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Best way to kasher a laptop is to put it in the mikveh. Haven’t cooked one though maybe google has good recipes.
Sit ins are easier and take less timeJune 13, 2018 6:52 am at 6:52 am in reply to: Is there a connection between unpaid Shadchanus and the blazing Shidduch crisis? #1538470
What about all the shadchanus that was paid for weddings that never took place? HKBH has a way of working things out that people get money they deserve and lose money that they don’t.
I think its more of an emunah crisis.
The Guinness book of world records had this problem several years ago with people eating too much during eating contests. They have since changed the record test to most whatevers eaten in a certain number of minutes. That way you can have the fun while ensuring people don’t eat way too much.
Strangely a lot of people don’t realize this still that one of the main causes of bedwetting is constipation. A lot of times this is true even if the child is going to the bathroom regularly. Family doctors often don’t even realize that this is the main issue. I know from experience with nieces and nephews who had this issue and were taken to a specialist. The specialist said that they were constipated and once he fix that issue the bedwetting Stopped forever
In both Japan and Israel faxes are a way of life and tons are sent every day. In America they have lost favor but other places still rely heavily on fax machines
Nobody likes when people are negative about their parents even when they are less frum than you. Maybe if you worked on your relationship with your parents so that they would be supportive of your religious choices more yeshivish girls would be open to dating you. Of course this would require you to respect them as well. They can’t be too bad if they sent you to day school and yeshiva in israel. At the end of the day most parents just want to see their children settled and happy. My advice make good with your parents and then dating will fall into place. I know many friends who married girls from more modern families. It didn’t bother them as long as the families were supportive.August 30, 2017 9:18 pm at 9:18 pm in reply to: The Age Gap and the Musical Chairs of Shidduchim👴👶🏻🎶💺💺 #1351750
Years ago boys and girls used to marry at 12 or 13 then society changed and they started to marry at older ages. Time to change again. Would be better if no girls would date until they were 23. This would level the dating ages and also give girls time to go to school and learn careers.
Without knowing all the details of the case from both sides it’s impossible to pick a side. Domestic disputes are always more complicated than they seem on the surface. As a divorce lawyer I can tell you that being frum is never a reason in secular Court for a mother to lose a custody case. There are probably other issues involved here that we don’t know about. Therefore I am hesitant to give a hasty judgment
Joseph I can say your last comment is not true at all at least for me. I have no problem supporting organizations that give money for yungermen who are tested for their knowledge and maintain some sense of accountability like dirshu but would never support somebody who doesn’t have the head for learning. Such a person should be mature enough to realize like I did that they are better off getting a job working and supporting those who are excellent at Learning. Never has it been the case nor is it necessary now for everyone to learn full-time
that’s my point exactly cv. in years to come fathers won’t advise their sons to go to kollel or even yeshiva as bochurim after high school as they won’t have any money to pay for it. The system is exaggerated and if any sembalance of what we have today is to remain for the long term the majority of people in kollel have to be encouraged to work , study vocations and proffessions as Jews have been doing for centuries. Even in the gemara most of the taanaim had day jobs. For most people especially today where almost nobody can focus on one thing learning and working is the best way to be productive. One who works for a living with the focus that he is working in order so that he will be able to fullfill mitzvos is considered as if he is osek b’torah at that time.
Btw there are closer to 13 million jews but for those eligible for kollel you can only count half so 6.5 million. Israel alone has 100k kollel men so your 1 in 1000 math is totally off.
Balabatim support all the kollels and yeshivas without their support the whole system would break down. People are already struggling and that wouldn’t happen if they had marketable skills and we’re able to work in good jobs. Even in the last generation of people still alive today everyone worked and I think many of our parents know more torah than us still even though we spent more time in yeshivas and kollels on average. How is this possible? There’s going to have to be a correction in the Next Generation when all of our children go to work right away without staying in kollel or yeshiva after high school because none of our generation will be able to support them.
There have never been so many people historically learning in kollel full time. Such a thing should only be for really excellent learners maybe the top 1 percent determined by rigorous testing. This is how it used to be back in Europe. Everyone else should pursue a profession or trade. There is no mitzvah to be poor. Also many people today have several kids before getting jobs. How is this a good idea? With tuition and other expenses how do jobless learners expect to pay for their kids? We need to have a societal shift in thinking and insist that boys in high school should already learn the basics of economics.
I still eat with my hands. When my wife complains I tell her that if she wants I’ll give her a get
In response to your second question which I didn’t see until now single family members are the best. Since they don’t have a family of their own yet they always have time to help you out and if you’re short a few dollars they always have some in their pocket, if they have a job that is. My brothers and sisters are always helping me and I don’t know how I can have my family without them. Will be much more difficult once they get married
I can think of several benefits. For one thing it’s much cheaper once you’re married tuitions take up the vast majority of your salary and the rest of it goes to other things for your kids or for work on your house. If you’re lucky enough to have a few dollars left your wife will spend it on stuff she needs. Even making $150,000 you can still feel poor. Also the responsibilities of a wife and family can be quite overwhelming at times. When you have people depend on you they are always asking you for Stuff. It’s a huge commitment in terms of time. Not to say that I would give up my family but people don’t realize when they get married what a huge responsibility expensive commitment it is. And I don’t even have to support son in laws in kollel yet….
