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An event for ALL klal yisroel should be geared to ALL klal yisroel even if they are 75 years old. Which is besides the point altogether.
By your (and others) take on things, the event should have been in aramaic, since all sectors learn shas and it is by far the most common understood language.
As I said, this has nothing to do with demographics and everything to do with those behind the event, especially the money behind it. We all know the golden rule. He who has the gold, makes the rules.
Fpor those who don’t get it. Organizers and those who are for it, are two different things.
I don’t want to hijack this thread so will not pursue this particular discussion here.
This was a chassidishe event, funded primarily by chassidishe money, what language did you expect it to be in?
If you feel that you were misled by the advertising and hype put out by the organizers of the asifa, that is another story for another thread.
For many, Ladino is mamma lashon. Not a single sentence of Ladino. For shame.
“Because that wasn’t the moral of the story.”
Actually, the case he references, it WAS and IS the moral of the story. For obvious reasons, he could not disclose all that happened, how it happened, and what led up to it. Suffice to say social media sites such as Facebook can be way more problematic than sitting and watching adult rated movies.
I think our biggest worry should be getting it built, everything else, I am sure will fall quickly into place with no problems.
“she wants to be responsible and educate herself about the serious risks she may be taking (on her baby’s account) and the dangers involved in home birth.”
One can always temporarily (or even permanently)add a site like webmd or mayoclinic.com to the list of permitted sites (as long as they are the administrator).
Lets start by saying that ban is not the right word. Severely restricted is probably more like it.
Filters only go so far. If someone, an adult, your child, spouse, anyone REALLY wanted to view objectionable material, they can go to the library a( and many other places) and view to their hearts content.
At the asifa they stressed sur merah, but they also touched on “asey tov”. While not much time was spent on it, the Skverre Rebbe Shlita is on record as saying children filled with yiras shamayim and a love of yiddishkeit are not likely to be drawn to the internet or be ensnared by it. Rav Waxman repeated a similar story with the Amshinover Rebbe Z’l. If there was no void to fill it wouldn’t be filled with content available online.
Secular media didn’t find out? Rav Waxman specifically addressed the media that was in attendance. Was I at a different asifa?
Any gathering lishaim shamayim will turn out ok. Is anyone suggesting that the organizers are not lishaim shamayim?
The issue is not seeing a girl or liking her appearance. It is the idea that one would not even meet a girl without seeing a photo first. It’s not like most girls are so repulsive that despite their sterling character, nobody would be interested in them that such precautions must be taken.
And if you believe your kids will go to these lengths to bypass your filters, there use of the internet filtered or otherwise, is the least of your problems.
You CAN uninstall k-9 without entering a password, however, (this comes from the k-9 website)…
Symptom
You want to uninstall K9 Web Protection on a Windows computer.
Solution
Please follow the instructions below to uninstall K9 Web Protection. Make sure you are connected to the internet before uninstalling K9 so your license can be released. If this is not possible, you can continue to uninstall, but you will need to request a new K9 license if you want to reinstall K9 in the future.
Click Start
Click Control Panel. If you can’t see this option, it may be under “Settings”
Click Add or Remove Programs
Find Blue Coat K9 Web Protection in the list of programs and click it once.
Click the Change/Remove button.
Click Yes when you are asked whether you want to completely remove K9. DO NOT ATTEMPT TO UNINSTALL WITHOUT A PASSWORD. By design, K9 will block all Internet access should one attempt to uninstall without using a password. Attempts to modify K9 at a registry level will have the same effect.
Enter your K9 administration password and click Uninstall. If you forgot your password, click the “Forgot Password…” link to have a temporary password emailed to you.
When asked whether to reboot your computer, click Yes
After rebooting, K9 will be completely uninstalled.
So, technically, while ANYONE can uninstall K-9 in 3 minutes, or less, web access is still blocked.
I wonder how K-9 would react to an attempted system restore, to a restore point prior to k-9 installation?
“As opposed to the question of looks, where the person judging is the only person who’s opinion matters.”
the potential mother in law?
“Its ridiculous to submit yourself to anyone’sscrutiny”
so, you agree with me 🙂
Sam Kinison.
Logician.
Either you are trying to dray a kup or you missed the point (I am leaning to the former).
Just answer this question. If shadchanim would start asking bachurim to submit a shtickel torah so they can keep it on file for potential shidduchim to review, is this something that would bother you. Would it make a difference if the girls would refuse to consider the boys without that sample?
The department of buildings wherever you live should have precise property lines on record. Your mortgage company probably had a survey done too. If not, you can have pay for a survey and have your property boundaries clearly marked.
Have you spoken to your neighbor about their construction? Perhaps they are not aware that the contractor they hired has placed things on your property. Who knows, they might apologize and have it moved. They might ask for permission (which I would grant on the condition that they signed a legal documeny stating that any damage resulting from their use of your property is their responsibility to fix). If they say, we know and don’t care, then remove the wall, or move it back onto their property.
Does your out-of-town community have a Rav?
“a good number of rabbanim say txting is assur”
I know several Rabbonim who prefer that you text rather than call them.
“Obamas position on gay marriage”
His position is whatever his pollsters told him it should be.
“First, no comparison, beauty is much more subjective.”
Girls want to marry a “learning boy” it is their number 1 priority supposedly, so to harp on his learning would actually make sense. Are you arguing that beauty is the number 1 priority for guys, to the point where they require a photo in advance despite the fact that most girls are not repulsive?
“Plus I could say “and what makes him an authority to judge my learning”.
And I can say, what makes that fat yenta with a moustache an authority on beauty that she needs a picture.
How would a guy react if after all assurances by rabbeim, chavrusas, and friends that he is a lamdan first class, if the father of a girl asks for a copy of the guys last chabura to determine if he is worthy of dating his daughter.
