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Note to counselors. You are not in camp to have fun, you are in camp to ensure that your campers have fun. Hopefully, you will have fun fulfilling your obligations.
I heard YWN will exhibit their new coffee filters at the technology expo at Citi Field. Is a line of fresh brewed coffee next?
“AND saying Amein w/o kevanah is a real averia is for sure worse then learning and not saying amein at all.”
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See Magen Avram in Kuf Chaf Daled, where he brings down a machlokes rishonim whether one must stop those who learn during chazaras hashatz. One opinion is yes, and one opinion is no, IF they are answering amen. NOT answering amen is not an option according to any opinion (the nosei keilim discuss how wrong it is to be mivatel answering amen). As an aside, someone who has the head to learn at this time, certainly has the head to have the proper kavana to answer amen, so really it comes down to, is it better to lean, or to answer amen properly, and you seem to be coming down on the side of “talmud torah kinegged kulam”, so is OK to be mevatel answering at least 19 amens in order to learn.
“If most people aren’t paying attention anyways, so why do you care if their way of not paying attention is by learning.”
The OP mentioned a specific Mishne Brurah. Aside from the fact that this statement ignores the M”B as pointed out by the OP, the balance of the M”B explains why one should not learn. Read his words. The M”B doesnt want anyone spacing out, and certainly not speaking devarim betailim during chazaras hashatz. If they see “chashuva people” not taking it seriously, they wont either. He uses the term machti es harabim.
When my Rav shlita was discussing shnayim mikra recently, he said in the name of R’ Chaim Kanievsky Shlita, that being maaver sidrah during chazaras hasshatz is a mitzvah habaa biaveira. I have no source for this, other than his word.
Just curious. In what sefer is the hetter to blatantly ignore the shatz by opening a sefer to learn found?
If you want to know, ask. If it is important that he on time to davening every day, she should ask him. If it is important that he is not a slob in the dorm, she should ask him. If there are things that are important to the boy, let him ask her. One would hope that honesty between the boy and girl is the only policy when it comes to shidduchim. Just never assume.
It’s a good thing you didnt sell the dish to the goy, if you did, you would have to toivel it before using it.
Dont eat the dish.
Not saying amen to a bracha is quite serious. what gives someone the right to purposely ignore 19 brachos and not answer amen, even if they ignore the bracha by opening a sefer.
Oh, and as far as people spacing out. See the same M’B cited above for the reason one should not learn, even if will be careful to answer every amen.
The question is not, what, but who.
Forget the responses. The OP is out of line. This thread should have never gotten off the ground, let alone some of the responses.
The M”B in Kuf Chaf Daled, Sif Kattan Yud Zayin says regarding those who learn during Chazaras Hashatz is “Lo Yaffa Hem Osim”. Hardly a ringing endorsement for such a practice.
People who learn during davening show an utter lack of respect and regard for davening and who they are davening to.
Either that, or they are bored because they have idea what the words of davening mean and are looking for a diversion.
Go with the company with the best tech support and customer service track record.
“and Rebbe Shimon said that he will help those who help increase simcha on Lag B’omer!”
So go to a nursing home and be misameach some of its residents this Lag Baomer.
It is never applicable. Ever see anyone put down their smart phone?
acer is one of the largest oem manufacturers in the world. better than even chance some of their parts are in any hp or dell that you buy.
I keep my gemara on vibrate so as not to disturb those sitting near me.
Acer
All of the above.
If it doesnt grate on my ears, I’m ok with it.
Those who do wear the Bindel. Why? Is it a shmira against something?
Haleivi. I’m not belittling the tana or those who choose to honor the tanna by supplying mashke to those partying at his kever (although in my opinion, as small as it is, it is a shanda the way many people carry on in meron on lag baomer). I’m saying that I choose to honor the tanna by giving tzedaka to my neighbor.
As to how much money I’ve given for my neighbor (not one specific person, but those in the neighborhood who need, who are given via the local Rav), if you really must know, if Chai Rotel is $125 I’d say on a yearly basis about 12-15 chai rotels.
One thing I don’t think it means is that there is an inyan to supply mashke to people partying at his kever on lag baomer.
Is there a source older than 250 years that mentions schlissel challa? Is there a source anywhere that mentions an inyan to bake challa (even without a key) the first week after pesach? Did this originate in Poland? Somewhere in the Austro-Hungarian Empire? Lita? Do sephardim have this minhag?
“They describe that Rebbe Shimon promised whoever increases the simcha on his Yartzeit he will increase simcha in their lives.”
OK. And I choose to increase the simcha of my neighbor who could use the help instead of those who are partying in Meron.
Did R’ Moshe say that if I give money to the neighbor who needs it it is less tzedaka than if I put it into a R’ Meir Ball Haness pushka? Please do not twist my words or delve into them as if you were learning a Shaages Aryeh. Sometimes the simple meaning is what is meant. All I said is, tzedaka is tzedaka. It is no more, or no less tzedaka than if the name of a tzadik is on the pushka or his picture appears in an advertisement for the cause.