Might be a chesed if not its a bar mitzvah gift so not a waste of time either way.
Most people aren’t super excited about yiddeshkeit all the time but think of the alternative….. Yiddeshkeit is the best thing out there.
Having worked in a Canadian seforim store in the past, I can tell you that this logic is wrong because most Canadian seforim stores buy their stock from American suppliers and actually sell seforim at higher prices than their American counterparts. If you are looking for a bargain I would suggest you get someone in Israel coming to Australia or from Australia going to Israel on holiday to buy the seforim for you and bring them back.
For great deals order online at ahuva.com based in Toronto Canada
That is a fair statement but very rarely are people so focused on one thing to the exclusion of all else especially something beyond their control. For school someone who studies hard gets good grades for work someone who works hard can usually manage but noone can control when they will meet their zivug. That is the problem with people who are sad in shidduchim.
It’s a big discussion in the rishonim most come out that it’s only a hechsher mitzvah. Anyway the point was that the reason people get sad in the first place is because it’s the only thing they focus on. Of course if anyone spent all their time thinking about getting something it will be very frustrating until they do. Best advice is to focus on other things in addition to getting married and take marriage if and when it comes
Marriage in and of itself isn’t even a mitzvah. The mitzvah which is only for men is having kids. That said for anyone who wants to get married they should do hishtadlus but it shouldn’t be the only focus in someone’s life. I think that’s why people get desperate and sad because they make marriage to be the be all and end all of everything. That’s how we are raised so it’s natural but there are other things many other things in life that one does not have to be married for
You should know Meyer Lansky gave a ton of money to Israel and many different yeshivos and was a great help to the American government during the second World War. Also most of the crimes he committed were Financial which although inexcusable is not the same level of crime as these lunatics
Cooking is more important than baking but baking is easier than cooking. Most guys are coming from Yeshiva so everything you cook will taste good because yeshiva food is so bad
indeed… but the cause is not that there are not enough guys for the girls or ages or anything like that rather its that people spend too long looking for what they think will be their ideal shidduch instead of settling for someone who is good enough. Everyone can point to a ton of unmarried girls but can anyone show me a girl in the parsha for a year who didn’t get one date? Guys (and girls) should be told that love and building a home comes after marriage and then maybe they would realize that it makes much less of a difference who you marry and everyone would just focus on finding someone who is flexible enough to make it work. that would make everything easier.
I think the real problem for people who don’t find shidduchim is that they aren’t amenable. I know many people who found rich, poor, good looking, not so good looking, healthy, not as healthy, etc. I also know some who didn’t find. Of the ones who didn’t find a lot of times they are not so open to the suggestions that people have and even if they agree to dates they are not seriously considering certain suggestions. I think that if people were more open to different suggestions and didn’t have a set idea in their mind that they need this specific type of guy/girl they would be much more successful in their goal. Where the boy and girl are holding when they marry is not as relevant as how they will develop together which will be different to either of the houses that they came from in many cases. People lose sight of this and reject many suggestions and thus never get married. By the time they agree to listen to those suggestions a lot of those people are already married.
To clarify, I don’t have an issue with that. It was just an example. The same thing, you shouldn’t go to daven with a minyan if it means having to swim across a river with crocodiles to get there. But on the other hand, it is better to swim across a river with crocodiles then to worship idols.
So that brings another question can you be mevatel an aseh if it would cause a lo taseh. For example should you put on tefilin if you constantly have impure thoughts?
I don’t think then I would get a true answer. It’s kind of like when you sign an apartment lease for a year you must convince yourself you like it even if you don’t because you’re stuck there. I know the freedom I have to do anything within the boundaries of halacha of course and to go anywhere its something my friends envy. I’ve decided for myself that it’s not worth it unless of course it is required of me in which case it is like davening three times a day or many of the other activities that I do because I have to. That is why I asked for the gedarim of the mitzvah
Not in yeshiva for a long time now. It just seems to me that most of my friends who are married aren’t so happy and have a lot of pressures and responsibilities. Also kids are really expensive and often grow up to disappoint their parents. Even the best children have some friction with their parents. So on the one hand I have a desire to fulfill all the mitzvos that I have to but on the other hand don’t want to marry and have a family if it’s not a chiyuv.
Lunch is also $55/pp at florida gril btw. I thought a little expensive but its not cheaper anywhere else. I’d invite you but I won’t be home. Maybe just go to Sara’s tent in Aventura and pick up some stuff (I know Kastner’s is closer but takeout is better in Aventura).
Florida grill shabbos lunch or Chabad on 41st and Sheridan has free lunch every week if you want
Never mind positives or negatives… I don’t work for anyone, I live in the area and eat catered supper every friday night. Objective facts:
Rina- $65/pp- chicken, meat (briscuit), several salads on salad bar, gilifite fish and salmon, soup w/real chicken, several desert choices all included
Florida Grill- $55/pp- choice between chicken or meat (sometimes also lamb), several salads on salad bar, gifilte fish. soup (with real chicken if requested), one desert
Rare- $95/pp- as of late serving flanken rib, several small salads brought to table, one desert, chicken soup flavored consume, gifilte fish.
