cursing. We don’t stone people who simply disobey their parents.
The Wolf
There could be plenty of good in the lady, even if that particular act of hers had no good.
Try separating the person from the act. Sometimes good people do bad things…and vice versa.
The Wolf
Only you can decide when it’s right for you to get married. By all means, listen to the advice of your parents, rabbeim, etc. But in the end, only *you* can make that decision — and you have do it when it’s right for you — not when it’s right for anyone else.
The Wolf
HIE,
I’m still waiting for you to either back up your statement or gracefully retract.
The Wolf
FWIW,
In my shul we have no alcohol the night of simchas Torah.
By day there was some wine and hard liquor available – but not a lot. However, no one was drunk (or even buzzed). Nor did any of the kids drink.
I like my shul.
The Wolf
How do others label me?
Depending on whom you ask I am a frum Jew, a learner, an earner, a raving fundamentalist, a freethinker, an apikorus, an argumentative fool, or even a nice guy.
How do I label myself?
In need of improvement.
The Wolf