Girls also have a chiyuv not to waste time. Just saying.
Tzedaka is tzedaka. The segula promised by chazal will come to fruition whether you give chai dollars to your neighbor who needs it or chai roitel to quench the thirst of those visiting meron.
How old is this boy? Is he chassidishe? To which chassidus does he belong? Is he an independent? Is he Litvishe? Is he what some refer to as “heimishe” (dont ask, I dont know either)? You lookjng for a sleepaway camp or a day camp? Does he want to be a camper or a counselor or does he want to learn?
Only thing we are missing is the bunny and we will have copied all catholic minhagim for easter. we already copied the key (they carry cross shaped keys to remind them what their “key to heaven is”) and they bake hot cross buns (buns with a cross on top).
If you think the local girls school has too many days off, speak to the “committee” about increasing them.
Lo sachmod. Lo sisave. Viahavta lireacha kamocha.
More important than the Asifa is making the tools necessary to use technology in an appropriate manner available to everyone at a reasonable price. I still have a sour taste in my mouth from the “kosherphone” that charged a ridiculous monthly fee for 100 minutes (at the time, for the same price, I was able to get a plan from verizon for 3x the minutes). If price gouging will be the norm very few people will utiluze these tools. Personally, I still think K-9 is a wonderful tool. Coupled with the fact that my wife and I share the password to the computer (we each enter half the password and dont know the others part) and the computer is in a very public place (the dinig room table – it is a laptop), along with K-9, we feel we are on course with what the gedolim (at the very least our Rav – which at the end of the day is what matters) want.
yitayningwut – perhaps in theory. in practice it never works out that way.
I don’t know the mekor for this, or any segulos. I once heard an adam gadol say, its a shame the aseres hadibros were not called the aseres segulos so more people would follow them.
So there are halachos that regulate this. There are hilchis gittin, does this mean every marriage must end in divorce? There are halachos about yefas toar, does this mea every soldier must come home from battle with one? There are halachos regulating the sale of an eved ivri and also a nirtza who wants to stay past 6 years, should we start a market to facilitate the kiyum of these halachose? The torah allows kiddushin through “biah” yet the gemara states Rav would place those who did so in cherem for doing so, why, if there are halachos that regulate this.
Halachos regulating something does not mean the torah wants or expects someone to do something. It means the torah allows it, under the rules it sets down. You are free to ask why. You might want to start with Rishonim such as Ramban and Ibn Ezra behind the “philosophy” of these mitzvos and your questions will be answered. Why chazal are not happy with a fathher who does this, will also become clear.
“Why would the Torah create a specific halacha to marry her off at that age if it is rishus to do so?”
There is no specific halacha to marry her off at that age.
why not look in the S’A.
any band you can hear. these days it is mostly booming sounds.
Noseplugs.
Can they be purchased online?
“Those things, the important ones, are beyond my control.”
They are in your control to investigate and ask about prior to sending your son.
“Chilling”? Ben Yehuda? They’re going to go there anyway.”
Wouldnt it be nice to know that the Yeshiva took notice of where they went, who they went with, when they went, how often they went and what they did while they were there? It is something you can inquire about before sending your son. you are concerned about the 3 weeks of bein hazmanim. If you dont look into the really important things, the entire year could end up as one long bein hazmanim.
Skinny ties have almost reached yehareg val yaavor proportions.
“I personally didn’t read the article, but gleaned my info from a topic here in the CR.”
Ouch.
Tx for the source
I guess if I was 10,000 miles from home with noone to confide in I’d also drink…..
Seriously, those are not pressures, certainly not on the level that one needs alcohol as an escape.
Every situation mentioned has an obvious answer, speak to a Rebbe. Surely the yeshiva has one or two hanging around.
the bachur mentioned it was an outlet from the pressures they faced. left unasked and a seemingly very obvious question is, exactly what pressure does a 23 year old american bachur in e’y face all week? he has no financial, social or personal responsibilities. all that is asked of him is that he be a mench, attend davening, shiurim and sedarim. nothing more, nothing less. it was suggested to me that perhaps it was left unasked because the honest answer would open a pandoras box regarding the topic of whether these bachurim are in the right yeshiva, or perhaps the wrong venue altogether (not sure if mishpacha is ready to go THERE yet).
will it be streamed live for all those who can not make it to flushing?
from a chinuch perspective. the beis yackov (type) school my daughter goes to requires the girls to wear appropriate sleeve length after pesach of the pre-1a year. this is when most girls are between 5 and 6. it is to get them used to wearing appropriate sleeve lengths when they must (so says the school letter home). what the actual halacha is, i dont know, but clearly this school does not believe it is 3.
can someone provide a source for the “chofetz chaim”?
tx
you are worried about bein hazmanim. you should be worried about the zman itself. some minor things like; where will he be living? who is supervising him? who will make sure he is at davening, shiur and sedarim and not elsewhere? who will make sure his free time is not spent at the mall or on the streets just “chilling”?