Chelsea billiards.
“No shidduch should be redt until the boy’s learning and conduct are known for sure, until the girl’s family is checked out beyond doubt (including how they go about kvod Shabbos), and until the prospective FIL proves to a beis din that he can provide support (in EY, a dira). If this sounds “fanatic,” we already behave this way when we shop for a washing machine… “
This ranks as one of the all time great Troll comments.
“we’re talking about accepting “flaws” in the physical.”
What type of physical “flaw” are you talking about? A glass eye r’l? A chup that doesnt hold all day? He looks more like rodney dangerfield than brad pitt?
GAW. Surely you dont think “torah” means something other than what hashem wants. Surely you dont believe “gedolei yisroel expects of us” means what they personally expect and not what they believe the torah expects from us. I think you are reading way more into this than you should. I also dont know what the preceding and following paragraphs say as well. Perhaps in the context of the entire letter there is no room for error.
“For men, charedi means an Orthodox Jew who wears a black hat or at least a white shirt with a black velvet kippah”
Hmmm…This back hat, is it brim up or down? Pinched or unpinched? What if one substitutes a streimel on shabbos, does that constitute an extra level of charediness or perhaps detract from it? This white shirt, does french cuffed add or detract from the charediness? white on white a mayyla or a chisaron? and the yarmulka, what of one chooses to wear a black kippa that is not velvet? or a blue velvet one? would calling it a kippa detract from the charediness of a person? would calling it a kappel or yarmulka increases ones charedi factor in any way?
The library usually removes the cover from a book it removes from circulation.
Infer what you wish.
If one incorporates all definitions, then for sure 70% is charedi. Probably more.
You are correct. There is a BIG age gap problem . Mothers in their 40s and 50s, act as if they are teenagers.
“Sounds like a goyish custom.”
What, Rabbis attending weddings?
“I see this ALL THE TIME.”
I agree, this is problematic. You should not spend all your time looking at how other peoples wives are dressed.
“.it’s mostly Mamma’s fault who have not looked into the mirror since they were 17”
Ms. Critique. I think a more telling piece is the “ask the shadchan” question that appeared in the May 3rd issue. I copy it here in its entirety (you can also read the issue online, (google “flipdocs” and “flatbush jewish journal” archives).
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Dear Mrs. Rose,
I am the mother of several boys. One is in the Parsha now. I was recently red a shidduch and after looking into it, I could not determine from the information how attractive the girl is. I have not had good experiences depending on pictures. Would it be appropriate for me to go and see how she looks at the place where she works? I feel very uncomfortable about this as many years ago this was done to me and I was not very pleased about it. What are your thoughts?
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For her answer, find the archive and read it yourself. Suffice to say, I think the question in and of itself is a bigger reason for any shidduch crisis than even (sorry AZ) any age gap issues.
Can someone define “charedi”?
Is it Adar, again?
“Did you forget the part where Shlomo goes on to say “Sheker Hachein, V’heval Hyofei”?”
Well, that makes a lot of sense given that he compares her to a cargo ship. I’m not aware of any cargo ships that would classify as yofi or exuding much chein. Well, perhaps to someone in the merchant marines, but to the average joe…
On a serious note. The OU appears on hundreds if not thousands of items that contain cow milk. Does Rav Shachter disagree with the hechsher despite the fact that he is one of its poskim? Is this a situation where the OU applies its “2 out of 3” rule?
“He said he gives hashgocha for baby cows.”
On their meat. Baby cows do not produce milk. 🙂
Perhaps if we redt girls to boys, instead of their mothers, more boys and girls would actually meet and more shidduchim made.
My very first day at work in corporate America. The woman in the cube next to me is trying to make small talk. Where are you from, do you have family, married etc.., basic stuff. I mentioned I was married. she looked at my hand and asked what happened to my ring. I explained that many Orthodox Jewish males do not wear a wedding band. Her response caught me off guard. “How do you keep yourself from getting into trouble?”, she wanted to know.
“The reason probably is that they are smaller companies and can’t afford to make as absolutely high-quality a product as most major dairy farms.”
Is this a joke? Do you think the cows look to see if a heimishe yid is next to the milking machine and produce lower quality of milk?
Now, if you would have stated that the packaging is not as good, or the transport and storage was not as good, or the local retailer was not makpid to let the milk delivery sit out on the curb in the blazing sun for a few hours until he got around to putting in the fridge, OK, I can hear it.
“Even if you found a CY gallon, it wouldn’t cost any less than 2 half gallon bottles.”
Under normal rules of retailing, this is not true. Just look at the chalav stam prices. Also, look at the difference in pricing between quarts and half gallons. The unit pricing (per ounce, per quart, per pound, per piece) is always less when you buy larger quantity.
I suspect it is because the milk company, distributor and retailer can make more money selling two half gallons than selling a single gallon. Given the large size of families that consume chalav yisrael milk, kein yirbu, and the quantity of milk purchased, it is a lot of money for them to leave on the table.
Put this in the weird column.
Why do people blow their nose and then look into the tissue. What do they expect to see?
I use K-9 in conjunction with Malwarebytes (paid version) and once I set up K-9 as an app that need not be actively monitored by MB, I see no system performance issues.
On what continent are you looking to attend seminary?
Yeah. Cut the curfew. Stop babying them. Let them suffer any consequences of going through life half asleep. If they miss davening, seder, shiur or sleepwalk through a date, hopefully they’ll adjust. Just hope they adjust before they drive themselves and a carload of friends off the road.
Hashkamas Beis Hamedrash, Shachris, ViArvis. Interesting Sfas Emes explaining how hashkama and arvis make sense in the same sentence.
Is the husband of a rebbetzin a rabbi?