Carriage club $60/pp (as of last January I heard from friend)- Several choices but haven’t eaten there in a while after KM removed hasgacha for second time. But now under hashgacha of Star-K I think. Was under ORB 5 years ago. Again not to say anything bad about kashrus as I don’t know the whole story just a fact that they switched 4 times in approx. 5 yearsOctober 26, 2015 10:50 pm at 10:50 pm in reply to: Real talk: Present day frumkeit is aimed at 110 IQ tenth graders #1108347
We used to be much smarter (as a people). Now we seem to blindly follow whomever has the most chumros (not everyone). The independent thought that provided the basis for the gemara is now discouraged. Even in learning most sefarim written nowadays seem to be focused on reconciling old ideas instead of having new ones. Of course one’s thought must be within the confines of halacha but why can’t people be a little more independent like our parents were growing up?
Rina is pretty well known by now among those who own apartments in the area anyway. Florida Grill is new this year used to be known as Europa Grill. Quality has improved a little with the new ownership. Good luck. I love Miami! I prefer we stick with the positives. Thanks.
Best is rina Kramer in the mimosa 4747 Collins Avenue 3055421656. Also meir at Florida grill 3055356077. Carriage club changes hasgachos all the time makes you wonder. If rina is open this is your best bet.
when i said I had a less productive zman maybe it was half as productive because I’m not a top learner (which is why I went into business after a year in kollel) but a guy who is claiming to be a top learner should be able to have a productive zman anywhere. If not then why should my daughters mess up their year so a mediocre learner could feel a little more productive? Stupidity!
I know myself when I was still in yeshiva in the mir I became ill one zman and had to finish the zman in the states because I had to have surgery and needed to go to the hospital for rehab part of the time afterward. My family’s city didn’t have the biggest kollel but I had somewhere where I could learn every day. I happened to get a chavrusa for morning seder only because that was all I could handle but I could have got one for afternoon seder as well. Granted wasn’t the most productive zman but it was necessary due to my situation. Why can’t a newlywed chosson take it upon himself to learn where his kallah is teaching just until she finishes the year?!
show me someone who supports themselves fully solely from learning and then I will consider it a real job. If I was learning full time I’d be broke and my family would starve. What sort of job is that?
Also syag I’m glad we agree on the fundamental point here but from personal experience with the family I know maternity leave can be just as disruptive. Once someone has two kids (boy + girl) they had fulfilled the mitzvah of pru urvu and then the principal of osek bmitzvah patur min hamitzvah should apply. You can stop having kids until you stop teaching or indeed limit maternity leave to a couple of weeks. All teachers I knew took a month and a half to two months (almost a fourth of a school year!)
More or less every city with frum yidden has a kollel nowadays they could park themselves in for less than a year.
In 90% of the cases the girls marry boys who don’t have jobs or real jobs anyways. Why can’t they just move to where the kallah is teaching so she can finish the year and then go to Lakewood or EY after? I don’t think that’s too much to ask from someone who has no job!
Married morahs are also a problem, they mess up the year by having babies. Don’t understand why they can’t just get the girls to commit to finishing the year. Whenever I hire someone in my business I operate under the assumption they are going to stay a while as the time it takes just to get trained and accustomed to the job is no less than four months. I don’t see why morahs should not have the same level of commitment.
It is true that many of these 18-23 year old girls are neither committed nor exceptionally qualified. in my opinion many are just glorified babysitters. Even if someone is qualified, coming in the middle of the year means you have to start from the top with only half the time left. The whole system is not conducive to learning anything!
The way I see it there are two solutions to the “shidduch crisis”
1. You didn’t have such a crisis years ago because the average person didn’t have the means to send his son to Israel to learn. Lakewood and other yeshivos if they really want to solve the crisis should make a rule that they won’t accept any American boys who go to learn in E”Y first. Then the boys will be in America at an earlier age, satisfy the freezer requirement earlier, which indeed is necessary to weed out boys who just want to use lakewood for a few months for a quick shidduch and start dating earlier. Then those who want can go to Israel for kollel with a wife.
2. People’s shidduchim are preset for them when they are children like in the old days, then everyone knows that they are going to marry a certain person. Of course, if one side ends up having a problem (medical, drastic hashkafa change from family, etc.) then those people would need shidduchim like we have nowadays but the number would be drastically reduced.
it happened to me. I asked a girl to marry me and she said no.August 10, 2012 8:52 am at 8:52 am in reply to: Vacation in Baltimore, MD. What to do? Where to Daven? #890535
the hilton in pikesville is right where the frum community is and is a very good hotel. staff is very friendly and accomodating.
just got the news its officially over and strangely enough i feel quite releived.
its not looks or infatuation. its her eclectic personality that I really like. I will try writing to her iyh. Thanks for all the advice guys.